Choice Of Guys - A or B? HELP!
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Guy A
Comes from a wealthy family, smart too. Downside is that he treats everything as a challenge and stoop to anything to get what he wants. Has a glib tongue and is known as a flirt.
Guy B
Comes from middle income family, honest and hardworking. Treats everyone well and no matter what he does, he puts me in the first place and is always there for me. But he can get kind of boring at times. He knows that Guy A is courting me but he doesn't confront him, he just tells me to make the best decision for myself and he will always be there no matter what.
Guy A is much better looking than Guy B.
I have just started a relationship with guy B and things are getting boring. Although he tries hard to keep things going but I just feel bored with him after I met guy A.
Guy A is courting me although he knows I'm attached. I can't help but fall for his charms. He's the kind that knows how to please a girl and I really enjoy hanging out with him. He claims that I am the one for him.
I don't who should I choose. I am worried that guy A is not true as he's known to be a player. While I'm really touched by guy B, I just don't feel that I love him much.
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Choose Guy A but deny him SEX till he marries you for good. Lots of Guy Bs around, so don't worry.Originally posted by glossy_matte:Guy A
Comes from a wealthy family, smart too. Downside is that he treats everything as a challenge and stoop to anything to get what he wants. Has a glib tongue and is known as a flirt.
Guy B
Comes from middle income family, honest and hardworking. Treats everyone well and no matter what he does, he puts me in the first place and is always there for me. But he can get kind of boring at times. He knows that Guy A is courting me but he doesn't confront him, he just tells me to make the best decision for myself and he will always be there no matter what.
Guy A is much better looking than Guy B.
I have just started a relationship with guy B and things are getting boring. Although he tries hard to keep things going but I just feel bored with him after I met guy A.
Guy A is courting me although he knows I'm attached. I can't help but fall for his charms. He's the kind that knows how to please a girl and I really enjoy hanging out with him. He claims that I am the one for him.
I don't who should I choose. I am worried that guy A is not true as he's known to be a player. While I'm really touched by guy B, I just don't feel that I love him much.
Am I too judgemental?
Always make sure that you're with the guy that will bring you the most happiness and not stuck to one that's as constant as gravity for life imprisonment. -
I would definitely choose guy B because at least he is sincere and although he can be boring most of the time , at least he is making the effort to make your time enjoyable with him but I don't think he does quite meet up to your standards yet eh?
Even if being boring may be his strongest flaw ever known to you , you should just accept him for what he really is. The very fact that he (guy B) is a very understandable guy makes him even better. True love is all about acceptance and not all about the "wants" , in your case guy B knowing how to treat a girl nicely etc....
As for guy A , I don't think he is that worth it. Even if you get into a relationship with guy A , I doubt it will last long because since you say he is rich , obviously he's gonna splurge his money on you. I don't see it as a way to be constantly flaunting one's wealth to attract a girl. You say that he treats a girl very well , yes but does he treat a girl very well WITHOUT MONEY? So what happens when he falls for another girl? Since he has the money and is known to be a player , I'm pretty sure he can add another girl to his collection eh? You'll only gain temperory satisfaction from guy A. You can choose not to listen to me and dump guy A for guy B but when one day if your relationship with guy A fails , what are you gonna do? Regret that you were a fool to dump guy B for guy A. Seriously speaking , I think guy B is the one who really knows how to treat a girl instead of guy A. You may not see guy B's actions now cause you have fallen for guy A but in long term you will see how much guy B really loves you....
You can say he buys things for you with is money but can his true love be justified just by his wealth? Can he touch your heart without money?
I find your post very interesting in a sense it reflects a lot about me. My ex gf dumped me cause she found me boring and come November , I would be facing off with another guy of guy A's calibre in trying to court a friend of mine who is currently having her O levels now....
It would be interesting to see how this post progress as the replies increase....
I'm sorry for my harsh attitude but I really hate guys who make use of money all the time to get a girls heart. It's like they are making use of their wealth to their advantage denying "coffeeshop" guys a shot at your heart.
I suggest if you can't choose between either one or them. Tell both guys to compete for your heart on level playing ground. No splurging of money involved this time.... -
gotta be B
A is good for bf
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Bored in a relationship?
Its both parties effort to keep the r/s fresh and you cannot fault him cause he tries and you still feel bored. What do you expect to happen so as not to feel bored? What do you do on your part so that the r/s don't become stale?
