Whats Wrong With Me
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Virgos are relatively not very sensitive people but then not entirely. Sometimes they do am able to read your mind on how you felt. But naturally they get a bit too carry away with things around her (eg. friends..blah blah blah)Originally posted by ReliverX:Hey I mean u got same experiance as me ? wow...
That right on the nail's head!
Well, anything I can do or any good advice to go with how to not have things happen ?
But let me ask you again, what is it about her that you fell in love with in the first place? Is it not her kindness and helpfullness towards the people around her (which includes yourself)?
As for her going out with guys friends and blah blah blah (especially a particular person) you just gotta learn to trust her more. I'm not saying she should be trusted but then again why is a person called a criminal when he never commits a crime? You can't put a sentence on a person until he/she is found guilty of felony.
As for her to forget your dates and remember others, just let it be bah or take the first move to ask her and her friends out for activities instead of just you two. My gf, like yours, love to be around friends alot and sometime I do feel that I'm depriving her of her life to go out with me alone although she never really do admit it. And please be informed that I only get to see her once or twice a year cause we are in different country and I don't travel to Malaysia so often and she seldoms come in too. So meet up time is very precious but then it's just her to love to be with friends especially if I meet up with her in KL where most of her friends are there and she's currently back to stay in her hometown in Trengganu which is 5hrs drive away from KL.
As much as I wanted to spend quality time with her alone in KL, I know she wants to meet up with some of her good friends there too as she doesnt' have much chance to drive to KL to meet them. So why should I be selfish? I have my life and my needs and she got her life and her needs. Just give and take on both sides. It doesn't cost you a flesh to give in right? I don't see it as giving in either but more like being understanding.
Pal, for your information, I'm a pisces and I'm sure I'm more sensitive than you but I still try to cope with my situation with my gf. Just try lah, to each of it's own. I can't force you to be like me either cause you are not me. But no harm trying. If in the end you still think it's too hard on you, then the final decision still lies with you. Have a good talk with her how you feel. It's really ok if you two did talk about it before. Won't kill you to say it again and again right? I know it can be quite tiring but it's worth it.
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Sounds like my case, lol....Originally posted by Devil1976:You know what I think? As I've said and expected, you're just defensive of her...
Of course I don't even know her in person and it would be quite unfair for me to make 'statements' about her just like that... But chances are it won't be too far off....
Inexperience and young for this relationship? A reminder for you, she's 17 and you're only 1 year above?
Personally, I sense that she' more than meet the eyes for you... And while you're trying to figure out alot of things, does she seems much more 'relaxed' to things..? Have you ever thought why? Just her character to be 'cool'...?
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You're a young chap?Originally posted by Sekundes:Sounds like my case, lol....
Virgo gf?
How are things now
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come come let me share some of my similar experiences
i also had this type of GF and it lasted for about a year, and fyi i initiated the breakup
she was like what you said, super-sociable and super wanna be friends with everyone type. here are the traits:
keeps replying and chatting via sms/phone with her pursuers despite repeated complaints from me
goes out with her rejected pursuers.. claiming it was just for innocent meals..
takes a long time to reply my smses, sometimes even fail to do so...but replies quite promptly to her other friends (this i confirmed in an experiment)
always saying sorry and that she will not do it again after talk sessions with me.
claims not able to meet me at night but goes for a movie with her sister instead.
hides what she has done from me claiming that if i knew i would be angry so did not tell me (for example go out with guys)
and some more..if you interested tell me..
i struggled with myself for a long time over what to do because i was constantly feeling hurt and betrayed. everyday the pain tears my heart, and gradually i began to distance myself from her, it just came naturally, perhaps it was sub-conscious way to protect myself.
she, upon sensing my distancing, initiated to breakup, but i was still unwilling at that time, but bobian agreed painfully... however after 2 months she came back to me and i couldnt reject her also...so we back again...
the 2nd stint did not improve, the core of the problems remain, and new hurt and pain came in on top of the old ones. at one point in time it was just too much for me to bear, furthermore i was juggling the hectics of NS too..
in the end i made the decision to finally breakup with her and to my surprise i actually felt some relieve...it was like being released from prison.. -
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Just Settling down on basic things like talk.Originally posted by Devil1976:You're a young chap?
Virgo gf?
How are things now
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Sorry, but I got to say not everybody believes in horoscopes. By the way, don't you always find something that is quite true in horoscope whenever you read it?Originally posted by R3SsH|n:hoho brother...don't underestimate the power of the stars above...
