Are fat ppl so undesirable?
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well, sometimes why do you have to pass the PSLE when the govt never state that you have to do that to take the O'levels?? My dear, there's more to r/s than physical attraction. If you can't fit into the mainstream competition of hot babes and voluptuous galz. who cares.. there's this other part of you to show to the people.Originally posted by blueeve:I think being fat is really a disadvantage. I belong to the big sized and plumpie category of gals. And i know own limits. SO i never bother much about those cute, funky, great, yandaos.. watever.. which are always the high appeal to the rest of the gals. Well, coz i know i won't stand any chance.
Thru'out all these years... my clique with guys had always been good. I can be their great pals... their kakiz, their matchmakers, their aunt agony, their problems solver... listener.. bla bla bla except their lover. Well, i kinda noe that if i'm not fat.... i'd long be sought after by alot of guys. Or maybe it's jus becoz of my Destiny's Child's Characteristics.. too much of female ego.
in fact, due to all the bad comments and awful remarks by some immature imbeciles (Guys) when young, I became very unconfident of my looks. Although how much i'm reassureed by my present mates that i look perfectly alright, i still cannot accept their assurances. If got ppl say i pretty.. i take it as insult.. Coz i know i'm not.
So.. fat ppl are desirable.. in many aspects.. coz we have inner beauty bla bla bla... but we never pass the 1st impression looks category. So we always stand a higher chance to flunk the steads' category...
I'm not that good looking too, so I don't really attract girls the same way as other cute guys. I use my maturity of thought and my emotions. It's a longer process to get a girl, but heyz if it's for a long term thing, you're going to see him or I'm going to see her for a sometime, what's the big deal about being long??
Well you can express the other side of your beauty to, and it's just a matter of time, some guys will be attracted to you. =)
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Yeah... this is a good one.. finally i get to hear something that seems to fit into wat i need after raising this issue. Me too has my maturity and wisdom... and this courage and inner strength that no other gals can have... but find that sometimes guys don't go for gals that think high of themselves... I'm something like a feminist.. and i believe a gal can do almost all things that a guy can do. I don't believe such thing as... i need to be protected.. coz i can protect myself... in terms of everything la. And... i feel that a guy don't necessary need to send me home. or be the one paying for the dinner... I got my own pocket money too.. why should i be eating into your pocket money? well... all these... uniqueness are also scareaways... coz i think i'm TOO independent or maybe self centered to ego guys...Originally posted by Bear:well, sometimes why do you have to pass the PSLE when the govt never state that you have to do that to take the O'levels?? My dear, there's more to r/s than physical attraction. If you can't fit into the mainstream competition of hot babes and voluptuous galz. who cares.. there's this other part of you to show to the people.
I'm not that good looking too, so I don't really attract girls the same way as other cute guys. I use my maturity of thought and my emotions. It's a longer process to get a girl, but heyz if it's for a long term thing, you're going to see him or I'm going to see her for a sometime, what's the big deal about being long??
Well you can express the other side of your beauty to, and it's just a matter of time, some guys will be attracted to you. =) -
I respect that.. =) well like out late former President, Mr Ong Teng Chong, wrote about his wife in a news article sometime back. He said that she was an independent girl even when she had nothing when she arrive in Singapore. Whenever they go out they would meet in some simple coffeeshops, and she would pay for her own, because she said something like this to him, "Your parents gave you your allowance for your own use only." It sort of meant that his allowance is for his own use and not his parents never considered her share when they gave it to him. There are people out there who appreciate independent girls. We have an example here with our late former President and the late former First Lady. =)Originally posted by blueeve:Yeah... this is a good one.. finally i get to hear something that seems to fit into wat i need after raising this issue. Me too has my maturity and wisdom... and this courage and inner strength that no other gals can have... but find that sometimes guys don't go for gals that think high of themselves... I'm something like a feminist.. and i believe a gal can do almost all things that a guy can do. I don't believe such thing as... i need to be protected.. coz i can protect myself... in terms of everything la. And... i feel that a guy don't necessary need to send me home. or be the one paying for the dinner... I got my own pocket money too.. why should i be eating into your pocket money? well... all these... uniqueness are also scareaways... coz i think i'm TOO independent or maybe self centered to ego guys...
