Waiting....

• tir4misu

  26 Oct 05, 02:41

  Originally posted by timble:

  I'm on the other planet.. attached, can see each other if we want to, but always ended up not seeing/calling each other cos of small arguments. So near yet so far...
  
  Tiramisu.. it's not going to be an easy wait. Why not just broaden the circle and focus on other things. If she's yours, she will be back to you. Just try to be around for her...

  thx... tts wad im currently working on... or haf been workin on for the past few mths.. then.. just this... sudden surge of emotions... sudden tots... all come flowing to me....
  
  sometimes i oso think tat... (tis may be abit negative)... y do u nid to haf so many options? if that 'one' is the right one for u????
  
  or course... love takes both hands to clap.... cannot be forced upon.... as long as 'she' is happy.. i guess.. its the best....
  
  
• tir4misu

  26 Oct 05, 02:45

  Originally posted by alfagal:

  sort for v long time already, no conclusion...

  feelings come and go.... sometimes illogical/irrational.... thinking alot.. may sometimes cause fears... and these fears would create barriers... which makes u afriad to take the step further... sometimes.. u haf to go along along with ur feelings... more then.. using ur brain to lay out all the factors and then analysing whether a r/s is worth the taking =)
• tsh

  29 Oct 05, 19:14

  Wait or not wait?
  I also ask myself...We have been together for a few yrs. He left and asked me not to wait although I know he truely loves me. Part of my career success today came from his emotional and financial supports in the old days, which I cannot forget in my life...However, he doesnt want me to wait while I want to. A few weeks ago, listening to others' advice from the forum (Should I move on?) and have some thoughts for myself, I decided not to wait. I didnt send email and call for 2 wks, just to let myself rest. He missed me and email asking me to call. I called him because I understood that he missed me a lot. He said to me in the phone he missed me so much , he wanted to see me, asked me to send him my picture, asked me to install the webcam ...I love him, love the beauty in his heart that I may not find someone who loves me like him anymore...He also loves me. Part of my feelings tell me there is a hope for future together that he is mine and I am his, but there is no certain time limit for waiting to be true. He told me not to wait because he has a lot of things to achieve in life , and it will take a long time before thinking of marriage. He doesnt want me to waste my time. In fact, if I leave, he will have a broken heart. If I am loyal, he asks me not to wait...I cannnot stand if he is feeling bad because we still love each other.
  
  Whenever, I see s/o approaching me, his image places in between and my heart tells me not to do so.
  
  So I always ask myself now ..should I wait?
  
  Perhaps, the best way is to leave it there, and shouldnt think about it ...If it means to be future together, it will; if not, then there is not fate for our love.
• tsh

  29 Oct 05, 19:23

  Wait or not wait?
  I also ask myself...We have been together for a few yrs. He left and asked me not to wait although I know he truely loves me. Part of my career success today came from his emotional and financial supports in the old days, which I cannot forget in my life...However, he doesnt want me to wait while I want to. A few weeks ago, listening to others' advice from the forum (Should I move on?) and have some thoughts for myself, I decided not to wait. I didnt send email and call for 2 wks, just to let myself rest. He missed me and email asking me to call. I called him because I understood that he missed me a lot. He said to me in the phone he missed me so much , he wanted to see me, asked me to send him my picture, asked me to install the webcam ...I love him, love the beauty in his heart that I may not find someone who loves me like him anymore...He also loves me. Part of my feelings tell me there is a hope for future together that he is mine and I am his, but there is no certain time limit for waiting to be true. He told me not to wait because he has a lot of things to achieve in life , and it will take a long time before thinking of marriage. He doesnt want me to waste my time. In fact, if I leave, he will have a broken heart. If I am loyal, he asks me not to wait...I cannnot stand if he is feeling bad because we still love each other.
  
  Whenever, I see s/o approaching me, his image places in between and my heart tells me not to do so.
  
  So I always ask myself now ..should I wait?
  
  Perhaps, the best way is to leave it there, and shouldnt think about it ...If it means to be future together, it will; if not, then there is not fate for our love.
• sleepycat

  30 Oct 05, 00:53

  .. just do it.. just wait.. it's your life and time.. maximise it by only doing what you want to and believe in..
  
  now do u want to wait? or, do u believe in waiting? no one knows better than u.
  
  .. ultimately, honesty is the best policy.. even to yourself, at least.
• tir4misu

  31 Oct 05, 04:38

  Originally posted by sleepycat:

  .. just do it.. just wait.. it's your life and time.. maximise it by only doing what you want to and believe in..
  
  now do u want to wait? or, do u believe in waiting? no one knows better than u.
  
  .. ultimately, honesty is the best policy.. even to yourself, at least.

  i guess this is the first reply on telling me to wait.. ha....
  be truthful to myself eh... i guess.....
  sometimes i feel tat... i know wad i wan... and so... if is aint her.. then... i guess.. its alrite with me being single all the way too... if u get wad i mean.. haha...
  
  but well.... guess im gonna move on with life... drive myself bz with my dreams.. the stuff which i wanna do... and just let things come as they would ba.... whether anything would happen in near future or not.... i guess... that part belongs to fate & destiny....
• tsh

  1 Nov 05, 07:57

  Yes, perhaps we should not think of the word waiting...If your feelings are still for the other significant and s/he is not with you, but also has the feelings for you, then we should enjoy that moment and make ourselves happy as we can. At least we are honest to ourselves. If the future means together, it will; and if not, it will go. We will not regret anything we have waited or we haven't. I now think that way. I enjoy my time, being happy and staying healthy. I dont want to think of the word wating...Just be happy, go to the gym to have yoga everyday. If one day of of us changes our mind, it would mean we dont have fate for marriage. Chinese says "dzau dzuyn, mei dzau fung" I think.