why do you both talk about relationships if you know you will both end up in arguments??Originally posted by Mr Normal:My gf Christian and myself Buddhist/free thinker. If religion not involved, we love each other very much. But everytime we talk about it, it always ends up very sour, sometimes resulting in possible break-ups.
Listen to me and believe that not all Christians the same loh. She did not force me to believe in God or go to church. Whatever questions I have, she will just be patient enough to listen and answer them. If we agree, good thing. If we don't, argument again.
Now I nearly have all my questions answered except this one "Why do bad things happen to good people?" I been dealt a big blow in life and it nearly took away my life. But I am not a bad person, I do not smoke, drink, stray or do any other bad stuff. Then now the argument became so serious, that despite our love for each other, a break seems inevitable. She will not accept relationship of different religion. She had only started because I was open-minded to it.
Sigh...she is really a very nice girl. One that is not materialistic, understanding and patient. Now because of something out of this world, I gg to lose her. Is this right?
Anybody got this problem before? How you solve?
I don't really ask "why bad things happen to good people" all the time. After my past, I have cherished and worshipped life more than ever. But it turns out that I am more "free" than "faith".Originally posted by drx:"Why bad things happen to good people"
To help people treasure what they have.
Imagine a guy who have everything and he grows lazy and becomes fat and orders people around like slaves. Then one day something happens he lost his money then he learnt how to be humble.
Bad things happen to remind everyone that you must learn to treasure what you have. Without it no one will treasure anyone or anything cos they will believe that they will always be so lucky to have others by their side anytime they need.
FOr your religion case with your gf, sadly to say your girlfriend has made a choice, either you change your religion to suit hers or get out. Now is up to you, she has made it very clear. The decision lies with you .
Sorry, I have to disgree with you on the last part. No way I will pretend to convert. Think of it this way, you can pretend for a short while, days...weeks...even years. But eventually, it will not work out.Originally posted by hisoka:obviously she doesn't love you enuff simple as that.
she believe the book/preist more than her love for you, give it up i guess? or you can pretend to convert if you want
thats why i said if you want to...Originally posted by Mr Normal:Sorry, I have to disgree with you on the last part. No way I will pretend to convert. Think of it this way, you can pretend for a short while, days...weeks...even years. But eventually, it will not work out.
Christians believe in couples to have the same faith, so that they can be together even after death. Not only that, if they think the same, then their path will be layed out by "higher power" and both can get through this no matter how hard the situation gets.Originally posted by nightzip:wonder whats the rationale for christians to have couples having both same religion?
also seems like these christian gals are "brain-washed" by the church like that...
and can never compromise...like God is everything...everything good must attribute to him...blah blah....![]()
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Perhaps being free will be difficult if we become too religious. I just cannot imagine not having the free-will to love without being judged by higher power up there.Originally posted by Fatum:in anycase i know my parents will never have any problem with anyone that i bring home ... as long as it's a female of the species Homo sapiens ... i must say the greatest gift my parents have ever given me is the gift of being irreligious .... i don't subscribe to any dogma and therefore my mind is free, free to see the world as it is and to love each and every human being as a true egalitarian ... and i can rely on my own humanity to guide me through life ....
What if u are planning to get married and disagree on this issue?Originally posted by stellazio:I don't mind leh and my parents wouldn't mind either..Somemore bf/gf nia..Not say marriage..![]()
browniebaobao, what bad experience you have with chrisitianity before? Can share?Originally posted by browniebaobao:I dinoe that having a christian gf/bf can be a problem if u are not a christian until my christian fren told me her views.
She said that it's best if Christian marry christian.. or the non-christian convert to be a christian... coz she wana walk down the aisle, wana see her other half in heaven.
I cannot comment on that coz I'm not a christian. Even my buddy say if I ever have a christian bf, she will ask him to preach me. So deep in my mind, I dun think I will ever find a christian bf. I cannot accept christianity because I had bad experience before. But I dun discriminate christians. Just that I dun wana get involved with christianity.