The Agony Is Here
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Dear All,
Those who have followed my threads will already know that my baby's father died, & he flew over there to see him 1 last time. Those who have followed my threads will also know how anxiously I planned for his return, & how much joy we had at being together again.
Yesterday was National Day, but it was kinda heartwrenching for me. He finally broke down about his father's death. I think perhaps the healing process has begun, but at the moment, it tears me apart. Yesterday, I cuddled him as much as I could & comforted him when he confessed he felt bad he hadn't spent as much time as he should have with his dad.
I can see how badly this has affected him. In the end, we took a stroll & had some fresh air. I think he's feeling better today after a good cry, but I'm preparing myself for further tears
Poor thing
Wish me luck! I hope I'll eventually be able to make things better. Right now, I'll just let him talk & talk & talk his heart out, & I'll in turn cuddle & soothe him as best I can...
FeowFeow -
Stand by him...u are his strength now...Good luck
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Good Luck! FeowFeow.
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Hi Starpuppy,
Thanks : ) Much appreciated.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by StarPuppy:Stand by him...u are his strength now...Good luck -
Xie Xie : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Mao x 2:Good Luck! FeowFeow. -
Here's a song for your baby.
Back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence
My father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then
Spin me around 'til I fell asleep
Then up the stairs he would carry me
And I knew for sure I was loved
If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him
I'd play a song that would never, ever end
How I'd love, love, love
To dance with my father again
When I and my mother would disagree
To get my way, I would run from her to him
He'd make me laugh just to comfort me
Then finally make me do just what my mama said
Later that night when I was asleep
He left a dollar under my sheet
Never dreamed that he would be gone from me
If I could steal one final glance, one final step, one final dance with him
I'd play a song that would never, ever end
'Cause I'd love, love, love
To dance with my father again -
Feow no need to worry so much.
Judging from all your past post. I feel that your relationship is the marture type which is able to handle most problems.
Take care and I think you maybe getting married soon hehe. -
Dun worry, he will be alright. It's only a matter of time.
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OiiiiIIIIiiiii
Make me cry only
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Mao x 2:Here's a song for your baby.
Back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence
My father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then
Spin me around 'til I fell asleep
Then up the stairs he would carry me
And I knew for sure I was loved
If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him
I'd play a song that would never, ever end
How I'd love, love, love
To dance with my father again
When I and my mother would disagree
To get my way, I would run from her to him
He'd make me laugh just to comfort me
Then finally make me do just what my mama said
Later that night when I was asleep
He left a dollar under my sheet
Never dreamed that he would be gone from me
If I could steal one final glance, one final step, one final dance with him
I'd play a song that would never, ever end
'Cause I'd love, love, love
To dance with my father again -
Yah lah, mature because I'm OLD MAID already mah
As for marriage, I dunno leh. It feels like we've been together forever, & at the moment, we're Not looking at kids yet, so No need to get married yet lah
Seriously though, thanks for the wishes. I do hope we can weather through this as easily as past problems. But when death is involved, especially with a parent, it may be difficult for him to get over it quickly
FeowFeowOriginally posted by drx:Feow no need to worry so much.
Judging from all your past post. I feel that your relationship is the marture type which is able to handle most problems.
Take care and I think you maybe getting married soon hehe. -
Don't be sad la.. If you are sad, then how are you going to cheer him up, right?Originally posted by FeowFeow:OiiiiIIIIiiiii
Make me cry only
FeowFeow -
Thanks, BaoBao : )
I hope he'll be alright. It really hurts to see him so upset
Despite the fact that we know each other inside out, sometimes I still have the feeling of helplessness, as if I can't make everything ok.
This is 1 of the times. How do you comfort someone who's just lost a parent? 1 of the things I can think of is, when a person really grieves, he starts to heal, so I'll just have to be around to support him all the way. That's as long as I can keep from crying myself...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by browniebaobao:Dun worry, he will be alright. It's only a matter of time. -
I'm very crybaby lah
He's always teasing me, because watch touching movie, I cry. Watch sad movie, I cry. Listen to sad song, I cry. Read sad story, I cry. See poor baby bunny being eaten by wild dogs in documentary, I also cry.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Mao x 2:Don't be sad la.. If you are sad, then how are you going to cheer him up, right? -
I've got confident in you...Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear All,
Those who have followed my threads will already know that my baby's father died, & he flew over there to see him 1 last time. Those who have followed my threads will also know how anxiously I planned for his return, & how much joy we had at being together again.
Yesterday was National Day, but it was kinda heartwrenching for me. He finally broke down about his father's death. I think perhaps the healing process has begun, but at the moment, it tears me apart. Yesterday, I cuddled him as much as I could & comforted him when he confessed he felt bad he hadn't spent as much time as he should have with his dad.
I can see how badly this has affected him. In the end, we took a stroll & had some fresh air. I think he's feeling better today after a good cry, but I'm preparing myself for further tears Poor thing
Wish me luck! I hope I'll eventually be able to make things better. Right now, I'll just let him talk & talk & talk his heart out, & I'll in turn cuddle & soothe him as best I can...
