Loving a Girl so difficult???
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I think YawnYawn is getting a CLOSER picture of what I'm trying to say....Originally posted by eagle:I think wat Devil means there is no reason for u to forgo the whole forest juz for a tree. So many other trees to choose from rite? It is hard to get into this mentality, and even harder to try to look for someone else, but it is possible. -
You're DREAMING.... WAKE UP....Originally posted by BiZZy:Let's pray that this don't happen even again in my life!!!! -
YawnYawn,Originally posted by YawnYawn:juz trY to let it go...it maybe hard for u to accept but human are juz weaklings in their tinking and will forge up lies to keep themselves happy
keep tinking of those happy moments and forget abt the tragic memories...
search deep deep down ur heart...will u do pratically anything under the sun for her?? For now u may say yes but when it really comes to tat point of time where u have to make the deciSion u may Not say yes.
Life is unfAIr.Juz live on wif iT.
btw,i muz commeNt u on not beIng angry wif those opinions lor...there is another thread where when we give our opinions...tat guy
scolded/flamed us
juz my 2 cents worth.sorRy if i saiD anything hurtful =)
Well done! hahaha...
Bizzy, you've been taken for a ride. Too bad, the next one will be better. Remember my advice earlier? Just walk and don't look back.
Important thing is have you learned from your mistakes? You have lost your self-respect, been treated like a friend and brother more than a boyfriend. What else is missing? Learn from mistakes, next time you'll be smarter. -
I can understand your pain and agony.
Once you are deeply in love with a girl, even if you know there is only very little chance or even impossible in having a happy ending, you will still want to try, hoping that dreams will come true.
Sometimes girls simply dun appreciate good guys, they will treat them as their spare tire. Only when they found out that they have no more alternative then they'll go back to the nice guy. Sometimes it doesn't pays to be good.
To the onlookers, your thinking may seem foolish, but to you, you will think that its worth it.
I believe it you're not going to give up on her till she really rejects you. You are even willing to let her play with yr feelings if that will make her feel better.
All the best to you. Fairy tales do happen sometimes, but not often. Hope that yr dreams will come true. Even if it doesn't, its still an experience that you will remember for yr whole life.
Hope you will find a girl who will truly appreciate you. I'm a person who refuse to believe that it doesn't pays to be gd. -
She called me yesterday night after work, chat till about 4am then she started to asked me some funny questions...
She seems to be hinting me in saying that I like her..
She asked me a number of questions which includes, "Did the history repeats itself?",
"You are afraid that when the secrets is out, the situation will either remain the same or gone. Right?". "You want to be someone more then a God-bro,right?"
"I know somethings from the way people touches me & talks to me". " I am showing too much concern that others can sense from it"
From all these questions, it clearly shows that she knows what I want.. & she trying to make me say that I Love her. I know that she will be giving me a negative answer, therefore I refuse to say it out. All these have been bothering me since morning & couldn't really get to sleep..
I know she will come back to this question rather soon & I don't quite know what to tell her. ANSWERS IS DEFINATELY GOT TO BE NEGATIVE!! If not she will not try to hint me all these.. -
look on the bright side.some girls may play "hard to get"
but bizzy...hope for the best,prepare for the worst.
if she gives u a negative answer...den try to get over it.life muz still go on.u cannot freeze in ur own instance and hope tat she can turn arnd and pick u up....
if she rejects u,it maybe hard,very hard, to get over her but try taking up some new hobbies to put her out of ur mind.but pls dun try chasing other girls to relieve urself of the "rejection" feeling.if possible avoid seeing her at all.
if u got a positive answer,den best of luck and treasure her.
juz my 2 cent worth=) gd luck -
dun wait! cover the face n bomb the base! go!go!go! no terrorists win!
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B|zzy,
Get it over and done with already. Say "Yes, I love you." and if she rejects you. You'll have your answer and carry on with your life.
Why put yourself through this agony. I mean i like to suffer myself at times but life's short and the perfect girl for you may be nearby. -
im so near to u dear!Originally posted by Klactovak:Why put yourself through this agony. I mean i like to suffer myself at times but life's short and the perfect girl for you may be nearby. -
On the SURFACE, she SEEMS to be 'having fun'. Is she very young? What is her age? She could be giving you serious hints, on the other hand she might also be just playing you out for it... There could be MANY reasons WHY a woman would wanna do that. But from the way you'd described her, I won't be surprised.Originally posted by BiZZy:She called me yesterday night after work, chat till about 4am then she started to asked me some funny questions...
She seems to be hinting me in saying that I like her..
She asked me a number of questions which includes, "Did the history repeats itself?",
"You are afraid that when the secrets is out, the situation will either remain the same or gone. Right?". "You want to be someone more then a God-bro,right?"
"I know somethings from the way people touches me & talks to me". " I am showing too much concern that others can sense from it"
From all these questions, it clearly shows that she knows what I want.. & she trying to make me say that I Love her. I know that she will be giving me a negative answer, therefore I refuse to say it out. All these have been bothering me since morning & couldn't really get to sleep..
