Whats Wrong With Me
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just dump her la,a relationship shld b happy but seems like this relationship makes u so headache and jealous,wats the point of continue,ur character and her character just dun suit both of u.Sensitive guys lik u shldnt find girls like her,so my verdict juts dump her and find a new one loh or remain single lik me loh.I just sick of BGR!
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Originally posted by R3SsH|n:
Hmm stick to each other like glue ? can you define, cause its alittle broad in the term.
well...as the cliche goes...these are just some test to your relationship...
anyways you all are just 17-18 years old...you have loads of time with you...
so my advice is...
[b]JUST LOVE AND BE LOVED AND HAVE FUN LOVING
if it really doesn't work out or both of you need some spaces between each other...give it to each other...you cannot stick to each other like glue...you will get sick of it...
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Is it so easy to forget what I tell her, and so easy to accept someone's invitation? -
A relationship is not about being just plain happy,Originally posted by black.S:just dump her la,a relationship shld b happy but seems like this relationship makes u so headache and jealous,wats the point of continue,ur character and her character just dun suit both of u.Sensitive guys lik u shldnt find girls like her,so my verdict juts dump her and find a new one loh or remain single lik me loh.I just sick of BGR!
All the ups and downs of the relationship counts.
Thus making the couple closer.
Character wise, we are normal.
Its just that I tend to be more sensitive when it comes to commitment.
I more of a committed guy.
And Regarding Dumping her, I would never.
A good relationship isn't something that comes by that easily.
I just wanna make things out right.
And finding a new one won't work.
If u can't solve the problem within, a change in the other might not help. -
its like you have to meet each other everyday...whether it is go out for dinner...or just see each other...sometimes it gets a little tiring to do that...maybe your gf is feeling a little uncomfortable always have to stick with you...she might have her own friends...she needs her time oso...Originally posted by ReliverX:Hmm stick to each other like glue ? can you define, cause its alittle broad in the term.
Is it so easy to forget what I tell her, and so easy to accept someone's invitation?
if u don't see her for sometime...she will start missing u ba...so when u ask her out...it will be more exciting for her...
a relationship is like flying a kite...you have to know when to release the string and when to pul itl...its a balance... -
True...Originally posted by R3SsH|n:its like you have to meet each other everyday...whether it is go out for dinner...or just see each other...sometimes it gets a little tiring to do that...maybe your gf is feeling a little uncomfortable always have to stick with you...she might have her own friends...she needs her time oso...
if u don't see her for sometime...she will start missing u ba...so when u ask her out...it will be more exciting for her...
a relationship is like flying a kite...you have to know when to release the string and when to pul itl...its a balance...
I'm always encouraging her to go out with her friends...
Her Frens Don always seem to go out.
Maybe I meet her too often. Thanks man.. -
yea...i speak like a real expert in this...Originally posted by ReliverX:True...
I'm always encouraging her to go out with her friends...
Her Frens Don always seem to go out.
Maybe I meet her too often. Thanks man..
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True.
Still I'm still sad about what happen.
tell me is it that easy to forget a date from your love one,
and so easy to accept anothers?
And that day was a so special day. -
It sounds like she is very much a sociable young lady. You should try to socialize with other girls too to test her out and in case this relationship didn't work, you have other choices. Sigh...Hope this helps...Originally posted by ReliverX:True.
Still I'm still sad about what happen.
tell me is it that easy to forget a date from your love one,
and so easy to accept anothers?
And that day was a so special day. -
Hmm thanks, but i think we got each others prob settle out.
Seems, that she was expecting me to do somethings, i was expecting her to do the same thing.
So ends up, niether goes any where..
thanks guys for ur advices... -
theres nothing wrong with u bro, i guess u guys mus talk abt this issues heart to heart n really make sure tht its not noactiontalkonly..yeah, aniwaes u guys mus noe where to draw the line to give each other their own space, dun ever doubt her love too, i did once and it has very devastating effects
cheers n tke cre -
Well said!!Originally posted by ReliverX:A relationship is not about being just plain happy,
All the ups and downs of the relationship counts.
Thus making the couple closer.
Character wise, we are normal.
Its just that I tend to be more sensitive when it comes to commitment.
I more of a committed guy.
And Regarding Dumping her, I would never.
A good relationship isn't something that comes by that easily.
I just wanna make things out right.
And finding a new one won't work.
If u can't solve the problem within, a change in the other might not help.
