at 40 possible ???
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when a man reach 40 ... still possible to fall in love ??? not gonna be easy to find someone to love ad being love ..... will women fall for man at this age ???
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Why not.Love knows no limits..
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For middle adult development, there are three main theories: Erikson, Levinson and Valliant.
Erikson's theory says that there are different -psychological conflicts at different stages of life. In middle age adults go through the conflict of generativity versus stagnation. During this time period adults can become more generative in that they have a greater commitment to the community and the integration of personal goals with the welfare of the larger social community. Generativity involves reaching out to others in ways that give to and guide the next generation. It involves any activities that outlive the self and ensure society's continuity and improvement including children, ideas, works of art, etc. Middle age adults feel a need to be needed, they want to make a contribution that will survive their death. On the less positive side, there can be stagnation. For some people when they have achieved certain life goals like marriage, children, vocation, they become self-centered and self-indulgent, place on security and comfort first and are self absorbed.
Generativity is a prominent concern for middle-age adults as it is part of an expanding identity that gives purpose and meaning to life and promotes psychological fulfillment.
According to Levinson, middle age is a time to reassess the relation to the external world. Around 40, people evaluate their success in meeting early adulthood goals. They experience confusion as they act to modify their life (marriage, family, work). Some make drastic changes or others smaller changes. Some may be disappointed into having fully realized their early adulthood dream and feel added pressure to find a more satisfying path before it is too late. Others who may have reached their goals may question their priorities in terms of what good their accomplishments are to others. Adults have to conform 4 developmental tasks, which require them to reconcile 2 opposing tendencies with self:
* Young-Old: The middle age person seeks new ways of being both young and old. This means giving up certain youthful qualities, retaining and transforming others, and finding positive meaning in being older.
* Destruction -Creation: Past hurtful and destructive acts towards others are countered by a strong desire to become more creative - making something of value to the self and others and participating in activities that advance human welfare. There is an awareness of mortality.
* Masculinity-Femininity: comes to term with both parts of self and creating a balance. For women this means becoming more autonomous, dominant and assertive.
* Engagement-Separateness: the middle-aged person must create a better balance between engagement with the external world and separateness. For Women who have devoted themselves to child rearing or who have unfulfilling jobs they move toward greater involvement in work and wider community. Men or career-oriented women, they typically pull back from ambition and achievement and become more in touch with self.
According to Levinson virtually all people experience considerable frustration and turmoil and can result in a mid life crisis. Due to the double standard of aging, women have more trouble than men accepting being older. Men adopt "feminine" traits of nurturance and caring, whereas women take on "masculine" trains of autonomy, dominance, and assertiveness.
Valliant says that in middle age adults become guardians of their culture, they carry peak responsibility for function in society. They are the guardians of their culture and they pass on the torch to the next generation. Unlike Levinson, Valliant did not find mid-life crisis to be very prevalent.
Therefore, these theories also see middle age as a time for re-adjustment of values and priorities. This must be taken into consideration when assessing a 40 year old client. Also all three theories suggest that activities involving the outside community are important. Erikson sees positive development at this time of life as engaging in activities that give to next generation and the community. Levinson's stresses the psychosocial changes of this time that can result in the turmoil of this time and mid-life crisis due to an awareness of the limited time ahead and reassessment of earlier goals which prompt people to change their life structure. Valliant's theory sees this as a time for a quieter life. -
wahhh ......
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u want more?
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Can, if he meets the right 1, but then, r u talking abt the married man or unmarried man ?
when a man reach 40 ... still possible to fall in love ??? not gonna be easy to find someone to love ad being love ..... will women fall for man at this age ???
Generally, when people (irregardless of men or women) reached 40 and still can't fall in love, they hv more or less resigned themselves to fate that if they can't fall in love, then so be it. -
like that means can or not???Originally posted by drx:For middle adult development, there are three main theories: Erikson, Levinson and Valliant.
Erikson's theory says that there are different -psychological conflicts at different stages of life. In middle age adults go through the conflict of generativity versus stagnation. During this time period adults can become more generative in that they have a greater commitment to the community and the integration of personal goals with the welfare of the larger social community. Generativity involves reaching out to others in ways that give to and guide the next generation. It involves any activities that outlive the self and ensure society's continuity and improvement including children, ideas, works of art, etc. Middle age adults feel a need to be needed, they want to make a contribution that will survive their death. On the less positive side, there can be stagnation. For some people when they have achieved certain life goals like marriage, children, vocation, they become self-centered and self-indulgent, place on security and comfort first and are self absorbed.
Generativity is a prominent concern for middle-age adults as it is part of an expanding identity that gives purpose and meaning to life and promotes psychological fulfillment.
