I suceed in cutting in but.. now i lost interest..
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im not tired of her.. i luv her so much tat i can give up everything for her.Originally posted by rainee:looks who's talking
at least I know that love is not selfish, not something to be discarded and get tired of once you have it
I never felt this way abt a gal.. I even suggest ROM. U say lo..im serious anot?? 
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then why are you drifting away from her now? You shud stand by her more than ever, relationship is not always a bed of rosesOriginally posted by Wolfwoof^^:im not tired of her.. i luv her so much tat i can give up everything for her. I never felt this way abt a gal.. I even suggest ROM. U say lo..im serious anot?? -
im drifting cos she say she got no confidence in herself & me.. i wana stand & fight wif her but i donoe how.. i felt like a lost sheep sometimes.Originally posted by rainee:then why are you drifting away from her now? You shud stand by her more than ever, relationship is not always a bed of roses
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wow.. never know this kinda topic can attract all the mods here.. lol
well, you said you've succeed in cutting in.
that means you've already won the girl's heart.
and then you said you've lost interest in her.. that means that you're a bastard 
if you think you really love her.. then stand by her, no matter what happens. a 4 years relationship is not easy to forget, thats why she still can't forget her ex.
cutting in a 4 years relationship may be easy for you, but letting go a 4 years relationship may be hell for her..
let her know that you are with her and she had chosen the right guy.. not drifting away from her and let her settle the problem she's facing alone..
1 question: Do you Love her or do you Want her?
Think before you act..
2nd post
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Wolfwoof^^ ask yourself what u want in life..
If you really love her let her go... let her chose what she wants in life..
If she says she wants to be with u then ask her to work for it.. from what i see it seem to be a one sided fight,...
You cannot always fight alone .. if she loves u then ask her to show it properly
1) ask the girl to chose whether she wants her ex or u. who is more impt?
2) if she chose u then congras but asked her to prove it by showing her stand and asking her ex to stop pestering her, if she can do that it means she love u alot and is willing to do a lot for you then u got a chance.. saying so much is useless... she gives some actions.
3) next is her parents if she can use the same confidence she have when she face her ex to give the parents the same feeling that she is truely in love with u, i believe sincerely both will receive blessing from her parents.
Please do not treat ROM so lightly. is a very important decision in your life.. you must be very sure what you want before signing the paper.
Wolfwoof^^ i understand love is tough, i have been through a lot myself.. i know the struggle u face, so I really suggest u ask your gf sincerely what she wants.. give her time off to think carefully and fight together if she wants you by her side. -
She initiate break off today.. She say its too stressful for her.. her family & all her frds disapprove our rs. She say she luv me & wana b with me but she's not happy wif that way..
I let her go finally.. I want her to be happy. Fated really makes fun of me -
U F**king deserves this for cutting in. Lousy S.*.B.Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:Hi..i manage to cut into their 4yrs rs. She break up wif her x to be wif me. At 1st it was like honeymoon for us..those sweet sweet feelings for each other but i realise she havent forget about her x.. &..he keeps on pestering her. Her family also object to our rs. Somethings bcos of all tat pressure she face from her family, moodswings tends to get in.
When i saw her in such an angony..i tried to give her up. She just don't wana let me go.. Im honest & truthful to her & yet she said she got no confidence in me. Damn it realli piss me off..Im beginning to drift away from this rs but i still luv her.. IF ANYONE HERE HAS BEEN THROUGH THIS PLS ADVISE ME WHAT TO DO..
I luv her..& i wana b wif her.. i even wana marry her but WTF i feel im drifting away.. I really don't knw what to do.. -
Hi Wolfwoof,
I dun express well as what the rest did. My r/s failed cos someone like u did the similar thing. But dun u think tat u should taste some of the misery inflict on your GF ex?
Wake up your idea and moved on. Be a gentleman and if you claim to be a gentleman, you shouldnt have intrudge into other r/s. Even if a r/s dont work out well and will ultimately fail, I dun think this is one hell way for breaking up people's r/s. -
I've got mixed feelings regarding about your situation.Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:She initiate break off today.. She say its too stressful for her.. her family & all her frds disapprove our rs. She say she luv me & wana b with me but she's not happy wif that way..
I let her go finally.. I want her to be happy. Fated really makes fun of me
The former threads, i didn't think you're sincere in the post. Because you're simply numbskulled. To be frank, my impression of you isn't good at all.
But i feel that - ...really, Fate kinda makes fun of you.
I tell what, you set a place and time. I wish to help you.
And we'll meet up, go thru what happened thru out.
I wish to point out how you can take fate into your advantage.
You can have another perspective of the happenings in your life.
Are you on for it? I'll be free the next week (1Nov - 7Nov)
PM me for contact and confirmation of time.
Somehow i think you're afraid to take up this offer.
On my end, i will place this offer till 7th Nov.
Prove yourself.
Cheers
p.s Starpuppy, interested? -
she was the 1 that was made fun of NOT uOriginally posted by Wolfwoof^^:She initiate break off today.. She say its too stressful for her.. her family & all her frds disapprove our rs. She say she luv me & wana b with me but she's not happy wif that way..
I let her go finally.. I want her to be happy. Fated really makes fun of me -
Despite your declaration of your love for her over here, 'willing to give all',Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:im drifting cos she say she got no confidence in herself & me.. i wana stand & fight wif her but i donoe how.. i felt like a lost sheep sometimes.
You appear more like a bystander.
The facts laid bare for all to see. Her scarifices are evident.
