The Agony Is Here
-
Hi Smudgey,
Thank you for popping by & leaving a kind thought : ) Yes, I'm lucky. The posters here are so nice : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by smudgey:Feowfeow, I don't know you well either... but judging from this posts, a lot of ppl here do.... and as you can clearly see there are lots of ppl here who can be you pillar like you are your bf's pillar....
even the strongest woman needs a pillar. -
Agreed.....Originally posted by Tuatau:Ho ho... much as one would like to see another sgforums couple, one has come to realise that two people with similar experiences do not necessarily make the best-matched couple.
Love is more than solving each other's problems.
me and mao mao can become good buddy !
So that i can have a shoulder to lean/cry on when depress.......
vice versa for mao mao....
-
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
I think there's someone here who really enjoys your company & posts
I wonder who
FeowFeowOriginally posted by pinkygal76:Behind every successful woman..... there is usually a supportive man ! Vice versa....
Love is a partnership bet. 2 pp...... its always a blessing to find someone you truely
love and who loves you back as much in return.....
Feow feow is just so blessed!!
Guess i am just not so lucky in the love "compartment" !
*sigh* -
Originally posted by FeowFeow:
Ooh... kinky~.
OHMIGAWD, I have to tell him this when I meet him for dinner tonight He's gonna strangle me 
One has heard that mild strangulation during acts of procreat... uh, "exploration" could sometimes heighten the climax.
Warning: Kids, do not try this at home. -
Of coz...!!!Originally posted by pinkygal76:Agreed.....
me and mao mao can become good buddy !
So that i can have a shoulder to lean/cry on when depress.......
vice versa for mao mao....
We are the Legend of the Mushy Heroes wor. -
my condolences.. and your baby is blessed to have such a darling like you.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear All,
Those who have followed my threads will already know that my baby's father died, & he flew over there to see him 1 last time. Those who have followed my threads will also know how anxiously I planned for his return, & how much joy we had at being together again.
Yesterday was National Day, but it was kinda heartwrenching for me. He finally broke down about his father's death. I think perhaps the healing process has begun, but at the moment, it tears me apart. Yesterday, I cuddled him as much as I could & comforted him when he confessed he felt bad he hadn't spent as much time as he should have with his dad.
I can see how badly this has affected him. In the end, we took a stroll & had some fresh air. I think he's feeling better today after a good cry, but I'm preparing myself for further tears Poor thing
Wish me luck! I hope I'll eventually be able to make things better. Right now, I'll just let him talk & talk & talk his heart out, & I'll in turn cuddle & soothe him as best I can...
FeowFeow -
Bunny actually fight each other?????Originally posted by FeowFeow:
OHMIGAWD, I have to tell him this when I meet him for dinner tonight He's gonna strangle me
By the way, I used to keep 6 or 7 bunnies in my apartment when I went to Melbourne for uni It was quite fun, they were so adorable
But they fought so often
FeowFeow
They look so harmless and gentle ..... got chance will love to keep a pet of my own thou! -
Sorry hor, Tuatau, I have to address to Pinky...
Pinky,
Please listen to TuaTau, I agree with what she says. It's very tiring, Not to mention time-consuming, to quantify right down to the no. of cents & the no. of seconds 1 spends on a partner & vice versa.
2nd, let me ask you this. I'm earning more than my guy, I spend more on presents for him, but he buys me little gifts more often. Who loves who more? Who thinks of who more?
I SMS him more often, but he spends time buying ingredients to cook me wonderful meals. Who loves who more? Who thinks of who more?
Hard to say, right? : ) What matters is that, in times of need, we're the 1st each other turns to, & we're the 1st there volunteering to be the support. That's all that's important : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Tuatau:Put it this way. Have you ever thought that it could pain the other person as well if he had felt that you loved him less than he loved you?
Try not to quantify love and to compare who loves who more -- the scales would always be tilted in your own favour and you would never be happy.
Rather, qualify love and judge for yourself whether you feel his love in this relationship, whether you hold a place in his heart. You may be feeling that you are contributing more to this relationship, but as long as you are still the person that he loves, why pick on it? -
Originally posted by Mao x 2:Of coz...!!!
