Originally posted by Vilue:When a guy say he want to talk to you about ur relationship problem, but when he sees you, he just keep slient? So what does that mean? He doesnt know how to start or he is just saying to for the sake of it?
My bf n me are going through this now. 1 mth ago, he just suddenly says he doesnt knowwhat he wants, doesnt know if there is a future for us. I told him that we should take time apart and think abt it. Of cos, during this period he still remain in contact with me. But whenever i ask him if he wants to talk abt our problem, he just says to give him more time and do things slowly.
I keep telling him we cant avoid our problem. If there is no future for us, then we should move on. He just says he knows but keep quiet. Even when we met, he didnt look me in the face when i asked him if he wants to talk about our problem. I keep telling him we should talk and even if he cant give any promises, at least he can be honest about it and not just give execuses and hide. Still he just says he knows and understand but didnt talk.
Im really clueless about what he is up to. He is afraid that i'm seeing someone else, yet he doesnt want to make an effort to talk. Just tell me he very very stress with work. Even if want more time, he cant say how long i have to wait for him to talk.
What does he wants?
He's half-hearted.Originally posted by Vilue:When a guy say he want to talk to you about ur relationship problem, but when he sees you, he just keep slient? So what does that mean? He doesnt know how to start or he is just saying to for the sake of it?
My bf n me are going through this now. 1 mth ago, he just suddenly says he doesnt knowwhat he wants, doesnt know if there is a future for us. I told him that we should take time apart and think abt it. Of cos, during this period he still remain in contact with me. But whenever i ask him if he wants to talk abt our problem, he just says to give him more time and do things slowly.
I keep telling him we cant avoid our problem. If there is no future for us, then we should move on. He just says he knows but keep quiet. Even when we met, he didnt look me in the face when i asked him if he wants to talk about our problem. I keep telling him we should talk and even if he cant give any promises, at least he can be honest about it and not just give execuses and hide. Still he just says he knows and understand but didnt talk.
Im really clueless about what he is up to. He is afraid that i'm seeing someone else, yet he doesnt want to make an effort to talk. Just tell me he very very stress with work. Even if want more time, he cant say how long i have to wait for him to talk.
What does he wants?
Originally posted by elektra:nice reply, yun...
Originally posted by browniebaobao:Not a good sign..
Like wat Yun said, caveman theory.. when a caveman wants to hide in the cave, juz give him time and peace.. let him sort things out then he will be back to u, maybe even more loving. But I'm not that lucky lor.. The Leo I met reacted this way but he drifted away from me, he told me he is different from a caveman.. LOL.
Maybe he duno how to put it across to u.. try to help him open up..starting with closed ended questions and such lor.. try not to get emotional..will stress him more.
Nice...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Sometimes, they call this the caveman theory - when your man is unable to relate to you about his feelings and thoughts and you know that something is affecting him/the relationship. He is undergoing a transition where he needs to think about 'something' and this 'something' doesn't have a direct answer, more than it requires a decision
As usual lor...Originally posted by elektra:paiseh.. haha abit stagnant. u?
Originally posted by elektra:yun.. u write the book la...![]()
so is there a book that analyze everything abt a man and a woman accurately and in details?Originally posted by Yunhaier:That's why Venus Mars book isn't necessary a good book. Although it opens your mind to some school of thought in Love, but it's all too commercialized and written based on western context. For Asian mindset and attitude towards Love, there is a need to remodify.
Leo?
Well, interesting.![]()
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Only books which CLAIMS to be...Originally posted by browniebaobao:so is there a book that analyze everything abt a man and a woman accurately and in details?
hey vilue, to be really direct and candid, perhaps even offending, by probing him to talk won't make him talk. If he really does, it could be bad news.Originally posted by Vilue:When a guy say he want to talk to you about ur relationship problem, but when he sees you, he just keep slient? So what does that mean? He doesnt know how to start or he is just saying to for the sake of it?
My bf n me are going through this now. 1 mth ago, he just suddenly says he doesnt knowwhat he wants, doesnt know if there is a future for us. I told him that we should take time apart and think abt it. Of cos, during this period he still remain in contact with me. But whenever i ask him if he wants to talk abt our problem, he just says to give him more time and do things slowly.
I keep telling him we cant avoid our problem. If there is no future for us, then we should move on. He just says he knows but keep quiet. Even when we met, he didnt look me in the face when i asked him if he wants to talk about our problem. I keep telling him we should talk and even if he cant give any promises, at least he can be honest about it and not just give execuses and hide. Still he just says he knows and understand but didnt talk.
Im really clueless about what he is up to. He is afraid that i'm seeing someone else, yet he doesnt want to make an effort to talk. Just tell me he very very stress with work. Even if want more time, he cant say how long i have to wait for him to talk.
What does he wants?
Originally posted by browniebaobao:so is there a book that analyze everything abt a man and a woman accurately and in details?
yeah he doesnt know what he wants man. People like him doesnt open up to what he is thinking. Its really hard to communicate in this way, thats a asian people speciality, keeping quiet. Thats maybe whats different from the mars venus book. its would be good if theres a book that write about how asian boy and girls think.Originally posted by Vilue:When a guy say he want to talk to you about ur relationship problem, but when he sees you, he just keep slient? So what does that mean? He doesnt know how to start or he is just saying to for the sake of it?
My bf n me are going through this now. 1 mth ago, he just suddenly says he doesnt knowwhat he wants, doesnt know if there is a future for us. I told him that we should take time apart and think abt it. Of cos, during this period he still remain in contact with me. But whenever i ask him if he wants to talk abt our problem, he just says to give him more time and do things slowly.
I keep telling him we cant avoid our problem. If there is no future for us, then we should move on. He just says he knows but keep quiet. Even when we met, he didnt look me in the face when i asked him if he wants to talk about our problem. I keep telling him we should talk and even if he cant give any promises, at least he can be honest about it and not just give execuses and hide. Still he just says he knows and understand but didnt talk.
Im really clueless about what he is up to. He is afraid that i'm seeing someone else, yet he doesnt want to make an effort to talk. Just tell me he very very stress with work. Even if want more time, he cant say how long i have to wait for him to talk.
What does he wants?
I guessed as much. I dun think anyone can be so confident that he/she knows the characteristics of every individual or relationship thoroughly.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Every man and woman out there is uniquely different, even if there is a book that talks about man and woman, it is probably generalising - like what Devil says: claims to be. My advice is to read more and wide. If you are interested in studying relationship, you should read, especially those strange books that may not be so well marketed like Venus book... some corner books maybe and read non relationship context like psychology. Because I feel some of these very well-marketed books often say things that are so similar that it is of no difference. After one or two read, it become commercialized akin to saying things that people are expected to read. And the other things you read helps to complement your knowledge of Love for Love is ONE HUGE TOPIC that has many, many subjects beneath it.
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Know characteristic of individual and relationship thoroughly? Maybe you should learn Astrology...Originally posted by browniebaobao:I guessed as much. I dun think anyone can be so confident that he/she knows the characteristics of every individual or relationship thoroughly.
I do read, not juz mars n venus books.. but I hardly have time for that. Only when I'm on vacation or when I'm in bookstores then I have the time and peace to read them.
well, a pisces may find herself not behaving like a pisces, but have characteristics of other horoscopes. Aries might give pple the impression tat she should be pisces and not aries. Haha.. how do u explain that?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Know characteristic of individual and relationship thoroughly? Maybe you should learn Astrology...![]()
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