Did i go too fast?
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he can continue to chat with her.............
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a guy only needs to understand ONE girl, not the whole lot of them.Originally posted by Princesscutie:he will not be the first nor the last to not understand girls
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get to know her better.............Originally posted by jOhO:a guy only needs to understand ONE girl, not the whole lot of them.
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already know very very well. reached a limit where the MEANS of communication is concerned anyway..Originally posted by Princesscutie:get to know her better.............
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Thanks for your all solution.....Reason that i confessed so early is that i didnt koe whether she is single or attached. Early this year i like a gal and only a few mths later i found out she has a bf after my confession.....I really dun wan to history to repeat itself as i took quite some time to pick myself up....Come back to her again, if i koe that she is attached, i can pull out immediately...
If you have read my above post, she just refused to say whether she is attached or just change topic when i drop her hints....this has made me even more eager to find out her status....
Guess when it comes to woo gals, im still sucks....hopefully i can gain something from this mistake.....
Anyway tonite I will know the outcome, i already keeping my finger cross..... -
Normally when a girl refuse to reveal her status... but still continue toking even after u ask her means that shes single... or that shes thinking of breaking with her current bf? Right? Gd luck man! -
Basically knowing a girl less then a month, its difficult to visualise how she will behave or act in the next few months. Usually people tries to put up a good front or try to be nicer with new friends.
By confessing your liking for her in just merely 2 weeks, you are putting yourself in a risk of going into a "50/50 relationship". A healthy relationship involves both party to have adequate understanding of eachother, getting used to the way both reacts and able to click well.
What if she got boyfriend but likes to flirt around?
What if her character is not up to your standard?
Of course people always says "good girls hard to find, once found one, faster grab". But, haste is not a good option.
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[raise Eyebrow] Wassup!?!? Outing any time soon?Originally posted by jOhO:u make it too easy.
that's all i have to say for now becos i'm also going thru some crap ... so not in the right frame of mind to give good advise when i zi shen nan bao.
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Hmmm.... well, I duno if I shld say some words but here goes. Sorry if they sound abit to your disliking.Originally posted by Merkava79:Thanks for your all solution.....Reason that i confessed so early is that i didnt koe whether she is single or attached. Early this year i like a gal and only a few mths later i found out she has a bf after my confession.....I really dun wan to history to repeat itself as i took quite some time to pick myself up....Come back to her again, if i koe that she is attached, i can pull out immediately...
If you have read my above post, she just refused to say whether she is attached or just change topic when i drop her hints....this has made me even more eager to find out her status....
Guess when it comes to woo gals, im still sucks....hopefully i can gain something from this mistake.....
Anyway tonite I will know the outcome, i already keeping my finger cross.....
I think that there are other ways to find out if a girl is attached like asking a fren or jsut asking her in a joking manner whether she is attached. U can also hint her instead of opening confessing to her. Mayb she did not get your hints?Of cos, if she lie to u or duno how to take hints, then it dun work la. But i think confession is the last thing u shld do.
It shld come after all the things that needs to be done is done. Like knowing her well, know that at least she has a liking for u, knowing she is single of cos, etc etc.
I think your reason for confession is abit out of place. I understand why u are so eager but at the same time while trying to get the info, u could get to know her better so that u can get info easier isnt it?
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Slow & steady wins the race!
Don't confess too early cos u will frighten the poor girl.
There are ways to find out whether she is attached.
If she doesn't like u, she will say got bf
If she doesn't say, then she may have but is still looking- that means u can still try.
Chat with her first. Gather more info about her likes & dislikes, character, background etc. If she is suitable then hint to her.
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i don't know whether you've msg her so far this morning, and good luck for tonight.Originally posted by Merkava79:Thanks for your all solution.....Reason that i confessed so early is that i didnt koe whether she is single or attached. Early this year i like a gal and only a few mths later i found out she has a bf after my confession.....I really dun wan to history to repeat itself as i took quite some time to pick myself up....Come back to her again, if i koe that she is attached, i can pull out immediately...
If you have read my above post, she just refused to say whether she is attached or just change topic when i drop her hints....this has made me even more eager to find out her status....
Guess when it comes to woo gals, im still sucks....hopefully i can gain something from this mistake.....
Anyway tonite I will know the outcome, i already keeping my finger cross.....
here's my 2 cents worth of thought. i don't think its too fast, but you might have done better in putting it in the right manner. telling her how you felt is good, at least you are telling her that you are interested. but you don't need to get an answer from her. just say that you would like to go out on dates with her more often, so that both of you can get chances to know one another better. this will not put her into a spot. for all you know, she might be interested to know you better too.... and will not reject your calls for dates.
as for tonight, whatever answer you get... aside from "i'm already attached", you still got a chance if you remain friends. so, don't be too pushy and take things easy.
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just be careful when dealing with ladies who are not willing to say anything about themself.
She may look good on the outside but you never know what she maybe thinking on the inside.
Approach with caution. I do not trust ladies who are not honest with you cos I believe she may hidding many things from you.
Suggestion
1) Do a background check
2) ask friends who know her what she is like.
3) even she says she is willing to be your gf does not mean she her heart is with you. So if she accepted you, remember to tell us her actions,we will try to advice on whether she is reallly in love with you or not. -
Yes, u went a bit too fast. Gals dont like to date wussies, esp guys who are too "nice". There's also 1001 guys like u who are too "nice". U need to put in some mystery & making the gal to get to know u better.
