Lots of breach in trust within your relationship..?Originally posted by girltroubled:Good evening everyone
Few weeks ago, I had confronted him straight. He said he onli knew gals for fun & didnt meet any of those gals online. The messages were all cut & paste.He consoled me, saying tat I need not be so worried as in future as he wont login anymore. True enough, he didnt login but who knows, few days back, I happened to look into his hp. He had created another account, using other name. I was so heart-pain. I dun understand y he did tat.
He had treated me rather cold recently. Imagine, we were shopping at NTUC, he could walked in front & I walked behind. Kaozzz....
Yesterday, I went in & created an account. I duno if I m luckily or wat, he came & msg "me". I juz played along wif him. See if he would take the initative to ask "me" out lor.
I just dun understand y he did tat. Is it really tat fun 2 know gals online?
Everyday, i had been waiting to see if he did msg "me".
Frankly speaking, I doubt theres any point of confronting him again lor. I had already gave him one chance previously but now, wat had he done again? Sometimes, I think: M I too sensitive or m I really taking things too hard? Shall I let things take its nature course and wait for him 2 break off with me?
You sure haven't heard of worse stuffs... there are tons of married guys wanting to know more younger female girls online. May it be thru' websites or from IRC (infact i would say you can find alot of them lurking in IRC). And yes, behind their wives' back.Originally posted by girltroubled:Yes, we do feel the same for each other. Imagine, we can plan 2 get married..
Anyway to check if he did meet up those gals??
Hi Devil1976Originally posted by Devil1976:Lots of breach in trust within your relationship..?
Hmm...
Hi Silv3rgalOriginally posted by silv3rgal:You sure haven't heard of worse stuffs... there are tons of married guys wanting to know more younger female girls online. May it be thru' websites or from IRC (infact i would say you can find alot of them lurking in IRC). And yes, behind their wives' back.
I believe you should consider twice before even thinking of marrying him.
Actually i feel that it's ok for an attached guy to make more female friends out there, but its definately not right to lie about his status as well as keep it from his gf. Why did he do that? Do it matter he he really met those gals? He wanna meet them... and it's clearly written in his account ya? And if given a chance to meet a pretty babe... what do you think will happen?
I know it's hard to forsake a 2 yr r/s and the dream of getting married, but if u carry on further, u'll sink deeper... it'll be even harder to get back on ur feet again.
hmm.Sorry to hear that... Actually i bet he knows very well what he's thinking , he's just denying his motive posing single and wanting to meet up gals....Originally posted by girltroubled:Hi Silv3rgal
Thanks for the advice..I do feel its okie 4 him 2 know gals. I did clarified to him tat if he still wans 2 search for a better one, perhaps we should not waste each other's time.Here I m so committed to him n he still wans to search for better one. His repied was if he wans 2 find another one online, he would rather go disco & find as the response is faster. Contradicting, right?Sigh..
Then if he has no feelings for me, y at tat point of time wen I was confronting him, he can jolly well break up with me. y is he dragging lei?I simply dun understand lor...Originally posted by silv3rgal:hmm.Sorry to hear that... Actually i bet he knows very well what he's thinking , he's just denying his motive posing single and wanting to meet up gals....
Why not ask urself if you can live and tolerate with this kinda personality of his.. for the next couple of years.. and maybe a life time? I doubt i can if i were u... maybe you should also start looking out for a better guy too...
I do agree with what you say..Originally posted by silv3rgal:You sure haven't heard of worse stuffs... there are tons of married guys wanting to know more younger female girls online. May it be thru' websites or from IRC (infact i would say you can find alot of them lurking in IRC). And yes, behind their wives' back.
I believe you should consider twice before even thinking of marrying him.
Actually i feel that it's ok for an attached guy to make more female friends out there, but its definately not right to lie about his status as well as keep it from his gf. Why did he do that? Do it matter he he really met those gals? He wanna meet them... and it's clearly written in his account ya? And if given a chance to meet a pretty babe... what do you think will happen?
I know it's hard to forsake a 2 yr r/s and the dream of getting married, but if u carry on further, u'll sink deeper... it'll be even harder to get back on ur feet again.
