Depression or Childish/spoilt behaviour
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I dun know why i feel this way...i often have sadness...which i feel that i am lousy...
(sorry if its messy...just my troubles jumbled in one)
ok...anyway...heres what i meant
I feel that i am a person in a passing crowd..nothing much for people to concern about...i am not something outstanding...in terms of studies, sports capablitity,looks and behaviour..i fall short from the rest of everyone
I feel that everyone is making use of each other in life and although there is friendship,i do not belive in "forever friends" and thus i do not really hold on to friendship tightly (although my heart hopes otherwise)
Everyone in school treats me like tissue paper...after use,i am thrown away...
In fact, at home... i am also treated by my dog...nowadays she refuses to sleep in my room anymore ever since my brother and his wife move in to stay for a period of time
Meanwhile in school...my studies are rock bottom, the girl i like treats me like shyt and everyone treats me like paper...
I feel that in life..i cannot love the girl i like because i got nothing outstanding or at least something that is with par with the rest and I feel that i also demand too much...maybe? i dunno anymore...
I feel that friendship to me is nothing to me anymore...i give people all my attention and i get treated like a glass( transparent)
Advice?
To the mushy gang: i know u guys ask me out for outing but i am sure i am not worth your time..sorry
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
you need to gain more confidence abt yourself...
I know it is hard, I am struggling with it too...
If you think of yourself as a worthless person, then that will be the image you project to the people around you, hence they will start treating you like one too...
So stand up for your own right, learn to say no and build up your self esteem... -
Pup...hw can U tink tt way...U r worth our time ok...Originally posted by StarPuppy:I dun know why i feel this way...i often have sadness...which i feel that i am lousy...
(sorry if its messy...just my troubles jumbled in one)
ok...anyway...heres what i meant I feel that i am a person in a passing crowd..nothing much for people to concern about...i am not something outstanding...in terms of studies, sports capablitity,looks and behaviour..i fall short from the rest of everyone
I feel that everyone is making use of each other in life and although there is friendship,i do not belive in "forever friends" and thus i do not really hold on to friendship tightly (although my heart hopes otherwise)
Everyone in school treats me like tissue paper...after use,i am thrown away...
In fact, at home... i am also treated by my dog...nowadays she refuses to sleep in my room anymore ever since my brother and his wife move in to stay for a period of time
Meanwhile in school...my studies are rock bottom, the girl i like treats me like shyt and everyone treats me like paper...
I feel that in life..i cannot love the girl i like because i got nothing outstanding or at least something that is with par with the rest and I feel that i also demand too much...maybe? i dunno anymore...
I feel that friendship to me is nothing to me anymore...i give people all my attention and i get treated like a glass( transparent)
Advice?
To the mushy gang: i know u guys ask me out for outing but i am sure i am not worth your time..sorry
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy
I am sure the rest of the gang thinks the same as me...U r Pinky and Mao Mao's son lehz...We all care abt U...
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Hmm.. seems like you are experiencing low self esteem.Originally posted by StarPuppy:I dun know why i feel this way...i often have sadness...which i feel that i am lousy...
(sorry if its messy...just my troubles jumbled in one)
ok...anyway...heres what i meant I feel that i am a person in a passing crowd..nothing much for people to concern about...i am not something outstanding...in terms of studies, sports capablitity,looks and behaviour..i fall short from the rest of everyone
I feel that everyone is making use of each other in life and although there is friendship,i do not belive in "forever friends" and thus i do not really hold on to friendship tightly (although my heart hopes otherwise)
Everyone in school treats me like tissue paper...after use,i am thrown away...
In fact, at home... i am also treated by my dog...nowadays she refuses to sleep in my room anymore ever since my brother and his wife move in to stay for a period of time
Meanwhile in school...my studies are rock bottom, the girl i like treats me like shyt and everyone treats me like paper...
I feel that in life..i cannot love the girl i like because i got nothing outstanding or at least something that is with par with the rest and I feel that i also demand too much...maybe? i dunno anymore...
I feel that friendship to me is nothing to me anymore...i give people all my attention and i get treated like a glass( transparent)
Advice?
To the mushy gang: i know u guys ask me out for outing but i am sure i am not worth your time..sorry
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy
Hope you don't mind if I just give my opinions k..
You don't have to be outstanding in terms of looks, studies, etcs. Remember that there can only be ONE top student, a few top atheletes, etcs. In the end, it is these type of people who are more stressed because they constantly live in the fear of being surpassed. This is why the term 'lead a simple life' arises.