We are the Legend of the Mushy Heroes wor. "Mushy heroes forever!!"
Mao mao honey bunny...... pinky veri shang xin wor
must standby 24 x 7 just in case i need a shoulder to cry on....
remember to give me your standby handphone no. hor
hahaha
Pinky to Mao :
" And when you need a shoulder to cry on,
When you need a friend to rely on,
When the whole world is gone,
You won't be alone, cause I'll be there,
I'll be your shoulder to cry on,
I'll be there,
I'll be a friend to rely on,
When the whole world is gone,
you won't be alone, cause I'll be there. " -
Feow.... i know wat you mean..... its not the presents or spending time togather problem!!!!Originally posted by FeowFeow:Sorry hor, Tuatau, I have to address to Pinky...
Pinky,
Please listen to TuaTau, I agree with what she says. It's very tiring, Not to mention time-consuming, to quantify right down to the no. of cents & the no. of seconds 1 spends on a partner & vice versa.
2nd, let me ask you this. I'm earning more than my guy, I spend more on presents for him, but he buys me little gifts more often. Who loves who more? Who thinks of who more?
I SMS him more often, but he spends time buying ingredients to cook me wonderful meals. Who loves who more? Who thinks of who more?
Hard to say, right? : ) What matters is that, in times of need, we're the 1st each other turns to, & we're the 1st there volunteering to be the support. That's all that's important : )
FeowFeow
Its the betrayal and trust problem that is killing our relationship...... he actually tell me that his fooling around is
none of my problem..... WE r in a committed relationship!!!! Not repentful after i found out and got the cheek to tell
me so.....
My heart has crushed into a million pcs after wat he has said........ still trying to pick up my broken heart before moving on!
I actually hate myself for still staying on after wat he has told me.....
Its really a fact that i love him more than he loves me.....
I knew i will never ever say such a thing to hurt him no matter wat! -
Originally posted by pinkygal76: "Mushy heroes forever!!"
Mao mao honey bunny...... pinky veri shang xin wor
must standby 24 x 7 just in case i need a shoulder to cry on....
remember to give me your standby handphone no. hor
hahaha
Pinky to Mao :
" And when you need a shoulder to cry on,
When you need a friend to rely on,
When the whole world is gone,
You won't be alone, cause I'll be there,
I'll be your shoulder to cry on,
I'll be there,
I'll be a friend to rely on,
When the whole world is gone,
you won't be alone, cause I'll be there. "
And this song is for you, Pinky.
When you're down in troubles
And you need some love and care
And nothing, nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon i will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you got to do is call
And I'll be there
Yes I will
You've got a friend
If the sky above you
Grows dark and full of clouds
And that old north wind begins to blow
Keep your head together
And call my name out loud
Soon you'll hear me knocking at your door
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
Ain't it good to know that you've got a friend
When people can be so cold
They'll hurt you and desert you
And take your soul if you let them
Oh, but don't you let them
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You've got a friend -
Pinky,
This is my honest opinion, so don't be offended, ok?
Actually, I think Mao Mao & you may stand a chance together, both of you have chemistry, which is pretty important in a relationship, especially the start of it.
However, since you're still stuck in an unhappy relationship, do what is necessary 1st. Don't measure the amount of love both of you have for each other. If he doesn't act like he loves you (i.e. lip service only), then it's time to be brave. The most cowardly thing to do is to hang on because of a familiar past & being afraid of an uncertain future.
If you don't take the step back from the edge of the building, you may lose your balance in the end anyway & fall. Why commit emotional suicide?
Ultimately, you still have us here, we'll be around to comfort you too. And if at the end, you decide you want to be with Mao Mao, then as a goodwill gesture (sisterly gesture also lah), I'll also waive the matchmaker fee for Mao Mao so you guys can live happily ever after
FeowFeowOriginally posted by pinkygal76:Agreed.....
me and mao mao can become good buddy !
So that i can have a shoulder to lean/cry on when depress.......
vice versa for mao mao.... -
Originally posted by FeowFeow:
Sorry hor, FeowFeow, I have also used your thread to address to Pinky...