Anyway, just to tell you.. sometimes, people send girls home is not only because of their safety. It's also because they want to spend more time with this girl... =) been missing out on some opportunities?? hehhe~ and they do it because they care about you. You reject is kind of turning them off, and turning down a chance for them to know you better too.. if you cannot stand it.. do the on-and-off thingy lorz.. Anyway like I say, it's just a personal view... You have your way and will be respected, it's just to tell you something about guys that's all.
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well.. i don't mind being sent home. or rather, i'd love to spend more time with the guy too... but sometimes.. it's kinda like too late, and it's clear that he's tired... and on the journey home.. every yawn or teary eyes from him... will make me feel even bad... depends on situation ma.. if guy too tired.. insist on sending gal home.. like not practical lo.
anyway... bear ah... hope can getta noe you.. forum's kinda slow.. which channel do you hang out? -
Okiez.. you're talking sense there.. =) Really sweet of you to be considerate... =) I do agree that some guys need that break too...Originally posted by blueeve:well.. i don't mind being sent home. or rather, i'd love to spend more time with the guy too... but sometimes.. it's kinda like too late, and it's clear that he's tired... and on the journey home.. every yawn or teary eyes from him... will make me feel even bad... depends on situation ma.. if guy too tired.. insist on sending gal home.. like not practical lo.
anyway... bear ah... hope can getta noe you.. forum's kinda slow.. which channel do you hang out?
anyway I don't IRC... but you still can get me on my ICQ 19569168 or email me at <[email protected]>.. Love to hear from you too.
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Not to throw cold water to fat people.. (just my views.. that's all)
Fat.. looks.. I believe they are about the same thing.. which is appearence.
People might say, inner charms, inner beauty prevail in the end. I strongly agree. Without inner beauty, that person will just be a flower pot with rotten roots. Which will eventually start to stink.
However looks is important too, not as important as inner beauty. But without 'pleasent' looks (not necessary beautiful.. just average looks).. would you even consider getting to know the other half?
If you ask me, looks is like another characteristic. I won't like to be with a stunner who's inside is replusive. On the other hand I wouldn't like to be with an Angel heart who is replusive in the outside.
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skinny or fat, we all die. jus find sumone u can't live w/o (provided she/he feels the same way)
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Ermm, 350 punds is like 160kg and 6'4 is around 2m, so basically her ex looks big and menacing and someone that you won't think about messing with.Originally posted by bigdeal:
350 pounds?!!!?!?! thats a lot sia!!!!! 130 kg like that leh!!!
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I am a fat guy myself, and I understand that being fat allows you to see the prejudice some pple had for fat guys and actually you get to understand pple more and emotions better. I mean if I can't attract pple with looks alone, I can learn other ways to attract pple, like knowing how to carry out a interesting conversation. This is really what makes us stand out from others. Begin fat ain't that bad.Originally posted by Enchantress Selene:I got a couple teddy bears already, but their not very good conversationalists
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To find "Love" is like finding that last
piece of puzzle to fit that void in the
heart, when "Love" has come,
you will feel whole again.
That's something Only Love can do ... ... -
fat.. bring depression to the person who cannot bring themself well ..
even your friends around u will say about your sizes, u may look bubby people like to make u ask friends tell u things.but just some how or rather not a lover i guess.
i consider myself fat lah 100 kg at height 714. but not those fishball type.still manage to find some muscle hahaha..
but still i am not attactive .. people will not approce u to get to know u only after sometimes they see u often and understand your existing.( wonder how come so big still cannot attacts!!) ..
maybe u have to be older and wait for older age group people then u may attracts..
it is the same as the story of thick book and thin book ..
think book always attracts the children to read cause easiler and usually it end early too. too popular.
well the thick book only people at a certain age will prefer to read it and it contain depth for people to discover.. and maybe a thicker book does last longer... if u will willing to read complete it . .but well people does read it half way too..but i guess nowadays there is many ways to groom the book also .. put interesting picture outside to attach so not that bad...
this story of book concept is by me!
hahaha ..
next time those fat people want to know people u just ask.. i am a thick book are u willing to give a chance to read me?
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i mean 174 height.. ! 714!!! hahaha..
anyone interested in knowing me? hahaha.. hey going to free trimming club soon .. know as saf. member of ns..
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Pride, Envy, Gluttony, Lust, Anger, Greed, Sloth
Faith, Hope, Charity, Fortitude, Justice, Temperance, Prudence