I know she will come back to this question rather soon & I don't quite know what to tell her. ANSWERS IS DEFINATELY GOT TO BE NEGATIVE!! If not she will not try to hint me all these..
The FACT that you're IN LOVE with her DRAG you in DEEP... Don't be CONFUSED by your emotions, learn to control it a bit... (Well.. Earlier said than done? ~Sigh...) Your LOVE would only be MEANINGFUL if the other party APPRECIATES it... IF the other party ACCEPTS it, it MIGHT turn out to be FRUITFUL... IF the other party REJECTS it, it would not be in all sense that 'meaningful'.... BUT if the other party PLAYS with it.... That's a TORMENT.... WAKE UP my friend...
It's OBVIOUS, you feel the TORMENT.... It's OBVIOUS, you SMELL the FISH.... It's just your own UNCERTAINTY... And ALOT of BLIND HOPE toying you around.... You're FLOATING around... You need to SETTLE DOWN just like Klactovak had suggested...
ALOT would depends on yourself... I can OFFER you a ROUGH GAUAGE of the SITUATION if you're really that DESPERATE and INTERESTED.... E-mail me at [email protected] But back to SQUARE ONE.... ALOT still depends on yourself...?
PS. Other than SURFACE INCOMPATIBILITY mentioned in my earlier post, your INDECISINESS also render you a 'HANDICAP' for this relationship... If you step into it, MOST PROBABLY it's NOT gonna be a WISE choice.... DON'T keep indulging yourself in the SAME SHIT of how much I LOVE HER and such... But this is LIFE... LOVE is just a part of it... I told you MOST PROBABLY there's gonna be a WALL in front of you... IF you INSIST on BANGING into it, I've got NO CHOICE... To say the least I won't be bother, it's YOUR LIFE... I'd SAID ENOUGH... Unless there're gonna be some MAJOR CHANGES in the SITUATION or UNDERSTANDING of the SITUATION (which is UNLIKELY...), TURN AROUND... DON'T be a FOOL... You'll face GREATER CHALLENGES in your life....
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
Though NOT the RIGHT thing to do,
This might be the ONLY NATURAL thing to be...
Just like heat is produced when work done...
EVIL is the GENERATION of SYSTEM FLAWS... DEVIL PHRASE III
In DREAMS you CAN NEVER DIE.....
For YOUR LIFE is about the EXISTENCE of....
Your Happiness.... Your Sadness... Your Pain.... Your Pleasure....
Like a painted sky, when it rains... All CEASE to BE... DEVIL PHRASE IV
When Law & Rules are there,
they are NOT about JUSTICE.
While reality & dreams are there,
they are NOT about SURVIVAL..
And Life & Death NOT about LIVING...
Good & Evil NOT about definitions....
IF truly there is EVIL, it is NOT just one of its kind......
DEVIL'S SEVENTH PHRASE
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
ermmm...to love a person u dun really need to have him/her by ur side...dun be so possesive.. she may find some one who is much more suitable for her out there....but tat someone wun be u
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wow..cant help myself..have to comment on this one..
5 years is a long time. need to pluck yrself out of this mess dude. dont know who u are, wat ure doing (except tat ure in ns) but u need to wake up. ask yrself why in 5 yrs other guys stood a chance but u didnt. simple - u seem to be protraying yrself (to her to us and to yrself) as a whimpering puppy dog. the chinese say "er2 nu3 qing2 chang2, ying1 xiong2 qi4 duan3". meaning u have gotten pretty soft by thinking abt this for too long. right now, even if she accepts u, which i definitely doubt, it will not be for long. she needs a man not a puppy. be a man and get a grip on yrself and yr career. think abt wat u need to do for yrself in the future. a man is at his most attractive when hes confident, knows what he needs and just the way to get it. u sure dont sound like tat to me.
she has the upperhand now, got u all twirled ard her fingers. u need to pluck yrself out to even the playing field. let her know u have yr chances outside. u dont need to be always there for her. she might be taken back with the sudden lack of attention and might even take more notice of u. u have been in the dark for so long...ure becoming a shadow. u know u dont want tat. who knows, she might even give the new u a chance. u still have 1 advantage,and tat is it seems u know her well, like a soulmate. make use of tat fact the right way.
get a breath of fresh air and a hell lot of self esteem back. i hope the next time u post u sound more like a man. -
Yawn.
Tell her straight that u like her. If u reject u, so be it. U muz learn how to handle rejections. This wil be common til u get married, so might as well haf some training now? Wil boost ur courage in asking other gals out next time too...
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Thomas Edison definition of genius :
"1% inspiration, 99% perspiration"
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The Eagle
He clasps the crag with hooked hands:
Close to the sun in lonely lands,
Ringed with the azure world, he stands.
The wrinkled sea beneath him crawls;
He watches from his mountain walls,
And like a thunderbolt he falls.
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true.Originally posted by eagle:Yawn.
Tell her straight that u like her. If u reject u, so be it. U muz learn how to handle rejections. This wil be common til u get married, so might as well haf some training now? Wil boost ur courage in asking other gals out next time too...
haha eagle u call me aR? -
Girls would find all means to make u like her , whether anot they like you . this will boost their ego. It always feels good to knw that there are so many guys to fall back on if ever any guy make them lose their confidence.