Anyways, if you had already chosen ... no point asking.
Personally, I do not take it lightly if people play with my feelings, so hence A is never my choice. -
I think you started to feel bored after A came into your life, for he could bring excitement in a way B couldn't. So you start to compare B to A, and of cos B will lose out in this aspect, because he might not be as experienced as A, who has been with many girls and also toyed with their feelings many times before.
I guess if I were you, I would not respond to A's charm because you know his history, so he might repeat it again to you. Better stick to B as he has been trying to salvage the r/s... -
hmmmm if your description of A is true, then don't go to him. u mention, he treats everything as a CHALLENGE, has Glib tongue, and Loves to Flirt, and he knows you have a bf?
if this is true about him, he treats you like a challenge, and the thing about challenges, they loose their charm once it's no longer a challenge. -
Haha yeah that's what I wanted to highlight but just could not rephrase it to make it sound sensible....Originally posted by smudgey:treats everything as a CHALLENGE, has Glib tongue, and Loves to Flirt, and he knows you have a bf?
if this is true about him, he treats you like a challenge, and the thing about challenges, they loose their charm once it's no longer a challenge. -
hmm I would choose the one who love me more. cause its too hurting if you gotta like that flirtish Mr A too much and one day he also wanna flirt with others. when married also when he bored le, he would start flirtishing with other people and enjoy all kind of challenges secretly
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Better to be love by a person more than you love him. or else ping piang~ got a broken heart someday. Trying to flirt with you when you already have a bf hmm he really like challenges man
Maybe type B is not boring its just that you have not yet to discover his interesting side. -
I think you should be thinking MORE over it...Originally posted by glossy_matte:Guy A
Comes from a wealthy family, smart too. Downside is that he treats everything as a challenge and stoop to anything to get what he wants. Has a glib tongue and is known as a flirt.
Guy B
Comes from middle income family, honest and hardworking. Treats everyone well and no matter what he does, he puts me in the first place and is always there for me. But he can get kind of boring at times. He knows that Guy A is courting me but he doesn't confront him, he just tells me to make the best decision for myself and he will always be there no matter what.
Guy A is much better looking than Guy B.
I have just started a relationship with guy B and things are getting boring. Although he tries hard to keep things going but I just feel bored with him after I met guy A.
Guy A is courting me although he knows I'm attached. I can't help but fall for his charms. He's the kind that knows how to please a girl and I really enjoy hanging out with him. He claims that I am the one for him.
I don't who should I choose. I am worried that guy A is not true as he's known to be a player. While I'm really touched by guy B, I just don't feel that I love him much.
Am I too judgemental?
Then C, D, E and F would also starts to come in liao... -
go for guy A.
then u can learn a lesson the hard way, hahahahaha
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i won't choose A even if B's dead. touch wood but i need to say this for effect. keep A far far away from me if you want him aliveOriginally posted by glossy_matte:Guy A
Comes from a wealthy family, smart too. Downside is that he treats everything as a challenge and stoop to anything to get what he wants. Has a glib tongue and is known as a flirt.
Guy B
Comes from middle income family, honest and hardworking. Treats everyone well and no matter what he does, he puts me in the first place and is always there for me. But he can get kind of boring at times. He knows that Guy A is courting me but he doesn't confront him, he just tells me to make the best decision for myself and he will always be there no matter what.
Guy A is much better looking than Guy B.
I have just started a relationship with guy B and things are getting boring. Although he tries hard to keep things going but I just feel bored with him after I met guy A.
Guy A is courting me although he knows I'm attached. I can't help but fall for his charms. He's the kind that knows how to please a girl and I really enjoy hanging out with him. He claims that I am the one for him.
I don't who should I choose. I am worried that guy A is not true as he's known to be a player. While I'm really touched by guy B, I just don't feel that I love him much.
Am I too judgemental? -
Actually, A or B is fine.
Just ask yourself this Question, which One Do you really love. Do be with for a long term.
If A gives you all his best why not ? He can flirt, if he has you he may stop flirting. Just ask him this question, Does he find you a challenge ?
B respects you that, He knows how to treasure you. Yet u find him boring.
A little Question to aid you a little. Why Do you feel Bored ? Because He doesn't make you happy ? or he's just so dumb ?
If so why not talk to him ?
