Am i right?
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Don't really have to deliberately try hard to keep yourself occupied lah... Just learn to ENJOY YOUR LIFE and ohh... FORGET about the 'BETRAYAL' part... JERKS are HARDLY WORTH MENTIONING....Originally posted by kiekie:I just went to Double O on Wed ladies night. Wow, it's really an eye-opener for me. It has been ages since i stepped into such a place!! Feeling quite exhilarated.
But when my frens intro some of her guy frens to me, i can't help feeling awkard. It's like kind of weird.. I was so embarrassed. On the dance floor, it was packed like sandwiches. And with so many pairs of eyes looking at u.....i felt being devoured!!
Mayb i too long nv go to such places alridy.. like a mountain turtle. In the beginning, i stood there like a piece of wooden plank, too paisay to dance or move an inch..
Gradually, i began to only after a drink of orange volka.
In the end, i was going giigiigaagaa... feeling drowsy and drunk. Luckily, i went there wif two of my buddies and they sent me home. Wat a malu night, but i felt freed!! Now I m trying hard to keep myself occupied to refrain myself of thinking of the past...
sad.
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KieKie - Good that you have decided to set yourself free. One of my close friend's husband was caught with a woman in his house and she forgave him. Few months ago, she forgave him again for the fifth time. When I met up with her this year, I saw a big diamond ring on her finger, smiling happily. Well, too many sweet talk soften her heart. Although I avoid to suggest divorce to her (that womanizer is my friend too), but if it happens to me myself, I would leave with my 2 kids. Its better to go than cling on when you no longer have a place in his heart. Find a better man!
There are so many activities to occupy yourself with:
- shopping,
- travelling with good friends (highly encouraged!)
- Read some good book
- Look good! Go for facials or spas to rejuvenate.
- Eat well, sleep well.
- Don't cry, don't worry, just be happy for yourself.
- Find better paying job if you can!
- Feel great, look great!
Good luck and best wishes
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U r right. I ve juz got myself a new job.. in a small trading company. Now i will spend most of my time at work..and indulge in beauty products. Cuz i wana feel great and look great as u mentioned.Originally posted by mumof2:KieKie - Good that you have decided to set yourself free. One of my close friend's husband was caught with a woman in his house and she forgave him. Few months ago, she forgave him again for the fifth time. When I met up with her this year, I saw a big diamond ring on her finger, smiling happily. Well, too many sweet talk soften her heart. Although I avoid to suggest divorce to her (that womanizer is my friend too), but if it happens to me myself, I would leave with my 2 kids. Its better to go than cling on when you no longer have a place in his heart. Find a better man!
There are so many activities to occupy yourself with:
- shopping,
- travelling with good friends (highly encouraged!)
- Read some good book
- Look good! Go for facials or spas to rejuvenate.
- Eat well, sleep well.
- Don't cry, don't worry, just be happy for yourself.
- Find better paying job if you can!
- Feel great, look great!
Good luck and best wishes 
Last time, i always feel that spending on beauty products is a waste of $ as they aren't cheap... now i think differently. Every Woman should take gd care of their complexion and figure.. even if u r married. To make urself feel more attractive and great!!
These few wks, he call me occasionally and we behave like normal frenz. Haiz.. wat to do? I told him to give each other a year's time and i want to get my life back and mayb in future, i m the one who really change not him.
One of my close frenz once told me tat i will definitely find a guy who will treat me a little better than him.
She says as the gangster sayings in hokkein but i translate into chinese, "bie ren qi bu ke qi, ta zai wai mian bei ren da si ye mei you ren hui li." meaning tat if he gets involved wif other pple's wife, he got beaten up outside oso nobody care... I laugh.... -
are u feeling better now.. ?
i read your posts, and i certainly think u made the correct decision to leave him. Take care, cheers and your life will surely brighten up in time to come
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Yes, thks. I am trying to.Originally posted by WiNtEr'SkiLL:are u feeling better now.. ?
i read your posts, and i certainly think u made the correct decision to leave him. Take care, cheers and your life will surely brighten up in time to come 
To tell the truth, i only dare to express myself freely here... scaredy cat right? cuz i will nv tell my frens every single thing.. i dun wan them to worry. They all ve their own life , it's impossible for me to budge them wif emotional problems all the time.
