i think i have an affection for my sister-in-law
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okay, how do i start, let me do it, anyway, i created this account in order to protect my own identity, yes, i have another account in sgforums, okay, here goes....
i'm in my early 30s and i've been married for about 3 years now, my marriage life is unstable at first but it's pretty ok now
life is pretty normal until i get to know that she (my sister-in-law) is getting married next month, you see, i've known her (let's call her J) for many years now, she has a boyfriend then, they fought oh so often and there was once i was involved, i mean, i stopped them from fighting each other, they were pushing, pulling and scratching each other, being there at that time, i have to stop them, and so i did...
J is in her late 20s, you see, we always get to see each other quite often since i always visit my in-laws and J stays with her mum but she has moved since J is getting married soon and J and her husband to be has got themselves a HDB flat, but i still find excuses to get J to tag along whenever my wife and i go out shopping or visit other relatives, sometimes i would even offer to give her a lift to places,
i have to admit that i like J and i have a feeling that she likes me too, the way J look at me into my eyes sometimes tells me there's something she want from me, i don't know, maybe i am wrong, i'm confused,
she's getting married soon, and i am happy for her, but no one can guarantee anything, rite? you know? i have never talked to J about my feeling towards her, i still love my wife but just that, everytime when i meet J, she gives me something kind of a feeling, it's hard to describe, most of the time, it's hard to resist, is it the devil in me? yes, she dresses well and sexily most of the time, there was once she bends over while offering me a cup of coffee as i was stting, she has her top all exposed, in front of me, as she was wearing a rather loose top, deliberate?
i was wondering if anyone here share the same experience? it would be very much appreciated if you could advise me or share your thoughts -
I know who you are! Your style of writing is the same as his!!
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i bet he's pissed.. lol.. anyway married_man,, you shouldnt have been to kind as to let us know that you are also a member of sgforums.. you directed the attention meant for your problem towards finding out who are you on sgforums. well, i dont have very good advice to give, just that, be mindful of your actions, for your actions results in consequences. what do you want? do you want J as your wife? do you want to divorce your current wife? this situation is rather clear cut.. aversion my friend..Originally posted by alexkusu:I know who you are! Your style of writing is the same as his!! -
nevermind about that alexkukuOriginally posted by coffeeortea:i bet he's pissed.. lol.. anyway married_man,, you shouldnt have been to kind as to let us know that you are also a member of sgforums.. you directed the attention meant for your problem towards finding out who are you on sgforums. well, i dont have very good advice to give, just that, be mindful of your actions, for your actions results in consequences. what do you want? do you want J as your wife? do you want to divorce your current wife? this situation is rather clear cut.. aversion my friend..
there are so many people in this forum with multiple accounts and he thinks he's some psyches
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its disgusting to have such thoughts.
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I think its rather hard to find out who u are. Just deny deny deny.. lol!
hmmm.. what am i doing in SgForums so early! anyways, i personally dun think you should be persuing this course of self destrcution. I may be wrong but dun u think maybe its just the feeling to want J ? She is going to be married soon. You have a wife and althought like you said things are not going well atm doesnt mean that things wont work out. Call me pessimist , but what if you reveal your feelings to her and she tells her husband-to-be and ur wife ? its game game over for you. That may not happen , but i am not sure as to what her reactions might be. I think u maybe sexually attracted to her that why . -
Dear Married_man,
Since you are married, just stick to your wife and be faithful ya? In a relationship, its all about trust and faith. Even if her sister might be for what you describe - "seduce" you, it shouldnt let you fascinate that she might habour feelings for you since she is already engaged and in the process of getting married.
Have an liking for anyone is normal. To be honest, i feel my gf's sis is hot, but tt's the line i wouldnt cross because, omg, she is like my sis! Dressing loosely at home is quite a normal thing since its at home, why bother to dress nicely correct? The exposing her top seems tempting, whether she is purposely or not, just treat it as a eye candy and nothing more.
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I think you're lusting for your sister-in-law, probably due to boredom or bec your marriage is now stable, so you're looking for some excitement. Please stop such thoughts, and remember a marriage is meant to be forever. It's up to you to make or break it.
