Relationship......should i or should i not?
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This girl has admired me for a long time & we work at the same area. Last month she made her move and asked for my hp no. I'm single and not getting any younger so what the hell......Just give a try. I gave her my no. and we went out the next day. Before going on the date, i told her that we are going out as frenz.
She is very beautiful, nice figure and outgoing personality. I really enjoyed our time together. She mentioned couple of times that she really likes me. The problem is that i'm looking for a long term realtionship with someone that i will settle down with.
This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls.
My biggest concern is her background, she comes from a broken home, lower secondary education and family problems. If i get into a serious relationship with this girl means that her problems will be my problems.
The thing is i like her but this is holding me back. I feel guilty every time she says "i like u". I have not been treating her good lately.
I told her that we should just be frens but i really like spending time with her. Now i'm confused...should i or should i not? -
Hello Young Stallion...its nice to see you againOriginally posted by Young Stallion:This girl has admired me for a long time & we work at the same area. Last month she made her move and asked for my hp no. I'm single and not getting any younger so what the hell......Just give a try. I gave her my no. and we went out the next day. Before going on the date, i told her that we are going out as frenz.
She is very beautiful, nice figure and outgoing personality. I really enjoyed our time together. She mentioned couple of times that she really likes me. The problem is that i'm looking for a long term realtionship with someone that i will settle down with.
This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls.
My biggest concern is her background, she comes from a broken home, lower secondary education and family problems. If i get into a serious relationship with this girl means that her problems will be my problems.
The thing is i like her but this is holding me back. I feel guilty every time she says "i like u". I have not been treating her good lately.
I told her that we should just be frens but i really like spending time with her. Now i'm confused...should i or should i not?
Ok...she likes you right? its nice to be liked 
Everyone likes to be liked...in fact,everyone has a right to like another
But you pointed out that you are looking for a long term r/s which allow u to settle down...so dun be so fast to make your choice...
If she really likes you, get a time where both of you can sit down and talk....tell her about her good points and bad points and ask that she can change for your sake...of course you can't expect a person to be flawless...maybe less bad traits
If you really like her, you should accept her for who she is and help her with her problems
Cheers
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Wow so lucky at least there is someone who likes and appreciates ya.
Not lyk me
Anyway I believe that if she really lyks ya it won't be too difficult for her to quit clubbing rite? Clubbing is jus a phase most young ppl go thru... It'll pass...
Smoking abit more difficult to quit so you probably gotta accept her as she is...
Why not get to noe each other better first? -
wow she is really brave to ask for your number! A round of applause for her. I think most importantly is do you like her? If you dun like her then dun think about it. You are saying that she may not be what you want in a girl. Do you 2 communicate well?Originally posted by Young Stallion:This girl has admired me for a long time & we work at the same area. Last month she made her move and asked for my hp no. I'm single and not getting any younger so what the hell......Just give a try. I gave her my no. and we went out the next day. Before going on the date, i told her that we are going out as frenz.
She is very beautiful, nice figure and outgoing personality. I really enjoyed our time together. She mentioned couple of times that she really likes me. The problem is that i'm looking for a long term realtionship with someone that i will settle down with.
This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls.
My biggest concern is her background, she comes from a broken home, lower secondary education and family problems. If i get into a serious relationship with this girl means that her problems will be my problems.
The thing is i like her but this is holding me back. I feel guilty every time she says "i like u". I have not been treating her good lately.
I told her that we should just be frens but i really like spending time with her. Now i'm confused...should i or should i not?
and wow sounds like she is a pretty babe also. but you mind alot about her smokes, clubbing? family background and education level meant alot to you? you gotta think about it man, being with someone mean you have to like her bad point first. if you are only liking her good point for e.g good figure and her pretty face then better not. Infatuation dies after a while. As you said you are not getting any younger, its better to think properly whether is she the type of girl for you. -
Originally posted by Young Stallion:This girl has admired me for a long time & we work at the same area. Last month she made her move and asked for my hp no. I'm single and not getting any younger so what the hell......Just give a try. I gave her my no. and we went out the next day. Before going on the date, i told her that we are going out as frenz.
She is very beautiful, nice figure and outgoing personality. I really enjoyed our time together. She mentioned couple of times that she really likes me. The problem is that i'm looking for a long term realtionship with someone that i will settle down with.
This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls.
My biggest concern is her background, she comes from a broken home, lower secondary education and family problems. If i get into a serious relationship with this girl means that her problems will be my problems.
The thing is i like her but this is holding me back. I feel guilty every time she says "i like u". I have not been treating her good lately.
I told her that we should just be frens but i really like spending time with her. Now i'm confused...should i or should i not? Too much Mercury is at work; you think into a relationship. I am not saying that such consideration shouldn't be taken into account, rather, when you start telling yourself that age is catching up on you and probably should begin some kind of relationship, it is but society's influence AND biological pressure on you to began a BGR in order to start a family. Not exactly that of Love.
