Friendship vs Love
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Deathscythe99..Originally posted by browniebaobao:Dear Devil,
Pls kindly enlighten us.
Rgds,
bbb
Never mind what is the 'cheem' thing I've told you previously, but I think you've got more tickling problems on hand...
At this point, there's really no telling what she MIGHT or might not be feeling for you... But my best bet at this point would be at most to let her know that your feeling's a little above just normal friendships (if you wanna hint and 'express' yourself)... If she truly is already 'feeling' for you at this point.. She should be able to 'pick up' rather sensitively... But do note that just like any other ordinary 'confession'.. If she's an 'extreme' person, there's no denying that you might just 'turn the whole boat over'.... At least this method would allows you to regulate the 'signal' you're trying to send across...
Personally, I'm not very favourable of your likely approaches... Reasons being that she's attached; you've pretty much no concrete ground on what she might or might not be feeling for you; you're confused over your own thoughts and possible acts...
An aftermath calculates that even if she's having problem with her bf, it's probably not a wise approach to just step in... Showing affections is still relatively okay.. Direct 'walk in' intervention is not... How long have she been with her bf? How have their relationship been all along...?
And on a more 'social' level... DO NOTE that you'll have to face the 'burden' of stepping in with an attached girl (failure or success alike) among common friends...
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deathscythe...i believe you told me abt this problem once? Not yet solved yet?
It is often hard to cross over from frenship to love. Some couples made it thru, some do not. I guess for now you can only wait and see...be frens with her, but do not pin too much hope about her becoming your gf. If she decides to be with you, then she will be yours. If not, no amount of forcing or persuasion will cause her to be with you... -
Friendship or Love?
Is it something that could be define by words? When to cross over and when not too? That's actually a feeling.
How much u talk and say that two person are just friends will not change the fact that the feelings two person is love. Conversely, when the feelings two person has is just friends, the person may be your gal/boy fren or wife/husband, but they are all just names.
Just let your feelings guide you and when feelings are right, things will happen on it's own. -
So...speak the truth huh?Originally posted by drx:sorry deathscythe99 I rather tell you honestly now then give u any false hope.
I was like u once and give myself the same false hopes. In the end I suffer a lot, I really do not wish for u to suffer like me in the past... -
how long haf u 2 been friends ? deathscythe99
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keep pestering her and finally told her I love her..
Kena slap by her cos she could not think of any way to say she do not like me...
Darm pain man ... -
wow.. slap is a very effective way... one slap and tats it! i as a gal wont dare to slap a guy... only beat niah
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Originally posted by drx:keep pestering her and finally told her I love her..
Kena slap by her cos she could not think of any way to say she do not like me...
Darm pain man ...
Wa, dat girl damn gutsy, if me the most I wud do is just walk away and avoid him -
2 months le...Originally posted by elektra:how long haf u 2 been friends ? deathscythe99 -
Not yet solved...Originally posted by rainee:deathscythe...i believe you told me abt this problem once? Not yet solved yet?
It is often hard to cross over from frenship to love. Some couples made it thru, some do not. I guess for now you can only wait and see...be frens with her, but do not pin too much hope about her becoming your gf. If she decides to be with you, then she will be yours. If not, no amount of forcing or persuasion will cause her to be with you...
It's like...I wish to say. And yet, I know it's not good to say it out...What you guys have told me, I've understood...It's weird...and to say it to her now would be pretty bad too...like stepping in as a 3rd party....
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hmm, since she already knows, then dun need to tell her again? maybe now she is in the midst of making a decision, so let her have time to do that...in the meantime just continue to be frensOriginally posted by deathscythe99:Not yet solved...
It's like...I wish to say. And yet, I know it's not good to say it out...What you guys have told me, I've understood...It's weird...and to say it to her now would be pretty bad too...like stepping in as a 3rd party....