If you do something foolish, bear in mind the consequences is tremendous as it affects not just you and your sister-in-law, but your wife, your sister-in-law's soon-to-be husband, and both families. They have not done anything to deserve having their happiness snatched away from them and their family lives destroyed. It would be an ugly situation and you will be guilty for the rest of your life. Please be a real man and be responsible. Thank you. -
hey dude. remain faithful to your wife and don't even think of going after your sis-in-law. remember. ultimately, it's your wife whom you would be spending the rest of your life with. after 3 years, maybe the passion is lesser but responsibility and commitment kicks in. take time to know your wife better, do something together, spend time together. for 2 people to get together is not easy. don't ruin your life, your wife's life and the life of your sis-in-law and the lives of all others related. think twice.
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u will get over it soon. go 4 a short trip with your wife. rekindle some luv. remember this, lust last 4 only a short while, guilt last 4ever. take care mate
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marriage is about commitment.
it means sticking together even if you meet a better one.
there will bound to be women prettier, younger, sexier than your wife.
are u going to change partner each time you meet someone better?
you are committed once you are married, so don't even think about anything else. -
Sounds like the tv serials..Nv ren 30 or what..that show with chen li zhen, huang wen yong, lai yi ling etc.. also the sister in law likes her sis's husband. Also very sexily dressed. Ehh.. so that happens in real life too?
Since you are married and she's getting married also...why still bother to ask whether u have feelings for each other? I mean.. play ur part as a husband well..and she too, as a sis0in-law..and not trying to seduce u and snatch her sis's husband. The kinda feeling.. wana tou chi isit? Careful kena caught! Imagine ur wife finds out that her husband and sis are having a fling.. how do u expect her to accept it? -
she jz play wif your eyes.... so see no touch la..... how u feel if your bro seduce your wife? probably u starting to get sian in your married life tat now looking for excitement.... dun tink too much... go use your xtra sex energy to improve on your sex life with your wife.... try SM or something....
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What do you expect to come ot of it, especially when ya mentioned that ya love your wife?Originally posted by married_man:okay, how do i start, let me do it, anyway, i created this account in order to protect my own identity, yes, i have another account in sgforums, okay, here goes....
i'm in my early 30s and i've been married for about 3 years now, my marriage life is unstable at first but it's pretty ok now
life is pretty normal until i get to know that she (my sister-in-law) is getting married next month, you see, i've known her (let's call her J) for many years now, she has a boyfriend then, they fought oh so often and there was once i was involved, i mean, i stopped them from fighting each other, they were pushing, pulling and scratching each other, being there at that time, i have to stop them, and so i did...
J is in her late 20s, you see, we always get to see each other quite often since i always visit my in-laws and J stays with her mum but she has moved since J is getting married soon and J and her husband to be has got themselves a HDB flat, but i still find excuses to get J to tag along whenever my wife and i go out shopping or visit other relatives, sometimes i would even offer to give her a lift to places,
i have to admit that i like J and i have a feeling that she likes me too, the way J look at me into my eyes sometimes tells me there's something she want from me, i don't know, maybe i am wrong, i'm confused,
she's getting married soon, and i am happy for her, but no one can guarantee anything, rite? you know? i have never talked to J about my feeling towards her, i still love my wife but just that, everytime when i meet J, she gives me something kind of a feeling, it's hard to describe, most of the time, it's hard to resist, is it the devil in me? yes, she dresses well and sexily most of the time, there was once she bends over while offering me a cup of coffee as i was stting, she has her top all exposed, in front of me, as she was wearing a rather loose top, deliberate?
i was wondering if anyone here share the same experience? it would be very much appreciated if you could advise me or share your thoughts
No one can guarantee anything except maybe troubles if you step further..? What else you expect?
A moment of 'joy' and 'satisfaction' for a life time of regrets...? You do the Maths.... -
Hello....
I think u r confused becoz she is a woman who happens to be ur sis-in-law.
Imagine if she is ur own sis, of course u won't be confused. But since she is ur sis-in-law, u didn't grow up with her and ur mindset has not fully accepted her as a sis-in-law. In ur mind, she is a woman. Ur mind is receptive of her as a woman, and u r romantically/ sexually attracted to her.