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I agree with rainee here... B might be boring because he doesnt have as much experience as A, and probably spends much of his time helping others.Originally posted by rainee:I think you started to feel bored after A came into your life, for he could bring excitement in a way B couldn't. So you start to compare B to A, and of cos B will lose out in this aspect, because he might not be as experienced as A, who has been with many girls and also toyed with their feelings many times before.
A might be a more exciting choice but a more dangerous at that
It takes two to clap, while B might be boring, you could help him to open up by finding what his interests are, you might be able to find the part of him that is passionate, interesting and spontaneous.
Sounds as though B is a very considerate and caring person, so he might restrain the way he talks in order not to offend or upset others(not joke, make fun of others). While this is an admirable trait, most people will think of B as quiet, boring, not funny, boring
So the choice is yours...
-a risky, exciting guy that probably moves on after conquering you
-or a boring but considerate, kind, attentive guy who will always stand by your side no matter what -
Just go for A. You are still in your teens. Any lessons that you might learn is best learnt in a hard way.
Nothing like a good "getting dumped" to toughen up one's character -
go for B.
if u want a 'fun' rltnshp, go for A.
if u want a potentially long-lasting rltnshp, go for B. as u said, things have gotten boring and he tries to "keep the flame alive". this already shows a lot abt his attention towards the rltnshp. as FireIce said, B is of husband material. -
if u want a bf, A. He's fun and rich, and good with sweet talking, and I am quite certain he will get u to bed with his tongue. if u want someone to spend your life with, then it's B. He's down to earth I believe. Sometimes, simple is a blessing. And someone commented that B is plentiful, always around. I think they are near extinction. haha. u can married A and find out 1 day after some years that he has another woman, or u can married B and gets bored with him for the rest for your life, but at least he wouldnt betray u. Its really your choice, and want u REALLY want. BTW, I dont believe ppl will change because of someone. Dog cant change the habit of eatting shit.
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what? who said B plentiful? i thought they're mythical legends and legendary myths evenOriginally posted by notaround:if u want a bf, A. He's fun and rich, and good with sweet talking, and I am quite certain he will get u to bed with his tongue. if u want someone to spend your life with, then it's B. He's down to earth I believe. Sometimes, simple is a blessing. And someone commented that B is plentiful, always around. I think they are near extinction. haha. u can married A and find out 1 day after some years that he has another woman, or u can married B and gets bored with him for the rest for your life, but at least he wouldnt betray u. Its really your choice, and want u REALLY want. BTW, I dont believe ppl will change because of someone. Dog cant change the habit of eatting shit.
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when you start to compare, then it will never end. yes, human supposed to look forward for better future but not to the extend jeopardising future happiness. will you be happy if you own all the money but no happiness. Think again with a clear mind what you want in your life.
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MEOriginally posted by boy in blues:what? who said B plentiful? i thought they're mythical legends and legendary myths even 
Alot of B Guys around cos when Singaporean guys fall in love, they became B Guys...caring, considerate, always there for you...almost too perfect for the start. But eventually when they're together with you, they tries very hard to keep up with their B Guys act and it won't take long for you to find out they're actually not B Guys.
Why do most guy feel miserable sometimes even after getting attached to the girl that he like? The only explaination is because he wasn't behaving truely to himself while he's going after the gal. Trying his best to sweep/hide all his character flaws and immaturity while going after the gal certainly took him alot of effort to hide it efficiently. And on top of that, he needed to come up with new tricks and treats to keep his gal happy and loved. How long can any guy keep up with that kind of living lies? So when their living lies fell through, so did their relationship.
And the worse fact is...a lot of Singaporean guys are like that.
I don't believe in stereotyping rich guys and poor guys. And it doesn't means that the guy is rich means he must flirt and dump gals....that's silly to make such assumptions. And doesn't means poor guys won't flirt and dump gals, a lot of flirting and dumping in reality are done by poor guys. Reason is just because there are more available poor guys than rich guys around.
Eventually it is still up to glossy_matte to make her own decision. She can stick with B and live out the relationship wondering if B is the right one for her while thinking of A every now and then...until she's eventually too old for decision and stuck to B for life and marries B. OR She could take her chances with A while denying SEX till A marries her....LOL. She won't even remember B at all if A is really serious about her all this while. Even if she's going to fail her relationship with either A or B, at least she'll have happier memories/histories with A than B. She won't feel that she've wasted her age and time on a boring guy. Don't you know that is very important to a girl???
