What is your motivation in life?
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I don't know when I'm dying, so I don't know whether this is midlife crisis yet.Originally posted by alexkusu:if i did..i wouldnt be askin rite? jus wonder y u suddenly rant...issit midlife crisis? etc..
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Look on the bright side man
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Thanks.Originally posted by StarPuppy:Look on the bright side man
Maybe I'm subconsciously seeking that "companion" in life. -
its that time of feelings man...i am getting that feeling too...but my studies hold me back greatly....and not to mention my anti-social behaviourOriginally posted by CoolMyth:Thanks.
Maybe I'm subconsciously seeking that "companion" in life. 
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Originally posted by CoolMyth:
Now that you are aware of it, perhaps this desire is not so subconscious any more?
Maybe I'm subconsciously seeking that "companion" in life.
Originally posted by CoolMyth:
Not every girl is interested in looks or money. Most smart girls know good-looking guys usually aren't the most faithful guys in the world, and many girls these days are financially independent enough not to be lured easily by a man's wealth. (Rich guys usually aren't the most faithful guys in the world, too.)
I have no looks and definitely no money. Certainly not a guy that would interest any gal.
Your weakness seems to stem greatly from your lack of self-confidence. In one recent poll, you've resigned yourself to a lifetime of loneliness. It is perhaps unfair for someone who doesn't know you to say this, but don't you think it could be this kind of negative mentality that is dictating your current shy behaviour?
Rather than focusing on your weaknesses, maybe you could work on bringing out your strengths instead? Join some activities, open up as you have done in the forums, make some new friends...
You are in the university and it is probably one of the best places for a student to find a companion. There are so many opporutnities for guys and girls to meet each other for study, meals and play. Besides, the expectations placed upon you would probably not be as high as you are not working. This may sound idealistic, but a lot of graduate friends around me have found their partners in that fertile place. Miss your bus stop and it is likely your search is going to get a bit tougher once you begin your career after graduation.
You said you could be seeking that "companion" in life. Maybe if you really seek in real "life" and not wait in "heaven", your chances may be higher? You seem to be good in mathematics, you should be able to figure out the probabilities. -
Having friends who backstab you and bad mouth about you are the basic of life ba, not everyone is as good as you think. Everyday everyone is facing the threat of been backstab, but it shouldnt stop us from befriending new ppl. At least, we learn how to control our emotion more often and level up our EQ.Originally posted by CoolMyth:Nice advice there.
The problem is though I understand the virtues of having friends, I am pretty much used to doing things alone. When I am alone, I feel at peace and relaxed. The optimal condition I like to experience in life.
I felt sick of all the "friends" backstabbing, personally experienced during army days. Got so bad that I had to make some visits to a psychatrist. For the info, I cannot get too nervous, excited or agitated, or else I'll easily lose control of myself.
Though I've been "discharged" from my condition, I understand deeply inside that this "condition" is still in there somewhat and I have to take great care not to evoke it again. Hence, my desire to be alone, be at peace and be relaxed.
I don't understand myself sometimes. Tried as I might, I still don't.
I understand you might have nervous break down again, how about trying to catch up with your old friends? those who can really click with you since old times?
Actually i also have friends who are really anti-social and doesnt likes to mix with ppl, but like what i advise them, i will say the same to you: "Be nice to your friends and they will be nice to you."
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That is the major problem.Originally posted by Tuatau:You seem to be good in mathematics, you should be able to figure out the probabilities.
The probability of me staying single is much more than me finding "the one". Now, being so used to maths, it somehow leads you not to do things with such low probabilities, right? As the chinese saying goes "never fight a war where you have no chance of victory", ya?
But thanks again, I'll keep that in mind and see what I can do. -
don't think too much....just do wat u can do....live for today....plan alittle for tomoro...the rest will be in place....most importantly CHERISH EVERY LITTLE THINGS U HV or EXPERIENCE....
if some setback set in....brave thru it....tell yourselves it will be over soon....then it will back to the norm again...and we move on again....
are these motivation in life??
no lah, just my living life to the fullest physo -
to have tonnes of money for retirement.
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Originally posted by CoolMyth:
One wonders how you computed the probability figures. The formula may be empirical, but could the parameters used have included a high bias factor against yourself?
The probability of me staying single is much more than me finding "the one". Now, being so used to maths, it somehow leads you not to do things with such low probabilities, right? As the chinese saying goes "never fight a war where you have no chance of victory", ya?
"If you think you can, you can.
And if you think you can't, you're right."
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Thats why Im gambling.. love is a gamble anyway.. Dont bother goin into rs if u dont want take the risksOriginally posted by CoolMyth:That is the major problem.
The probability of me staying single is much more than me finding "the one". Now, being so used to maths, it somehow leads you not to do things with such low probabilities, right? As the chinese saying goes "never fight a war where you have no chance of victory", ya?
But thanks again, I'll keep that in mind and see what I can do. -
Originally posted by alexkusu:
Yes, when it comes to love, be careful about being too careful.
Thats why Im gambling.. love is a gamble anyway.. Dont bother goin into rs if u dont want take the risks -
devil also got habits...Originally posted by Devil1976:......
But I'm a Devil...?
especially bad ones...
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Originally posted by nuchio:devil also got habits...
especially bad ones... Most of them are not 'habits'...