Friendship vs Love
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Originally posted by drx:"NEVER NEVER pester a girl, u deserve that slap.
She will only find u super irritating and get pissed off."
err deathscythe99 i think she is refering to me not u..
browniebaobao thks for your comments.. yeah i know I deserve the slap...
I was shock when I look back.. yeah i was young and foolish then...
wei wei that was referring to u.
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Pester as in keep sticking to her, call her intimately like 'dear, darling, wifey' etc. Sounds like croco?Originally posted by deathscythe99:I wonder...what u mean by PESTER.
I just wanted to tell her that I have feelings for her, but there's no need for an answer from her.... You shi mei shi look/call her up. To the extent of la la che che... mao shou mao jiao hor, he really deserves a slap. -
Ehm....that I know la.Originally posted by browniebaobao:Pester as in keep sticking to her, call her intimately like 'dear, darling, wifey' etc. Sounds like croco? You shi mei shi look/call her up. To the extent of la la che che... mao shou mao jiao hor, he really deserves a slap.
Wanna say just say lor.
Dun liddat, lady like u also will become dun like u de -
I met such men before lor, but I din slap them la.Originally posted by deathscythe99:Ehm....that I know la.
Wanna say just say lor.
Dun liddat, lady like u also will become dun like u de
Got a scolding from me nia. -
Ah...kenna slapped by girl...heart pain de worOriginally posted by browniebaobao:I met such men before lor, but I din slap them la.
Got a scolding from me nia. -
u better not try
cos i still remember the day....
kena slap liao in public then got so many people looking at me.... -
SHIT like this HAPPENS...Originally posted by deathscythe99:I've thought about it...together with the replies above....thanks all
Hmm, I think I'll just keep it down and be there for her now. Either way, letting her know is just lose-lose. I won't stand to gain anything, just hoping the best response from her (which I dun need her to do anything, so there's no need to do anything RIGHT?)
I guess, I'll see how it goes. I'm still helping her with her r/s...which is weird...right?
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/pats patsOriginally posted by deathscythe99:Yea...
kor dun be sad le lah. u dun wanna help her in her r/s then just politely excuse yourself loh. i think u shouldnt be involved loh. if her r/s got prob then it will be your fault you know. she might think u purposely break them up so u could have her to yourself you know...
just tell her, "erm, i'm sorry, but i really dont think i am in the position to advice you on this... at most i can listen to you only. if u need advice, ask your girl friends can??" and then pat her on the back...
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Maybe it's not like I want or dun wan...Originally posted by starblue:/pats pats
kor dun be sad le lah. u dun wanna help her in her r/s then just politely excuse yourself loh. i think u shouldnt be involved loh. if her r/s got prob then it will be your fault you know. she might think u purposely break them up so u could have her to yourself you know...
just tell her, "erm, i'm sorry, but i really dont think i am in the position to advice you on this... at most i can listen to you only. if u need advice, ask your girl friends can??" and then pat her on the back...
It's more like...I felt that I should be there for my friends, whether those I like or not, whether it 'helps' me or not....
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Already in shit.Originally posted by Devil1976:SHIT like this HAPPENS... " -
deathscythe99 I think you know what u should do...
just try not to think so much... -
Already thought what I should do...Originally posted by drx:deathscythe99 I think you know what u should do...
just try not to think so much...
Just thought that I should seek some advice here, see what the GIRLS and GUYS have to say.
Apparently, both say different things
So that's why...I'm confused mah....
But now....I realise what I should do, after consulting the options... -
Seek not only 'love', but a way which would make BOTH you and the others HAPPY...Originally posted by deathscythe99:Already thought what I should do...
Just thought that I should seek some advice here, see what the GIRLS and GUYS have to say.
Apparently, both say different things
So that's why...I'm confused mah....
But now....I realise what I should do, after consulting the options... -
That's the 'best' resultOriginally posted by Devil1976:Seek not only 'love', but a way which would make BOTH you and the others HAPPY...
But...one side will always end up losing.
Trying to hide my feelings of her, will end up only make me more depressed. U just wished that you knew her earlier... -
Just don't tell her. Be her true friend from now on.Originally posted by deathscythe99:That's the 'best' result
But...one side will always end up losing.
Trying to hide my feelings of her, will end up only make me more depressed. U just wished that you knew her earlier...
Just be there for her and aid her.
If you really wanna tell her, let not it be so soon.
It should be after her relationship has cool down(no more probs)
or should be after they have broken up for quite a time,
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Fear leads to procrastination. Procrastination is the mother of all screw-ups.Originally posted by deathscythe99:Friendship: You would try your best to do things for the person.
Love: It's when you would do things for the person, even if it's out of the way, or you didn't feel like doing.
Sometimes, friendship, lust and love are just but having grey areas surrounding them, like a haze. There's no exact definition, and each case is different from the other.