While I respect individuals' choices in their belief systems, I personally wouldn't advocate the reliance on horoscopes. Maybe I am a Man of Science, or rather, Man of Social Sciences, specifically.
For ReliverX, what you are feeling is normal, and it is easy to hear people telling you to give your partner personal space, be tolerant, etc, etc, etc... For me, I believe it's just a matter of differences in personalities and character, and the most important thing to do is to communicate effectively with her. Talk with her.
However, there is the possibility that both of you are just not meant to be together due to differences in your personalities and expectations. However, as both of you as well as the relationship mature, you may just get to realise that things would work out fine eventually as your love for each other grows deeper and deeper and both of you start thinking for each other more and more. Remember: Loving is giving.. True love is wanting your loved one to be happy, not you yourself to be happy and satisfied.
At the same time, you must keep your options open. Anyway, you are still young. And precisely because both of you are young, there is a possibility that either or both of you just cannot seem to be able to find the right way to love.
Lastly, just be assured that there's nothing wrong with you. Just enjoy the relationship and learn as it grows.. -
laosu,Originally posted by laosu:Are you sure you are a man? In my opinion after reading both your post, I think you sound more like a loser or a badly wounded person injured by your ex-gf. God bless your ex as she found freedom after losing you.
I don't give excuses. I telling you people based on my experiences. You can't fully trust a girl 100% when you caught her lying to you and not replying to your text messages and calls. What your gut feelings tells you what's she doing, it's true.
When your women is going out with some guys behind your back, what the fook are you still hanging on to your phone waiting for her calls/smses while she's out with some guys which she never tells you.
That's why 90% of the women end the relationship first. They can't stand sore whiners like you who always give excuses that she's the right one for me therefore i should give her a chance and she will treasure me even more.
Plain bullshit.
Once, ok. Twice, warn her. Three times. Dump her.
I'm telling you men to protect your heart. Why let a girl make u suffer emotionally.
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Aries and Virgo is a difficult relationship ..
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I love begins this way when i in my teenager.Originally posted by ReliverX:Having a Smooth Sailing Relationship, but problems starts to crop up recently.
About her
She's Pretty Kind, and friendly.
Always trying to make everyone happy, trys make ppl's day.
very caring and concern, anything happens she's just concern about it.
Very easily persauded, when her friends just have to ask a her a few times and she will agree.
Naive and Innocent, She's not that experiance in relationship and in the outside world.
Forgetful and funloving.
Probs:
When She goes out with guy(s) alone, and I don't know about it,
until it happens or is over.
She leaves the conversation/sms sessions with long interval sometimes to 1/2hr to 5 hrs. She Don't even know I'm gone sometimes.
Anything Wrong She Say Sorry, and try to make it sound like its a one day issue. It makes her sorrys feel so worthless.
She doesn't know when i'm pissed angry or sad, she doesn't seem to understand me.
Some Guy is sometimes tagging along during our date, and she doesn't mind.
Whenever she's having fun with other guys or people, and i just stand there helplessly, because i can't gave her that fun.
She calls some other guy out for activities, not me, Even she knows I'm able to.
She Never Remembers our dates, but remembers some friends outing and all.
She does want to ask me question directly, always beats around the bushes and never getting to the point.
She doesn't like to tell me her problems and keeps it to herself.
Its obvious that the guy still likes her and yet she still goes out with him.
I know all the reasons and understanding behind these probs and action.
yet I'm always getting jealousy touch and pings all over my heart.
Sometimes it saddens me greatly.
I know why yet i feel sad. What Can I do ?
Often going out with a many guys..and treating them like friends...well wat wrong wif tat? Sometimes just to test out my guy if he really love me..if not is ok, if he can't tolerate this any longer. I shall not continue this relationship with him. -
Why need to keep testing? Is it some kind of new game?Originally posted by VampireEB:I love begins this way when i in my teenager.
Often going out with a many guys..and treating them like friends...well wat wrong wif tat? Sometimes just to test out my guy if he really love me..if not is ok, if he can't tolerate this any longer. I shall not continue this relationship with him. -
Then you have problem dealing with your relationship and definition of Love.Originally posted by VampireEB:I love begins this way when i in my teenager.
