is it a norm???
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i feel very upset with my boyfriend...
I discover that he is very obsessed with porn, he have to watch porn almost everyday for at least 2 hours.
I felt that nothing more important to him than those porn... We quarelled many times over this issue, he try to hide it. But I manage to find out that he still visited as often as before. I try not to dig, but when I use his computer to do some work often have a pop-up prompting you to download those movie. To the sense that sometime it will start downloading without you clicking on it.
I feel hurt, but he don't understand...
He said it is a norm?!
I don't know whether i'm sensitive or what... I dislike him watching it excessively, if occasionally i still can cover both eyes... Am I sensitive???
Can you accept your boyfriend behaving this way??? -
I watch porn with my gf
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we are close, but we are not very open about sex. He himself said that he rather keep it till marriage.
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2 hours every day? Maybe this is a bit too excessive. My opinion only.
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How old are the both of you....?Originally posted by cutegenie:we are close, but we are not very open about sex. He himself said that he rather keep it till marriage.
I should say it can be quite common nowadays... But of course, it's really a personal preference... At least you can see to it that he doesn't get too perverted or anything...? Being too obsessed with such things ain't really that healthy too.. But of course, if he's just a young teen then hormones might have alot of say at his age....?
It's a fact of who he is... Like it or not... If you have to accept then you'll ahve to accept him lor...? -
Dear CuteGenie,
Erm
Not meaning to sound like a prude, but I can understand how you feel. It's Not a nice feeling to have your bf constantly drooling over other naked chicks instead of paying attention to you. Really dunno how to advise you on this. The last bf of mine whom I knew had this problem, I dumped him years ago 
I suppose it's the norm, & I don't even mind my 22 year old nephew doing it, etc. But hor, I somehow just can't stand it if the guy who's with me does it Used to buy those black markers & draw clothes on the chicks That ex used to get so mad with me (mind you, I was 19~20, I think, so that was years ago) because he'd pick up his porn mags, & when he flipped them open, they'd all be wearing hideous black marker maternity/Lao Ah Mmm dresses 
FeowFeowOriginally posted by cutegenie:i feel very upset with my boyfriend...
I discover that he is very obsessed with porn, he have to watch porn almost everyday for at least 2 hours.
I felt that nothing more important to him than those porn... We quarelled many times over this issue, he try to hide it. But I manage to find out that he still visited as often as before. I try not to dig, but when I use his computer to do some work often have a pop-up prompting you to download those movie. To the sense that sometime it will start downloading without you clicking on it.
I feel hurt, but he don't understand...
He said it is a norm?!
I don't know whether i'm sensitive or what... I dislike him watching it excessively, if occasionally i still can cover both eyes... Am I sensitive???
Can you accept your boyfriend behaving this way??? -
Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear CuteGenie,
Erm Not meaning to sound like a prude, but I can understand how you feel. It's Not a nice feeling to have your bf constantly drooling over other naked chicks instead of paying attention to you. Really dunno how to advise you on this. The last bf of mine whom I knew had this problem, I dumped him years ago
I suppose it's the norm, & I don't even mind my 22 year old nephew doing it, etc. But hor, I somehow just can't stand it if the guy who's with me does it Used to buy those black markers & draw clothes on the chicks That ex used to get so mad with me (mind you, I was 19~20, I think, so that was years ago) because he'd pick up his porn mags, & when he flipped them open, they'd all be wearing hideous black marker maternity/Lao Ah Mmm dresses
FeowFeow
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errr, u sure he meant itOriginally posted by cutegenie:we are close, but we are not very open about sex. He himself said that he rather keep it till marriage.
he sound like a sex derived weirdo -
Abit too much per day... but is he neglecting the relationship? Maybe he does that to substitute for fornication?
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That is what I think too... i find that watching it everyday is really too much.
He is watching those type of movies from internet... how i wish i can use marker and mark the pictures and movie too. But no use, coz it is not printed.
we are in mid 20s by the way...
He is kind to me, just that i cant accept him watching it too excessively. I find it very unhealthy... -
If he wears glasses, you can use marker to draw on the glasses?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by cutegenie:That is what I think too... i find that watching it everyday is really too much.
He is watching those type of movies from internet... how i wish i can use marker and mark the pictures and movie too. But no use, coz it is not printed.
we are in mid 20s by the way...
He is kind to me, just that i cant accept him watching it too excessively. I find it very unhealthy... -
mid 20 still have not grown out of it??Originally posted by cutegenie:That is what I think too... i find that watching it everyday is really too much.
He is watching those type of movies from internet... how i wish i can use marker and mark the pictures and movie too. But no use, coz it is not printed.
we are in mid 20s by the way...
