I am a selfish BASTARD.
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I am a selfish BASTARD. I like her a lot. I know she's the obedient type, almost everywhere she goes besides school, she goes with her father. Her father is damn strict wth her. She goes straight home after school everyday. She's also always keeps herself busy. I know she's very sensitive, she used to cry over little things like being punished by the teacher.
I like her, I don't mind leaving her alone but I can't stand the thought of her being hugged and touched by some other guy... I always SMS her, she usually replies... unless if I ask her out or something about relationship, she won't reply. I know this isn't a good time. Her exam is round the corner. I can see from her MSN nick that she seems to have some love problems. I don't know if its caused by me. I hope its caused me, then at least I know I mean something to her. I haven't seen her for months. I know just by SMSing and calling, it won't help me get close to her...since I dun even see her... but knowing her personality... she probably won't have the mood to get into a relationship with some other guy... at least with obstacles such as her father, exams... and me.... She wouldn't have the mood to... she very mild and timid type.
My aim isn't to woo her over now because I know it isn't a right time, especially since exam is coming. My aim is to stop her from getting into anotheer relationship. I know I am selfish. But I can't lose her to other guys... I spend half my life liking her already... She don't have to accept me...but I won't let her accept other guys...then perphaps someday, she'll realised...I wil never go away...
I know I am damn selfish... I rather both of us remain single our whole life then let someone else get her... else I will really go crazy... -
but have u tot that maybe u want her is nothing wrong but the way that u are doing it?
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well you can't call it love unless u can let go of your selfishness.it should never be a part of love.
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You Reap What You Sow YOu Selfish Bastard.
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u r damn scary
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I dun care whether its love or not... I just noe I want her... and that it...its not her body I want...its her I want...Originally posted by stellazio:well you can't call it love unless u can let go of your selfishness.it should never be a part of love. -
castrate yourself
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Can i ask if she tell you one day thats she does not love you what will you do?
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So you want her soul??? OMG......Originally posted by selfish:I dun care whether its love or not... I just noe I want her... and that it...its not her body I want...its her I want...
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She dun hav to aaccept me...just dun accept other guys...Originally posted by drx:Can i ask if she tell you one day thats she does not love you what will you do? -
You both are not even together and yet you harbour such thoughts.
Do you think she can accept you once she know your behaviour?
Not only are you selfish, you borders on the psychotic.
Not only will you get jealous for nothing, you may even hurt yourself (physically).
And like to know, what's the aim for the post, anyway?
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I dunno, I wanna try something... I wanna to stop disturbing her for a few weeks... see if she does anything as a friend or may as something else... but then I am afraid....tis few weeks might be the turning point for her to find a BF.... ya I know not realli possible with exams round the corner...but when it comes it comes right? I wannna at least know if she likes me.... but I am scare to try it out...
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You dun prove someone's love/like to you in this way, u know?
She may not have that strong attraction for you as the same that is you of her.
If she dun get hitched during this period, it also doesn't prove anything , right? -
No, I dun mean getting hitched...I mean maybe she'll SMS/call to ask me...why haven't I been contacting her or something...Originally posted by Magnus:You dun prove someone's love/like to you in this way, u know?
She may not have that strong attraction for you as the same that is you of her.
If she dun get hitched during this period, it also doesn't prove anything , right? -
hmm the way i see it,
this is the problem most guys have (me included).
u assume too much, assume u know her very well, assume u know exactly how she thinks (no mood into realtionship, etc.).
ok, let's say u really do know her very well. but still u cannot know 100% wat's on her mind. girls change their mind, it's in their genes (no pun intended, ladies
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and i think u are somewhat obssesed with her...
look, sometimes things dun always go your way. just becos u love someone, doesn't necessarily means she'll love u back. u cannot control her feelings...
if u really do love her, then be sincere abt it...
i say go for it, woo her (but dun ever resort to stalking and stuff like tht)
and if things dun work out, like maybe she got attached to somebody else. then the least u can do is move on and be happy for her... u two can always be friends if u wan
sumtimes reality maybe harsh.. but tht's just the way it is -
Its becozz u like her hats why u have this type of tinking.. but look deeper.. sometimes pple need to go thru all this to learn. This is call experience and is a life learning thingy. Do u really think even if she is to be with u, she wun b sad? ANything can happen. what u should do is, console her when she is feeling down, give her encouragement. You may not like guys getting near her or hug her.. but u must remember its her life.. she can do wat u wan. u can't tell her what to do... at the most is advise or persuade. But u say she wun reply u unless something special, in this case, i dun tink whatever u say to her will work. Juzz give her some times. yes u may feel some pinches but unless u r very very close or good fren of her, i dun tink u should get involve too much.
