After Some Time...

• FeowFeow

  14 Jul 05, 11:41

  Dearest All,
  
  Trying to make the most of my 1 day's stay here (or rather, a few hours, hopefully), so I'm gonna write about something new today, & share my experience. Partly because I'm damn bleedin' cheong hey
  
  Anyway, I've noticed that some of my friends bring this topic up at times when we talk: After some time, things seem to become kinda stale, & there's No new places to go, Nothing exciting to do, etc.
  
  I won't speak for everybody, nor every couple, since I've experienced different things with ex-partners, but I shall base it solely on the greatest love of my life (we're still together, for those who're wondering).
  
  Now, the both of us are pretty much easy-going (which sometimes results in a whole lotta problems in decisions), & since we've been best friends before, it's kinda like spending time with a best friend anyway. Ultimately, we do the most boring things: Go to movies, go to pet farms, go to pet shops, go walking around aimlessly, watch VCDs/DVDs, have reading day, etc. Sounds VERY normal, don't you think? Of course, once in awhile, we go nuts & decide to explore Singapore (getting hopelessly lost in the process)
  
  Anyway, the gist is, we manage to enjoy what we do, & the feeling of boredom isn't really there. Instead of taking the MRT, we try to take buses to our destinations in order to have a more scenic route. Then we point things out to each other, talk, tease, & tickle each other (think DECENT, please!).
  
  This weekend, we're having a VCD/DVD weekend because the weather is so hot, it's No fun to go out. We've been planning all week what we're gonna do: go to the supermarket to buy snack food (very unhealthy but absolutely necessary for these kinda things), make up a list of oily, greasy, yummy fastfood to order (don't really like Mac's though), shopping for more movies to watch, making jelly & fruit cocktails together
  
  We're still having so much fun preparing & making a list And we're gonna have as much fun shopping for the stuff in our casual clothes (being Vainpot, we'll still wanna look nice, of course!)
  
  Bottomline: Perhaps him being my best friend prior to us being together really helped. We still do many of the things friends do, cruising together, reading, talking, buying stuff, pillow fights (geez), etc. But perhaps that is the secret to Not being bored? Treating your other half like your best friend, having fun doing the stuff that you'd do with your best pal, planning, etc?
  
  We're planning for X'mas now (I know I know, it's still far away, but I'm NOT exaggerating!), & it's still in its early stages, but we're planning for something special : ) What a wonderful way to pass the time : )
  
  FeowFeow
• I_am_PeTe_Parker

  14 Jul 05, 11:50

  Errr...and...
  You want us to recommmend what VCD/DVD to rent issit?
• Tuatau

  14 Jul 05, 11:50

  Reminds one of "A Lot Like Love"? Or should it be A Lot Like Life?
• heavenlyfire

  14 Jul 05, 11:51

  wow.... really envious of you guys. must have being together for quite some time alreadly i guessed.
  
  well, keep it up.
• Mao x 2

  14 Jul 05, 11:54

  Originally posted by heavenlyfire:

  wow.... really envious of you guys. must have being together for quite some time alreadly i guessed.
  
  well, keep it up.

  Yeah.. all the best!!
• FeowFeow

  14 Jul 05, 12:04

  *laughs*
  
  Actually, No need, we bought & we usually know what we want. Once in awhile, I'll just write about my experiences lah. You know, to share?
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by I_am_PeTe_Parker:

  Errr...and...
  You want us to recommmend what VCD/DVD to rent issit?

• FeowFeow

  14 Jul 05, 12:10

  Actually hor, we're Not always romantic also lah You should see the "terms of endearment" for each other Where got people call their loved ones:
  - Hamster
  - Hamster Paws
  - DooDooKing
  - Little Stinky
  etc etc etc?
  
  There's a balance lorr... But we do make it a point to let each other know how much we mean to each other every so often : ) Like just today whilst I was happily talking about us getting tenderloin steaks (since he said he wanted to cook X'mas Eve dinner), pasta & lotsa seafood (mussels, clams, prawns, crayfish, even down to the sauce) & the wine, he was laughing that I was so excited so early
  
  So I told him that he did so many things for me (he really does! ) & I wanted us to have a wonderful X'mas, especially him, since he deserved it. He replied that I've made his day & he's gonna smile all day : ) He does the same to me too : )
  
  So that's how we keep it going : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by Tuatau:

  Reminds one of "A Lot Like Love"? Or should it be A Lot Like Life?