He is kind to me, just that i cant accept him watching it too excessively. I find it very unhealthy... -
I'm in mid 20s... he is going to 30 soon. We are mature adults...
i dun understand why he behave that way also
In fact I have told him that it might be better to end our r/s since we keep arguing about this issue and he seems to cant do without it. He told me to reconsider, and he also promise that he will watch lesser. But I don't trust him anymore, not the first time he promise to cut down... Instead of cutting down on this, he hide it from me. He make me feel as though I'm the one with problem... He accuse me for being overly sensitive, suspicious, jealous and extreme.
I felt that he appreciate those fantasies more than anything.
Sad to say, this is reality i guess...
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Dear CuteGenie,
Only you can make this decision whether or Not to split up with him. Much as I sympathise with you, & understand your frustration, I can only tell you what I think. The ultimate decision, you understand, will lie with you.
I'm Not some frigid old woman, but I believe we women are entitled to our likes & dislikes. So are men. Ok fine, your man thinks his porn is more important? He can go have candlelit dinners with his porn. In fact, he can cuddle his porn videos. You have the right to your own self-respect, & as a bf, he should respect you, & Not take you for a fool. If he made you a promise to watch them less, he should keep them, Not try to hide it from you, then give you the guilt trip by accusing you of being over-sensitive. In my opinion, he's totally IN-sensitive.
I dumped that weirdo porn-obsessed ex & haven't looked back since. Sure, it may hurt after awhile, but you'll feel good for getting your self-respect back.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by cutegenie:I'm in mid 20s... he is going to 30 soon. We are mature adults...
i dun understand why he behave that way also
In fact I have told him that it might be better to end our r/s since we keep arguing about this issue and he seems to cant do without it. He told me to reconsider, and he also promise that he will watch lesser. But I don't trust him anymore, not the first time he promise to cut down... Instead of cutting down on this, he hide it from me. He make me feel as though I'm the one with problem... He accuse me for being overly sensitive, suspicious, jealous and extreme.
I felt that he appreciate those fantasies more than anything.
Sad to say, this is reality i guess... -
maybe..your figure is too lously..you must be too flat-chested..thats why yr guy needs to view pornography for his sexual satisfactiona and arousal..imagine facing a bamboo day in and day out..give him some space to fantasise pls...guys need new stimulus..just blame yrself for being substandard
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normal guys view pornography.....your guys is macho
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thks feow feow... yep what u said really make sense...
not for me> I don't understand why u so rude. I mean it is alright if you want to share your view and I'm most happy to hear it, but not this kind of comment please. -
going to hit 30 liao!!Originally posted by cutegenie:I'm in mid 20s... he is going to 30 soon. We are mature adults...
i dun understand why he behave that way also
In fact I have told him that it might be better to end our r/s since we keep arguing about this issue and he seems to cant do without it. He told me to reconsider, and he also promise that he will watch lesser. But I don't trust him anymore, not the first time he promise to cut down... Instead of cutting down on this, he hide it from me. He make me feel as though I'm the one with problem... He accuse me for being overly sensitive, suspicious, jealous and extreme.
I felt that he appreciate those fantasies more than anything.
Sad to say, this is reality i guess...
kind of weird, most guys grow out of it after teenage since one naked body is the same as the other.
what is there to see
during teenage yrs, it is out of curiousity but after some time, we will get bored. -
u siao huh!!Originally posted by notforme:maybe..your figure is too lously..you must be too flat-chested..thats why yr guy needs to view pornography for his sexual satisfactiona and arousal..imagine facing a bamboo day in and day out..give him some space to fantasise pls...guys need new stimulus..just blame yrself for being substandard
where got guys stick eyes on the screen watching porn so often!!
u still haven't grow up is it!! -
u r one weird n sick person!!Originally posted by notforme:normal guys view pornography.....your guys is macho
either u r one of them or u hang around guys like that -
maybe you should just hand him over to the police.
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hahahaa... i'm not so evil...
I more or less calm down abit already, it's been a few days since I raise to end the relationship. although still hurt -
gd idea!!Originally posted by Deportivo:maybe you should just hand him over to the police.
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cheer up lah, there are better guys aroundOriginally posted by cutegenie:hahahaa... i'm not so evil...
I more or less calm down abit already, it's been a few days since I raise to end the relationship. although still hurt -
And you're NOT even fit to talk to human beings. Just blame your brain for being monkey standard.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by notforme:maybe..your figure is too lously..you must be too flat-chested..thats why yr guy needs to view pornography for his sexual satisfactiona and arousal..imagine facing a bamboo day in and day out..give him some space to fantasise pls...guys need new stimulus..just blame yrself for being substandard