my 1st post.. can give me some advice?
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im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it? -
this is part of growing up
dont be serious of this relationship
down the line you are the one who suffer. -
aiyoh... puppy love niah...
If take it too serious... u will hve an unforgetable time in future, be like a nitmare to u in future when starting another...
Look further, theres a forest ahead...
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hes keeping his options open...and so should you..
its your first relationship so of course you can claim to be "serious" and "make promises" to each other. this happens normally. i too claim to be able to do and sacrifice anything for my first love.
but based on what you make those claims leh? its like eating your first piece of cake and declaring that to be the best cake in the world.
relax lah, he obviously isn't that serious about you. gain some experience from this and try to move on. -
u really are young... first of all, all that saying on wat both of u say only for that period in most cases... and from wat u say, most probably the honeymoon over and most definitely your knight has turned into someone different(ogre maybe)... the end is here so kid so forget about him... theres other nice boyboy out there who cherish u n promises more... btw next time dun choose the guy cos he is handsome, choose the guy that seriously treat u well...Originally posted by kitty__:im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it? -
haiz... my friend once told me.. that the 1st phase of a relationship is normally the sweetest... (honeymoon period) cos it involves the guy still trying to win the girl's heart... but when it reaches the 2nd phase the guy is kinda tired of it and the girl wil start feeling insecure and all... inreality, its irreversible...
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ur bf is not a real man. he's a jerk or even since he's not a man he's a bitchOriginally posted by kitty__:im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it? -
He's a flirt...all flirts are never satisfied with just one person
But take heed...e only advantage women have over men - at least we can cry
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There are many non-charistmatic men who don't know that real platonic relationship happens when he tells his (girl) friends admirers that he can only treat them as sisters.Originally posted by leon_lai89:ur bf is not a real man. he's a jerk or even since he's not a man he's a bitch
I have a couple of such relationships and encourage them to get married as well of coz these are real platonic relationships.
There are also people who says he's going out with friends , but those are not "sisters". Its all part of handling and keeping platonic relationships time to grow up and accept that funny and wierd relationships between boys and girls at the age of 15-18 can be very different from what we used to think. -
He doesn't love you anymore...so you are wiser not to dip yourself deep into this infant relationship.Originally posted by kitty__:im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it?
He may still like you to be his girlfriend for now...but it seems that he does not know how to love a girl and deal with a relationship...he probably done too much research into the chasing part of the relationship and realised that he don't know how what do to after getting the girl.
Save your feelings for someone who deserved them more than him, and never waste your tears on this doomed guy.
I would suggest you to love yourself more than him or anyone else at your current age. Cos loving yourself will make you more attractive and charming to the rest of the other gender.
Get out of this relationship before you really get hurt from it and save your feelings before they're all spent.
Good luck. -
Turn on Ur radar...Originally posted by kitty__:im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it? -
if he's that much closer to all those god-sisters than to you,Originally posted by kitty__:im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it?
he's definitely just having you on.
not only am i sure,
i can actually gurantee you that.
you can go ahead and look around for someone else as of now.
there's nothing else you need to say to him.
he doesn't deserve to be informed -
yeah, everyone's advices here are great...
you're still young, and don't take him seriously - well, he didn't take u seriously; didn't celebrate yr birthday or gave u present.
yr bf is keeping his options very open, so should you. and if you do find a better guy...move on!
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forget him n move on .... he's not serious wif u
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I would actually say... concentrate on ur studies for now.. he has his O lvls.. u have ur promotional exams.. get that done first.. then think about the more mundane stuff..
And..
Ur oni 15... none of the couples i noe were together since they were 15/17.. this is but a lesson in one facet of life.. enjoy the journey.. dun look for the destination.. enjoy ur youth.. ur oni young once..
For now.. just hang with ur school frens.. if love comes again.. embrace it.. if it doesn't.. it just means it is not time yet.. so forget about the lil s.o.b and do ur own thing
take care and
Cheers( kope yun's copyright
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yeah.. he's a flirt.
gan mei mei my a$$. -
I am waiting for Yun's reply.. wahahaha.
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Hey hey.. read those advices that people have posted.. Its strong advice that you should listen to.. 15 years old in a r/s.. to us it is young.. to u it may not seem to be.. or what we are talking here may not be what u wanna hear.
But that is the fact that you got to accept.. Looking back at this relationship when you are older, you may find it a little stupid firstly to step into one so fast.. and u will find that you are not matured enuff to start it..
Open your options ya.. Let him concentrate on his O levels and pampering his meis.. you can find your own life.
Cheers.Originally posted by kitty__:im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it? -
Originally posted by kitty__:im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it?
We all once own a kind of puppy Love and we all know that it wouldn't last eventually as our early love evince evidence of failing. Despite that, are we truly going to seal a relationship just because we know for certain that it wouldn't last? Which is more important? The ongoing process of understanding WHAT a relationship is all about or to keep pondering about long term relationship that must hint marriage? Logically speaking, it is the latter... but at her tender age??
*** You are just walking along Love's inaugural journey - the stage where we are taught our expression of feelings and emotions, reacting to that of a once-stranger... once-mere-friend. Your jealousy is a reflection of your fledgling emotions losing control due to incoming circumstances. You are unable to grasp hold of this new found emotion and it ran wild like chicken in a field. Some people never found the key to keep it stable - always experiencing petty jealousy in love, both big and small.
Your boyfriend, likewise, is on the road in experimenting Love. Everything seemed like a small matter to him because it doesn't seem a big deal at all because we are talking about puppy love - which trait is such that as long as I love you and you love me, everything else doesn't actually matters... god sis or not.