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Ahem, I think wrong case liaoOriginally posted by rainee:hmm, since she already knows, then dun need to tell her again? maybe now she is in the midst of making a decision, so let her have time to do that...in the meantime just continue to be frens
Nvm...I think i explain to u again -
kk, late over here oledi, so me a bit dizzy nowOriginally posted by deathscythe99:Ahem, I think wrong case liao
Nvm...I think i explain to u again
next time ba -
deathscythe99 if u really love her..
Then i think u should be there always for her even as a friend...
True loves means that you should let her go and be with the one she loves..and support her in her times of need...
Thats the difference between crush and true love...
Crush is only temp but true love is when you see the one you love, smiling happily with her true love... and u had done your best to help her achieve that.. -
Wah... How many cases you have...?Originally posted by deathscythe99:Ahem, I think wrong case liao
Nvm...I think i explain to u again
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kor ah.... my advice is, dun say anything yet. think of what she will feel if you said anything. if she also has "feelings' for you, she will feel torn between you and her bf. she might even sink into guilt for her "emotional betrayal". if she didnt have feeligs for you, it just makes things awkward, and what will she think of you, telling a girl you like her when you knew perfectly she is attached.
it's a lose-lose situation in my opinion.
just continue to be there for her. you may choose to still like her despite the odds, or look around for other fishes. but whatever it is, i will always advice against disturbing the equilibrium of someone else's r/s..
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erhmm I think since shes attached ,better not tell her about it loh. As you said she having some problems with her current bf, then I think telling her will also add in another problem to her. And it wouldnt be a great idea cause indirectly may become a third party.
Unless you can be really sure you are a much better person than her current one. and you think she may like you also, will be happier with you.
Its still better to wait for her to detach first then tell her loh. -
No...it's a confusion and mixup in communicationOriginally posted by Devil1976:Wah... How many cases you have...? -
I've thought about it...together with the replies above....thanks allOriginally posted by starblue:kor ah.... my advice is, dun say anything yet. think of what she will feel if you said anything. if she also has "feelings' for you, she will feel torn between you and her bf. she might even sink into guilt for her "emotional betrayal". if she didnt have feeligs for you, it just makes things awkward, and what will she think of you, telling a girl you like her when you knew perfectly she is attached.
it's a lose-lose situation in my opinion.
just continue to be there for her. you may choose to still like her despite the odds, or look around for other fishes. but whatever it is, i will always advice against disturbing the equilibrium of someone else's r/s..
good luck kor.
Hmm, I think I'll just keep it down and be there for her now. Either way, letting her know is just lose-lose. I won't stand to gain anything, just hoping the best response from her (which I dun need her to do anything, so there's no need to do anything RIGHT?)
I guess, I'll see how it goes. I'm still helping her with her r/s...which is weird...right? -
I understand...Originally posted by drx:deathscythe99 if u really love her..
Then i think u should be there always for her even as a friend...
True loves means that you should let her go and be with the one she loves..and support her in her times of need...
Thats the difference between crush and true love...
Crush is only temp but true love is when you see the one you love, smiling happily with her true love... and u had done your best to help her achieve that..
It's kinda...fate...right? -
NEVER NEVER pester a girl, u deserve that slap.Originally posted by drx:keep pestering her and finally told her I love her..
Kena slap by her cos she could not think of any way to say she do not like me...
Darm pain man ...
She will only find u super irritating and get pissed off. -
I wonder...what u mean by PESTER.Originally posted by browniebaobao:NEVER NEVER pester a girl, u deserve that slap.
She will only find u super irritating and get pissed off.
I just wanted to tell her that I have feelings for her, but there's no need for an answer from her.... -
it is not wierd. it is painful.Originally posted by deathscythe99:I guess, I'll see how it goes. I'm still helping her with her r/s...which is weird...right?
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Yea...Originally posted by starblue:it is not wierd. it is painful. -
"NEVER NEVER pester a girl, u deserve that slap.
She will only find u super irritating and get pissed off."
err deathscythe99 i think she is refering to me not u..
browniebaobao thks for your comments.. yeah i know I deserve the slap...
I was shock when I look back.. yeah i was young and foolish then...