to divorce or not to divorce? need advice.
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I would sugest the following steps.
1. Do not go for any legal actions first. Because a legal actions triggers many actions following on. Talk to him. Ask him for $, telling him, he can be with the women outside but he need to support you & also cannot touch you. He have to live outside. Talk to him slowly.
If he agrees....good... grap that $ & do something to stablise you life first.
If he don't agrees it's still not too late to go legal.
2. going legal. Just apply for maintenance & a PPO to let him stay away from you. Also apply a order for the temperory kids custody & to stay in the house. Don't go any further than that. Because if he wants to divorce, still need to wait for 4 years for single party applying for divorce. You have all this time to yourself. Also by the time 4 years, everything should be smooth out.
3. When divorce comes, then talks about details of the house. You are not required to sell the house immediately. Usually there is a granted time of 6 months first. Of course as a wife you can have a share of the "PROFITS" of the house. Profit means after returning all Monies to his CPF. If staying somewhere is a problem. You can use this as a reason to raise maintenance. This is a valid reason, he wants to sell the house, he have to provide you higher maintenance for a roof. Else there is possible you can stay put in that house.
Mainly is to play time. Only if you wanted to remarrys fast... else don't go divorce fast.
One other good reason to paint in court, "If him have another kid with another women outside, shows he is not responsible towards this marriage & the privous kids." Court takes family responsibities very seriously. If it's been proven he is irresponsible, a very high maintenance is ordered.
Take care. Proceed with care also.
Divorce is not a good path to walk. -
yo surfer! thanks for your sound advice. i will bear it in mind.
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Originally posted by surfer188:I would sugest the following steps.
1. Do not go for any legal actions first. Because a legal actions triggers many actions following on. Talk to him. Ask him for $, telling him, he can be with the women outside but he need to support you & also cannot touch you. He have to live outside. Talk to him slowly.
If he agrees....good... grap that $ & do something to stablise you life first.
>>>Definetely impossible...
If he don't agrees it's still not too late to go legal.
2. going legal. Just apply for maintenance & a PPO to let him stay away from you. Also apply a order for the temperory kids custody & to stay in the house. Don't go any further than that. Because if he wants to divorce, still need to wait for 4 years for single party applying for divorce. You have all this time to yourself. Also by the time 4 years, everything should be smooth out.
3. When divorce comes, then talks about details of the house. You are not required to sell the house immediately. Usually there is a granted time of 6 months first. Of course as a wife you can have a share of the "PROFITS" of the house. Profit means after returning all Monies to his CPF. If staying somewhere is a problem. You can use this as a reason to raise maintenance. This is a valid reason, he wants to sell the house, he have to provide you higher maintenance for a roof. Else there is possible you can stay put in that house.
Mainly is to play time. Only if you wanted to remarrys fast... else don't go divorce fast.
One other good reason to paint in court, "If him have another kid with another women outside, shows he is not responsible towards this marriage & the privous kids." Court takes family responsibities very seriously. If it's been proven he is irresponsible, a very high maintenance is ordered.
Take care. Proceed with care also.
Divorce is not a good path to walk. -
Good advice.Originally posted by MeOwSuSan:Please go to this page for detail:
http://www.familycourtofsingapore.gov.sg/
Best is look for Family Counselling before you do anything.
I am divorce too, so is best you go Family Counselling first for advice.
To add. If you're getting any $ from him, best to have it in terms of 'black and white' from the family court and hence maintence order. Tell him it's also for his own good as there'll be a record to it. -
You most welcome !!Originally posted by commonsense:yo! i just realised they have online services. i've submitted the forms and see what they are about. many thanks!
I know how you feel, I walk the path before.
Just take, pray to God.
May God bless you. -
such a jerk get divorced and claim alimony you can get better guys elsewhere dun stick to a jerk
