Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the o

• sweetevil

  20 Aug 05, 22:53

  Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the opposite gender?
• DriftingGuy

  20 Aug 05, 22:54

  
  Sure why not.. but its hard not to fall in love if both are single ..
• smudgey

  20 Aug 05, 23:11

  I don't agree...
  
  I have tons of guy friends that are quite eligible and even while we are single we just do not have the bgr chemistry however our friendship are very strong and most ppl think we are bf/gf...
  
  there's more to life than bgr
  

  Originally posted by DriftingGuy:

  Sure why not.. but its hard not to fall in love if both are single ..

• BrUtUs

  20 Aug 05, 23:23

  yeah y not? fren doesnt mean must be bf/gf....
• starblue

  21 Aug 05, 00:30

  i used to believe this is possible. but not anymore...
  
  i once heard someone (prob from this forum) say, if a guy and a girl can stay together as "friends", it means at least one has a "liking" (to any degree possible) for the other one... if not, the friendship will crumble. i guess i take this point of view now...
• BadzMaro

  21 Aug 05, 00:50

  Ri Jiu Shen Qing..
• waliao

  21 Aug 05, 00:52

  Ask Plato
• drx

  21 Aug 05, 00:57

  I believe in pure friendship, many of my ladies friends are married or had bfs and their husband or bfs trust me when I go out with the ladies alone.
  
  I got some ladies whom I can chat so much with until others believe that we were together but both of us know we were just friends.
  
  I lost many chances to know girls cos I chat too much with my lady friends, the girls felt that I care too much for friend instead of her and thought I like my lady friend. I believe in friends more than relationship so that i did not borther too much.
  
• Tuatau

  21 Aug 05, 13:29

  Originally posted by drx:
  I believe in pure friendship, many of my ladies friends are married or had bfs and their husband or bfs trust me when I go out with the ladies alone.
  
  I got some ladies whom I can chat so much with until others believe that we were together but both of us know we were just friends.
  
  I lost many chances to know girls cos I chat too much with my lady friends, the girls felt that I care too much for friend instead of her and thought I like my lady friend. I believe in friends more than relationship so that i did not borther too much.
  

  Excuse me, are you a hairdresser?
  
  Don't get me wrong, but it simply doesn't sound what most practical men would do. Why would you spend so much time on lady friends who are no longer available? And why would these lady friends choose to go out with you alone instead of with their partners? Do you like shopping and giving fashion and beauty tips to these lady friends of yours?
  
  I know of a guy who felt perfectly secure with his wife going out with another man alone, too. But the other man was something like a "sister" to his wife, so this guy I know had no qualms about letting them go out on shopping sprees and high teas. Is your case something like that, too?
• Tuatau

  21 Aug 05, 13:37

  Originally posted by sweetevil:
  Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the opposite gender?

  This is an old oft-debated topic, but let me quote a rhetorical question from another article to make things clearer:
  
  "Do you see wives or husbands still chatting with their opposite-sex-best-friends after marriage through the wee hours of the night like they used to do when they were young?"
  
  If there are such wives or husbands, they are the exception (with either extremely accommodating or cheating spouses doing the same thing), rather than the rule. Sadly for most, platonic friendships could exist, but only up till marriage with another party, after which it simply fades away or is reduced to mere "Hi! How are you? Take care. Bye!" acquaintanceship.
  
  Many women believe or want to believe that platonic friendships with male friends can exist; many men don't but encourage that belief in women anyway so that they could stand a chance, up to the point when the women in question marry someone else and are no longer within their reach.
  
  So could there then truly be platonic friendship?
• DriftingGuy

  21 Aug 05, 15:00

  Originally posted by Tuatau:

  This is an old oft-debated topic, but let me quote a rhetorical question from another article to make things clearer:
  
  "Do you see wives or husbands still chatting with their opposite-sex-best-friends after marriage through the wee hours of the night like they used to do when they were young?"
  
  If there are such wives or husbands, they are the exception (with either extremely accommodating or cheating spouses doing the same thing), rather than the rule. Sadly for most, platonic friendships could exist, but only up till marriage with another party, after which it simply fades away or is reduced to mere "Hi! How are you? Take care. Bye!" acquaintanceship.
  
  Many women believe or want to believe that platonic friendships with male friends can exist; many men don't but encourage that belief in women anyway so that they could stand a chance, up to the point when the women in question marry someone else and are no longer within their reach.
  