FeowFeow
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Best of luck, FeowFeow. You'll always have my support ^^
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There is nothing you can't handle... if you know what you want.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear All,
Those who have followed my threads will already know that my baby's father died, & he flew over there to see him 1 last time. Those who have followed my threads will also know how anxiously I planned for his return, & how much joy we had at being together again.
Yesterday was National Day, but it was kinda heartwrenching for me. He finally broke down about his father's death. I think perhaps the healing process has begun, but at the moment, it tears me apart. Yesterday, I cuddled him as much as I could & comforted him when he confessed he felt bad he hadn't spent as much time as he should have with his dad.
I can see how badly this has affected him. In the end, we took a stroll & had some fresh air. I think he's feeling better today after a good cry, but I'm preparing myself for further tears Poor thing
Wish me luck! I hope I'll eventually be able to make things better. Right now, I'll just let him talk & talk & talk his heart out, & I'll in turn cuddle & soothe him as best I can...
FeowFeow
I know you know what you want.
Cheers -
Originally posted by FeowFeow:Thanks, BaoBao : )
I hope he'll be alright. It really hurts to see him so upset Despite the fact that we know each other inside out, sometimes I still have the feeling of helplessness, as if I can't make everything ok.
This is 1 of the times. How do you comfort someone who's just lost a parent? 1 of the things I can think of is, when a person really grieves, he starts to heal, so I'll just have to be around to support him all the way. That's as long as I can keep from crying myself...
FeowFeow
Hmm.. when my father passed away.. I became very temperamental.. easily annoyed and argumentative. I duno how many people actually realize it, I tend to isolate myself, dun talk much to people, not even a 'hi' at times. When I couldn't take it anymore, I exploded. Perhaps I was undergoing depression..worse still, I discovered a health problem in me. But then family support is very important. My family bonding becomes stronger after that. I was disappointed when some people who I cared for, din even show a bit of concern but backstabbed me instead. Haiz~
I know how you feel, the helplessness. My sis and mum broke down. It took them, especially my mum, some time to come to her senses. She was in a daze for about 3 weeks and always forgot to turn off the gas when the water was boiling.
When ur loved ones fall, you must be strong. That's what I tell myself. Somebody ever told me.. that 'something that does not defeat u will make you stronger.' Thanks to that somebody that I'm still alive..tho he was one of whom disappointed me at that time.
Be strong, Feow Feow.. for if you crumble, who can he depend on?
Hope he will be well soon. Al the best to you and him. -
mi condolence
take care of him Feow Feow ... just like u take care of croco
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Thanks, I really hope things will be ok lorr...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Devil1976:I've got confident in you... -
That's so nice : ) Thank you, it's much appreciated.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by sweetevil:Best of luck, FeowFeow. You'll always have my support ^^ -
Just do what u do best. Be there for him always.
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Thanks Auntie Yun,
Sometimes, I also need some encouragement & a listening ear...
Not as strong as I'd like to think I am
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Yunhaier:There is nothing you can't handle... if you know what you want.
I know you know what you want.
Cheers -
Thanks BaoBao,
Your experience is very inspiring. I'd like to find the same kinda strength to provide the support my baby needs. It'll probably be awhile before he finishes grieving, & worst part is, he's sometimes Not very expressive (probably doesn't want to worry me).
Also, knowing him, he also prefers sometimes Not to talk about it, which I can understand.
I'll just be his pillar : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by browniebaobao:
Hmm.. when my father passed away.. I became very temperamental.. easily annoyed and argumentative. I duno how many people actually realize it, I tend to isolate myself, dun talk much to people, not even a 'hi' at times. When I couldn't take it anymore, I exploded. Perhaps I was undergoing depression..worse still, I discovered a health problem in me. But then family support is very important. My family bonding becomes stronger after that. I was disappointed when some people who I cared for, din even show a bit of concern but backstabbed me instead. Haiz~
I know how you feel, the helplessness. My sis and mum broke down. It took them, especially my mum, some time to come to her senses. She was in a daze for about 3 weeks and always forgot to turn off the gas when the water was boiling.
When ur loved ones fall, you must be strong. That's what I tell myself. Somebody ever told me.. that 'something that does not defeat u will make you stronger.' Thanks to that somebody that I'm still alive..tho he was one of whom disappointed me at that time.
Be strong, Feow Feow.. for if you crumble, who can he depend on?
Hope he will be well soon. Al the best to you and him. -
Thank you Croco... Much appreciated : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by sgboy2004:mi condolence
take care of him Feow Feow ... just like u take care of croco -
May the force be with u.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Thanks BaoBao,
Your experience is very inspiring. I'd like to find the same kinda strength to provide the support my baby needs. It'll probably be awhile before he finishes grieving, & worst part is, he's sometimes Not very expressive (probably doesn't want to worry me).
Also, knowing him, he also prefers sometimes Not to talk about it, which I can understand.
I'll just be his pillar : )
FeowFeow