The girl i love..... T_T
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i can only say that you are blinded by love.
sadly I knows how it feels.
To be in love with a girl, ignoring her faults and give in to all her demands.
Until the day I finally woke up to the fact that she was using me all along for her own needs.
My advise is to change your mindset of the girl. You believe that she will love you one day but deep in your heart do you believe is true? If she loves you she will be your gf and not finding another one. Still willing to wait? for how long? until she got married and have kids?
The faster you can accept the fact she is your friend only and not more. The faster you can forget her. If I can forget the girl so can you.
Try not to keep your furture wife waiting, you never know if she may have just walk pass you one day. -
I agree with drx, get yourself a new girl, it will help get over her.
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wad u say is quite true.....thanks for ur advice..... i will try....Originally posted by drx:i can only say that you are blinded by love.
sadly I knows how it feels.
To be in love with a girl, ignoring her faults and give in to all her demands.
Until the day I finally woke up to the fact that she was using me all along for her own needs.
My advise is to change your mindset of the girl. You believe that she will love you one day but deep in your heart do you believe is true? If she loves you she will be your gf and not finding another one. Still willing to wait? for how long? until she got married and have kids?
The faster you can accept the fact she is your friend only and not more. The faster you can forget her. If I can forget the girl so can you.
Try not to keep your furture wife waiting, you never know if she may have just walk pass you one day. -
Hey guy,
I absolutely understand what you are going thru rite now coz i went thru this phase before.
Well, what the other's advice offered are good advices. Just to add on to the list you can do.
If you can meet someone whom u like in a tuition centre so long ago, why dun you expand your social circle again by going out with more friends, ask them to bring female friends along lor... Who knows, your future gf and wife may just come along.
Dun give up the whole forest because of one tree. Dun be too demanding in any way.
Just let her go..... it will be painful... but just let her go... If you hang on too tight, you will have trouble handling the next relationship. Somemore its not fair to the person whom you are going to be with next time.
Loving someone means you want her to be happy, irregardless of whether she is your gf or wife.
That is the magic and the tragedy of LOVE.
Steven -
Wussy boy is how she look at u. i bet u will kill your mum just to get into her skirt. She don't even look upon u as a potential lover but just a wussy friend whom she can talk to when she is sad.
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thanks for the advice.....i think is hard for me to go on another relationship at this point of time now...Originally posted by stevengohsgp:Hey guy,
I absolutely understand what you are going thru rite now coz i went thru this phase before.
Well, what the other's advice offered are good advices. Just to add on to the list you can do.
If you can meet someone whom u like in a tuition centre so long ago, why dun you expand your social circle again by going out with more friends, ask them to bring female friends along lor... Who knows, your future gf and wife may just come along.
Dun give up the whole forest because of one tree. Dun be too demanding in any way.
Just let her go..... it will be painful... but just let her go... If you hang on too tight, you will have trouble handling the next relationship. Somemore its not fair to the person whom you are going to be with next time.
Loving someone means you want her to be happy, irregardless of whether she is your gf or wife.
That is the magic and the tragedy of LOVE.
Steven -
wad is Wussy ????Originally posted by Kerotan Frog:Wussy boy is how she look at u. i bet u will kill your mum just to get into her skirt. She don't even look upon u as a potential lover but just a wussy friend whom she can talk to when she is sad. -
Originally posted by frostice:i came from a boy sch since pri till sec. i am not a very good looking guy and short. So not like my others friends mostly all got gf liao, execpt me when during sec.
But one day. that time i tink i was still sec4. i saw this girl in my tutution centre which i cant take my eyes off her. To me she is pretty and special, but my friends say is ok looking only. So everyday my mind is full of her. Finally one day i decided to go right up to know her and i successed. So we exchange contact. That day i was so happy until i couldnt sleep.
(come to tink back i tink i am abit crazy that time)
Although i got her contact but i dare not call her because dont know wad to tok about and also i think the 1st gal i ever like. But the funny thing she call me the next day and talk to me through i have nothing much to tok, but she say nevermind she will do the toking. So from then on it seems everyday she tok to me and like we can tok for hours and hours happily. But when comes to dating her, i only date out her a few times.
But happy times dont last long, after sometime i found out that she came from a rich family and had bf already. At that time i totally lost out, very sad and it seem like the world lost out of colour.
So i tink for nights and nights, finally i decided to give up, because i not like bf tall, good looking, and also not as poor as i am and she is rich gal, how can a poor guy like me give her happliness. So i try to keep distance away from her, dont call her, reject her call, and even when i saw her i just say hi and walk off le. (my heart really pain when i do that) after long time, she seldom call me le, and i also never call her le. But that didnt stop me from thinking of her.
but after a year later, one day suddenly a call, i heard her voice again. At that time i was kinda of happy again. She told me that she is very sad , becoz her bf is with other gal and still wan to be with her and she love her bf very much and they have been together for years. So i try my best to console her but i really am too stupid abt console ppl. But in the end she feel better when toking to me...and say thanks to me for console her. But i still didnt feel that i got any chance to chase her. After that she didnt call me again le, and i also didnt want to interfere with their relationship problems. Although i really feel like calling her, ask her bf to get lost, and chase her. But i dont know y all my confidence r lost out.