So I would still advise glossy_matte to pick the guy who will bring her the most happiness. Do you guys really seriously think that girls would glady get stuck with guys just became he's first in the queue?
I think wiser girls would rather be dumped than to get stuck with boring guys for the rest of their lives...cos that's real misery.
I think guys who are able enough to ruffle the feathers of any girls are indeed rare and mystical enough to for her to give him a chance. So she should give herself and him and chance for a romance. But if the girl is insecure, best decision for her is to choose the most static guy....which is Guy B.
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so what do you want? why do you still try to have another relationship when you are already in one? wont it complicate things to have too many connections at the same time?
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some of the point you highlight is true enough. but there are many fantasy which I think girl will give in. Girls like to think with their heart and forget to use their brain. But when they use their brain they tend to multitask which will create more problem rather then solving it. Hope this does not offend any girls here.Originally posted by parn:ME
Alot of B Guys around cos when Singaporean guys fall in love, they became B Guys...caring, considerate, always there for you...almost too perfect for the start. But eventually when they're together with you, they tries very hard to keep up with their B Guys act and it won't take long for you to find out they're actually not B Guys.
Why do most guy feel miserable sometimes even after getting attached to the girl that he like? The only explaination is because he wasn't behaving truely to himself while he's going after the gal. Trying his best to sweep/hide all his character flaws and immaturity while going after the gal certainly took him alot of effort to hide it efficiently. And on top of that, he needed to come up with new tricks and treats to keep his gal happy and loved. How long can any guy keep up with that kind of living lies? So when their living lies fell through, so did their relationship.
And the worse fact is...a lot of Singaporean guys are like that.
I don't believe in stereotyping rich guys and poor guys. And it doesn't means that the guy is rich means he must flirt and dump gals....that's silly to make such assumptions. And doesn't means poor guys won't flirt and dump gals, a lot of flirting and dumping in reality are done by poor guys. Reason is just because there are more available poor guys than rich guys around.
Eventually it is still up to glossy_matte to make her own decision. She can stick with B and live out the relationship wondering if B is the right one for her while thinking of A every now and then...until she's eventually too old for decision and stuck to B for life and marries B. OR She could take her chances with A while denying SEX till A marries her....LOL. She won't even remember B at all if A is really serious about her all this while. Even if she's going to fail her relationship with either A or B, at least she'll have happier memories/histories with A than B. She won't feel that she've wasted her age and time on a boring guy. Don't you know that is very important to a girl???
So I would still advise glossy_matte to pick the guy who will bring her the most happiness. Do you guys really seriously think that girls would glady get stuck with guys just became he's first in the queue? I think wiser girls would rather be dumped than to get stuck with boring guys for the rest of their lives...cos that's real misery.
I think guys who are able enough to ruffle the feathers of any girls are indeed rare and mystical enough to for her to give him a chance. So she should give herself and him and chance for a romance. But if the girl is insecure, best decision for her is to choose the most static guy....which is Guy B.
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B is more than a nice guy.
And i think you are not good enough for him really.
Anyways, having to decide whether to leave for another guy while
still in a relationship is already betrayal.
How many bfs can tell u : its up to you to choose ???
And what kinda of guy will go after a gal who is still attached???
Even if some other forumers suggest you can try A
but deny him sex til he proposes,
im sure when in the right atmostphere you cannot
wait not to have excitement and finally sex with him.
right??? haha
I think you are gf material, not wife.
Or at least not ready to talk abt marriage.
Go with your type A.
I can gurantee you will get to sleep with him soon. "-p
hoho haha
I just feel bad for your bf.
But if you are not the one for him,
you better leave him fast so that he can meet better ladies,
he will be happier in the long run.
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thou.. i agree to some extend w what u say here...Originally posted by parn:ME
I think wiser girls would rather be dumped than to get stuck with boring guys for the rest of their lives...cos that's real misery.
Good luck.
but shudnt it be
"I think wiser girls would rather dump their bf than to get stuck with boring guys for the rest of their lives...cos that's real misery."
but dun you forget,
"dumping one for another"
and "dumping one and look for another" are different
and it shows the persons character and how they respect others feelings.
dunno her age...if she is very young still..
then its forgivable to wat i said prevly...
else if she is of marriagble age seg mid-late 20s,
then something is wrong with her.
"am i too judgemental ??" hee..