And YOU. just b'cos she's weak & unsure, YOU drifted away & let her fight alone, 'think about it by herself'?
What YOU care for is your ego.
The least you can do is to ally her fears and face her family & friends. Assure and prove to them that you are the real deal. Tell me you have done that already? -
fark lo, 2 person who luv each other can't stay together!! U say she was the 1 who was make fun of???Originally posted by RaTtY81:she was the 1 that was made fun of NOT u -
REady to reply me?Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:fark lo, 2 person who luv each other can't stay together!! U say she was the 1 who was make fun of??? -
I tell her i can kneel down in front of her family to get their blessing.. I tried to stand by her.. U tell me wat to do la.. really pissoff..Originally posted by Magnus:Despite your declaration of your love for her over here, 'willing to give all',
You appear more like a bystander.
The facts laid bare for all to see. Her scarifices are evident.
And YOU. just b'cos she's weak & unsure, YOU drifted away & let her fight alone, 'think about it by herself'?
What YOU care for is your ego.
The least you can do is to ally her fears and face her family & friends. Assure and prove to them that you are the real deal. Tell me you have done that already? -
Dun just tell her, concrete action is needed. Mingle with her family members first.Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:I tell her i can kneel down in front of her family to get their blessing.. I tried to stand by her.. U tell me wat to do la.. really pissoff..
Win them over. Make them love you. Stand in front of the firing squad if you have to.
Let her feel comfortable that her family have accepted you.
The blessing thing do later - maybe a year or so. -
go her home everyday , get into her family good books
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I agree.Originally posted by Magnus:Dun just tell her, concrete action is needed. Mingle with her family members first.
Win them over. Make them love you. Stand in front of the firing squad if you have to.
Let her feel comfortable that her family have accepted you.
The blessing thing do later - maybe a year or so.
Talk is CHEAP!
your don't need to tell her you are willing to do anything to stay with her, Just do it!
Show her!
My bf can tell me that he's willing to help me, willing to die for me, willing to do ANYTHING to keep our relationship going strong... but if at the first sign of trouble, or hardship, he starts to doubt and starts to want to walk away, then all his promises, everything he told me were just TALK. nothing more.
If you really love her, you'll do anything it takes to stay with her. leaving/giving up should not even be an OPTION right now, That is of course IF you really LOVE her... -
Originally posted by M©+square:I've got mixed feelings regarding about your situation.
The former threads, i didn't think you're sincere in the post. Because you're simply numbskulled. To be frank, my impression of you isn't good at all.
But i feel that - ...really, Fate kinda makes fun of you.
I tell what, you set a place and time. I wish to help you.
And we'll meet up, go thru what happened thru out.
I wish to point out how you can take fate into your advantage.
You can have another perspective of the happenings in your life.
Are you on for it? I'll be free the next week (1Nov - 7Nov)
PM me for contact and confirmation of time.
Somehow i think you're afraid to take up this offer.
On my end, i will place this offer till 7th Nov.
Prove yourself.
Cheers
p.s Starpuppy, interested? -
Ok, the situation is..her family hates me & they still dote on her x. Her mom say she doesn't wana met me.. How am i gonna break the ice??Originally posted by Magnus:Dun just tell her, concrete action is needed. Mingle with her family members first.
Win them over. Make them love you. Stand in front of the firing squad if you have to.
Let her feel comfortable that her family have accepted you.
The blessing thing do later - maybe a year or so. -
I luv her.. although we r break off now but sometimes she still sms or call me. Its like blowing hot & cold.. Me now blur blur liao.. What should i do? I did tell her i still luv her..Originally posted by smudgey:I agree.
Talk is CHEAP!
your don't need to tell her you are willing to do anything to stay with her, Just do it!
Show her!
My bf can tell me that he's willing to help me, willing to die for me, willing to do ANYTHING to keep our relationship going strong... but if at the first sign of trouble, or hardship, he starts to doubt and starts to want to walk away, then all his promises, everything he told me were just TALK. nothing more.
If you really love her, you'll do anything it takes to stay with her. leaving/giving up should not even be an OPTION right now, That is of course IF you really LOVE her... -
wateva it is, i hate, and i say again, i abso-farking-lutely hate pple who break other's relationship for their own good....
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haiz...Originally posted by kentheman:wateva it is, i hate, and i say again, i abso-farking-lutely hate pple who break other's relationship for their own good.... -
pls go and meet MCSquare
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That's of course.Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:Ok, the situation is..her family hates me & they still dote on her x. Her mom say she doesn't wana met me.. How am i gonna break the ice??
In their eyes, her ex done no wrong. they regard him as a potential son-in-law until you came along.
They couldn't possibly hate their own daugther. So, it must be you.
You can't just pop in front of them and declare yourself. make your prescence known first, by way of small gifts, run errants. Occasionally 'da bao' and have your gf bring it up. Dun meet them first. You have 3 mths to work on it till the CNY. See if they invite you over. That's an ultimate litmus test.
Once that's OK. You can try pop into their home like once a month and slowly up/down the frequency. You have to see to it yourself - read their mood up.
Whatever you do, tell her that these are the steps to take to win them over.
In short. With her family, you start from zero.
It may even take years. Troublesome?
It depends on how much you love her. How much you are willing to commit.
Your sincerity.
And after that, then talk about marriage.
Cheers. -
If you have No regrets at all, then what are you whining about?
Pathetic wuss!
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Wolfwoof^^:I go for wat i luv.. ya, its selfish but i knw i hv no regrets at all