Anger management.
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Anyone knows where to get professional help for managing anger? I seem to be losing my temper more frequently and violently. I can feel some aggresion simmering in me even when I'm not really angry with anyone. Theres a urge to lash out to hurt or destroy. I can look at anyone and just imagine what its be like to bash their head or rip their body apart. And I actually get a pleasent feeling when I have such thoughts.
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Try aromatherapy classes? Perhaps you're stressed out, & thus, highly strung. Aromatherapy classes teach you to use lavender oils to relax you, etc. Or you can look up meditation classes?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by pete98:Anyone knows where to get professional help for managing anger? I seem to be losing my temper more frequently and violently. I can feel some aggresion simmering in me even when I'm not really angry with anyone. Theres a urge to lash out to hurt or destroy. I can look at anyone and just imagine what its be like to bash their head or rip their body apart. And I actually get a pleasent feeling when I have such thoughts. -
Are you an Aries or Scorpio?Originally posted by pete98:Anyone knows where to get professional help for managing anger? I seem to be losing my temper more frequently and violently. I can feel some aggresion simmering in me even when I'm not really angry with anyone. Theres a urge to lash out to hurt or destroy. I can look at anyone and just imagine what its be like to bash their head or rip their body apart. And I actually get a pleasent feeling when I have such thoughts.
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maybe u want to analyse a bit wat contributed to your anger??
tiredness due to insufficient sleep??? vit b complex can help
some problems?? --- pour them out....
i had been searching for an answer to your question too (for myself)....and i more or less now realise the cause...so i am now trying to nip at the bud....
back then, i was lucky to hv friends and mum to pour my 'sorrow' during the time i had my maid and some other matter during that period....else i think i would be one of those who go round chopping heads off....
touch wood.....
those periods, i find myself always have the tendency to bite hard at my teeth...so hard i wory my teeth would break....while i tried very hard to control my temper.....
do a check to see if there are things bothering u and why? otherwise it would be a 'upslope' effort to only learning to manage your anger and not solve it at the source.....
that's my own point of view lah of course..... -
If he was either one, he is an Aries...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Are you an Aries or Scorpio?
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How long have this been going on....?Originally posted by pete98:Anyone knows where to get professional help for managing anger? I seem to be losing my temper more frequently and violently. I can feel some aggresion simmering in me even when I'm not really angry with anyone. Theres a urge to lash out to hurt or destroy. I can look at anyone and just imagine what its be like to bash their head or rip their body apart. And I actually get a pleasent feeling when I have such thoughts.
Perhaps you really should be seeing a doctor...? -
Yoz pete. We share the same fate. i, too at times feel exactly the same way as you do.Originally posted by pete98:Anyone knows where to get professional help for managing anger? I seem to be losing my temper more frequently and violently. I can feel some aggresion simmering in me even when I'm not really angry with anyone. Theres a urge to lash out to hurt or destroy. I can look at anyone and just imagine what its be like to bash their head or rip their body apart. And I actually get a pleasent feeling when I have such thoughts.
And at times, my poor wifey has got tolerate with all the crap that i put with.
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Aries will like that wan ar?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Are you an Aries or Scorpio?
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I'm Aries... And I admit I did have those thoughts. but not like ripping apart etc so violent.. I'm scared of bloody scenes.
and I wun feel happy after that, might even feel guilty to have such evil thoughts. -
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Maybe u can think about the reasons why u've been feeling this way. Have u been under alot of pressure at ur workplace/ school? -
I have a problem with my sense of smell. I don't think aromatherapy works well on me.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Try aromatherapy classes? Perhaps you're stressed out, & thus, highly strung. Aromatherapy classes teach you to use lavender oils to relax you, etc. Or you can look up meditation classes?
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Virgo.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Are you an Aries or Scorpio?
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stickdeath anger management
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Hmmm now that you mention it, my prob could be becos I have no 1 to pour my sorrow or frustration to. I can't speak to my family(tends to overreact) and I am more or less a loner(not much friends). Guess I just want a neutral party to talk to. I am more of a live and let live mentality but people around me seem to want me to conform to their idealogy. I have no direction in life and even as I'm writing this post I am feeling irritated.Originally posted by a_splash:maybe u want to analyse a bit wat contributed to your anger??
tiredness due to insufficient sleep??? vit b complex can help
some problems?? --- pour them out....
i had been searching for an answer to your question too (for myself)....and i more or less now realise the cause...so i am now trying to nip at the bud....
back then, i was lucky to hv friends and mum to pour my 'sorrow' during the time i had my maid and some other matter during that period....else i think i would be one of those who go round chopping heads off.... touch wood.....
those periods, i find myself always have the tendency to bite hard at my teeth...so hard i wory my teeth would break....while i tried very hard to control my temper.....
do a check to see if there are things bothering u and why? otherwise it would be a 'upslope' effort to only learning to manage your anger and not solve it at the source.....
that's my own point of view lah of course..... -
Not sure but I guess its been around for sometime cos I been losing my temper suddenly and act violently since sec school, NS and even threw a fork at my sis and canned food at my brother once(he kick my dog on purpose). I'm not too sure what trigger my temper, seem like its just a thin line between my normally mild nature and my violent temper sometimes.Originally posted by Devil1976:How long have this been going on....?