  So could there then truly be platonic friendship?

  Thats why the TV series desperate housewives.. is such a hit.. thats because theres so much similarities to real life...
  
• FireIce

  21 Aug 05, 15:02

  Originally posted by sweetevil:

  Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the opposite gender?

  yes.
• drx

  21 Aug 05, 15:54

  So Tuatau means that a girl and a guy should never be alone with each other unless he is a proven gay or she is a proven les or in a proper relationship?
  
  hum.... Since there is no such thing as platonic friendship so I must be in love or like the girl in order to be alone with her?
  
  Just a thought.
• pinkygal76

  21 Aug 05, 17:25

  Y not??? As long as both know where they stand in the friendship.
• DriftingGuy

  21 Aug 05, 17:26

  
  mayb more so when we grow out of the teens and mature.. cos the raging hormones do get in the way
• fudgester

  21 Aug 05, 17:45

  There is such a thing as a platonic relationship between friends of the opposite sex. It just doesn't happen too often cos it's much too easy to fall in love.
  
  I'm pretty close to a number of my female friends, and no, I can't see myself falling in love with any of them. Heck, I'm super close to one of them, and there's no way I'm ever gonna fall in love with her.
• ilovemyrolex

  21 Aug 05, 17:58

  why not? I have more female friends than males ones.
  
  

  Originally posted by sweetevil:

  Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the opposite gender?

• Tuatau

  21 Aug 05, 19:46

  Originally posted by drx:
  So Tuatau means that a girl and a guy should never be alone with each other unless he is a proven gay or she is a proven les or in a proper relationship?
  
  hum.... Since there is no such thing as platonic friendship so I must be in love or like the girl in order to be alone with her?
  
  Just a thought.

  Ho ho... no. Told you not to take it the wrong way. Really didn't mean any offence.
  
  Have already mentioned that platonic friendship between a married woman and a single man could be possible, but believed it was more the exception than the rule. You could be one of the exceptions whom I have yet to come across in real life.
  
  Couldn't say the same between a married man and a single woman, though. Perhaps my social circle is too small, but there is probably no married woman I've known who is perfectly comfortable with her husband going out alone with a single woman.
• Tuatau

  21 Aug 05, 20:03

  This may be off-topic, but one wonders why would a man and a woman be perfectly platonic friends without at least one party being attracted to the other?
  
  Perhaps this old post might give us a clue?
  
  http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=47127
• freestylerz

  21 Aug 05, 20:44

  Originally posted by sweetevil:

  Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the opposite gender?

  yes it IS possible...i hv 2 guy frens who is very very very close to me...both of dem same case....
  
  1st guy case
  he used to lyk me...i oso lyk him....but dunno y we didn stead...so now we best frens....
  
  2nd guy case
  he also used to lyk me.....i oso lyk him..(this happened 6 mths aft the 1st guy case)....but we didn stead...coz we noe it will spoil our frenship....
  
  me and my exes r no longer in contact...so i believe tt if both ppl lyk each ohter and they dun stead....they will become very very close frens for very long and wun lose contact
  
  
• Blueskyz

  21 Aug 05, 21:31

  Originally posted by sweetevil:

  Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the opposite gender?

  I truly believe in platonic friendship..
  
  Cos I hav 2 very close guy friends.. and we have been friends for more than 10 over years already.. and we know that there wasnt any chemistry btw us at all..
  
  
• Devil1976

  21 Aug 05, 23:14

  Originally posted by sweetevil:

  Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the opposite gender?

  Yes.
• FeowFeow

  22 Aug 05, 11:10

  Yes, I've got friendships with guy friends that I treasure, & they're just guy friends, period.
  
  Initially, for a few, the guy did erm, develop some sorta crush at 1st, but after awhile, they accept that they're Not the 1 for me & graciously accept my friendship instead. Happily, they've gotten their own gfs/wives & are happy now.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by sweetevil:

  Do you believe in having pure platonic friendship with the opposite gender?

• FORGET-ME-NOT

  22 Aug 05, 15:43

  Is very difficult. Friendship may turn into love oneday. Once, I thought that I have many 'boy' friends. When I have a boyfriend, all my 'boy' friends disappear.
• Kenashi

  22 Aug 05, 15:51

  of course, I got plenty of gal friends.
  no choice, I am in the ladies infested working environment.