• FeowFeow

  14 Jul 05, 12:11

  Thank you : ) I'm sure every relationship has its ups & downs, ours is No exception. But I'm happy
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by heavenlyfire:

  wow.... really envious of you guys. must have being together for quite some time alreadly i guessed.
  
  well, keep it up.

• FeowFeow

  14 Jul 05, 12:12

  Awwwwwww, thanks : ) I'm lucky : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by Mao x 2:

  Yeah.. all the best!!

• Tuatau

  14 Jul 05, 12:28

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:
  [FeowFeow describing her "Terms of Endearment" with the best friend who became The Man]
  
  So that's how we keep it going : )
  
  FeowFeow

  A breath of refreshing air in this forum reading your posts. Does kinda put one's perspective back in balance. Welcome back.
  
  We know you are deliriously happy in love, and this is not exactly a place where happy people like to be, but please drop by whenever you can.
• Devil1976

  14 Jul 05, 12:28

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  Awwwwwww, thanks : ) I'm lucky : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  
• Devil1976

  14 Jul 05, 12:32

  Take a little opportunity to be a 'wet blanket' here...
  
  Anyone envying FeowFeow here...?
  
  Ok, ok... FeowFeow wasn't born with such a fantastic relationship to start... It probably took her much failures.... Angers.. And to an extent some 'sufferings' from previous ones...?
  
  What I'm trying to say is "Don't give up"... If you don't keep walking after failures, you probably won't see what's up in line for you... Even if it's not the next 1... The next 2 or the next 3...?
  
  You earn your rights to find out... Provided that you're walking in the RIGHT DIRECTION...?
• sillyme

  14 Jul 05, 12:41

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  Awwwwwww, thanks : ) I'm lucky : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Not luck lah. You both made the right decision, that's all.
• Devil1976

  14 Jul 05, 12:55

  Originally posted by sillyme:

  Not luck lah. You both made the right decision, that's all.

  Actually... It's a mixture of BOTH...??
• Yunhaier

  14 Jul 05, 19:50

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  Dearest All,
  
  Trying to make the most of my 1 day's stay here (or rather, a few hours, hopefully), so I'm gonna write about something new today, & share my experience. Partly because I'm damn bleedin' cheong hey
  
  Anyway, I've noticed that some of my friends bring this topic up at times when we talk: After some time, things seem to become kinda stale, & there's No new places to go, Nothing exciting to do, etc.
  
  I won't speak for everybody, nor every couple, since I've experienced different things with ex-partners, but I shall base it solely on the greatest love of my life (we're still together, for those who're wondering).
  
  Now, the both of us are pretty much easy-going (which sometimes results in a whole lotta problems in decisions), & since we've been best friends before, it's kinda like spending time with a best friend anyway. Ultimately, we do the most boring things: Go to movies, go to pet farms, go to pet shops, go walking around aimlessly, watch VCDs/DVDs, have reading day, etc. Sounds VERY normal, don't you think? Of course, once in awhile, we go nuts & decide to explore Singapore (getting hopelessly lost in the process)
  
  Anyway, the gist is, we manage to enjoy what we do, & the feeling of boredom isn't really there. Instead of taking the MRT, we try to take buses to our destinations in order to have a more scenic route. Then we point things out to each other, talk, tease, & tickle each other (think DECENT, please!).
  
  This weekend, we're having a VCD/DVD weekend because the weather is so hot, it's No fun to go out. We've been planning all week what we're gonna do: go to the supermarket to buy snack food (very unhealthy but absolutely necessary for these kinda things), make up a list of oily, greasy, yummy fastfood to order (don't really like Mac's though), shopping for more movies to watch, making jelly & fruit cocktails together
  
  We're still having so much fun preparing & making a list And we're gonna have as much fun shopping for the stuff in our casual clothes (being Vainpot, we'll still wanna look nice, of course!)
  
  Bottomline: Perhaps him being my best friend prior to us being together really helped. We still do many of the things friends do, cruising together, reading, talking, buying stuff, pillow fights (geez), etc. But perhaps that is the secret to Not being bored? Treating your other half like your best friend, having fun doing the stuff that you'd do with your best pal, planning, etc?
  
  We're planning for X'mas now (I know I know, it's still far away, but I'm NOT exaggerating!), & it's still in its early stages, but we're planning for something special : ) What a wonderful way to pass the time : )
  
  FeowFeow

  Finally, some positive posting, from someone currently leading a BGR, for a change... Our romantic Pisces.
  