Perhaps you really should be seeing a doctor...? -
Actually everytime I acted violently I feel guilty too. Hmmm maybe too much hollywood but I have no prob with blood, guts and etc.Originally posted by browniebaobao:Aries will like that wan ar?
I'm Aries... And I admit I did have those thoughts. but not like ripping apart etc so violent.. I'm scared of bloody scenes.
and I wun feel happy after that, might even feel guilty to have such evil thoughts. -
Go read
http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html
Anger is just an emotion. But your actions due to it is another matter. -
well u might want to try to share them here....u can find many who are keen to help and can give pretty good advice....Originally posted by pete98:Hmmm now that you mention it, my prob could be becos I have no 1 to pour my sorrow or frustration to. I can't speak to my family(tends to overreact) and I am more or less a loner(not much friends). Guess I just want a neutral party to talk to. I am more of a live and let live mentality but people around me seem to want me to conform to their idealogy. I have no direction in life and even as I'm writing this post I am feeling irritated.
even if u don't, its still good to pour them out.....
how about creating a blog....
do not keep them in you.....once u can't suppress any longer u will explode!...
well it could be the 'demand' of the ppl around u which frustrates u cos they 'standards' is not yours...and worst at times things that we do which we find fine is 'all wrong' to them....and that makes us extremely frustrate...yes...sometimes i get so fedup..its either i shutup and not tok about it anymore or
if i were to open my big mouth...it will spoil the relation, cos only harsh and anger stuff will be out of my mouth....i am not the kind who can handle things very diplomatically esp when i am angry....
during that period when i used to 'bite teeth hard', i even jokingly ask my colleague 'anyone want to offer to let me bite?' (deep inside me actually do wish someone can let me bite them) -
ho ho ho...shig my friend.....y like that....Originally posted by Shigemichi Take:Yoz pete. We share the same fate. i, too at times feel exactly the same way as you do.
And at times, my poor wifey has got tolerate with all the crap that i put with.
u should be bearing with yr poor wify's pregnancy symtoms...and yet u are letting her bear with yours?? uhh uhh
well shig....do find out the source of your anger and overcome them k....
when your baby is out...there will be more stress...tho baby is cute and lovely....life will never be the same again....and u can only enjoy your child if u know how to overcome your anger.....
share here shig....or u may write them to me.....
and that will make u my third 'patient' kidding -
What Has That to got to do with Anger Management ?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Are you an Aries or Scorpio?
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Personally I'm Aries, and Anger comes to me and goes like the wind.
IF you have anger management, its good to find something to exert it on.
Not work or anything harmful. Maybe... Do Some thing you like.
Listen to songs... OR even Think of why you are angry about. Reason yourself to calmness... Wait i don even know what i'm talking about. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:Aries will like that wan ar?
I'm Aries... And I admit I did have those thoughts. but not like ripping apart etc so violent.. I'm scared of bloody scenes.
and I wun feel happy after that, might even feel guilty to have such evil thoughts.Originally posted by Sekundes:What Has That to got to do with Anger Management ?
Personally I'm Aries, and Anger comes to me and goes like the wind.
IF you have anger management, its good to find something to exert it on.
Not work or anything harmful. Maybe... Do Some thing you like.
Listen to songs... OR even Think of why you are angry about. Reason yourself to calmness... Wait i don even know what i'm talking about.
Relax... just a question nia... bi wu yi si. 
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Originally posted by pete98:Virgo. Is your anger outwardly demonstrated or is it more like your inner thoughts and everything exist merely in your mind? Like thinking about all these killing and violence inside you?
Do you demonstrate any form of violence on your gf (or people you love) before?
Violence categorised in:
I) Physical abuse (Have you ever hit her for any reasons)
II) Verbal abuse (Destroy her self esteem through strings of curses and such)
III) Emotional abuse (Emotional blackmail her through use of self pity, etc)
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Originally posted by pete98:Anyone knows where to get professional help for managing anger? I seem to be losing my temper more frequently and violently. I can feel some aggresion simmering in me even when I'm not really angry with anyone. Theres a urge to lash out to hurt or destroy. I can look at anyone and just imagine what its be like to bash their head or rip their body apart. And I actually get a pleasent feeling when I have such thoughts.
I only got such urge to hit when I am damn angry, at least it happen rarely.
U must have either play too much doom or GTA
Trying counting to 100 when u have such thoughts or when u lose yr temper.
It helps and it is better than to regret what u have done later. -
wahlew bu yao 'jiang' xia ren mah~Originally posted by Yunhaier: Relax... just a question nia... bi wu yi si.
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the next time you feel your anger/frustrations building up....
Turn away.... take a deep breath, and very slowly count to ten... when you feel calm again... then continue your conversation of date or.... etc.... -
go play arcade. its good.