i am very worried...
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counseling?? or hypnosis ??? i'm going for my hypnosis session on sat. see whether can help with his prob anot den i will let u knw. er....i'm trying to help, although i may sound a bit silly
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my sociology textbook says tat men are prone to sucides.
reasons for suicide are
1. money woes
2. relationship
3. jobless.
4. socially detached(lack of friends, family support)
5. i forgot. lazy to flip back. =X
sucide is not an individual behaviour. its a social behaviour.
wat u can do
1. get ur brother to join more ccas or hobbies? CCA can know more frens.
2. Intro frens to him lors. u guys sure got play soccer de. ask him join in la.
3. intro a student councellor.
4. help him find meaning in life. ( though its really up to him)
5. everyday put one inspirational quote on his table.
6. get him a pet? -
how about some voluntary work? perhaps the helping out there will change his perspectives of life...Originally posted by starblue:my brother told me this morning, as we are going to church, that he is having suicidal thoughts again...
he feels that life is just so stagnant, so... unchanging and. bleak. he is harping on how nice it would be to have a restart button for Life, it's as though he is thinking of death as a restart button... and he told me he cant seem to get to sleep every night and maybe soon he needs to rely on sleeping pills... help... i don't know what to do... i don't want to lose a brother.. 
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Originally posted by starblue:
If your brother intends to become a pharmacist, he'd probably fare better if he went on to further his education, locally or foreign, in pharmaceutical science. Most registered pharmacist jobs require at least a degree at entry level -- a diploma would probably get him an assistant position, but that's about it.
got anybody please tell me wad a diploma in pharmaceutical science can do for you in terms of career prospects??? thanks...
He may be tired of studying right now, and can't wait to work after serving his National Service, but you'd never know if he changes his mind after two years in the army. Many young Singaporeans hated studying when they were students, but a few years in the work force with their limited qualifications, and they'd usually think of further education, part-time or otherwise. -
my brother isnt being ironic... his involvment in church is just an obligation to dad. we're a mere 10 months apart, but how to integrate him into my social circle?? he wun even want to go out with me, much less go out with me and my friends...
today he came home late... and i was so worried he will do something silly... that i might have lost him forever already... when i saw him at the house door, i can never say how relieved i was. lolz.. to think i';m as silly as to think he's gone... -
since you said he's a deep person...has he ever thot maybe after he die, he would not even able to see a single tinny weeny reset button at all? Tell him there's no return if he can't find any button at all....if he's a deep person, has he ever wondered what seems unimportant to him now might turn out be the most valuable gift he ever had?Originally posted by starblue:my brother told me this morning, as we are going to church, that he is having suicidal thoughts again... he feels that life is just so stagnant, so... unchanging and. bleak. he is harping on how nice it would be to have a restart button for Life, it's as though he is thinking of death as a restart button... and he told me he cant seem to get to sleep every night and maybe soon he needs to rely on sleeping pills... help... i don't know what to do... i don't want to lose a brother..
life is not as simple as he thinks. No offence, simply put, it's a cowardly and selfish act..hurting his loved ones...i.e. breaking ur parents' and ur heart...
most of all he is selfish to himself...
take him to see your church pastor or counsellor if u cant talk him out, no matter what u try. -
good! tell him what u wrote...i.e. how u felt when he's nt home and when u saw him...Originally posted by starblue:my brother isnt being ironic... his involvment in church is just an obligation to dad. we're a mere 10 months apart, but how to integrate him into my social circle?? he wun even want to go out with me, much less go out with me and my friends...
today he came home late... and i was so worried he will do something silly... that i might have lost him forever already... when i saw him at the house door, i can never say how relieved i was. lolz.. to think i';m as silly as to think he's gone... -
No wonder , an obligation to someone feels like being forced , thats why he isn't in the "mood"Originally posted by starblue:my brother isnt being ironic... his involvment in church is just an obligation to dad. we're a mere 10 months apart, but how to integrate him into my social circle?? he wun even want to go out with me, much less go out with me and my friends...
today he came home late... and i was so worried he will do something silly... that i might have lost him forever already... when i saw him at the house door, i can never say how relieved i was. lolz.. to think i';m as silly as to think he's gone...
10 months APART??
On your sidenote , to praise your daddy , he's really able huh?
Women always think too much.
Let's hope he'll be okay.
not only i'll include him in my daily prayers , i'll also try to advice you.
if suddenly 1 day , i ask you to join a CCA group , of course you would suddenly feel awkward and shy.
For the sis:
Try to be tolerant , people who suddenly suicide will leave alot of tell-tale signs to look out for.
For the bro:
He should be old enough to know that his thoughts are going to affect the people around him. He also should know that in christianity , we only get to life once before meeting our creator . And there's no such thing as reset button. There are many things for him to look forward to ; like marriage, sex
[but it's true what] , owning a car , travelling and exploring the whole world and enjoying the sights and sceneries of our environment , and watching his children growing up.