Then after a few years later, i met her she already got a new bf... then i sian again, although i recently just contact her but already not like last time we used to chat about happily liao
...i always think if that time i really did not give up on her, would she be my gf by now??? But what to do is Over....hai Until today it had been 4 years i still like her, and since then i had never go on relationship yet, i also dunno y, maybe i still very like her or probably i lost confidence in relationship liao or maybe i cant find someone like her again....hai
u ppl must be thinking i am dumb, stupid and ball-less.... maybe i am...
can u ppl give me some advices....
To me, whether you wanna give up or not, isn't exactly the greatest concern here. I feel there is something more critical here that you probably have to learn about your failure before history repeats itself and you find yourself experiencing a double whammy.
This is a case where you rejected yourself....how can a poor guy like me give her happliness. So i try to keep distance away from her, dont call her, reject her call, and even when i saw her i just say hi and walk off le
After that she didnt call me again le, and i also didnt want to interfere with their relationship problems.
If she is attached, whether or not to give up, it remains subjective to the individual. You chose to give up, its fine as well. BUT the above malicious mindsets will serve to ruin you until you decide to do something about it. Happiness talks nothing about monetary wealth dude - only people who doesn't understand thinks that its all about money. YOU haven't even started and killed yourself with this thought - very bad.
IMHO, when you two had almost zero contact and she called you out of the blue and related matters of the heart - THIS IS IN FACT, blatantly a fringing` obvious hint that she is trying to drop. Reasons' very simple: when your emotions is in the mess, you scan for the closest/intimate companion in your memory to rant or talk about it. Your love affairs is such that people usually can't talk very much to others they ain't comfortable with, because it involves the next stage of emotions - opening up. You don't find strangers/hi-bye friends, whom you do not have contact for so long, to talk about these things UNLESS your scenario causes your world to shake and all closest/intimate friends became an unsuitable channel. (Or unless you are a known AA to your friends)
She calls you because unconsciously, she wants you to know that she is single. Duh, obviously she knows that you probably had some feelings for her.
P.S: This is a case of self-rejection, not rejected rejection.
Cheers -
Bro, jus sharing my 0.002 cents views
I'm rich & handsome (my frens say so) but i also have low self confidence. why? 'cos i am relatively short ( most of my relatives are quite tall), have few frens & think i've no talent.. so what's my point? Its ppl few inferior for a variety of reasons, some justifiable & some down rite dumb. So u may not even that BAD in her eyes... u may well be an average nice guy who has every chance like other guys
Remember, its never abt MONEY, LOOKS, CARS etc etc... its more abt personality & compatiblilty.
My mindset was jus like most ppl last time... thinkin if only i'm richer, taller, have car etc etc. But then if u walk ard Orchard rd, u see many chio bus with guys who are downright disgustin lookin rite?? what does it show? it means most local gals are blind hahaha... jus jokin, but it means lov transcend all the physical factors..
And Yunhaier made a gd point too... i'm also learnin. Gd luck dude
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Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
thanks on ur advice.....
Bro, jus sharing my 0.002 cents views
I'm rich & handsome (my frens say so) but i also have low self confidence. why? 'cos i am relatively short ( most of my relatives are quite tall), have few frens & think i've no talent.. so what's my point? Its ppl few inferior for a variety of reasons, some justifiable & some down rite dumb. So u may not even that [b]BAD in her eyes... u may well be an average nice guy who has every chance like other guys
Remember, its never abt MONEY, LOOKS, CARS etc etc... its more abt personality & compatiblilty.
My mindset was jus like most ppl last time... thinkin if only i'm richer, taller, have car etc etc. But then if u walk ard Orchard rd, u see many chio bus with guys who are downright disgustin lookin rite?? what does it show? it means most local gals are blind hahaha... jus jokin, but it means lov transcend all the physical factors..
And Yunhaier made a gd point too... i'm also learnin. Gd luck dude [/b]
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all these are because you are a wimp. you could have gotten her the moment you know her many years ago but you are a wimp. get that!
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yeah yeah...i am a wimp.....Originally posted by lution:all these are because you are a wimp. you could have gotten her the moment you know her many years ago but you are a wimp. get that!
Go get a life! reallly damn useless hai....damn regret also.... i think i should just bang the wall and die.... -
You really think so?Originally posted by frostice:yeah yeah...i am a wimp..... reallly damn useless hai....damn regret also.... i think i should just bang the wall and die....
Remember, No one could have the power to put you down unless you allow them to. -
but probably wad he say is true if that time i am not a wimp, most probably i would have gotten her as my gf liao.....Originally posted by M©+square:You really think so?
Remember, No one could have the power to put you down unless you allow them to.
feeling myself damn useless.... -
Dude , it does not matter whether you're a wimp or mama's boy , What matters most is to be yourself and try to touch her heart in anyway possible...
