is it a norm???
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maybe a date with you, cutegenie?
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If you cannot accomodate his fetish and he is not changing for the better, I think you should re-evaluate your r/s.
No point he fear you, do it behind your back and you feel insecure. 30 years old, habits very hard to change. -
i'm not in a position to judge...Originally posted by cutegenie:i feel very upset with my boyfriend...
I discover that he is very obsessed with porn, he have to watch porn almost everyday for at least 2 hours.
I felt that nothing more important to him than those porn... We quarelled many times over this issue, he try to hide it. But I manage to find out that he still visited as often as before. I try not to dig, but when I use his computer to do some work often have a pop-up prompting you to download those movie. To the sense that sometime it will start downloading without you clicking on it.
I feel hurt, but he don't understand...
He said it is a norm?!
I don't know whether i'm sensitive or what... I dislike him watching it excessively, if occasionally i still can cover both eyes... Am I sensitive???
Can you accept your boyfriend behaving this way???
Basically, either you will have to accept him or change him...
hmm, based on my knowledge, for a loved one to change his or her loved one in singapore is impossible... maybe u would like to consider finding a pure decent guy whose life isn't obessed with porn... Maybe like computer games or aracade,Initial D. haha... It depends on individuals... Finally, in singapore , having a boyfriend , in your case , is in the losing end... i shall not elaborate further... Anyway, in singapore, the only one to talk about love is the rich and elite cos they got the time and money... My apology to digress... -
how come I feel that yr post is not helping at all since you didn't take a standOriginally posted by organization:i'm not in a position to judge...
Basically, either you will have to accept him or change him...
hmm, based on my knowledge, for a loved one to change his or her loved one in singapore is impossible... maybe u would like to consider finding a pure decent guy whose life isn't obessed with porn... Maybe like computer games or aracade,Initial D. haha... It depends on individuals... Finally, in singapore , having a boyfriend , in your case , is in the losing end... i shall not elaborate further... Anyway, in singapore, the only one to talk about love is the rich and elite cos they got the time and money... My apology to digress...
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thanks for some of the good and funny advices...
yep it is not the end of the world... I will be alright, thanks
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Stick eyes on the screen???!!!
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Kenashi:u siao huh!!
where got guys stick eyes on the screen watching porn so often!!
u still haven't grow up is it!! -
hahaha just a matter of speech, don't take me literallyOriginally posted by FeowFeow:Stick eyes on the screen???!!!
FeowFeow
I used to glue my eyes to the screen when I play with my computer games for 18 straight hours -
U r living yr own life, u have the choice on the way to liveOriginally posted by cutegenie:thanks for some of the good and funny advices...
yep it is not the end of the world... I will be alright, thanks
Life is already such a burden, stay happy always
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Have you considered this before...? What you've said in blue might not be true at all..? Been OBSESSED with anything is never really a good thing in MOST CASES...Originally posted by cutegenie:I'm in mid 20s... he is going to 30 soon. We are mature adults...
i dun understand why he behave that way also
In fact I have told him that it might be better to end our r/s since we keep arguing about this issue and he seems to cant do without it. He told me to reconsider, and he also promise that he will watch lesser. But I don't trust him anymore, not the first time he promise to cut down... Instead of cutting down on this, he hide it from me. He make me feel as though I'm the one with problem... He accuse me for being overly sensitive, suspicious, jealous and extreme.
I felt that he appreciate those fantasies more than anything.
Sad to say, this is reality i guess...
Is there no way to strike a balance negotiation...? Just like one would for other aspects of their lives with their partner... This is but only one of them...? -
Don't worry, don't let a clone from Bar forum affect you from receiving good advises.Originally posted by cutegenie:thks feow feow... yep what u said really make sense...
not for me> I don't understand why u so rude. I mean it is alright if you want to share your view and I'm most happy to hear it, but not this kind of comment please.
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er... no offence but i think a 30 yr old guy who watches porn everyday is a dirty old man in the making... i can understand if it's a 20 year old, or a 15 year old.. but 30?? everyday??!!!
i'd seriously consider dumping him... but it's your chioce. you're the one who's going to live with it. not me... -
feow feow ..must be flat=chested and feels insecure abt it...i empathise
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thanks feow feow and kenashi
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How to strike a balance negotiation?? I have told him that I dont mind him watching it occasionally but not daily affairs.Originally posted by Devil1976:Have you considered this before...? What you've said in blue might not be true at all..? Been OBSESSED with anything is never really a good thing in MOST CASES...
Is there no way to strike a balance negotiation...? Just like one would for other aspects of their lives with their partner... This is but only one of them...?
And those that you highlighted in blue is how i felt...