My advice is, u have to take full account of her status as ur sis-in-law, more than her status as a woman. If u can do this, ur way of perceiving her will be different. And it should.
As an example, will u be romantically/ sexually attracted to ur own sis? Im sure u won't. Even if ur sis happen to show some cleavage when she happen to wear something loose and pour coffee, u won't think whether she's deliberately doing that to tease u, to seduce u. It should be the same with a sis-in-law. It's one of those mindset that u must imprint in ur mind.
If u fail to take full and whole account of her status as ur sis-in-law, u r just living in a confused world. In fact, deep down u already realize u r confused, alarm bells are ringing in ur head somewhere, and that's why u come here and seek advice. Right? So what to do? Take her as ur sis-in-law, fully and wholly. Problem will be solved.
If u act foolishly, if u ignore ur own alarm bells, then like some people pointed out, all those 'damage' to ur families will be too much for anyone to sort out later. But Im sure it won't happen, coz deep down u already realize u r just confused. All u need to do is 'wake up' from it, sooner than later. Don't let it mess with ur mind for long. -
humm..
make it short and simple
touch her and sleep with her will bring.
1) lost of face to your family cos they will treat u like a jerk
2) lost of face to your wife cos she cannot believe she lost to her own sis.
3) her husband-to-be will come after u and kick your butt.
4) you will live in shame even the kopitiam auntie also know what u did.
5) she might have Aids and pass it to you? Come on do you serious think she is a virgin waiting for you?
6) lost of money due to divorce with your wife. etc lawayer fees , maintaince
7) Lost of your gal and guy friends cos they know u sleep around with wife's sis and they are scare to let u go near them.
Final verdict
I will not say how your life will end up if you chose wrongly cos u r not the only person who is facing this problem. Just a few simple real cases results to show you the possible outcome should u decided to walk this path. -
Married_Man,
Your mind is playing tricks on you. Dun do anything funny.
She just feel comfy with you treat you as one of the family.
She's not aware of your hamsup thoughts. it's the last thing on her mind.
Dun break the trust.
Her actions speaks for itself- she's getting married.
How ablout you? contemplating a divorce anytime soon?
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Shoot and Scoot. if you know what i mean. the two of you need to keep it hush hush.
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well, at least my kuku is faithful and dont have the potential to betray on my partner. If u love ur partner u wont cheat on her. There is a fine line between black n white n once u crossed it, u can never turn back.Originally posted by married_man:nevermind about that alexkuku
there are so many people in this forum with multiple accounts and he thinks he's some psyches
anyway, thanks for your thoughts.
btw, its psyhic not psyches. -
a new account that took less then 1 hour to find out how to use emoticon and he knows alot of pple in this forum has multiple accounts!Originally posted by married_man:nevermind about that alexkuku
there are so many people in this forum with multiple accounts and he thinks he's some psyches
anyway, thanks for your thoughts.
wow! -
I think I've found you! I think.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=92618
forum_man.....married_man......
Where's lonely_man? -
wah lao u paparazzi siaOriginally posted by CoolMyth:I think I've found you! I think.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=92618
forum_man.....married_man......
Where's lonely_man? -
bravo bravo!!!!Originally posted by CoolMyth:I think I've found you! I think.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=92618
forum_man.....married_man......
Where's lonely_man?
next is either divorced_man, single_man or free_man -
I think tne years after your marriage.
It become very routine for you.
Your mind want to get some excitment again.
Your feeling for her I can understand.
But then both of you did not communicate your
feeling to each other before.
So now it is still one sided from you.
Off course if both of you have communicated enough.
Then you wont be coming here to post your case.
You would have known what to do then.
But one thing is very clear to you now.
Your sis in law is getting ROM.
It means she have a bf and husband to be.
As a gentleman I suggest you dont get involve anything
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thanks to those who has provided me with invaluable advise, appreciated, and yes, i think i should move on, i guess it's the devil in me that makes my mind run wild and didn't think of the consequences, rest assured, i will from now on, not think of J again and respect her as my sister-in-law and nothing more, a line must be drawn, thanks again people!
and to those who think that i am forum_man, lonely_man or whatever, keep up the good effort, cuz i am not