If learning to you is about passing your exam and the way is to study and memorised dead formula, you will do that because you want your paper at the end of the day. However, you will not acquire the essence of learning in that way, which will benefit you until you draw your last breath. This is the same as Love: man who doesn't demonstrate affection or romance by personality, will probably only 'perform' them in the beginning of the relationship or during chase as a selling factor. One of the reason why this loving...sweetie romance don't last is because it is not within your man's character to do so. It is done because it seemed essential to do so... to tackle you.
That is the reason why woman, after a couple of bad relationships, become resistance to flippant words and romance. They grew cynical in love, knowing that flowers, gifts and such is but methods employed by man to get them to fall in love. They became so afraid to step into the boundary of Love and fear if this man is like the one before.
You people are relatively young; please do not think that he is THE ONLY one for you. Relationship is unfathomable - one can never judge it's success due to a certain phrase, like honeymoon. Your REAL relationship begins after your honeymoon period, for that differentiate a substantial relationship from that of a false one.
P.S: Keep learning. You will get better at handling your emotions and relationship. I usually have the same advice for young people like yourself - better to understand emotions and the 'rules' to this game of love, then to pay the price at much later stage in life.
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I will send the bills to your house.Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:I would actually say... concentrate on ur studies for now.. he has his O lvls.. u have ur promotional exams.. get that done first.. then think about the more mundane stuff..
And..
Ur oni 15... none of the couples i noe were together since they were 15/17.. this is but a lesson in one facet of life.. enjoy the journey.. dun look for the destination.. enjoy ur youth.. ur oni young once..
For now.. just hang with ur school frens.. if love comes again.. embrace it.. if it doesn't.. it just means it is not time yet.. so forget about the lil s.o.b and do ur own thing
take care and
Cheers( kope yun's copyright )
Cheers -
Originally posted by Kennerve:I am waiting for Yun's reply.. wahahaha.
I will also send the bill to your house.
Cheers -
tsk tsk
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i wouldn't say he is not serious about you gal. but when the honeymoon period is over, things will dampen down a bit. it is only natural (especially guys his age) that he will start to communicate less with you and more with other girls. but does that really mean he doesnt love you anymore?
well.. it depends... for guys his age... i'd say he is losing that passion in you. and that is kinda dangerous indeed, since guys that age usually just go for passion in r/s (but i shall not stereotype too much here)...
just relax. don't be too INTO the r/s. at this age, studies should always come first. you may feel like you love this guy a lot and everything, but even if it should not work out in the end, you shouldnt get too upset about it. cos when you grow older, everything will seem clearer to you. trust me on that.
for the time being, relax and enjoy your teenhood. -
he starting to get tired of the relationship and keep his options open and keeping you as a spare tyre
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Dear Kitty,Originally posted by kitty__:im a 15 yr old girl. my boyfriend is 17, taking his O levels soon.
although we are young.. we are pretty serious bout this relationship.. we made promises to each other and have been together for a yr...
beginning.. everything's so sweet.. he calls and smses me often. treats me like a precious gem.
after 6 mths or so... he begin to have gan meimeis (godsisters) in his school. as we are not in the same school, his gan meis see him more than i do. they are quite close.. always smsing and go out together i suppose. whenever i see msgs n pictures of his gan meis. i feel very insecure.. i admit i get jealous very easily.. i just cant control myself. the problem is i keep it to myself.. i dont show my jealousy. i end up crying at night when i see msgs like.. "tickle u" ..... or whenever he doesnt call or sms me for 1,2 days. he seems to be very concerned about them.. asking them about exam results.. telling ppl not to bully them. so on and so forth. when i ask him why didnt he contact me. he gave excuses like sms use finish? but why is he smsing so much with them? im his gf... cant he just reduce his smses with them ? he didnt celebrate my birthday with me or give me any birthday present.
recently, i told him how i feel..
he seems to be taking it like a small matter. he assures me every now and then.. but after a while, the same thing happens..
is it because he feels that our r/s is still as sweet as before? tts why he doesnt take it seriously?
am i over reacting?
my friends say this is normal.. is it?
You feel neglected, unloved, and jealous is very natural as u still care for this r/s. However, u still have a long way ahead.
In reality, we only can choose to walk forward; how often do u see pple walking backwards on the streets ??
Like what other had advised, you should reconsider ur r/s wif ur bf. Does he possess the type of qualities u see in a bf u want? Ask urself...
Of cos u will feel reluctant to let go.. cuz it's not u who have a change of heart, it's him. He still hold on to u is because he cannot find any good reason to break off wif u cuz u did nothing wrong. Is it worth it??? Cry, cry out loud and get him out of ur life. U dun need a rascal in ur life to torment u.
However, it's up to u to decide to stay and continued to tolerate, or to leave for good. Who knows, u may be better off w/o his existence! Rather than waiting for him to find his right girl and then say bye bye to u, i rather u ditch him first.... at least u won't be that hurt... cuz it's u who dun want this r/s anymore.
U r young, there are lots of things for u to learn. Treat this as a lesson and have ur own life. U haven't seen the whole world yet and u wana stick wif this guy...for the rest of ur life? I dun say he's a jerk, cuz he's young too. And curious and most guys enjoyed the attention and thrills from the opposite sex and girls as well.
And u too, should give urself the opportunity to go thru this life process. It won't be the end of the world if u both are no longer an item. One day, u will be grateful for tat he treated u dis way. Cuz if he didn't, u will nv find ur true love.