We all Love from different degree: how much self actualization you would gain from your relationship depends on which angle you desire to look at and attain. In simple tongue, you WOULDN'T mind trying her out, but is Love really involved? You probably need to do a little self discovery here - you begin to reciprocate remarks that you may not really mean it (or as much): e.g. I like you. Such self dishonesty and delusion will definite add volumes to your confusion and spew more issues as time goes by.
In fact, you are confused because you wonder if you should try her or not - not exactly whether you Love her or not. Like you have questioned yourself: are we merely friends material or is it possible to bring that level higher? IMHO, if a someone don't really fit into the critical frame of your what you want, chances are without substantial Love, it could be karmic relationship.
Companionship or Relationship? You could do a little more inner searching here.
Cheers -
karmic relationship? wats that?
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Well, then show your true colours then.
Tell her what you are looking for in the relationship you want.
Honesty is the best policy.
I'm not saying that you should get into the relationship.
Even if you are, I'm not suggesting you "dump" her just because she "mismatch" your requirements. I suggest you try and change her if you like her too. -
enjoying her presense doesnt signify love. you're probably just lonely and se comes along and entertains your need for companionship. if that is the case, do you think it is wise to get into a serious r/s with her?? think about what you really want dude.
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if she is not for you (as in character) then its not for you. its fate you see... you will be someone better. try to tell her that you dont like her. the earlier the better. see how it goes. if she really loves you she will quit smoking and all those stuff JUST FOR YOUOriginally posted by Young Stallion:This girl has admired me for a long time & we work at the same area. Last month she made her move and asked for my hp no. I'm single and not getting any younger so what the hell......Just give a try. I gave her my no. and we went out the next day. Before going on the date, i told her that we are going out as frenz.
She is very beautiful, nice figure and outgoing personality. I really enjoyed our time together. She mentioned couple of times that she really likes me. The problem is that i'm looking for a long term realtionship with someone that i will settle down with.
This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls.
My biggest concern is her background, she comes from a broken home, lower secondary education and family problems. If i get into a serious relationship with this girl means that her problems will be my problems.
The thing is i like her but this is holding me back. I feel guilty every time she says "i like u". I have not been treating her good lately.
I told her that we should just be frens but i really like spending time with her. Now i'm confused...should i or should i not? -
hmm clubbing ppl does not mean tat they are bad ppl. gals tat smoke does not means they r bad gals. i used to think tat gals tat smoke are ah lians, bad gals but when i look ard my colleagues, they are all smoking but they aint bad ppl aso, in fact they are nice ppl. i change my opinions abt gals tat smoke after tat.
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what caused them to start smoking then? being too guai then stress then smoke?Originally posted by RaTtY81:hmm clubbing ppl does not mean tat they are bad ppl. gals tat smoke does not means they r bad gals. i used to think tat gals tat smoke are ah lians, bad gals but when i look ard my colleagues, they are all smoking but they aint bad ppl aso, in fact they are nice ppl. i change my opinions abt gals tat smoke after tat. -
This girl has taken her courage to tell you that she like you and has taken the initative to ask for your number and ask you out. That is the first sign that she likes you be it for real or not..Originally posted by Young Stallion:This girl has admired me for a long time & we work at the same area. Last month she made her move and asked for my hp no. I'm single and not getting any younger so what the hell......Just give a try. I gave her my no. and we went out the next day. Before going on the date, i told her that we are going out as frenz.
She is very beautiful, nice figure and outgoing personality. I really enjoyed our time together. She mentioned couple of times that she really likes me. The problem is that i'm looking for a long term realtionship with someone that i will settle down with.
This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls.
My biggest concern is her background, she comes from a broken home, lower secondary education and family problems. If i get into a serious relationship with this girl means that her problems will be my problems.
The thing is i like her but this is holding me back. I feel guilty every time she says "i like u". I have not been treating her good lately.
I told her that we should just be frens but i really like spending time with her. Now i'm confused...should i or should i not?
The next step is on you.. YOu mentioned that she comes from a broken family and such.. Is that the main concern for you or are the problems that you are required to handle a problem to you?
If you think that she can be the one for you for life.. than I suggest that both of you talk things through before you 2 start the relationship.
You can tell her in an indirect way that you are not a person who likes clubbing and smoking and such.. If she gets what your hint is.. and if she really likes you and willing to change for you.. She will..
Than again.. You cannot force her to do something which can't be changed over night.. Give her time to think of what you say.. In the meantime while she is thinking.. give her the encouragement and motivations.
She may wanna change but just need that special someone or that special encouragement.. Who knows you are that person..
Good luck dude -
If you are not comfortable with the kind of person that she is ...
What's the point of forcing yourself and wasting her time.
If you expect changes, perhaps she expect you to change to like her clubbing.
R/s is between you two and your future, not her past. You gotta know if she's let go of her past and she's just doing it for fun or the exact reason.
