very bad social skills...
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no no...she is the beauty of the school...she came n talk to me..i scold her out of reflex..Originally posted by ironoxideman:haha,she probably still remembers you.Good job man!you made a lasting impression
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I'm from IJ, the new oneOriginally posted by ironoxideman:yeap,goes the same for me.it even happens if the other 2 are close friends.i'm frm CJ,where u studying/working as? -
oh.so hows your MYs?Originally posted by polarsnake:I'm from IJ, the new one -
haha,you say untill shes like misbehaving or something.....Originally posted by alexkusu:no no...she is the beauty of the school...she came n talk to me..i scold her out of reflex.. -
well i have the same prob too but i tink the prob with me is i lack self confidence too always tinking other ppl r looking at me n criticising me..
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yea...when looks dun help tooOriginally posted by borntolive:well i have the same prob too but i tink the prob with me is i lack self confidence too always tinking other ppl r looking at me n criticising me..
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haiyo, very dissapointingOriginally posted by ironoxideman:oh.so hows your MYs? . How's yours? -
havn't gotten my papers back yet but i've got a bad feeling...i couldn't do all the trigo questions in my math paper,haha.....Originally posted by polarsnake:haiyo, very dissapointing . How's yours? -
yalor..thats why veli paiseh after that incident.Originally posted by ironoxideman:haha,you say untill shes like misbehaving or something.....
i think best develop ur personality, n thick skin to handle criticisms, etc. -
go strip on stage..i assure you recognition and attention will follow suit.. if you got a nice body maybe even companionsOriginally posted by ironoxideman:i'm a very shy person and i find it extremely difficult to be myself when in the company of strangers or new people.In fact,i have quite a reputation for being quiet and i don't think many people know me well.'Opening up' is not easy for me and sometimes,putting in the effort to try and be more sociable takes alot of energy.The result of my introversion is that i don't make friends as quickly as others and i can get pretty lonely in school or at social events,especially since i've just entered jc this year which is a new environment with few familiar faces.the situation is like this:
i've been in jc for 6 months and up till now i still havnt really made any friends,i usually eat alone,go home alone and basically keep to myself for the whole day.
that sucks.....
and my other problem is,when people try to reach out to me,i'd feel uncomfortable and unsure of how to react.so the body language and even the words i speak come out,not-quite-as-meant and this only serves to worsen my situation cos everybody thinks i PREFER to stick to myself.
waaaaaargh....anyone care to speak a few words of wisdom?
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Same here.Originally posted by borntolive:well i have the same prob too but i tink the prob with me is i lack self confidence too always tinking other ppl r looking at me n criticising me..
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Join more activities and clubs... ECAs and gatherings...Originally posted by ironoxideman:i'm a very shy person and i find it extremely difficult to be myself when in the company of strangers or new people.In fact,i have quite a reputation for being quiet and i don't think many people know me well.'Opening up' is not easy for me and sometimes,putting in the effort to try and be more sociable takes alot of energy.The result of my introversion is that i don't make friends as quickly as others and i can get pretty lonely in school or at social events,especially since i've just entered jc this year which is a new environment with few familiar faces.the situation is like this:
i've been in jc for 6 months and up till now i still havnt really made any friends,i usually eat alone,go home alone and basically keep to myself for the whole day.
that sucks.....
and my other problem is,when people try to reach out to me,i'd feel uncomfortable and unsure of how to react.so the body language and even the words i speak come out,not-quite-as-meant and this only serves to worsen my situation cos everybody thinks i PREFER to stick to myself.
waaaaaargh....anyone care to speak a few words of wisdom?
When you feel that you have things to share, just SPEAK without caring so much for what others have to say for it at least for a start...?
If you feel that you're so much more of the quite type... Get to know the people on a more 1-1 basis 1st... Then go out with groups of people you're familar and comfortable with and expand the circle from there... -
Originally posted by ironoxideman:and my other problem is,when people try to reach out to me,i'd feel uncomfortable and unsure of how to react.so the body language and even the words i speak come out,not-quite-as-meant and this only serves to worsen my situation cos everybody thinks i PREFER to stick to myself.
waaaaaargh....anyone care to speak a few words of wisdom?
I guess there are a lot of advices already, jus like to highlight the part on body language, somethk often neglected.. i was like u in the past. Initially i tried very hard to make small talks, create conservations etc... but i had this nagging feeling that ppl were not responding well.
Slowly, i began to appreciate that perhaps it's my body language. So u may be saying a lot, "pretending to be "sociable, but ur body language may be betraying ur thoughts...
One suggestion is to obeserve those ppl who are good at socializing.... they usually appear very comfortable & natural. So even if they are saying much, ppl feel comfortable ard them.
hope that helps
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hmm.. i thinks its biological also... Guys talk less than girls... While gals can talk about everything when seeing each other (even talk in toilet). Most guys usually keep quiet in toilet even though goin in with friend or family... Gals learn a lot from magazines about "socializing". Popular topics are "how to relate with ur friend this and that...outdoor clothings etc".... guys learn about things from magazines for themself... gym,sports..games..sex. The result.. gals socialize better than guys
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do u feel inferior or lack of confident, if ur ans is no, i dun c wat is wrong with eating alone.
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maybe but it bugs me because i am ALONE.get it?if you're alone.....you're lonelyOriginally posted by makiko:do u feel inferior or lack of confident, if ur ans is no, i dun c wat is wrong with eating alone. 
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i noe how it feels to eat alone, sucky
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agrees but den sometimes good alsoOriginally posted by confusedboi:i noe how it feels to eat alone, sucky
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i always eats alone n i like it it's true lah
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well i guess each person has different preferences
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i eats alone, lives alone..... i jus like to be alone
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do you live on top of bukit timah or chek jawa?Originally posted by makiko:i eats alone, lives alone..... i jus like to be alone -
i'm telling u to look at the bright side, cos if u continue to get bother by it, sooner or later u will fell even more depressOriginally posted by ironoxideman:do you live on top of bukit timah or chek jawa?