Sorry hor, Tuatau, I have to address to Pinky... -
Ms TuaTau,
I'm gonna smack you Everything has become R(A) recently, are you going through a frisky period? 
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Tuatau:Ooh... kinky~.
One has heard that mild strangulation during acts of procreat... uh, "exploration" could sometimes heighten the climax.
Warning: Kids, do not try this at home. -
Hi CoffeeorTea,
Both of us are... He's a wonderful guy
FeowFeowOriginally posted by coffeeortea:my condolences.. and your baby is blessed to have such a darling like you. -
Originally posted by FeowFeow:
"not mi not mi"
Ms TuaTau,
I'm gonna smack you Everything has become R(A) recently, are you going through a frisky period?
FeowFeow
The "hamsters" did it! -
Yes, my dumb bunnies kept fighting 1 another They're really very adorable when they're peace-loving. But sometimes they go crazy, & go nuts at each other & fight
FeowFeowOriginally posted by pinkygal76:Bunny actually fight each other?????
They look so harmless and gentle ..... got chance will love to keep a pet of my own thou! -
Pinky, I really agree with feowfeow on this. Sometimes we are always reluctant to step out of our comfort zone. I put off my break up with my ex for quite a while, partly because i refuse to believe that the love can just dissappear, and partly also because I was scared. I was afraid of being alone again after having someone there for me all this while...Originally posted by FeowFeow:Pinky,
This is my honest opinion, so don't be offended, ok?
Actually, I think Mao Mao & you may stand a chance together, both of you have chemistry, which is pretty important in a relationship, especially the start of it.
However, since you're still stuck in an unhappy relationship, do what is necessary 1st. Don't measure the amount of love both of you have for each other. If he doesn't act like he loves you (i.e. lip service only), then it's time to be brave. The most cowardly thing to do is to hang on because of a familiar past & being afraid of an uncertain future.
If you don't take the step back from the edge of the building, you may lose your balance in the end anyway & fall. Why commit emotional suicide?
Ultimately, you still have us here, we'll be around to comfort you too. And if at the end, you decide you want to be with Mao Mao, then as a goodwill gesture (sisterly gesture also lah), I'll also waive the matchmaker fee for Mao Mao so you guys can live happily ever after
FeowFeow
however, after i force myself to take that dreaded step, I realised that i could have save myself and him alot more heartache and tears if i did it earlier...
it is not easy to do the right thing, eg. like a wife that is being abused by her husband. would you advice her to take her time and think it thoroughly while she is being abused? there's a time to contemplate and a time to act. when your boyfriend has the audacity to tell you that his fooling around is none of your business, it is time to ACT!!! -
Thank you smudgey for sharing your experience.....Originally posted by smudgey:Pinky, I really agree with feowfeow on this. Sometimes we are always reluctant to step out of our comfort zone. I put off my break up with my ex for quite a while, partly because i refuse to believe that the love can just dissappear, and partly also because I was scared. I was afraid of being alone again after having someone there for me all this while...
however, after i force myself to take that dreaded step, I realised that i could have save myself and him alot more heartache and tears if i did it earlier...
it is not easy to do the right thing, eg. like a wife that is being abused by her husband. would you advice her to take her time and think it thoroughly while she is being abused? there's a time to contemplate and a time to act. when your boyfriend has the audacity to tell you that his fooling around is none of your business, it is time to ACT!!!
jiu de bu qu.... xing de bu lai ye! This relationship is just not meant to be i guess ....this is how i am consoling myself too.....
he may not have hit me physically but the emotional trauma is sometimes so hard for my little heart to bear too........
Thanks again for the kind advice that everyone has given........ I may pack my luggage and go without turning back soon......
Before i go just like to dedicate one final song to myself ...sang by Queen.