People making use of each other.. There can only be so much unconditional love. The only unconditional love is parental. Maybe try not to see it as making use of each other.. It is human nature to 'mutually benefit' each other, and I guess this behavoir appears in friendship as well.
As for the issue about the gal.. Well, a lot of time, a lot of people have told me that it may really sound cliche, but are you sure you can use the word 'Love' when maybe it is just a crush? Because like you said, she treats you like shit, so is it really worth it?
Well.. no one cares about you? You still have your 'mushy gang', and I am sure that there are a lot of people who want to join that gang but are not able to, while you are one of the privileged few. Lucky you
Sometimes, the easiest way to boost your self esteem is simply to do some volunteering work, for example at the Old Folks home, the things you do may be so little, but when they thank you, it makes you feel useful and important.
The problems you are facing are not chronic, therefore all you need is to look more kindly upon yourself, realise that you are unique, and I guess you'll have to accept the fact that input does not equals output, so when you say you give people attention they treat you like glass, remember that glass is beautiful, without glass there would be no windows, but walls only.
As for studies, I am sure it can definately be improved.
Cheer up ! -
Yo pup dun think so much cuz u still haven really da kai yan jie abt life. In NS u will meet great buddies over there...
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cheer up, convince yourself that you do not need the pple who treat you like trash and happily go around find things that make you happy and do them
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Puppy,
How could you say such a thing about yourself? The mushy gang will welcome you irregardless. See how you've gotten along well with us (sorry I haven't spoken much to you, you're always on when I'm off
). If you weren't worth our time, we wouldn't have taken the trouble to invite you.
Your expectation of the worst has blinded you such that you can't see how fond others are of you. I'm sure your forum "Mummy" & "Daddy" would disagree with what you've said about yourself.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by StarPuppy:I dun know why i feel this way...i often have sadness...which i feel that i am lousy...
(sorry if its messy...just my troubles jumbled in one)
ok...anyway...heres what i meant I feel that i am a person in a passing crowd..nothing much for people to concern about...i am not something outstanding...in terms of studies, sports capablitity,looks and behaviour..i fall short from the rest of everyone
I feel that everyone is making use of each other in life and although there is friendship,i do not belive in "forever friends" and thus i do not really hold on to friendship tightly (although my heart hopes otherwise)
Everyone in school treats me like tissue paper...after use,i am thrown away...
In fact, at home... i am also treated by my dog...nowadays she refuses to sleep in my room anymore ever since my brother and his wife move in to stay for a period of time
Meanwhile in school...my studies are rock bottom, the girl i like treats me like shyt and everyone treats me like paper...
I feel that in life..i cannot love the girl i like because i got nothing outstanding or at least something that is with par with the rest and I feel that i also demand too much...maybe? i dunno anymore...
I feel that friendship to me is nothing to me anymore...i give people all my attention and i get treated like a glass( transparent)
Advice?
To the mushy gang: i know u guys ask me out for outing but i am sure i am not worth your time..sorry
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
You're too 'WITHDRAWN'... There's NOTHING WRONG with being someone not outstanding and special... IN FACT, you get to see PLENTY EVERYWHERE... And ALOT of them can still be HAPPILY LIVING their lives...Originally posted by StarPuppy:I dun know why i feel this way...i often have sadness...which i feel that i am lousy...
(sorry if its messy...just my troubles jumbled in one)
ok...anyway...heres what i meant I feel that i am a person in a passing crowd..nothing much for people to concern about...i am not something outstanding...in terms of studies, sports capablitity,looks and behaviour..i fall short from the rest of everyone
I feel that everyone is making use of each other in life and although there is friendship,i do not belive in "forever friends" and thus i do not really hold on to friendship tightly (although my heart hopes otherwise)
Everyone in school treats me like tissue paper...after use,i am thrown away...
In fact, at home... i am also treated by my dog...nowadays she refuses to sleep in my room anymore ever since my brother and his wife move in to stay for a period of time
Meanwhile in school...my studies are rock bottom, the girl i like treats me like shyt and everyone treats me like paper...
I feel that in life..i cannot love the girl i like because i got nothing outstanding or at least something that is with par with the rest and I feel that i also demand too much...maybe? i dunno anymore...
I feel that friendship to me is nothing to me anymore...i give people all my attention and i get treated like a glass( transparent)
Advice?
