Anyone can help: Maintaining love without getting physical?
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I also wish to hold the hand of ger ger who i love.. nothing more.. walking down a beach or a park in autum.... that will b nicer then petting.....Originally posted by Jean3:I do share florajoy's frustration, because i also don't know how to handle this kind of situation, especially when now i am new to relationship and trying to keep thing at a slower pace, but yet when times i stop at a point (i can only accept kissing), he might not be very happy about it, although in my case he did not really voice it out, but i can feel it.
Everytime when the agreement is stated, next moment the line is being cross once again. I am not sure if things were to go on so fast, will i lose my stand sooner or later. I really hope to keep thing at slower rate now.
Sometimes i began to wonder, is there really no pure love or couplehood without getting physical. Can this kind of standard or love be maintain throughout the relationship.
Sometimes i do wish i am just a little girl hoping to just hold hand with the boy i love and walking in a beautiful garden together......
when u give more they expect more... when u kiss them.. they expect more....
whrs the feeling of first kiss.. when U first woo the ger that u like.. onli wanting to hold her hands or just a kiss.. that would sent U to heaven... men R so greedy.... i am one.. also.. bt will try to avoid the mistake of lust in love -
I'm seconding that.Originally posted by SinGaporGuy:I also wish to hold the hand of ger ger who i love.. nothing more.. walking down a beach or a park in autum.... that will b nicer then petting.....
when u give more they expect more... when u kiss them.. they expect more....
whrs the feeling of first kiss.. when U first woo the ger that u like.. onli wanting to hold her hands or just a kiss.. that would sent U to heaven... men R so greedy.... i am one.. also.. bt will try to avoid the mistake of lust in love
Holding her hands and really enjoying the moments with her,
means much more then Kissing or sex watso ever.
Never thought of anything more then just holding her hands seeing her smile. ^^,
Thats to me what love is about. ^^,
SinGaporGuy never thought i could find another guy similar to me. haha... -
haha i am speaking from experience.. though i just had one onli.. bt.. the feeling.. is like breathtaking...just to see her smile.i noe that past memories will never come back to me again.. bt i would like the next ger ger to smile always... and that. is worth anythin in this world..Originally posted by Sekundes:I'm seconding that.
Holding her hands and really enjoying the moments with her,
means much more then Kissing or sex watso ever.
Never thought of anything more then just holding her hands seeing her smile. ^^,
Thats to me what love is about. ^^,
SinGaporGuy never thought i could find another guy similar to me. haha... -
Small or big. Hold hands or petting.Originally posted by Sekundes:I'm seconding that.
Holding her hands and really enjoying the moments with her,
means much more then Kissing or sex watso ever.
Never thought of anything more then just holding her hands seeing her smile. ^^,
Thats to me what love is about. ^^,
SinGaporGuy never thought i could find another guy similar to me. haha...
All are important to me.
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Greedy sia... All also want...Originally posted by M©+square:Small or big. Hold hands or petting.
All are important to me. -
All are important to me too ^^,
But just looking at her smile and having fun brings alot of out your life.
Once she smile, i never thought of anything but jsut to see her smile on... -
I hope you're just kidding man.Originally posted by Delta 5:Greedy sia... All also want... 
Cos you're missing my point about my values in r/s.
All expressions and acts of love are really important to me.
From small acts to big ones. All means as much to me.
Cheers -
yes.. having fun and being comfortable wif each other is impt...............
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Originally posted by M©+square:Small or big. Hold hands or petting.
All are important to me. -
By the way, what is actually involved in petting?
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taking care lots of cute little animals
"pet" " ting " mah rite? -
only if it can be so innocent.. then i think most of us have no trouble thoughts
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actually life is very simple why make it more diffcult to live in it?
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oh yes, life is simple, but human are complicated creatures. We may not be able to know what the other party is thinking. Is good that we have forum helping us to know more thoughts and ideas.
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honestly speaking do u believe true love can withstand no seeing each other for many years?
How far can physical really help in a relationship? -
Honestly. It truly helps.Originally posted by drx:honestly speaking do u believe true love can withstand no seeing each other for many years?
How far can physical really help in a relationship?
Depending on which area you're going to point to. -
ok agreed with mc.
so how does Jean3 feel? -
Don't know leh. Wait for her reply ba.Originally posted by drx:ok agreed with mc.
so how does Jean3 feel?
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Sorry for the late reply people...i left the forum already when you people reply me.
I dont believe in long distant relationship. However, if it is for very short term like 1 year i can still accept it. Emm, i do thinkphysical contact is important, but not when you are not married. Because sometimes is difficult to see a real person especially when you are physically more involved. -
say no all the way until he shows some commitment by ROM or something. girls always lugi like that one. the day you pet with him is the day you lose your virginity. then wait you become single mum how? he sure ask you to abort. but girls always find it hard.Originally posted by Jean3:Maintaining love without getting physical, possible?
I am recently starting my first relationship with a guy whom is older and have experience in long term relationship before. I am serious abt this r/s. But I am unsure abt whether, is it possible to maintain the relationship without any sexual activities? Not even those...well, so call hand job? Correct me if i am wrong. There is no specific reason for me to say a 'No" to this but jus wana to wait for a longer period maybe after a yr or two, but how can i negotiate this with him then? Will it be too much if i say 'No' all the way?
you have the right to say no to pre-marital sex because he is wrong to ask for it in the first place! -
I think the key is to communicate your vision and fears to the guy to help him understand, not misperceive you.
If I may equate physical to sex, then you really don't want a premature/early r/s to be motivated and fed by physical lust, sex and desire. You don't want the guy to date you because he's motivated by sex to get a good satisfaction while you unwillingly give in to his needs and suffer in silence for fear that if you don't give in, he'll break up.
What you want to cultivate and develop (to see a loving r/s) is love that is non-sexual in nature because through that would you be able to build and have trust, confidence and love in the guy to settle down with.
A r/s is shaky when in the early stages, physical sex dominates (not non-sexual love).
A r/s is solid when non-sexual love gets tested and grows deep in the early stages. It's something for two lovebirds to comfortably settled down together with, to do and enjoy anything/everything together (be it buying a flat, physical sex, lust, etc that would spice up the loving r/s else it becomes dull).
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hello. i'm currently in a relationship with my gf of 5mths+.
i think that manitaining love w/o getting physical is all about self-control. i'm sure most religion doesnt allow pre-marital sex. so, if you're a freethinker... have your set of beliefs?
i am guilty of making moves at her. i've tried to kiss my gf. she only allows pecks. even dat, not too much. about once a week? (she set it at once a mth when we just started)
physically, biologically, guys reach their sexual maturity at 17/18/19. women at 28/29/30. thus, the women would be like.. "just what is this guy thinking?" when the guy is a bit horny at this period.
approaching your bf/gf on this issue and stating rules is what one should do. like what i've done. dont do physical stuff. talk to him/her. learn more about each other is the way to go.
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know of 1 media corp actor lin ming lun? his wife is chen yu yun. they did wat u r wondering. b4 they got marriage. chen yu yun did not want to have much physical contacts with lin ming lun. n lin agrees to it, simply bcos lin ming lun's love for her is real, which consist of "matual respect". if they can , wy can't u n ur bf? PROVIDED HIS LOVE 4 U IS ALSO REAL 1
