shld i wait?
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i did a very foolish thing...by breaking up with him over a heated argument...really really regret it but he's avoiding me....i can't contact him at all...i only realised that i love him so much after i've lost him...
have been crying myself to sleep the past few weeks....waiting for him to cool down and get back to me...but it has been 2 weeks....i don't know if i should carry on waiting...im tired...tired of crying myself to sleep....
i don't know if he will turn back....everything is a blur...i really miss him...
his friend told me he's still very angry with me...and that i should be patient...but i really don't know if i can carry on waiting ... he has been adding girls on friendster...what should i do?.....................
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Originally posted by YuPLeNg:i did a very foolish thing...by breaking up with him over a heated argument...really really regret it but he's avoiding me....i can't contact him at all...i only realised that i love him so much after i've lost him...
have been crying myself to sleep the past few weeks....waiting for him to cool down and get back to me...but it has been 2 weeks....i don't know if i should carry on waiting...im tired...tired of crying myself to sleep....
i don't know if he will turn back....everything is a blur...i really miss him...
his friend told me he's still very angry with me...and that i should be patient...but i really don't know if i can carry on waiting ... he has been adding girls on friendster...what should i do?..................... 
can you provide more infomation?
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no, you should forget him.
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Originally posted by YuPLeNg:... he has been adding girls on friendster...what should i do?.....................
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Hi there,Originally posted by YuPLeNg:i did a very foolish thing...by breaking up with him over a heated argument...really really regret it but he's avoiding me....i can't contact him at all...i only realised that i love him so much after i've lost him...
have been crying myself to sleep the past few weeks....waiting for him to cool down and get back to me...but it has been 2 weeks....i don't know if i should carry on waiting...im tired...tired of crying myself to sleep....
i don't know if he will turn back....everything is a blur...i really miss him...
his friend told me he's still very angry with me...and that i should be patient...but i really don't know if i can carry on waiting ... he has been adding girls on friendster...what should i do?.....................
for what i see, he's not worth your wait...though you may feel that it's your wrong initiating the breakup with him, but from the feedbacks he has responded to you, it shows that he isn't bothered abt how you feel...i.e. if you might have yet realized, he may not have love you anymore...In any case, he may feel it's a load off his chest...and since you've initiated the breakup during a heated arguement, he won't be feel guilty or sorry since it wasn't him who initated it...
If you think he's worth yoru wait, perphaps you shld review the ways or actions he did after the breakup...although adding more female friends, to him, it could just be an excuse of expanding his circle of friends...
Furthermore, if a guy loves her gf so much, it doesn't need to take 2weeks to recover or cool down...
You shld look at your next alternative route...no point wasting time waiting for him as his love for you, to me, will be untrue anymore.... -
YOU SHOULD JUST GFORGET ABOUT HIM no need to bother there are tons of guys out there
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If you have contacted his friend and his friend tells you that he is still very angry with you, then perhaps it is a hint that he doesn't yet want to talk to you. Have you tried getting his friends to let him know how sorry and regretful you are? If he still is not moved, then perhaps he really isn't worth your time and you should move on.
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I've told his friend about it and his friend has told him that i'm still waiting for him...I also feel that he doesn't love me anymore or maybe he don't love me that much...There was this night at 2am when my friend called him and told him something happened to me but instead of calling me straight away, he called his friend to tell him how pissed he is with me for coming up with this trick...I didn't ask my friend to call in the first place!!...Originally posted by queiindom:If you have contacted his friend and his friend tells you that he is still very angry with you, then perhaps it is a hint that he doesn't yet want to talk to you. Have you tried getting his friends to let him know how sorry and regretful you are? If he still is not moved, then perhaps he really isn't worth your time and you should move on.
I was really disappointed that night...what if i was really in danger??...his response to me was so cold...not even concerned...but yet , i will think of reasons for him...maybe he was just too tired after work...as he was asleep already...but then again, if he can call his friend, why can't he just give me a ring?...why does he hate me so much?...just because i've hurt his pride n ego by breaking up with him? -
You know the answer.......Anyway, do you like a guy whom has that kinda pride n ego??? Why not ask yourself what do you love for him???Originally posted by YuPLeNg:I've told his friend about it and his friend has told him that i'm still waiting for him...I also feel that he doesn't love me anymore or maybe he don't love me that much...There was this night at 2am when my friend called him and told him something happened to me but instead of calling me straight away, he called his friend to tell him how pissed he is with me for coming up with this trick...I didn't ask my friend to call in the first place!!...