Show him old family pictures and try to rekindle the flame , his love for the family. -
nah... he loves his family... i know how important his family means to him, cos he doesn't feel he had real friends outside... i'm just thinking maybe he's been too.... forced to live how he is living now, by dad... but that's another story...
right now, i'm just emphasizing how he really shouldnt do anything funny cos that's no way it will help him.. the main thing now, is to help him see the meaning in life, get him his motivation back. something i still dun really know how, since recently i also got rather pre-occupied with my own affairs... -
Try to identify what sort of stuffs he has done before getting addicted to his cyber addiction.
He could have been jogging/cycling/rollerblading regularly , and leading a healthy life.
However , going online may not be bad , but being addicted for a number of hours is not going to help at all. -
He doesn't feel he has real friends outside because he has the so-called online friends right??Originally posted by starblue:nah... he loves his family... i know how important his family means to him, cos he doesn't feel he had real friends outside... i'm just thinking maybe he's been too.... forced to live how he is living now, by dad... but that's another story...
right now, i'm just emphasizing how he really shouldnt do anything funny cos that's no way it will help him.. the main thing now, is to help him see the meaning in life, get him his motivation back. something i still dun really know how, since recently i also got rather pre-occupied with my own affairs...
thats the problem , you should engage him back into reality.
What im feeling is that he's using online world to escape from real life
problems.
You could also try to set aside some time to be with him.
Even when you are busy.
Perhaps you could tell me the entire story through pm so i could evaluate more?
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Please,get your facts right in this one,if you commit suicide,there is certainly no chance of you going to heaven..Originally posted by browniebaobao:tat's the prob with christians.. wat restart life.. wat live to die.. wat go heaven after death.. watsoever.. contaminate the mind. -
haha I feel someone in imitating Yun or MCSquare's style of advisingOriginally posted by SMAPLionHeart:He doesn't feel he has real friends outside because he has the so-called online friends right?? thats the problem , you should engage him back into reality.
What im feeling is that he's using online world to escape from real life
problems.
You could also try to set aside some time to be with him.
Even when you are busy.
Perhaps you could tell me the entire story through pm so i could evaluate more?
Cheers. -
nope.. he doesnt have real friends not because he has online friends... i think i know why he is addicted to games. os in real life, he seems to not be able to accomplish anything great. but in the games, he can level uo his characters and slash monsters and everything... the victory appeals to him. the sense of accomplishment when he completes a quest....Originally posted by SMAPLionHeart:He doesn't feel he has real friends outside because he has the so-called online friends right?? thats the problem , you should engage him back into reality.
What im feeling is that he's using online world to escape from real life
problems.
You could also try to set aside some time to be with him.
Even when you are busy.
Perhaps you could tell me the entire story through pm so i could evaluate more?
Cheers.
anyway, these few days, i have been playing around and joking around with him in the evenings when we meet.. seems like he's gotten over the suicide part... though i can never be sure.. like i said, he is really good at keeping things inside... i've tried to get him to go out with me on weekend, but then he always dun wan... haiz... -
Slowly observe bah.Originally posted by starblue:nope.. he doesnt have real friends not because he has online friends... i think i know why he is addicted to games. os in real life, he seems to not be able to accomplish anything great. but in the games, he can level uo his characters and slash monsters and everything... the victory appeals to him. the sense of accomplishment when he completes a quest....
anyway, these few days, i have been playing around and joking around with him in the evenings when we meet.. seems like he's gotten over the suicide part... though i can never be sure.. like i said, he is really good at keeping things inside... i've tried to get him to go out with me on weekend, but then he always dun wan... haiz... Your brother seems like those kind who keep alot of secrets to himself .
On a serious note , try to get him back into reality.
I know it's hard , but he should not escape from his real life problems.
Pent-up feelings , could accumulate and lead to ...
Maybe it's your fault? If you bring him to comestics/lingerie/clothing/accessories shop , of course guys wouldn't like it.
Or he feels that your boring and that's why he doesn't want to go out with you? -
Maybe you could also identify your routine/timetable weekend shopping spree/window shopping .Originally posted by starblue:nope.. he doesnt have real friends not because he has online friends... i think i know why he is addicted to games. os in real life, he seems to not be able to accomplish anything great. but in the games, he can level uo his characters and slash monsters and everything... the victory appeals to him. the sense of accomplishment when he completes a quest....
anyway, these few days, i have been playing around and joking around with him in the evenings when we meet.. seems like he's gotten over the suicide part... though i can never be sure.. like i said, he is really good at keeping things inside... i've tried to get him to go out with me on weekend, but then he always dun wan... haiz...
try to spice it up a little.
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Please tell him not to suicide as his soul will repeatedly suicide many many times over and cannot be liberated.Originally posted by starblue:my brother told me this morning, as we are going to church, that he is having suicidal thoughts again... he feels that life is just so stagnant, so... unchanging and. bleak. he is harping on how nice it would be to have a restart button for Life, it's as though he is thinking of death as a restart button... and he told me he cant seem to get to sleep every night and maybe soon he needs to rely on sleeping pills... help... i don't know what to do... i don't want to lose a brother..
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starblue he ok liao lar ...
Got you as his sister and game as his friends...I really find no reason for him to died leh..
if he still wants to die then bring him to any hospital ICU unit and see how people fight to live each day..
Knock some sense into him lar he already grow up and still needs someone to take of him..