"I want to break free
- I want to break free
I want to break free from your lies
You're so self satisfied,
I don't need you
I want to break free
Hey
- God knows
God knows I want to break free
- I've fallen in love
I've fallen in love for the first time
This time I know it's for real
I've fallen in love yeah
God knows
God knows I've fallen in love
It's strange but it's true
Yeah, I can't get over the way you love me like you do
But I have to be sure
When I walk out that door
Oh how I want to be free baby
Oh how I want to be free
Oh how I want to break free
But life still goes on
I can't get used to living without
Living without living without you by my side
I don't want to live alone
Yeah God knows
Got to make it on my own
So baby can't you see yeah
God knows I want to
God knows I want to
God knows I want to break free yeah" -
Xiao3 Jie3,
You hate yourself for staying in a relationship in which your bf doesn't respect you. Then what are you waiting for?
Sorry, I don't mean to be harsh, but it's really of concern, I don't wish to see you sinking deeper into despair...
FeowFeowOriginally posted by pinkygal76:Feow.... i know wat you mean..... its not the presents or spending time togather problem!!!!
Its the betrayal and trust problem that is killing our relationship...... he actually tell me that his fooling around is
none of my problem..... WE r in a committed relationship!!!! Not repentful after i found out and got the cheek to tell
me so.....
My heart has crushed into a million pcs after wat he has said........ still trying to pick up my broken heart before moving on!
I actually hate myself for still staying on after wat he has told me.....
Its really a fact that i love him more than he loves me.....
I knew i will never ever say such a thing to hurt him no matter wat! -
No worries lah, I'm pretty easy-going regarding my threads. People can dedicate songs to each other (eh hem), can flirt, can tease, can commiserate, can laugh, tell jokes, whatever lah
I'm Not anal
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Tuatau:Sorry hor, FeowFeow, I have also used your thread to address to Pinky... -
don't mean to rush you but just note that a person can say that he/she is going to do something soon for years without doing anything at all!!!Originally posted by pinkygal76:Thank you smudgey for sharing your experience.....
jiu de bu qu.... xing de bu lai ye! This relationship is just not meant to be i guess ....this is how i am consoling myself too.....
he may not have hit me physically but the emotional trauma is sometimes so hard for my little heart to bear too........
Thanks again for the kind advice that everyone has given........ I may pack my luggage and go without turning back soon......
trust us the pain will go away. -
its just getting kinda of draggy for me emotionallyOriginally posted by FeowFeow:Xiao3 Jie3,
You hate yourself for staying in a relationship in which your bf doesn't respect you. Then what are you waiting for?
Sorry, I don't mean to be harsh, but it's really of concern, I don't wish to see you sinking deeper into despair...
FeowFeow
sometimes..... need to see each other often.... how to ever get over him le.....
he sick i still get worry.... i sick he doesnt care a damn!!!!
Thats a lot of joint financial stuff that I need to still sort out wif him .......
until that is done can i break off totally from him...
Thanks feow feow for yr concern
I will/ can only act when the time is rite!!
I have my reasons for doing so... trust me on that!
Envy you for having a wonderful relationship now......
Hope to hear announcement of wedding plans for our dear feow feow and hamster soon ya! -
Wah Biang
He's really gonna strangle me tonight
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Tuatau:"not mi not mi"
The "hamsters" did it! -
Poor girl...
Ok, as long as you can cut your losses in your own time, & don't let this drag on (please note hor, I'm very fair, so must tell you. FeowFeow gets very upset at whiners who whinge about their rotten fate but don't do anything about it) for too long, then I'll respect your choice.
Get those matters sorted out, sometimes joint account & financial matters take awhile to resolve. But ultimately, get out of this relationship & don't procrastinate simply because staying with him is convenient.
As for my wedding bells.............. You PM me lah, I'll tell you more. Some stuff, I still don't reveal to everybody or just anybody : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by pinkygal76:its just getting kinda of draggy for me emotionally
sometimes..... need to see each other often.... how to ever get over him le.....
he sick i still get worry.... i sick he doesnt care a damn!!!!
Thats a lot of joint financial stuff that I need to still sort out wif him .......
until that is done can i break off totally from him...
Thanks feow feow for yr concern
I will/ can only act when the time is rite!!
I have my reasons for doing so... trust me on that!
Envy you for having a wonderful relationship now......
Hope to hear announcement of wedding plans for our dear feow feow and hamster soon ya!