Find out more if you wish but if you do want to be with her. Do it with all your heart... Now you half hearted.. I betcha you will regret in the long run if you do not choose properly ... -
tats not the main pt wat i wanna say. smoke doesnt means bad gal rite. once bad gal, forever bad gal meh...Originally posted by leon_lai89:what caused them to start smoking then? being too guai then stress then smoke? -
Listen to your heart, your feelings. Do you have any feelings for her? Deep feelings? Or just friendly feelings? Don't think of a relationship so fast. You two should know each other better, but don't make her false hopes. Go out with her more times but don't make her false hopes. The time shows. Maybe you discover your feelings, maybe there will be no more feelings then nice friendship. Tell her you need time to find out if you have any feelings for her but prepare her for the possibility that there will be no more then friendship.
If you really have love feelings for her, then don't think about her past background. Don't mix the feelings with the mind. Tell her what you don't like about her and ask her if she can stop to smoke or other things you don't like. You can't change a person, you only can change some of the person's sides. But don't force a change. Never force anybody to change.
Forget about the ratio and listen to your heart and inner voice. -
Clubbing and smoking,worse more from a broken family???
U can forget abt her having a long term realtionship with her or even wife..
If play,play still can lah! This type of gal is v problematic. As someone say,unless she is willing to give up her clubbing and smoking.No way she is suitable for u this conservative and homely type man! -
Should you or should you not what?Originally posted by Young Stallion:This girl has admired me for a long time & we work at the same area. Last month she made her move and asked for my hp no. I'm single and not getting any younger so what the hell......Just give a try. I gave her my no. and we went out the next day. Before going on the date, i told her that we are going out as frenz.
She is very beautiful, nice figure and outgoing personality. I really enjoyed our time together. She mentioned couple of times that she really likes me. The problem is that i'm looking for a long term realtionship with someone that i will settle down with.
This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls.
My biggest concern is her background, she comes from a broken home, lower secondary education and family problems. If i get into a serious relationship with this girl means that her problems will be my problems.
The thing is i like her but this is holding me back. I feel guilty every time she says "i like u". I have not been treating her good lately.
I told her that we should just be frens but i really like spending time with her. Now i'm confused...should i or should i not?
Well.. Like you've said... Since you're for LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP... Nothing seems to fit in much here..? -
Probarly you should give her a chance and ask her to stop smoking and clubbing advise her and if it work then maybe shre really treat you very seriously.Or shall I say You Should Make Your Own Decision Than asking Some Strangers In forum For Advise ? Cause Some PpLe cAn tAlk Crapz And Affect Your Decision.MAKE YOUR OWN DECISION AND THAT FINAL =X
And I don't think you really love her as you mind about her background. -
this is the expected answer from a arsehole..Originally posted by CannyOng:Clubbing and smoking,worse more from a broken family???
U can forget abt her having a long term realtionship with her or even wife..
If play,play still can lah! This type of gal is v problematic. As someone say,unless she is willing to give up her clubbing and smoking.No way she is suitable for u this conservative and homely type man! -
only idiot do that play with girls.Originally posted by CannyOng:Clubbing and smoking,worse more from a broken family???
U can forget abt her having a long term realtionship with her or even wife..
If play,play still can lah! This type of gal is v problematic. As someone say,unless she is willing to give up her clubbing and smoking.No way she is suitable for u this conservative and homely type man! -
This will definitely make things very painful for you... trust me...Originally posted by Young Stallion:This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls. -
Just go for it. What have u got to lose?
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where is Young Stallion?
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U like her but do u love her?Originally posted by Young Stallion:This girl has admired me for a long time & we work at the same area. Last month she made her move and asked for my hp no. I'm single and not getting any younger so what the hell......Just give a try. I gave her my no. and we went out the next day. Before going on the date, i told her that we are going out as frenz.
She is very beautiful, nice figure and outgoing personality. I really enjoyed our time together. She mentioned couple of times that she really likes me. The problem is that i'm looking for a long term realtionship with someone that i will settle down with.
This girl is the total opposite of me. She likes clubbing, she smokes, shes outspoken and she not shy. As for me i'm the outdoor type, hate crowded places, conservative and reserved. Actually i'm looking for those decent and homely type of girls.
My biggest concern is her background, she comes from a broken home, lower secondary education and family problems. If i get into a serious relationship with this girl means that her problems will be my problems.
The thing is i like her but this is holding me back. I feel guilty every time she says "i like u". I have not been treating her good lately.
I told her that we should just be frens but i really like spending time with her. Now i'm confused...should i or should i not?
If u love her for who she is, then u will be able to accept her.
It seem like u just want the gd side of things n leave the bad side or problems to another person.
if u want the rainbow, u must endure the rain first.
U need to think about whether both of u be better off as friends or lovers? -
Haven't made up my mind yet....we are still frenz. I want to get to know her better than rather to rush into things. I know she a bit upset.... because all she did was to be kind to me and was not able to return the gesture.
We went on a second outing together and she gave me a kiss on the cheek when i sent her back home. I was really suprised.
I think , i will take it slow for now & when she asks for my decision, i hope i'll make the right choice.
Thanks to all the bros & sis for their advice & guidance(^_^).