Because he hasn't found a new target yet...Originally posted by girltroubled:Then if he has no feelings for me, y at tat point of time wen I was confronting him, he can jolly well break up with me. y is he dragging lei?I simply dun understand lor...![]()
Tats wat my frds say as well..He might b treating me as a "cushion" lor..I appreciate your reply..Originally posted by silv3rgal:Because he hasn't found a new target yet...
at least he has got a girl now, its better than nothing...
i ask you.. if you have a car, and u're used to driving for a few years.. will you just sell your car away when you havent even got a new one? provided if you're not forced to do so....
Girltroubled, i really apologise with my rather harsh replies.. maybe i don't know how to phrase things in the nice way...
but thats how i feel bah, it may or may not be true...
Do think about it. : )
I second with u silve3rgal.Originally posted by silv3rgal:wouldn't it great if you can find a guy who is fully devoted to you, just like how you're commited to him....
I believe you'll find that very special guy someday.. be patient ya..
Meanwhile just move on with ur life? On knowing that ur bf is such a person.. you should know it's really a waste of time making such worthless investment on him liao.... one of my friends was in this kinda situation too... she put in so much effort in that r/s and the guy, and was even saving for their marriage.. in the end the guy left her and she's feeling so empty.. dreams dashed and all... it has been a few months liao.. and she's still feeling so down... haiz...
better find a guy who dunno how to use the internet and who doesn't club or pub.. hahaha![]()
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*just kiddin tho'*
Hmm... But you DO have a CHOICEOriginally posted by girltroubled:Then if he has no feelings for me, y at tat point of time wen I was confronting him, he can jolly well break up with me. y is he dragging lei?I simply dun understand lor...![]()
Come from mountains or what? i am looking forward to see this sort of fella man..Originally posted by silv3rgal:better find a guy who dunno how to use the internet and who doesn't club or pub.. hahaha![]()
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*just kiddin tho'*
From the wellOriginally posted by Kennerve:Come from mountains or what? i am looking forward to see this sort of fella man..![]()
Hey~! That s a good one gal... I'm glad to hear that you're taking things rationally (which in alot of cases, alot of people can't)... all the best ya... 2 yrs ain't a big deal after all...it's just history.. and ur future's in your hands.. : )Originally posted by girltroubled:Hi all
Thanks so much for the valuable advice...I do agreed with all the things u said.... I should think more of myself..I think I know what I should do.."Kick" him off...Time can heal the pain but it would leave a scar..a deep one.
orchard a lot...people mountain people sea.Originally posted by Kennerve:Come from mountains or what? i am looking forward to see this sort of fella man..![]()
hey girl, I know this can be very hard. but it's better to solve it now then to let it drag further.Originally posted by girltroubled:Hi all
Thanks so much for the valuable advice...I do agreed with all the things u said.... I should think more of myself..I think I know what I should do.."Kick" him off...Time can heal the pain but it would leave a scar..a deep one.
I will not actually say that its a breach of trust for girltroubled. Why?? Cause I feel that what she is doing is actually protecting herself..Originally posted by smudgey:hey girl, I know this can be very hard. but it's better to solve it now then to let it drag further.
I have to say this, (it's not pleasant). this situation with you and your bf, judging from what you told me, it's mainly his "fault"... but the fact that you did all thse things behind his back, checking up on him, it's also a breach of his trust for you.
What I'm saying is that. this relationship maybe over and done with. but when you start a new one, I know there will be scars... but do not let these scars scare you into breaching that trust too. Once the trust is broken, it's very difficult to maintain a relationship.
Oh by the way, if you are bored or need to talk to some one... PM me. remember, your friends is very important right now. they can help you through this IF you let them.
Halo smudgeyOriginally posted by smudgey:hey girl, I know this can be very hard. but it's better to solve it now then to let it drag further.
I have to say this, (it's not pleasant). this situation with you and your bf, judging from what you told me, it's mainly his "fault"... but the fact that you did all thse things behind his back, checking up on him, it's also a breach of his trust for you.
What I'm saying is that. this relationship maybe over and done with. but when you start a new one, I know there will be scars... but do not let these scars scare you into breaching that trust too. Once the trust is broken, it's very difficult to maintain a relationship.
Oh by the way, if you are bored or need to talk to some one... PM me. remember, your friends is very important right now. they can help you through this IF you let them.
dun be so suspicious lah...Originally posted by girltroubled:Then if he has no feelings for me, y at tat point of time wen I was confronting him, he can jolly well break up with me. y is he dragging lei?I simply dun understand lor...![]()