The golden rule is not to be someone else whom you're not.... -
And if only had I bought the lottery for the Toto draw, I would have probably been one of the TOP winners liao yeah...?Originally posted by frostice:but probably wad he say is true if that time i am not a wimp, most probably i would have gotten her as my gf liao.....
feeling myself damn useless....
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Is me leh... not you...Originally posted by Devil1976:And if only had I bought the lottery for the Toto draw, I would have probably been one of the TOP winners liao yeah...? 
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Or maybe I should just add in a few good words for you so that you'll send some cash right into my bank account...??Originally posted by Yunhaier:Is me leh... not you...
Cheers -
My advice to u is turn into a galOriginally posted by frostice:i came from a boy sch since pri till sec. i am not a very good looking guy and short. So not like my others friends mostly all got gf liao, execpt me when during sec.
But one day. that time i tink i was still sec4. i saw this girl in my tutution centre which i cant take my eyes off her. To me she is pretty and special, but my friends say is ok looking only. So everyday my mind is full of her. Finally one day i decided to go right up to know her and i successed. So we exchange contact. That day i was so happy until i couldnt sleep. (come to tink back i tink i am abit crazy that time)
Although i got her contact but i dare not call her because dont know wad to tok about and also i think the 1st gal i ever like. But the funny thing she call me the next day and talk to me through i have nothing much to tok, but she say nevermind she will do the toking. So from then on it seems everyday she tok to me and like we can tok for hours and hours happily. But when comes to dating her, i only date out her a few times.
But happy times dont last long, after sometime i found out that she came from a rich family and had bf already. At that time i totally lost out, very sad and it seem like the world lost out of colour. So i tink for nights and nights, finally i decided to give up, because i not like bf tall, good looking, and also not as poor as i am and she is rich gal, how can a poor guy like me give her happliness. So i try to keep distance away from her, dont call her, reject her call, and even when i saw her i just say hi and walk off le. (my heart really pain when i do that) after long time, she seldom call me le, and i also never call her le. But that didnt stop me from thinking of her.
but after a year later, one day suddenly a call, i heard her voice again. At that time i was kinda of happy again. She told me that she is very sad , becoz her bf is with other gal and still wan to be with her and she love her bf very much and they have been together for years. So i try my best to console her but i really am too stupid abt console ppl. But in the end she feel better when toking to me...and say thanks to me for console her. But i still didnt feel that i got any chance to chase her. After that she didnt call me again le, and i also didnt want to interfere with their relationship problems. Although i really feel like calling her, ask her bf to get lost, and chase her. But i dont know y all my confidence r lost out.
Then after a few years later, i met her she already got a new bf... then i sian again, although i recently just contact her but already not like last time we used to chat about happily liao ...i always think if that time i really did not give up on her, would she be my gf by now??? But what to do is Over....hai Until today it had been 4 years i still like her, and since then i had never go on relationship yet, i also dunno y, maybe i still very like her or probably i lost confidence in relationship liao or maybe i cant find someone like her again....hai
u ppl must be thinking i am dumb, stupid and ball-less.... maybe i am...
can u ppl give me some advices.... -
Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
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Bro, jus sharing my 0.002 cents views
I'm rich & handsome (my frens say so) but i also have low self confidence. why? 'cos i am relatively short ( most of my relatives are quite tall), have few frens & think i've no talent.. so what's my point? Its ppl few inferior for a variety of reasons, some justifiable & some down rite dumb. So u may not even that [b]BAD in her eyes... u may well be an average nice guy who has every chance like other guys
Remember, its never abt MONEY, LOOKS, CARS etc etc... its more abt personality & compatiblilty.
My mindset was jus like most ppl last time... thinkin if only i'm richer, taller, have car etc etc. But then if u walk ard Orchard rd, u see many chio bus with guys who are downright disgustin lookin rite?? what does it show? it means most local gals are blind hahaha... jus jokin, but it means lov transcend all the physical factors..
And Yunhaier made a gd point too... i'm also learnin. Gd luck dude [/b] -
Yun jie is dead right on one thing.. and that is, a girl will not come to you suddenly after long period of non-contact to pour out her soul if she doesnt have certain level of fondness for you. you should have acted then.. that was the opportune moment, and you missed it...
i am so sorry for you but right now, i guess there is only two things you can do. 1) wait for another opportune moment and attack. (but then you will never know when that will come, if it comes at all). 2) move on to other fishes... -
if you continue to have this kind of poor mindset, do you think you stand a chance to be her bf
have more confidence in yourself.Originally posted by frostice:yeah yeah...i am a wimp..... reallly damn useless hai....damn regret also.... i think i should just bang the wall and die.... -
a bit lame rite u??? she got bf so u cannot talk to her at all??? even must reject calls??? what were u scared of?
also after she break up with bf, u say u still like her, then why nvr call?? what made u not call her??? now u look back regret, i really think u quite stupid............