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I'll fight till the day one of us dies... Unless... someone attracts me more...Originally posted by sampanboi:hmm the way i see it,
this is the problem most guys have (me included).
u assume too much, assume u know her very well, assume u know exactly how she thinks (no mood into realtionship, etc.).
ok, let's say u really do know her very well. but still u cannot know 100% wat's on her mind. girls change their mind, it's in their genes (no pun intended, ladies )
and i think u are somewhat obssesed with her...
look, sometimes things dun always go your way. just becos u love someone, doesn't necessarily means she'll love u back. u cannot control her feelings...
if u really do love her, then be sincere abt it...
i say go for it, woo her (but dun ever resort to stalking and stuff like tht)
and if things dun work out, like maybe she got attached to somebody else. then the least u can do is move on and be happy for her... u two can always be friends if u wan
sumtimes reality maybe harsh.. but tht's just the way it is
If she gets hitch....I'll fight too... that guy can hit...me...beat me....but I won't stop....I won't even hit him....
She dun hav to like me.... but I can make her pity me... make her feel guilty for letting someone... who likes her down..... If the day comes, she is with me....I will never let her go... never.... -
Learn to be free of emotional attachments. Less suffering like that.
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What good will it make if you cant have her body & soul? Haiz, maybe you will find true love in other gal..Originally posted by selfish:I am a selfish BASTARD. I like her a lot. I know she's the obedient type, almost everywhere she goes besides school, she goes with her father. Her father is damn strict wth her. She goes straight home after school everyday. She's also always keeps herself busy. I know she's very sensitive, she used to cry over little things like being punished by the teacher.
I like her, I don't mind leaving her alone but I can't stand the thought of her being hugged and touched by some other guy... I always SMS her, she usually replies... unless if I ask her out or something about relationship, she won't reply. I know this isn't a good time. Her exam is round the corner. I can see from her MSN nick that she seems to have some love problems. I don't know if its caused by me. I hope its caused me, then at least I know I mean something to her. I haven't seen her for months. I know just by SMSing and calling, it won't help me get close to her...since I dun even see her... but knowing her personality... she probably won't have the mood to get into a relationship with some other guy... at least with obstacles such as her father, exams... and me.... She wouldn't have the mood to... she very mild and timid type.
My aim isn't to woo her over now because I know it isn't a right time, especially since exam is coming. My aim is to stop her from getting into anotheer relationship. I know I am selfish. But I can't lose her to other guys... I spend half my life liking her already... She don't have to accept me...but I won't let her accept other guys...then perphaps someday, she'll realised...I wil never go away...
I know I am damn selfish... I rather both of us remain single our whole life then let someone else get her... else I will really go crazy...
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read drumstick post. his advice is good too
ok... then go for it. u wun know unless u tryOriginally posted by selfish:I'll fight till the day one of us dies... Unless... someone attracts me more...
If she gets hitch....I'll fight too... that guy can hit...me...beat me....but I won't stop....I won't even hit him....
She dun hav to like me.... but I can make her pity me... make her feel guilty for letting someone... who likes her down..... If the day comes, she is with me....I will never let her go... never....
but if things doesn't work out, then... listen to wolfwoof.
maybe she's just not the one for u -
But I don't know how to do it... I really want to do it the normal way... be her friend first... then slowly get closely... but the thing is... she won't say anything when I ask her out... I don't know... if she doesn't want to... or because she can't...
It seems that everyway she goes... she goes with her father... except school... you never see her hanging out with friends for fun... and if you happen to see her on the street... she's with her father... I seen it myself...most of my friend seen it too... I can't stand it... I don't know...whats hindering her, her or her father... -
Is she the shy shy type?
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Ya... leaning towards the shy type not really shy just a little mild... but she's overly friendly too, but not very outgoing in useless things like going out with friends... heck...she never gone out with friends b4... but for school activities or other activities she takes part activitly... She's always the one comforting others too...Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:Is she the shy shy type? -
Shy towards you or her frds? What you mean by overly friendly too?Originally posted by selfish:Ya... leaning towards the shy type... but she's overly friendly too. -
if she doesn't like you...then how can both of you get into a relationship? it'll be a one-sided affair. she might feel guilty, and it'll make her feel sad. do you want her to be sad?Originally posted by selfish:I'll fight till the day one of us dies... Unless... someone attracts me more...
If she gets hitch....I'll fight too... that guy can hit...me...beat me....but I won't stop....I won't even hit him....
She dun hav to like me.... but I can make her pity me... make her feel guilty for letting someone... who likes her down..... If the day comes, she is with me....I will never let her go... never....