Guess your probably more mature than your GF in some ways...
But then again balance is impt like they all have said...
Sometimes one jux cant be gripping so tight for so long... gona let go for some moments to relax and release all the tension....
Your concern for her was good though... but try giving her more space as well... maybe once in a while don't give her so much concern and see if she complain and feel that you dun care so much for her... Then u might know how much space u still have in her heart...
But again dun neglect her too much else she might think you have another gal or will let another guy have a chance -
wad's with the title? man, there is nothing wrong with you, dun go thinking that way. it is natural that u will feel upset in this kinda situation, dun feel bad about it.
first thing, u have to let ur gal know wad u are feeling. dun think that it is petty of u to feel that way, cos u are entitled to it. so let her know. let her know you expect somethings from her as your gf. in a r/s it is ok to let your partner know what u need from her.
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Its ok to do that ? I mean wanting something from her doesn't seem right for me. lol... I dunno why but it just don't...Originally posted by starblue:wad's with the title? man, there is nothing wrong with you, dun go thinking that way. it is natural that u will feel upset in this kinda situation, dun feel bad about it.
first thing, u have to let ur gal know wad u are feeling. dun think that it is petty of u to feel that way, cos u are entitled to it. so let her know. let her know you expect somethings from her as your gf. in a r/s it is ok to let your partner know what u need from her.
and in return, give her what she needs.
She complains if i give her a cold shoulder for awhile.Originally posted by falling_stars:Well said!!
Guess your probably more mature than your GF in some ways...
But then again balance is impt like they all have said...
Sometimes one jux cant be gripping so tight for so long... gona let go for some moments to relax and release all the tension....
Your concern for her was good though... but try giving her more space as well... maybe once in a while don't give her so much concern and see if she complain and feel that you dun care so much for her... Then u might know how much space u still have in her heart...
But again dun neglect her too much else she might think you have another gal or will let another guy have a chance
Well about giving another guy chance, it happens to often.
I mean her friends - Guy side, mostly are all her rejects and they never give up. She's friendly and cheerful nice gal, so she always nice to everyone ya know ?
Sometimes it edges me alittle, though I'm ok with that.
I just don't like a particular guy. haha...
ABout Freedom, I gave her total freedom, too much ?
thanks, man. But I never doubt her love.Originally posted by kevinaldinho:theres nothing wrong with u bro, i guess u guys mus talk abt this issues heart to heart n really make sure tht its not noactiontalkonly..yeah, aniwaes u guys mus noe where to draw the line to give each other their own space, dun ever doubt her love too, i did once and it has very devastating effects
cheers n tke cre
Again about personal Space I gave her total...
Anyway Thanks guys....
It niec to have u guys reply. -
I mean socialising she doesn't mind that but going out with them alone she gets edgyOriginally posted by mumof2:It sounds like she is very much a sociable young lady. You should try to socialize with other girls too to test her out and in case this relationship didn't work, you have other choices. Sigh...Hope this helps...
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In the midst in a relationship, whenever this kinda feeling/problem arises, the choice is yours. You don't build a relationship. You buy a relationship. It's like a shirt when you are searching in a grocery store. You look for the best that is suited to your needs. Compare.
You are a man. A women have to give and take into what you want. Of course the man does too unless you are sure that she's interested into you.
3/4 the posters here that give you advice that are totally bullshit. Wat you posted, i doubt her interest level towards you are pretty high.
The problem lies in you my friend, you seem like a nice guy who gives in everything to her needs! Which girls need a guy who's paying for her, making the first moves, whispering sweet nothings to her ears. I doubt you have the capability to dump her and find someone who's level of interest is higher.
Some of the posters here that give you advice that are totally bullshit. That's why 90% of the topics posted in AA most of the guys comes first being dumped.
Whenever she give you the red flags, lying/cheating on you. Move on with your life. She don't deserve your care and concern. Come on there are plenty of girls out there.
You deserve someone better. In my humble opinion, your girlfriend doesn't fit into my standards. I would just tell her straight in the face I want out this relationship out.
You are acting like a girl in this relationship. -
Hmm thats Harsh.Originally posted by Oyathatsme:In the midst in a relationship, whenever this kinda feeling/problem arises, the choice is yours. You don't build a relationship. You buy a relationship. It's like a shirt when you are searching in a grocery store. You look for the best that is suited to your needs. Compare.
You are a man. A women have to give and take into what you want. Of course the man does too unless you are sure that she's interested into you.