I was really disappointed that night...what if i was really in danger??...his response to me was so cold...not even concerned...but yet , i will think of reasons for him...maybe he was just too tired after work...as he was asleep already...but then again, if he can call his friend, why can't he just give me a ring?...why does he hate me so much?...just because i've hurt his pride n ego by breaking up with him?
I just feel that it could not be that you love him too much...it could be becoz you're too used to have him with you all along...and that could be the reason y you missed him so much...something seems to be out of your usual life when you were with him...
Btw, your "bf" is really a Gu Niang and he's a narrow-minded person... -
He's just trying to make you angry and jealous by adding girls on friendster. I find that really petty. And you really shouldn't have broken up with him if you chrish the realtionship so much. That was really immature. I guess the next best thing you can do it to either let him cool down before talking to him. Or you could message him and try to explain in a Mature manner.
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aiyo.. dun waste ur time on someone who isnt prepared to waste their time on u.
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Communication.
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Relationship problem are always hard to solve, cuz one hardly get to see both side of the problem..
In which , during majority of the time, both parties will try to make themselves look like the "pathethic" or rather the "wronged" one...
sorry for being harsh if i did, but it's just that you might need to think honestly through if you had "hurt" him before previously.. -
i am just like u.. broke up wif my ex and regretted... i wanted to patch back.. but he said he didnt wan.
i am also very sad.. cried to sleep every day until a couple of weeks, i stopped.
It is a torture for us.. but our ex dun feel so.. they still live their lives as per normal. they prove to us that they live better without us, even better.. This truth hurt us, but we still have to live wif it. the after math of breakup is horrible and terrible
mmm.. maybe u can email him how u feel the whole matter. A man not possible to get back wif u within 2 weeks if the cause of ur breakup is very bad. it really depends what is the cause of ur breakup.
I know u feel devasted now, seeing ur ex is so cold to u, adding girls to his friendster... wondering whether he does not wan to talk to u is it because he has new gf etc.
at least u have his friends to tell to u.. and updates u wif his lifestyle. u must be missing terribly.....
i also miss my ex terribly.. i have not see him for more than 2 mths.
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You are at fault in the first place. Looks like you gonna loss him for good. You have 'hurt' him deep in his heart.Originally posted by YuPLeNg:i did a very foolish thing...by breaking up with him over a heated argument...really really regret it but he's avoiding me....
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well, i suppose both of u r young and tempermental. i tink what you need is something to fill the vacuum in ur heart and more in ur mind. we all want to b loved and cherished and rich and everyting under the sun n over the sun.Originally posted by YuPLeNg:i did a very foolish thing...by breaking up with him over a heated argument...really really regret it but he's avoiding me....i can't contact him at all...i only realised that i love him so much after i've lost him...
have been crying myself to sleep the past few weeks....waiting for him to cool down and get back to me...but it has been 2 weeks....i don't know if i should carry on waiting...im tired...tired of crying myself to sleep....
i don't know if he will turn back....everything is a blur...i really miss him...
his friend told me he's still very angry with me...and that i should be patient...but i really don't know if i can carry on waiting ... he has been adding girls on friendster...what should i do?.....................
but for tomolo, the sun will still rise. dun let the emotional burden hold u down.
go do something. mebbe some1 better will come into ur life. -
I agree to dcx.Originally posted by dcx:1) ==> In any case, he may feel it's a load off his chest...
2) ==> Furthermore, if a guy loves her gf so much, it doesn't need to take 2weeks to recover or cool down...
3) ==> You shld look at your next alternative route...no point wasting time waiting for him as his love for you, to me, will be untrue anymore....
thread starter, maybe you dun quarrel as often... but i share something here....
Point 1, tt's how i felt when my gf initiated breaking up aft the last and final heated quarrel. why would i want to be wif a girl who always quarrel for the authencity of such "communication"?