To them i appear to be very strong.. and cool. like as if i can take it easily. Cuz i change very fast.. esp in my dressing, my hairstyle, my size, my lifestyle. I even sign up at one of the fitness club for aerobics and yoga. All these are the things which i only dare to dream last time cuz whenever I tot of the expenses, my heart ache.
Now, i dun care so much but of cuz i ve to set a limit for my expenditure. Wana get some saving plans for myself too. Now all i do is for myself and my family. And i feel tat i can do it!! Nothing is impossible la, i know.. I want to let him noe tat i m not his xiao nu ren anymore. I will carve out my career, bring my parents for oversea trips if i can afford by next yr.
Actually i ve to thank him for treating me lidat. Cuz if not for him, i will nv really open my eyes big and had a well-learnt lesson.
The other day, I told him tat i will nv treat another guy like how i treated him again.. and i will nv take revenge on another person and inflicted hurt on the person.. cuz its unfair. N now i dare not try to step into any r/s .....anymore. -
Sometimes when i m alone... recollecting my past, i felt tat i ve done alot of bad and wrong things other than my current situtation.. Like, commiting suicide, abortion, being the 3rd party, ditching my bf for another guy, chat and meet up wif my ex when i ve a bf, getting into a r/s straight after another, pulling pple hair in sec sch, cursing pple, swearing.., quarrel wif my best buddy when she's trying to correct me from my mistakes...breaking my parents' heart... making my mother cry, smoking... and on the verge of divorce.
Only thing i nv try is taking drugs, stealing things, flirting wif frenz bf, betray my frenz...
Up till now then i really wake up. hope it's not too late. -
i believe not all guys will be as flirtish as him.. there will be good guys around, take your time to pick, and im glad that u are living life to the fullest now ! very motivated, energetic and u have a goal to acheive now,Originally posted by kiekie:Yes, thks. I am trying to.
To tell the truth, i only dare to express myself freely here... scaredy cat right? cuz i will nv tell my frens every single thing.. i dun wan them to worry. They all ve their own life , it's impossible for me to budge them wif emotional problems all the time.
To them i appear to be very strong.. and cool. like as if i can take it easily. Cuz i change very fast.. esp in my dressing, my hairstyle, my size, my lifestyle. I even sign up at one of the fitness club for aerobics and yoga. All these are the things which i only dare to dream last time cuz whenever I tot of the expenses, my heart ache.
Now, i dun care so much but of cuz i ve to set a limit for my expenditure. Wana get some saving plans for myself too. Now all i do is for myself and my family. And i feel tat i can do it!! Nothing is impossible la, i know.. I want to let him noe tat i m not his xiao nu ren anymore. I will carve out my career, bring my parents for oversea trips if i can afford by next yr.
Actually i ve to thank him for treating me lidat. Cuz if not for him, i will nv really open my eyes big and had a well-learnt lesson.
The other day, I told him tat i will nv treat another guy like how i treated him again.. and i will nv take revenge on another person and inflicted hurt on the person.. cuz its unfair. N now i dare not try to step into any r/s .....anymore.
think about the positive side and u'll be just fine
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Late or not late, still got to change right?Originally posted by kiekie:Sometimes when i m alone... recollecting my past, i felt tat i ve done alot of bad and wrong things other than my current situtation.. Like, commiting suicide, abortion, being the 3rd party, ditching my bf for another guy, chat and meet up wif my ex when i ve a bf, getting into a r/s straight after another, pulling pple hair in sec sch, cursing pple, swearing.., quarrel wif my best buddy when she's trying to correct me from my mistakes...breaking my parents' heart... making my mother cry, smoking... and on the verge of divorce.
Only thing i nv try is taking drugs, stealing things, flirting wif frenz bf, betray my frenz...
Up till now then i really wake up. hope it's not too late.