To the mushy gang: i know u guys ask me out for outing but i am sure i am not worth your time..sorry
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy
It's PERFECTLY NORMAL to be NORMAL... Regarding friendships, how people treat you and such... So long as you have a CLEAR CONSCIOUS, don't think too deep into things... REMEMBER the SAYING.. "HAPPY GO LUCKY!!" " -
Hmm..if you want. We can meet up to have a drink.
PM me k?
Cheers -
There are true friendships, family love...but you yourself must make the effort.
Dont wait for others to come to you...
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think its v common for teens...not sure bout ur age, but since u said u are schooling still....then...shld b less than 18yrs?
all go thru a stage where they find their own 'identity'..yup self esteem is v impt as stated in one of e previous posts..
once u know wat u know in life, ur goals, and knowing ur own personalities, build up on ur strengths and improve on ur flaws...(identity building) u wld b def. a stronger person
if u see pple ard u who u think are more superior, think bout y so? noticed tat they have more or less stable identity...once u pass e stage, dun think u wld feel tis way ever...
some pple realize their identities earlier, for me, more or less even at sec 1...some, later...
jus take part in more activities and i mean really more actively, expand ur social circle..explore urself...bring urself to greater heights! -
bad puppy.....nootti puppy....you say yourself until like that for wat ....Originally posted by FeowFeow:Puppy,
How could you say such a thing about yourself? The mushy gang will welcome you irregardless. See how you've gotten along well with us (sorry I haven't spoken much to you, you're always on when I'm off ). If you weren't worth our time, we wouldn't have taken the trouble to invite you.
Your expectation of the worst has blinded you such that you can't see how fond others are of you. I'm sure your forum "Mummy" & "Daddy" would disagree with what you've said about yourself.
FeowFeow
breaks mummy heart wor
you no good ...means mummy no good oso lor..... sigh
Listen to auntie feow feow and uncle bear bear can or not....
join us for outing sometimes ok..... puppy is definitely a part of the mushy gang! -
Really meh?Originally posted by larrenV2.003:Yo pup dun think so much cuz u still haven really da kai yan jie abt life. In NS u will meet great buddies over there... 
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my dear..u r not alone.Originally posted by StarPuppy:I dun know why i feel this way...i often have sadness...which i feel that i am lousy...
(sorry if its messy...just my troubles jumbled in one)
ok...anyway...heres what i meant I feel that i am a person in a passing crowd..nothing much for people to concern about...i am not something outstanding...in terms of studies, sports capablitity,looks and behaviour..i fall short from the rest of everyone
I feel that everyone is making use of each other in life and although there is friendship,i do not belive in "forever friends" and thus i do not really hold on to friendship tightly (although my heart hopes otherwise)
Everyone in school treats me like tissue paper...after use,i am thrown away...
In fact, at home... i am also treated by my dog...nowadays she refuses to sleep in my room anymore ever since my brother and his wife move in to stay for a period of time
Meanwhile in school...my studies are rock bottom, the girl i like treats me like shyt and everyone treats me like paper...
I feel that in life..i cannot love the girl i like because i got nothing outstanding or at least something that is with par with the rest and I feel that i also demand too much...maybe? i dunno anymore...
I feel that friendship to me is nothing to me anymore...i give people all my attention and i get treated like a glass( transparent)
Advice?
To the mushy gang: i know u guys ask me out for outing but i am sure i am not worth your time..sorry
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy
half e working adults here in SG society are feelin pretty much e same way as u do (including myself), if not worse off than u.
N i feel its becos SG pple r too stressed out e increasing demands of the lifestyle and e over-population prob. Depression is contagious, so e only remedy is to remove urself from e stressed environment for a period of time (mayb 1 month holiday retreat on an island in Australia, NZ, UK, US..anywer as long as u can get out of tis terribly stressful island.
Rejuvenate N Recuperate N Recharge ur batteries.
Remember its ur life, take care of it, u r in control of ur life..jus listen to ur inner voice n follow ur heart .. to werever it leads u to n not bother abt what ur family or closed ones says otherwise of ur decision
Remember ..always remember u ONLY LIVE ONCE n ITS UR CHOICE TO LIVE IT TO E FULLEST !!
Go for a holiday by urself, retreat n rejuvenate n u 'll feel e difference wen u r bk here
- If U never try, U never Know what's it all about- -
I thought you've said before that you've matured and know what you shld do and has set your path & priorities already ????
How come you're still having the same problems???
Don't everytime just say with no action or the determination to do it...
Don't expect Help will drop from the sky and solve all your worries and problems...