3/4 the posters here that give you advice that are totally bullshit. Wat you posted, i doubt her interest level towards you are pretty high.
The problem lies in you my friend, you seem like a nice guy who gives in everything to her needs! Which girls need a guy who's paying for her, making the first moves, whispering sweet nothings to her ears. I doubt you have the capability to dump her and find someone who's level of interest is higher.
Some of the posters here that give you advice that are totally bullshit. That's why 90% of the topics posted in AA most of the guys comes first being dumped.
Whenever she give you the red flags, lying/cheating on you. Move on with your life. She don't deserve your care and concern. Come on there are plenty of girls out there.
You deserve someone better. In my humble opinion, your girlfriend doesn't fit into my standards. I would just tell her straight in the face I want out this relationship out.
You are acting like a girl in this relationship.
Dumbing her sounds wrong because,
She's not cheating on me,
Not lying to me about things.
I would put it past that she isn't experiance in relationship.
Or about Guys.
Innocent and Naive i might say she is.
So Relax man... Don be so hard on the accusations
Your pretty sure of ur life are you ^^, -
Let me tell you.
Women are smart creatures. Smart enough to cover their doings. I know.
You tell me she's inexperienced in a relationship, don't give excuses.
I bet you suffer and end up being dumped first I can forsee in this relationship.
When a women don't tell you who and which guy she's going with, something is fishy.
Firstly, you as her other half, have the right to know who she's hanging out with and where.
And of course you get edgy and attempt to get answers from her, then you will come across insecure in needy in this relationship. Women are good actors. Good liars. And we men always believe them 100%. And when the same scenario happens again, you still give in to her.
And once you start acting like a women in a relationship, she sees you like a boy who needs to be spoonfed.
What I'm telling you is to be a man. Do not take any nonsense from a women. Whether she's lying or cheating on you. You end up in misery.
And when you start feeling miserable in a relationship, it's time to tell yourself you don't deserve this shit and move on in your life.
Protect your heart.
I don't want to see my friends end up getting hurt. -
HAHAHA!!!Originally posted by ReliverX:I'm 18 and she's 17
Aries, Virgo
Students.
for a week or 2.
I repeated myself once.
She will apologise, and stay silent looking very sad.
Does Horoscopes affect this some how ?
My gf is virgo too and trust me...they sure sound alike.
Pal, I'm not much better than you and I have my fair share of jealousy.
She's stays in Malaysia and I stay in Singapore and we are 9hrs apart.
Seeing each other is hard enough and trust me, talking on the phone is starting to get harder.
I miss my gf alot and talking much lesser and lesser as her dad is in hospital and she's there every day and stays there too to take care of the dad.
You know what? I miss her to much sense that I get cranky more and more often as most of the time I call her and she never picks up the call. It makes me very very upset but at the end all these, I know for sure that I still love her despite all these and it's just the way she is and I'll try to get used to it.
It's not a matter of having no choice. I do have the choice. Find another gf who has plenty of time for me and someone who can be with me at my side all time, but I don't want another gf and I don't need another gf cause I love my gf. This is how she is when I know her and this is what touches me most about her so why should I grumple about something that I love? And I don't think I have the right to ask her to change.
Anyway, another tips for you about Virgos. They can be quite forgetful and get carried away especially when they are with friends. It happens to me too.
But ultimately, they are really great gf when they focus their attention on you alone. Enjoy that moment. -
Originally posted by ReliverX:A relationship is not about being just plain happy,
All the ups and downs of the relationship counts.
Thus making the couple closer.
Character wise, we are normal.
Its just that I tend to be more sensitive when it comes to commitment.
I more of a committed guy.
Totally agree with you.
If a r/s is smooth without problems, then the r/s itself is facing a big problem.
I'm like you..sensitive
And Regarding Dumping her, I would never.
A good relationship isn't something that comes by that easily.
I just wanna make things out right.
And finding a new one won't work.
If u can't solve the problem within, a change in the other might not help.
No one in this world is perfect or at least 100% of what you expect.
If this one can't make it and we dump and find another,
then for the rest of our life we'll be changing partners again and again.
My gf once ask me why I love her so much despite that most of the time she always make me upset and that she got so much flaws. It took me less than a second to know my own reply. I told her cause if she is able to make me upset, it means that she is important in my heart if not I won't even be bothered and secondly it's her flaws that I fell in love with most and her vitures second. -
Only two words to describe you.In the midst in a relationship, whenever this kinda feeling/problem arises, the choice is yours. You don't build a relationship. You buy a relationship. It's like a shirt when you are searching in a grocery store. You look for the best that is suited to your needs. Compare.