Often going out with a many guys..and treating them like friends...well wat wrong wif tat? Sometimes just to test out my guy if he really love me..if not is ok, if he can't tolerate this any longer. I shall not continue this relationship with him.
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Originally posted by Oyathatsme:
I'll never agree to your comments even if you kill me. True that there are girls who are like what you mention but don't sink the whole boat just because of one woman. A man's heart has not much diff with a woman's heart. You need some respect from them and they demand the same from you. What gives you the right to demand first?
laosu,
I don't give excuses. I telling you people based on my experiences. You can't fully trust a girl 100% when you caught her lying to you and not replying to your text messages and calls. What your gut feelings tells you what's she doing, it's true.
When your women is going out with some guys behind your back, what the fook are you still hanging on to your phone waiting for her calls/smses while she's out with some guys which she never tells you.
That's why 90% of the women end the relationship first. They can't stand sore whiners like you who always give excuses that she's the right one for me therefore i should give her a chance and she will treasure me even more.
[b]Plain bullshit.
Once, ok. Twice, warn her. Three times. Dump her.
I'm telling you men to protect your heart. Why let a girl make u suffer emotionally.
You don't build a relationship. You buy a relationship.
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I rather learn to trust, to respect and to love them first before I dare to say I've done what I could to deserve some respect and love from them. I do admit that after putting in so much and they still betray my trust in them then is no longer my fault that they strayed. I'll feel sad, but sadness will eventually go away but not guilt. I've been through 9yrs feeling guilty towards my ex for hurting her and for 9yrs I'm left with nothing but tortured by the guilt. -
One person may want more commitment in a relationship while the other wants more freedom. They become extremely polarized on this issue and truly believe that they want opposite things.
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Well i dunno why i'm behaved that way..Originally posted by pie:Why need to keep testing? Is it some kind of new game?
now i could tell you..maybe i'm seeking for more attentions.
from peers, parents and friends n this what a teenager normally do. For is natural process of growing age.
so by mixing around having more acquaintances just to make myself feeling more important and feel needed.
Ofcoz this is my past..not now..now different story
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Yeah ..true.Originally posted by M©+square:Then you have problem dealing with your relationship and definition of Love.
Cheers
So having many relationships in the past..well coz not sure who to love.. -
What you did in the past was also what many girls did before.Originally posted by VampireEB:Yeah ..true.
So having many relationships in the past..well coz not sure who to love..
That leads to vicious cycle.
It is sad to know that when girls are at their experimental stages in a r/s.
They unknowingly warped the guy's mindset. Maybe the r/s ended, but the cycle started.
Girl test Boy, Boy left r/s.
Boy got into new r/s
Boy hurt girl, Girl left r/s
Girl got into new r/s
goes on and on....
Vice versa.
This applies to those who cannot manage r/s failures. It forces them to search for a alternative to deal with relationship.
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This is subjective..
Sometimes not only the guy suffered the emotional pain but at times gal too suffered physical vs emotional pain if begin cheated or dump by the guy. -
I bet you didn't read when i posted this word ::::::Vice versa::::Originally posted by VampireEB:This is subjective..
Sometimes not only the guy suffered the emotional pain but at times gal too suffered physical vs emotional pain if begin cheated or dump by the guy.
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Oop overlooked..dun hiaz i understood ur points..Originally posted by M©+square:I bet you didn't read when i posted this word ::::::Vice versa::::
Hai... -
Originally posted by VampireEB:Oop overlooked..dun hiaz i understood ur points..
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My uncle and aunt are Aries and Virgo respectively... and they are still so much in love,holding hands after 40 years of marriage..
See what I meant about horoscopes?
By the way, VampireEB used the word 'difficult' so it's not impossible anyway.. Your determination and will to keep the relationship going are more important..Originally posted by VampireEB:Aries and Virgo is a difficult relationship ..
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Well, There are so many different horoscope point I mean that its hard to comprehend.
My Fren says that Aries and Virgo are compatible... lol
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Yes u right! Difficult doesn't mean impossible to get along ..Originally posted by ellisbeck:My uncle and aunt are Aries and Virgo respectively... and they are still so much in love,holding hands after 40 years of marriage..
See what I meant about horoscopes?
By the way, VampireEB used the word 'difficult' so it's not impossible anyway.. Your determination and will to keep the relationship going are more important..
one gotta be patient and take time to understand each other needs.
Then the love life will be a wonderful and sparkling one.
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Some how its heartening and disheartening to see you guys post lol...