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FeowFeow, is too good for the likes of you. You can't even HOPE to have a girl like me, because your kind is of the primates variety.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by notforme:feow feow ..must be flat=chested and feels insecure abt it...i empathise -
cutegenie:
Personally, I find your guy fishy. It's contradictary for him to be a frequent porn user, and yet not be sexually active with a girlfriend. I'd be very suspicious if I were you
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Well, he needed to "de-stress", would you rather he visit a pros?Originally posted by cutegenie:we are close, but we are not very open about sex. He himself said that he rather keep it till marriage.
BTW, he should get over this pretty soon, I can't imagine someone watching porn for more than 2 hours a day over an extended period of time. If not he should consult a doctor. -
Do't worry about notforme. If you follow other threads and she is what she claims to be, then she is most likely a fat arse trying to get some attention.Originally posted by cutegenie:thks feow feow... yep what u said really make sense...
not for me> I don't understand why u so rude. I mean it is alright if you want to share your view and I'm most happy to hear it, but not this kind of comment please. -
more than 1 hour everyday is too much. hes going on 30 - -. he see so much not sian ah. That is going to be a problem. he should be sexually attracted to you instead. whats wrong with him? i much rather have real sex with my gf then watch porn. there are always better guys out there.
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The one I've highlighted in blue is quite a bad way of stereotyping...Originally posted by cutegenie:How to strike a balance negotiation?? I have told him that I dont mind him watching it occasionally but not daily affairs.
And those that you highlighted in blue is how i felt...
Anyway, I'm now thinking it through...
May it be the 'fact' or just your assumption... If you don't wanna give up on him, I suggest the next better you can do is to GUIDE him out of it (in a lesser sense..)... Get his focus to somewhere more healthy.... And hence spending more quality with you and this relationship of his... -
Hi Golani,
No offence hor : ) But de-stressing is Not an excuse to watch porn 2 hrs per day Why Not watch the real thing, i.e. his GF?
Conversely, if your gf were to visit sex places, & watch men strip-tease for 2 hrs a day instead of watching you/spending time with you, would you be as understanding of her need to de-stress? : ) If you can tahan, then good on you for Not practising double standards, but it'll still be hard for most girls to accept.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by golani_bde:Well, he needed to "de-stress", would you rather he visit a pros?
BTW, he should get over this pretty soon, I can't imagine someone watching porn for more than 2 hours a day over an extended period of time. If not he should consult a doctor. -
I don't watch porn
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dont bother commenting to this bunch of idiots...i think notforme made some valid points...to me all this whinging seems like singapore girls are turning into whinging minnies and stupiid arseholes...well, they deserve it...maybe they should choose smelly banglas for their bfs...i'm quite sure these banglas won't have enough money to download porn from the internet...Originally posted by Devil1976:The one I've highlighted in blue is quite a bad way of stereotyping...
May it be the 'fact' or just your assumption... If you don't wanna give up on him, I suggest the next better you can do is to GUIDE him out of it (in a lesser sense..)... Get his focus to somewhere more healthy.... And hence spending more quality with you and this relationship of his...
asking a guy not to watch porn is like telling these stupid singapore b.itches not to go shopping during the great singapore sale...stupid & assinine...ask them to frig themselve with a dildo lah...
this just proves that singapore men better go for docile vietnamese brides...hooray!! -
I don't wish to jump into conclusion as well... but I feel really disappointed when he watch porn everyday. I try to talk him out several times about how unhappy and hope that he will watch lesser like what he promises me when I first know about his activities at home.Originally posted by Devil1976:The one I've highlighted in blue is quite a bad way of stereotyping...
May it be the 'fact' or just your assumption... If you don't wanna give up on him, I suggest the next better you can do is to GUIDE him out of it (in a lesser sense..)... Get his focus to somewhere more healthy.... And hence spending more quality with you and this relationship of his...
But when I access to his PC again, the window that poping out and also the real player's history have shown all the evidence that he did not watch lesser but he try to hide all this from me. Not that I want to dig and protrude onto his privacy. He have the real player and the pop out window to blame.
upon talkings, arguments and quarellings he still did it. And if he really appreciate me, why then he keep making me repeatedly for the sake of porn???
He told me that he is a human, he need those porn. And said that all guys are the same, where to find a guy who don't watch it... He stick to his own perception and will carry on with the porn. That's why I said, he can forsake everything for those porn... and that he appreciate it more than anything else... -
If those viatnamese lady have a choice, I don't think they want to get marriage to "one" like "you"Originally posted by mahai102:dont bother commenting to this bunch of idiots...i think notforme made some valid points...to me all this whinging seems like singapore girls are turning into whinging minnies and stupiid arseholes...well, they deserve it...maybe they should choose smelly banglas for their bfs...i'm quite sure these banglas won't have enough money to download porn from the internet...
asking a guy not to watch porn is like telling these stupid singapore b.itches not to go shopping during the great singapore sale...stupid & assinine...ask them to frig themselve with a dildo lah...
this just proves that singapore men better go for docile vietnamese brides...hooray!!