With so much advises and opinions given to you all the while from so many forumnites, it all seems in vain becoz your problems are always the same problems...
I'm not going against you...
I just feel that you're just too dependent...and you dun do what you say..you dun mean what you said...you're simply just wasting your time...If by listening to all those nice advises that make you feel comfortable, n yet you're doing nothing to improve yourself or resolve the situation/problems...your life's just this...pathetic.....
You go and think for yourself... -
what course are you taking? maybe some forumites can help to coach you for free?
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Is that an excuse to escape outing?Originally posted by StarPuppy:I dun know why i feel this way...i often have sadness...which i feel that i am lousy...
(sorry if its messy...just my troubles jumbled in one)
ok...anyway...heres what i meant I feel that i am a person in a passing crowd..nothing much for people to concern about...i am not something outstanding...in terms of studies, sports capablitity,looks and behaviour..i fall short from the rest of everyone
I feel that everyone is making use of each other in life and although there is friendship,i do not belive in "forever friends" and thus i do not really hold on to friendship tightly (although my heart hopes otherwise)
Everyone in school treats me like tissue paper...after use,i am thrown away...
In fact, at home... i am also treated by my dog...nowadays she refuses to sleep in my room anymore ever since my brother and his wife move in to stay for a period of time
Meanwhile in school...my studies are rock bottom, the girl i like treats me like shyt and everyone treats me like paper...
I feel that in life..i cannot love the girl i like because i got nothing outstanding or at least something that is with par with the rest and I feel that i also demand too much...maybe? i dunno anymore...
I feel that friendship to me is nothing to me anymore...i give people all my attention and i get treated like a glass( transparent)
Advice?
To the mushy gang: i know u guys ask me out for outing but i am sure i am not worth your time..sorry
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy
Wah rao eh... I think the first step to change your life is to start going out and interact with other people to help you to change your mindset. Please... please... if you need to, please go for the outing.
Somemore my dearest MCsquare don't mind meeting you lor... HmMMmMpT!
Cheers -
if topic starter don mind, i oso don mind wor...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Somemore my dearest MCsquare don't mind meeting you lor... HmMMmMpT!
Cheers
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nope i got thru ns without making a real friend if you really want to knowOriginally posted by Burgerking:Really meh? -
Starpuppy didi ah. 1stly, u are have a low self-esteem. I have experience such a low before.
2ndly, wat u have described is juz a fact of life. It's bitchy at times.
Once u have learned to be more open-minded n accept things as they r meant to be, life will be alot simpler n easier n perhaps kinder on u.
Anyway, if u want, can always meet out for a chat of sth. Juz inform me b4 hand coz i'm only free on wkends. Take care man. -
Quit whining and get a life! Try something different! There's no point playing a losing game.
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To Starpuppy:
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WTF. Its you yourself who choose not to make friends. Rejecting the outing just because of what? The 'Oh, I'm not good enough of them' reasons. Why do you put yourself down when others have not done so? Its worse than condemning yourself to death. Do you think people care about how you live your life? NOOOOO! Its you who make your life count. Ask your friends out when you have spare time.
Since your studis are bad, spend time on them when you are at home?
If you don't believe in 'forever friends', so be it. But never tell others this for they might think you are arrogant or such. You cannot tell how long a friendship will last. Full of twists and turns, your best friend might become your worst enemy and vice versa. So why worry about it, since you assume all friendships are bound to break. People worry over everything... when its nothing to be worried about. Just make friends with others, hang out with them. Find out what they like and stuff.. Its okay to change a bit for the people around you. But not to the extent that you ain't you. -
somewhere somehow you will find your meaning in life..
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Hmm.. another reason might be that
despite your low self esteem,
you have very high expectations towards other people
you expect people to be able to do what you do for them
(which isn't entirely fair) and if they fail to do it...
well, immediately you become very disappointed and discouraged
if you can't give without expectations
(if I treat my dog well, my dog should treat me well. etc)
then I think you will find yourself sorely disappointed very often.
Your post reminds me of a friend I met while on a course
She oftens complains about how everyone is only making use of her
and how useless/lousy she is...
but the reality is, I see people doing a lot more for her
cos they hope to change her negative thinking
but she is oblivous to all of it
I see people being considerate to her, showing concern for her
taking extra care cos looks like she could not take care of herself
but at the end of it, her feedback was
'everyone is better than me. Yah, I know you all try but truth is, nobody really cares for me'
and I wonder what it takes for her to change her mind.