You are a man. A women have to give and take into what you want. Of course the man does too unless you are sure that she's interested into you.
3/4 the posters here that give you advice that are totally bull#@&!. Wat you posted, i doubt her interest level towards you are pretty high.
The problem lies in you my friend, you seem like a nice guy who gives in everything to her needs! Which girls need a guy who's paying for her, making the first moves, whispering sweet nothings to her ears. I doubt you have the capability to dump her and find someone who's level of interest is higher.
Some of the posters here that give you advice that are totally bull#@&!. That's why 90% of the topics posted in AA most of the guys comes first being dumped.
Whenever she give you the red flags, lying/cheating on you. Move on with your life. She don't deserve your care and concern. Come on there are plenty of girls out there.
You deserve someone better. In my humble opinion, your girlfriend doesn't fit into my standards. I would just tell her straight in the face I want out this relationship out.
You are acting like a girl in this relationship. [/quote]Originally posted by Oyathatsme:
Let me tell you.
Women are smart creatures. Smart enough to cover their doings. I know.
You tell me she's inexperienced in a relationship, don't give excuses.
I bet you suffer and end up being dumped first I can forsee in this relationship.
When a women don't tell you who and which guy she's going with, something is fishy.
Firstly, you as her other half, have the right to know who she's hanging out with and where.
And of course you get edgy and attempt to get answers from her, then you will come across insecure in needy in this relationship. Women are good actors. Good liars. And we men always believe them 100%. And when the same scenario happens again, you still give in to her.
And once you start acting like a women in a relationship, she sees you like a boy who needs to be spoonfed.
What I'm telling you is to be a man. Do not take any nonsense from a women. Whether she's lying or cheating on you. You end up in misery.
And when you start feeling miserable in a relationship, it's time to tell yourself you don't deserve this shit and [b]move on in your life.
Protect your heart.
I don't want to see my friends end up getting hurt.[/b]
SORE LOSER!!!In the midst in a relationship, whenever this kinda feeling/problem arises, the choice is yours. You don't build a relationship. You buy a relationship. It's like a shirt when you are searching in a grocery store. You look for the best that is suited to your needs. Compare.
First of all, You won't find a shirt in a grocery store.
Secondly, a partner is not a product or machandise with no feelings.
Thirdly, you wanna find the best, no problem. But bear in mind, while you are looking for the best, the best is looking for the best too. And are you quite sure you are the best? If you are then I don't think you'll make these kind of comments.
[quote]You are a man. A women have to give and take into what you want. Of course the man does too unless you are sure that she's interested into you. Correction. In a relationship, both parties have to give and take and not just the woman have to give and take into what the man wants. Bear in mind again, while you are choose people. People are considering if you are worth choosing too. To make it more harsh, if I'm the girl you are going after, for sure I won't choose you cause you ain't the best and not even near it. At least not after what I read from your post.You deserve someone better. In my humble opinion, your girlfriend doesn't fit into my standards. I would just tell her straight in the face I want out this relationship out.
I pray you'll never find a gf cause I don't want any woman to be a victim of MCP. But then again I do doubt that you'll ever find a gf. If you happen to be attached, I bet that girl is just a dumb bimbo or a hardcore fetish who needs some wanking to moan.You are acting like a girl in this relationship.
If he's a girl in that r/s then you probably are the only man with the brain in the wrong head.Women are smart creatures. Smart enough to cover their doings. I know.
Yah..if the gf is with you, I'm sure you'll suffer and end up being dump. But then again I don't think you'll ever have the chance of being dump cause you are seeking the perfect woman which never exist.
You tell me she's inexperienced in a relationship, don't give excuses.
I bet you suffer and end up being dumped first I can forsee in this relationship.When a women don't tell you who and which guy she's going with, something is fishy.
It's never always the case. Maybe towards you yes because you are too narrow minded and everytime she goes out with someone you'll act like a pig and start snorting. Who will want to tell you who they go out with? And please bear in mind, we do have the right to know who they are going out with but they reserve the right not to tell us too. Just relax and learn to trust them. If they wanna stray, there's nothing you can do to stop them. But learning to trust your partners will in turn gain their trust on you if they really do love you.