Point 2, for myself, each and everytime we quarrel, to her it solved problems, but to me, its decrease in feelings each time we have heated quarrel, why... she always mention "let's break up". If a person cherish a relationship, she will not toy with threatening the relationship.
Point 3, basically, he's gone, dun bother to wait. that's what my then gf did, but never seen positive result in waiting. coz I'm in control. just like your ex bf is in control.
Lastly, if you love your bf so much you should not at anytime threaten the relationship. i deem it as absolute childishness.
Basically you're not able to handle any relationship at this point. -
I guess some of you guys are right.. I should not have threatened to break up over an argument...its my fault for doing so...now its too late for regrets...He's in control and there's nothing more i can do...
i've really broke his heart...His friend told me im the first gf he's so nice and caring to...but i hurt him...always taking him for granted and throwing tantrums at him...never seeing the good side of him...
if im ever given the chance again, i will be the best gf i know how...but its no longer possible...thought of emailing him but don't want to piss him further with any information about myself... -
Hey, hope you will be strong too...For my case, its slightly different...Heard that he has been drinking alot since our breakup and there was this time he threw up for the whole night...guess he's really hurt by me....Originally posted by -ohyeah-:It is a torture for us.. but our ex dun feel so.. they still live their lives as per normal. they prove to us that they live better without us, even better.. This truth hurt us, but we still have to live wif it. the after math of breakup is horrible and terrible
We are both hurting yet we are not back together...Love is such a funny thing... -
I am a firm believer of negative-positive; only when one is about to lose something before he would do anything to secure it.
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Pls allow me to rebutt against you with those hi-liteds'......Originally posted by YuPLeNg:I guess some of you guys are right.. I should not have threatened to break up over an argument...its my fault for doing so...now its too late for regrets...He's in control and there's nothing more i can do...
i've really broke his heart...His friend told me im the first gf he's so nice and caring to...but i hurt him...always taking him for granted and throwing tantrums at him...never seeing the good side of him...
if im ever given the chance again, i will be the best gf i know how...but its no longer possible...thought of emailing him but don't want to piss him further with any information about myself...
I do not feel that it's your fault of initiating the breakup....becoz what i feel is that he's tolerating you all the while...i.e. you're kinda a burden to him, nuisance(a very bad word to be used), however, i do feel that he's those kind of guys that will wait the opposite sex to initiate the breakup....
You may feel that i'm going against him....but i'm just trying to helo you out,...hoping that you can realized the reality and facts...
Even if you're given a chance, i doubt it'll work out......just what i think....might be the real case anyway...
It's true that you may need to change ur temper abit....not for him....but for yourself.... -
ya.. sound like its too late to do anything.
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I agree.. Yao shi qu guo, cai dong de zhen xi.Originally posted by sweetevil:I am a firm believer of negative-positive; only when one is about to lose something before he would do anything to secure it.
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If you guys have been in a relationship for long, perhaps he is bored. The very slightest mention of 'breaking-up' may seem music to his ears. Provided that he can put all the blame on you.
Adding girls on friendster? Haha... Seems to me that he can't wait to get to know more girls. Sure, being single means more flirting, but surely he can't be that fast in looking for new girls. Giving excuses that he is angry at you simply makes him feel 'good'. He might feel superior that a girl is willing to wait for him.
And usually I won't tell a friend who knows both parties of the problem. Cause it usually result in more friction between the relationship. Gossipping and backstabbing might happen and you wouldn't know it. And usually the best advice won't come from the person, instead the person might even play mind games with the both of you guys.
Do not put blame on yourself, girls are bound to throw a little tantrums to get their way, not all, though. And guys are bound to give in, especially in the case of a gentleman, or one who loves truely. A true gentleman will ALWAYS say sorry and try to make the other party happy no matter whos fault it is.(In my case)
Now that you are single, just simply make more friends, perhaps relationship now ain't right? Love will always come when it is meant to. Don't wait for time will always be moving. Just make good use of it, no regrets in your future. -
Topic Starter: Yupleng
After so much replies.
May i know what exactly went on which cause the break and the heartaches? Be honest with yourself, how long has this relationship been? What is the story about?
Kinda tired of seeing all the speculations. Alot of one sided comments.
The truth please? Appreciate.
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