Be different, play hard to get, why u want to move in onto her so fast? got deadline to meet ah?
I give u some tips -
ALWAYS BE HUMROUS & BE COCKY A BIT. Keep busting off her ass (not literally hor!)
Hope this helps. It works for me with a lot of gals.
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Originally posted by Merkava79:Just need your opinion....
I just know a gal one month ago. My coy n hers have some biz dealings and 1st time i met her n i find her quite friendly n nice. So after exchanging name cards, i got hold of her mobile no and decide to make my move. I sent her good nite smses n asking how was her work n so on...She did replied most of my smses but somehow she will forget. So all this happen for about 2 wks. This wk we had a lunch meeting n had a 1hr plus chat on the phone that nite. So come the main part, i decide to confess to her how i feel about her. Just now i called her n told her how i feel. But then she was like ermmm....no ans...i asked her whether is she single or attached but then no ans again....in the end she told me she wanted to rest already...so we ended our conversation....After which, i sms her that i dun need a reply so soon. but then i felt so regret now.....haiz...did i proceed too fast? somehow i think i did...
AA guys wats ur opinion......Originally posted by Merkava79:well, i got do my homework b4 i proceed....just that she doesnt wan to tell her status....tats the onli barrier....i tried to ask her out on wkends but she told me her all her sats is busy till after national day....damn it, i really regret now.....Originally posted by Merkava79:I will be meeting her tomolo for a dinner, she said wan to tok about it n doesnt wan to hold on any longer....guess the outcome is more or less confirm liao....
All rather bad moves..? Nonetheless, since they've already been done...?
After your 1st 'outburst' you should have the courtesy of retraining and controlling yourself a little... Somehow I feel she feels that you're pushing her a little in the face?
You're probably right about not getting a GOOD ANSWER... If she's kind enough, she'll probably ask you to take things slow or 'let nature take its course' etc... If she's not...? Hmm... Just don't push things tomorrow... RELAX and try to keep it CASUAL. -
Thank you everyone for your kind advices, more or less i will get sorted out by tonite. Really appreciate all the above posts......
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Bro.. whatever it is tonite...whatever the outcome.. dun cry like a pussy or go all hysterical. remain calm..with a bit of somber mood. Whatever it is just dun rush it.. listen to what she says first.. then u think carefully man. gluck
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tat means she has a bf. trust meOriginally posted by Merkava79:i alreadi drop all the above hints liao, either she said "dun tell u" "why you wan to koe?" or she just luff and change topic.....
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i feel is a plot
She has a bf I believe but wish to get more guys like him to spent money on her!
Steps to get guys hook
1) she refuse to say whether she got bf or not shows that she already start to bluff him to make him excited about her.
2) next she will try to avoid the questions if he ask her again but instead chat with him, go out with him, seduce him.
3) once she is sure he is totally in love and defenceless she will go in and take his cash.
4) After the lady finds out he does not have any money and off she goes to find other money tree while still having her bf.
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1 man showOriginally posted by drx:i feel is a plot
She has a bf I believe but wish to get more guys like him to spent money on her!
Steps to get guys hook
1) she refuse to say whether she got bf or not shows that she already start to bluff him to make him excited about her.
2) next she will try to avoid the questions if he ask her again but instead chat with him, go out with him, seduce him.
3) once she is sure he is totally in love and defenceless she will go in and take his cash.
4) After the lady finds out he does not have any money and off she goes to find other money tree while still having her bf.
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if she has, then bo pian loh.....i oreadi prepare for the worst liao....Originally posted by makiko:tat means she has a bf. trust me -
if she has.. then u should be lucky she's not ur gf.Originally posted by Merkava79:if she has, then bo pian loh.....i oreadi prepare for the worst liao....
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aiya...think so much for wat...since she has already noe that you like her, then ok liao lor...all you wan is just an answer whether she's attached or not...
Y rush to know the answer?
If she has a bf, so be it lor...
If she's single, definetely you'll have some chances...
The reason she remains silent could be becoz she hardly even know you well enough....somemore, when a guy woo a girl, it's always the sweetest moments, but when get togather for a few months, things change...most girls are aware abt that... -
I koe what u mean.....I think i got to use to this kind of situation...Originally posted by dcx:aiya...think so much for wat...since she has already noe that you like her, then ok liao lor...all you wan is just an answer whether she's attached or not...
Y rush to know the answer?
If she has a bf, so be it lor...
If she's single, definetely you'll have some chances...
The reason she remains silent could be becoz she hardly even know you well enough....somemore, when a guy woo a girl, it's always the sweetest moments, but when get togather for a few months, things change...most girls are aware abt that... -
Nope... I feel that she's probably an alien in disguise waiting to eat him up...Originally posted by drx:i feel is a plot
She has a bf I believe but wish to get more guys like him to spent money on her!
Steps to get guys hook
1) she refuse to say whether she got bf or not shows that she already start to bluff him to make him excited about her.
2) next she will try to avoid the questions if he ask her again but instead chat with him, go out with him, seduce him.
3) once she is sure he is totally in love and defenceless she will go in and take his cash.
4) After the lady finds out he does not have any money and off she goes to find other money tree while still having her bf.
Nvm we shall see what this lady is up to when the thread goes on.
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hahaha....nice try...damn...u're good...Originally posted by Devil1976:Nope... I feel that she's probably an alien in disguise waiting to eat him up...