According to Levinson, middle age is a time to reassess the relation to the external world. Around 40, people evaluate their success in meeting early adulthood goals. They experience confusion as they act to modify their life (marriage, family, work). Some make drastic changes or others smaller changes. Some may be disappointed into having fully realized their early adulthood dream and feel added pressure to find a more satisfying path before it is too late. Others who may have reached their goals may question their priorities in terms of what good their accomplishments are to others. Adults have to conform 4 developmental tasks, which require them to reconcile 2 opposing tendencies with self:
* Young-Old: The middle age person seeks new ways of being both young and old. This means giving up certain youthful qualities, retaining and transforming others, and finding positive meaning in being older.
* Destruction -Creation: Past hurtful and destructive acts towards others are countered by a strong desire to become more creative - making something of value to the self and others and participating in activities that advance human welfare. There is an awareness of mortality.
* Masculinity-Femininity: comes to term with both parts of self and creating a balance. For women this means becoming more autonomous, dominant and assertive.
* Engagement-Separateness: the middle-aged person must create a better balance between engagement with the external world and separateness. For Women who have devoted themselves to child rearing or who have unfulfilling jobs they move toward greater involvement in work and wider community. Men or career-oriented women, they typically pull back from ambition and achievement and become more in touch with self.
According to Levinson virtually all people experience considerable frustration and turmoil and can result in a mid life crisis. Due to the double standard of aging, women have more trouble than men accepting being older. Men adopt "feminine" traits of nurturance and caring, whereas women take on "masculine" trains of autonomy, dominance, and assertiveness.
Valliant says that in middle age adults become guardians of their culture, they carry peak responsibility for function in society. They are the guardians of their culture and they pass on the torch to the next generation. Unlike Levinson, Valliant did not find mid-life crisis to be very prevalent.
Therefore, these theories also see middle age as a time for re-adjustment of values and priorities. This must be taken into consideration when assessing a 40 year old client. Also all three theories suggest that activities involving the outside community are important. Erikson sees positive development at this time of life as engaging in activities that give to next generation and the community. Levinson's stresses the psychosocial changes of this time that can result in the turmoil of this time and mid-life crisis due to an awareness of the limited time ahead and reassessment of earlier goals which prompt people to change their life structure. Valliant's theory sees this as a time for a quieter life. -
he meant not likely.Originally posted by nuchio:like that means can or not??? -
Better late than never.
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should be consider as unmarried man .....Originally posted by starExcaliblur:Can, if he meets the right 1, but then, r u talking abt the married man or unmarried man ?
Generally, when people (irregardless of men or women) reached 40 and still can't fall in love, they hv more or less resigned themselves to fate that if they can't fall in love, then so be it. -
hmmm .... sadOriginally posted by Ito_^:he meant not likely.
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40 for men is considered still young, most are mature and financially stable. you definitely can find that ms. right, trust me.
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A good question.
I know of people at 40s still fall in love.
As long they are humans.Originally posted by maxcp:when a man reach 40 ... still possible to fall in love ??? not gonna be easy to find someone to love ad being love ..... will women fall for man at this age ??? -
30s to 40s is a more stable age in term of career or mindset.
Whether can find the partner depend on himself too.Originally posted by asianwolf:40 for men is considered still young, most are mature and financially stable. you definitely can find that ms. right, trust me. -
Why not? My fren is 25 but her bf is 58. And they are happy together.
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That very much depends on if he wanna fall in love anot
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I never say is not possible to fall in love.
but
I just want to ask maxcp if he still believe in love?
If one day u meet a lady and she wants to start a relationship with you, will u be ready to accept her since you went through so much? -
drxOriginally posted by drx:I never say is not possible to fall in love.
but
I just want to ask maxcp if he still believe in love?
If one day u meet a lady and she wants to start a relationship with you, will u be ready to accept her since you went through so much?
well I think I will accept .... if she's the right lady ...... -
..... it's amazing! 33 yrs of gap... are they married or have kids?Originally posted by browniebaobao:Why not? My fren is 25 but her bf is 58. And they are happy together.
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can u describe the lady that u want?
maybe i go find one for you. -
Yes, its possible.
But, guys that age will also consider the age difference between them and their other half. -
Can Why Not?
My Papa Two Time my mama when he was 40.
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someone who is down to earth, easy going type, care for the family & husband, not money minded n non gambler .......Originally posted by drx:can u describe the lady that u want?
maybe i go find one for you. -
...a fren juz told me ... my ex wife told him that a 25 years old guy is going after her .....
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try not to think about the past too much.
The relationship is over and any news about her would not help you recover from the past hurt.