how to console her?
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Recently i had a colleague she is 17 this year. But she is in BGR problem , i try to console her. She is too stubborn to listen to adults around her.
The problem she is having now is she cannot forget a guy whereby this is a love triangle going on. The guy got a gf but still flirt with my colleague feelings ending up giving things to her to make her touched, end up my colleague broke off with him because she doesnt want this type of stress. Yet now she still cant forget about him. From what i see the situation now is the another guy her "ex" which r/s lasted for 1yr, somehow know the situation between her and another guy and took advantage of the situation by trying to patch with her, the guy is very bad temper, hurt the girl brusies all over, but yet she still dont mind him. She always show me her brusies,
As a friend of hers, i feel agiated over the guy that harm her yet she still "bo chup" about him. I got the intention to confront either both of the guy that hurt her Shall i 
. I kinda feel like im her big brother trying to solve the problem, i hate seeing she being bullied. She is stucked in the middle by forgeting the past, she keep on work and hang out late at night or either drinking. 
Anyone of you can give me advise on me on how to console her? -
dun make a triangle affair to a rectangle affair can le.
i think there isn't any thing you can do, nor should do like go confront the guy. in the end, the only person gonna kana is that girl anyways. -
But the guy keep on harm her.. I always see blue black bruises heart pain
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When will you realise that it's time to let her learn?Originally posted by zichuan:Recently i had a colleague she is 17 this year. But she is in BGR problem , i try to console her. She is too stubborn to listen to adults around her.
The problem she is having now is she cannot forget a guy whereby this is a love triangle going on. The guy got a gf but still flirt with my colleague feelings ending up giving things to her to make her touched, end up my colleague broke off with him because she doesnt want this type of stress. Yet now she still cant forget about him. From what i see the situation now is the another guy her "ex" which r/s lasted for 1yr, somehow know the situation between her and another guy and took advantage of the situation by trying to patch with her, the guy is very bad temper, hurt the girl brusies all over, but yet she still dont mind him. She always show me her brusies,
As a friend of hers, i feel agiated over the guy that harm her yet she still "bo chup" about him. I got the intention to confront either both of the guy that hurt her Shall i . I kinda feel like im her big brother trying to solve the problem, i hate seeing she being bullied. She is stucked in the middle by forgeting the past, she keep on work and hang out late at night or either drinking.
Anyone of you can give me advise on me on how to console her?
How then will you know you should let her be?
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be nice to her lor at least she got someone to complain to.Originally posted by zichuan:But the guy keep on harm her.. I always see blue black bruises heart pain 
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Chinese saying "pang guan zhe qing, dang ju zhe mi"
She refuses to help herself & refusing to let others help her too. U have tried ur best but u can never prevent her from falling. Wat else can u do? Juz be there to catch her when she falls.. -
1) did she ask for your help?
2) do u sincerely think that by confronting any of her bf, will help to improve her condition? think carefully u confront any bf the bf gets piss off beats her more...
so in the end who suffer..
Teach her how to be strong.
teach her how to stand up for herself and not console her again and again..
Show her the light .. if she cannot see it then basic advice will not work on her.
She got to learn it the hard way. -
who are you to her ?
you are just a colleague..
know your role..
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Are you interested in her???
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is she those sweet sweet type or normal average looking ?
if she is sweet type ... she will haf no prob finding another boyfriend
ask her to forget that rubbish and look for new one.. -
Ok. I just let the situation be, let her learn the hard way. She is a cute looking girl.
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drx has a good question: does she ask you for help?
it seems as if she knows that is happening to her is a bad thing, and she is merely showing you her bruises because right now, she needs attention. i have no solution to this problem. it's either you give her the attention (boost her ego a bit, maybe let her feel like someone does care) or you dun give her the attention (just tell her in the face that if she allows herself to be beaten by a guy, then u also got nothing to say to her liao) and maybe she will run off to another soul to show her bruises to.
right now, this gal is emotionally unsound. tread carefully. -
let her be. Only when people burn themselves then they will learn the consequence of their actions and the people who actually care about them
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he's definitely interested in her.
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Its obvious hor..
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I know girls like this. They are girls with a capital P for PROBLEMS stamped on thier forehead. Now u got a few choices. Do u really want to help her ? somtimes refuse ..n i know.. u are wondering..how can they be so dumb!!! JEEZEZ CHRIST!!?! but they are they.. u are u. U cannot assume they have the same moral principles as u.
To confront the 2 dudes. U need a few things .
1)Do u have what it takes emotionally handling thier verbal abuses and physically handling the situatoin
2)Do u have alot of kaki to back ur ass
3)Are u willing to risk it all for her
If not.. then forget it. or u can always pay me a small sum of ' 'consulting' fee i can do for u.
anyways i think u did ur best already. Leave her to dry for herself. Or its giving u stress too. -
"Ok. I just let the situation be, let her learn the hard way. She is a cute looking girl."
zichuan has chosen his path already.
give him some space to breath. -
Path to the darkside chosen he has....Originally posted by drx:"Ok. I just let the situation be, let her learn the hard way. She is a cute looking girl."
zichuan has chosen his path already.
give him some space to breath. -
No point i cant help her now, only she can help herself. Let nature takes it course. Im not interested in her, i got a 5years relationship going on. She is too young and naive for christ sake.
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Seriously i find that gals are sensative when someone treats her damn nice, she thought you are chasing her. Duhz..
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Nabei Cheebye lah. If got my friend kenna beat like tat, I call my kakis come down le...
Okay...not my kakis...but my friend's brother is a rather big figure in the underworld... Budden....
Then in Singapore... the punks... are nothing compared to the police force... -
In the end,u contradict urself...Originally posted by Ayukat:Nabei Cheebye lah. If got my friend kenna beat like tat, I call my kakis come down le...
Okay...not my kakis...but my friend's brother is a rather big figure in the underworld... Budden....
Then in Singapore... the punks... are nothing compared to the police force... -
LALALALALALALALA
How bout you follow her and her BF... den when her BF starts to do something to her... call the mata... -
I guess the thread can be closed. Such strong words are used.