  Technically speaking, when you 'plan' to do something together; from the planning to execution stage, you already burn much effort in doing something in unison. It doesn't matter what you are doing, because the effort and time spend together accumulates in emotional value. Such things are priceless.
  
  When you plan... have a good time together... and plan... and have a good time together.. and plan... - this cycle keeps the relationship on-going. It keeps you focus on your relationship strongly and influence the couple to look ahead.
  
  P.S: Good luck?
  
  Cheers
• usck

  14 Jul 05, 21:09

  i think u should eat a peanut, then i suppose u can take a plane and not a bus
• pipi & poot-poot

  14 Jul 05, 21:15

  
  
  finding the 'rite nut' takes time ... no ?
  
  btw...congrats FF on finding d rite nut ~
  
  
• Tuatau

  15 Jul 05, 01:37

  Yet there are nuts, never to be found by any squirrel -- blind or otherwise -- left rotting on the ground, awaiting the next spring...
• DeadPoet

  15 Jul 05, 01:57

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  Awwwwwww, thanks : ) I'm lucky : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Do you have a blog?
• FeowFeow

  15 Jul 05, 09:45

  I'm actually ridiculously lucky that my guy is also willing to share the same kinda things & views as I do : ) He's also willing to put in the effort. Of course, it's Not all perfect, we'll probably never live in ostentatious luxury
  
  But then again, having him around, IS the luxury : )
  
  But thanks Tuatau, I'll drop by as often as I'm able (taking things abit slack as I have the flu)
  
  I actually like it here, because if I can help 1 person, then I think my time has been worthwhile : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by Tuatau:

  A breath of refreshing air in this forum reading your posts. Does kinda put one's perspective back in balance. Welcome back.
  
  We know you are deliriously happy in love, and this is not exactly a place where happy people like to be, but please drop by whenever you can.

• starblue

  15 Jul 05, 09:58

  feow just uplifted my spirits today... nothing like a little dose of happiness for a morning.
• FeowFeow

  15 Jul 05, 10:02

  ENVY your head lah I think some will envy a jet-set lifestyle with fine dining, lotsa travelling, etc What we have, is hardly worth envying, but it's precious to us : )
  
  And yes, you're absolutely right that I went through quite a no. of failed relationships before finding the happiness that I have now. I wouldn't want to go through those again *shudders*
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by Devil1976:

  Take a little opportunity to be a 'wet blanket' here...
  
  Anyone envying FeowFeow here...?
  
  Ok, ok... FeowFeow wasn't born with such a fantastic relationship to start... It probably took her much failures.... Angers.. And to an extent some 'sufferings' from previous ones...?
  
  What I'm trying to say is "Don't give up"... If you don't keep walking after failures, you probably won't see what's up in line for you... Even if it's not the next 1... The next 2 or the next 3...?
  
  You earn your rights to find out... Provided that you're walking in the RIGHT DIRECTION...?

• Nelstar

  15 Jul 05, 10:04

  love is not about the time... but the emphasis is on your dedication and effort.
• FeowFeow

  15 Jul 05, 10:09

  Hello, Auntie Yun : )
  
  Hehehe, it's actually very fun lorr Then both of us get more & more excited Our routine is to start planning on a Mon morning (Mon being the longest wait to the weekend), & then we get more & more excited It makes us look forward to the weekend, & for me at least, I try to finish any work I have from Mon-Thurs so that I can leave earlier on Fri
  
  Thanks for your good wishes : ) Actually, in terms of the western zodiac, we wouldn't be compatible I'm Piscean & he's Aries (although, being towards the tail-end of Pisces, I sometimes display Aries tendencies)
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  Finally, some positive posting, from someone currently leading a BGR, for a change... Our romantic Pisces.
  
  Technically speaking, when you 'plan' to do something together; from the planning to execution stage, you already burn much effort in doing something in unison. It doesn't matter what you are doing, because the effort and time spend together accumulates in emotional value. Such things are priceless.
  
  When you plan... have a good time together... and plan... and have a good time together.. and plan... - this cycle keeps the relationship on-going. It keeps you focus on your relationship strongly and influence the couple to look ahead.
  
  P.S: Good luck?
  
  Cheers

• FeowFeow

  15 Jul 05, 10:12

  Thanks : )
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by pipi & poot-poot:

  
  
  finding the 'rite nut' takes time ... no ?
  
  btw...congrats FF on finding d rite nut ~