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urmmm.... heeheeOriginally posted by RuthBaby:im so near to u dear!
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She hint me all sorts of questions again yesterday night, & I know that she will come out with the final question soon. True enough she asked me:"Don't tell me you have likings for me??". I drag the answers abit but finally gave her a YES!! She claims to be shock, but I know that she realised that long time ago. She also asked me is it since last time?? I did not answer her question.
However she did not tell me much things & says that it will remain the same. Before she come out with the questions, she also mentioned that she prefers to talk to someone purely as friends & no intention of wooing her & she feels more comfortable that way. She said that when she talks to guys on the phone & the guys has got intentions, she will avoid him & will not talk on the phone so much.. to avoid misunderstanding..
Anyway I am right that the answers I get at this moment is a negative answer. I wasn't disappointed at all because I already had the answer in my mind. I asked her just to get myself convinced. Anyway, I will not give up just because she rejected me. I am going to climb to the end of the ladder to see if she comes to me. -
wat if she is wif another guy?
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bang her first upeth the bummeth woohoo u slut
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hey..good tat u know the answer. i agree with urbanstrawie about the ego boosting thingy. dont go ard filling their egoes if u know wat they are up to. i've experienced this before myself and know this to be true.
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Went out with the girl the day before, & things seems to have changed.. She tends to tell me more things which she don't previously do. & no one around us does know that we chat through the night everyday without fail.. I felt more relax & relieve after letting her know that I like her.. & I feel that communication is much easier between us. She even tell me things that no one knows about it, & she told me the reason why she didn't tell anybody about it..
However, one problem is .. that whenever her BF called when I am out with her & some friends, my mood will change.. even her friends can smell the jealousy.. She knows that I am jealous... She asked me: " Isn't it terrible for you, listening to me talking about me & my BF? If it is so, then next time I dun tell U lor.. dun wanna u to feel like that mah." Though it breaks my heart when she talks about her BF, I still want to know where the go, what they do. There are times where it really breaks my heart terribly but I still listen to her talks.
Now after confessing to her about my likings for her, she didn't avoid me though. She still wants me to treat her the same way which I do... She is rather afraid to make me angry even though I do not get angry with her... Seriously, I do get disappointed in her sometimes...
You guys must be thinking that I should just let go of her & get someone else. But to me, it's rather difficult to find a girl of the same hobby, lifestyle as me. -
Dun be sad...if she is yours,she will be with you in the end.I think you can take things slowly cos she may end up avoiding you if she only treat you as her 'DIDI'.
Continue to shower her with your care, concern and love...slowly she may had change her attitude towards you!!Take your time and all the best ahead,bizzy!! -
sigh... loving a gal is really very difficult.. esp if she is another race, and u dun have the *balls* to tell her ur feelings... yet u see her every day.... whenever she speaks on the hp, she goes hehehe... hahaha.. and that makes me feel very very sad... read my signature and help me~~
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Should I Tell Her?
Or Should I Let Her Go? -
TOLD you to WAKE UP already? Your 'LOVE' sounds like an EMPTY SPACE... Though there's really no telling how the turn out might be in the end... The CHANCE is SLIM...Originally posted by BiZZy:Went out with the girl the day before, & things seems to have changed.. She tends to tell me more things which she don't previously do. & no one around us does know that we chat through the night everyday without fail.. I felt more relax & relieve after letting her know that I like her.. & I feel that communication is much easier between us. She even tell me things that no one knows about it, & she told me the reason why she didn't tell anybody about it..
However, one problem is .. that whenever her BF called when I am out with her & some friends, my mood will change.. even her friends can smell the jealousy.. She knows that I am jealous... She asked me: " Isn't it terrible for you, listening to me talking about me & my BF? If it is so, then next time I dun tell U lor.. dun wanna u to feel like that mah." Though it breaks my heart when she talks about her BF, I still want to know where the go, what they do. There are times where it really breaks my heart terribly but I still listen to her talks.
Now after confessing to her about my likings for her, she didn't avoid me though. She still wants me to treat her the same way which I do... She is rather afraid to make me angry even though I do not get angry with her... Seriously, I do get disappointed in her sometimes...
You guys must be thinking that I should just let go of her & get someone else. But to me, it's rather difficult to find a girl of the same hobby, lifestyle as me.
Hmm... Let's spin a coin?
Head YOU LOSE... If tail followed by another spin, tail and head YOU LOSE... Tail, tail and head YOU LOSE.... Tail, tail, tail and..... -
its always worth a try la... dont discourage pple if u too like him failed to get a relationshipOriginally posted by Devil1976:TOLD you to WAKE UP already? Your 'LOVE' sounds like an EMPTY SPACE... Though there's really no telling how the turn out might be in the end... The CHANCE is SLIM...
Hmm... Let's spin a coin? Head YOU LOSE... If tail followed by another spin, tail and head YOU LOSE... Tail, tail and head YOU LOSE.... Tail, tail, tail and.....
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Should I Tell Her?
Or Should I Let Her Go?
[This message has been edited by bigdeal (edited 12 March 2002).]