I've developed a liking for a girl, but due to certain factors, I am still unsure what to do. Should the truth be said? Or should the truth be hidden? Sometimes, if the truth is said, cruelty would be unwillingly exercised. Either to the initiator or the initiated.
And all the more, it blurs the lines of friendship. Would there still be friendship after that?
Is honesty to a person good? Or should I wait it out to see what happens? Care, concern, sincerity.
What we dunno cant hurt us. What we know we may use it to hurt ourselves. But delusion will only continue to slowly cut us... Hope is a powerful thing - in both ways it can bleed.
True?
Sorry, but this post is a little hay-wired
You can be a friend but that is not what you want, why not face your fears in the eye and be true to yourself?
You fear that the friendship will be affected if you tell her? But who cares about friendship now? At this point of time, you only want her as a lover...get that straight in your head.
If you are going to stay around and be a nice guy and a "true friend"...you will end up listening to all the juicy stories about her girly love adventures...
"Hi Deathscythe, I must tell you something that happened today...(insert irritating smile from her)... I met a cute guy today, I think he's soooo hot....(insert more annoying girlish giggles from her) I wonder if he likes me...I wonder if he noticed me?...blah blah blah"
There you have it...thats what you can expect if you try to stay as a good friend against your will. Your right hand becomes your best friend...
So ask yourself now...do you prefer to procratinate further or do you prefer to be true to your feelings?
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You'll only have 'something to loose' if you BELIEVE you have 'something to loose'...?Originally posted by deathscythe99:That's the 'best' result
But...one side will always end up losing.
Trying to hide my feelings of her, will end up only make me more depressed. U just wished that you knew her earlier... If you've never even got her in the 1st place, how can you possibly 'loose'? It's not just about hiding of feelings...? If you REALLY LOVE her... Why can't you just keep up with whatever you're doing for her now instead of just wanting her in your possession...? Don't ya think having your feelings exposed to her might just bring in more complication which might result in her having more trouble...?
If both of you are really meant to be, her relationship probably would still end eventually and you might then consider more when it's more 'appropriate'...?
Else, if you think that all this 'helping' is really making you MISERABLE.. Just try a 'disappear act' and avoid her...? Or make a 'confession' and vanish into thin air...? -
Take things in yr stride lah.
U only know her for 2 mths, which is not long, do u really understand her?
Just be there to support her as a friend.
if she break off cleanly with her bf then maybe u got a chance but try not be a 3rd party.
if she can leave her bf for u, she might leave u for another guy.
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Unless during the 2 months you have known her, the 2 of you had performed the following (or something along the line) together:
1)Robbed a bank together
2)Got trapped in a deserted island together and have to fight for survival
Then I can safely conclude that “real or true love” DOES NOT exist at this point. After 2 months, you have high interest level or attraction for her and want to explore the possibilities above anything else.
I despise the fact that people always throw in terms like “Real Love” or “True Love” to give them an excuse for not doing anything constructive at the beginning of a courtship:
“If you really love her (yes you heard me correctly. True love after knowing her for just 2 months), you should let her go so that you will not hurt her”
Translation : That kind of speech is for drama queens who think too highly of himself. As if the end of a 2 month old friendship is going to hurt both parties so much that she is going to commit suicide over it.
“If you really love her (again…true love after knowing her for 2 months), you don’t seek to possess her”
Translation : Saying something like that when you have known her for only 2 months makes you a package dealÂ…hypocrite (who hides his masculinity) + Drama queen who is in self denial; I have no balls to approach but I can convince myself that IÂ’m some love god who knows what true love isÂ…others donÂ’tÂ…so I still win!
DonÂ’t fall into the trap of being a drama queen.
DonÂ’t drag true love into the picture when you are talking about a 2 month old relationship.
Just be true to what you want at this point. -
I din really say I had 'true love' but....I get the point curiousOrange....
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You misunderstood. That post was not for you, it's dedicated to relationship gurus who thinks true love can solve everything.Originally posted by deathscythe99:I din really say I had 'true love' but....I get the point curiousOrange....
I think you handle it well at this point. but just dont procratinate further and tell her.
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Thanks a lotOriginally posted by curiousOrange:You misunderstood. That post was not for you, it's dedicated to relationship gurus who thinks true love can solve everything.
I think you handle it well at this point. but just dont procratinate further and tell her.
good luck
It's just that I wanted to ask people here what they think of the approach I should use.
The only doubt now, is when to tell.
You just know that, there's only one chance to do so -
Smart ladOriginally posted by deathscythe99:The only doubt now, is when to tell.
You just know that, there's only one chance to do so
I'm pleased you found courage to do it.
Don't "dis" her current boyfriend while you are at it though.
Do a neat and clean sliding tackle. -
What you mean?Originally posted by curiousOrange:Smart lad
I'm pleased you found courage to do it.
Don't "dis" her current boyfriend while you are at it though.
Do a neat and clean sliding tackle. -
ohhh.. stfu