Firstly, you as her other half, have the right to know who she's hanging out with and where.And of course you get edgy and attempt to get answers from her, then you will come across insecure in needy in this relationship. Women are good actors. Good liars. And we men always believe them 100%. And when the same scenario happens again, you still give in to her.
And do you mean that man don't lie? I don't even dare to say I'm honest with my gf but at least I know she don't have to worry that I'll stray out.What I'm telling you is to be a man. Do not take any nonsense from a women. Whether she's lying or cheating on you. You end up in misery.
Are you sure you are a man? In my opinion after reading both your post, I think you sound more like a loser or a badly wounded person injured by your ex-gf. God bless your ex as she found freedom after losing you.
And when you start feeling miserable in a relationship, it's time to tell yourself you don't deserve this shit and [b]move on in your life.[/b] -
I'm sure he pretty know how bad a loser he is.Originally posted by ReliverX:Hmm thats Harsh.
Dumbing her sounds wrong because,
She's not cheating on me,
Not lying to me about things.
I would put it past that she isn't experiance in relationship.
Or about Guys.
Innocent and Naive i might say she is.
So Relax man... Don be so hard on the accusations
Your pretty sure of ur life are you ^^,
RelieverX, just ignore him and his words.
No point listening to a loser ranting.
If I'm his gf, I'll give him a tight slap and a kick between his leg to wake him up. Kill me if I ever become someone like him. I'll laugh if he one day gets gang rape by a group of gays. It'll teach him to learn how to respect woman more. -
Hey I mean u got same experiance as me ? wow...Originally posted by laosu:HAHAHA!!!
My gf is virgo too and trust me...they sure sound alike.
Pal, I'm not much better than you and I have my fair share of jealousy.
She's stays in Malaysia and I stay in Singapore and we are 9hrs apart.
Seeing each other is hard enough and trust me, talking on the phone is starting to get harder.
I miss my gf alot and talking much lesser and lesser as her dad is in hospital and she's there every day and stays there too to take care of the dad.
You know what? I miss her to much sense that I get cranky more and more often as most of the time I call her and she never picks up the call. It makes me very very upset but at the end all these, I know for sure that I still love her despite all these and it's just the way she is and I'll try to get used to it.
It's not a matter of having no choice. I do have the choice. Find another gf who has plenty of time for me and someone who can be with me at my side all time, but I don't want another gf and I don't need another gf cause I love my gf. This is how she is when I know her and this is what touches me most about her so why should I grumple about something that I love? And I don't think I have the right to ask her to change.
Anyway, another tips for you about Virgos. They can be quite forgetful and get carried away especially when they are with friends. It happens to me too.
But ultimately, they are really great gf when they focus their attention on you alone. Enjoy that moment.
That right on the nail's head!
Well, anything I can do or any good advice to go with how to not have things happen ? -
IMO BOTH of you are just too young and immature. And I don't mean this in a bad way or anything. Every little bit and every little thing she does affects you - who she go out with, she invite you also problem, didn't invite you also problem. This applies to your actions affecting her too.
You both need to build up your self confidence so that you're not so easily shaken and worried by trivial matters. Get a life outside of your relationship. There's no major problem, this is just a phase of growing up and learning how to manage a romantic relationship. -
You know what I think? As I've said and expected, you're just defensive of her...Originally posted by ReliverX:Hmm...
I think I more on the offensive side, because I'm quite sensitive to words.
Besides, she doesn't know those words could made me think this way.
She tells me she's not interested in other guys, just going out with them wasn't anything but as a friend. This i understood. But i never told her that i didn't like her going out with other guys.
I don't think she's rebelling. She doesn't understand the relationship well because its still early and young. She's not that experiance relationships and i expect too much.
Just worried. Because, she's a soft and kind person,I was afraid of things to happen to her. thanks Devil.
For the explanation and enlightenment.
Of course I don't even know her in person and it would be quite unfair for me to make 'statements' about her just like that... But chances are it won't be too far off....
Inexperience and young for this relationship? A reminder for you, she's 17 and you're only 1 year above?
Personally, I sense that she' more than meet the eyes for you... And while you're trying to figure out alot of things, does she seems much more 'relaxed' to things..? Have you ever thought why? Just her character to be 'cool'...?
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if its me i also very sad...its like sharing a galfriend with another guy...haiz...good luck to u...
try telling her ba...but i guess she also don mind ba...maybe she tok wats wrong with that...