Being loyal in love..
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some say people who attached to one guy/girl only even if you can't have him/her are touching, sad, but some say it's stupid. What about you guys' and gals' point of view? let's hear from you guys and gals. guys and gals might have the different opinion about it.
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Rape first, tok later.
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been with my bf for 6 months. we've been seeing each other practically every single day.
touching is essential, but without verbal communication it's BS.
talking is essential too, but without substance in those talks and no skin contact is still sh_t.
if you can't touch for inevitable reasons, so be it.
but if you NEED to touch a member of the opposite sex besides your own partner just because you can't, it's not love is it? (-_-" ) not to mention, nOT loyal too. -
Chim.....Originally posted by radiance | mui_wan:been with my bf for 6 months. we've been seeing each other practically every single day.
touching is essential, but without verbal communication it's BS.
talking is essential too, but without substance in those talks and no skin contact is still sh_t.
if you can't touch for inevitable reasons, so be it.
but if you NEED to touch a member of the opposite sex besides your own partner just because you can't, it's not love is it? (-_-" ) not to mention, nOT loyal too.
Anyway, I'm not sure if this is call loyality or plain stupidity. My gf is Malaysian and she lives there while I'm Singaporean and stays in Singapore (mind yah..she's not in JB but in Trengganu which is 9hrs bus journey on a one way single trip).
Although we kinda make a point to talk on the phone everyday, but ultimately it's still not the same as being together physically whereby I can feel her, see her, hear her. I'm a normal person who has my own physical needs and the fact that I do really miss her a lot, my heart aches whenever I miss her. Sometimes I do wish that I can let myself out for some fun (anyway she won't know if I dun say), but then again, I do realised that it's not a matter whether if I allow myself to do that but rather is a fact that I don't wanna do that just because I love her.
I think I'm getting a little off track here. Bottomline is, just do what your heart tells you but never hang on to a hope that she/he will be touched by your loyality towards her/his feelings. If you are prepared to love her/him all your life, do it without expectations.
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To each their own.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:some say people who attached to one guy/girl only even if you can't have him/her are touching, sad, but some say it's stupid. What about you guys' and gals' point of view? let's hear from you guys and gals. guys and gals might have the different opinion about it. -
Some see it as being devoted.
Some see it as plain stupidity.Why go for someone u cant get?
For me,this is my 5th year waiting.
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lol i suggest u read the 1st post againOriginally posted by radiance | mui_wan:been with my bf for 6 months. we've been seeing each other practically every single day.
touching is essential, but without verbal communication it's BS.
talking is essential too, but without substance in those talks and no skin contact is still sh_t.
if you can't touch for inevitable reasons, so be it.
but if you NEED to touch a member of the opposite sex besides your own partner just because you can't, it's not love is it? (-_-" ) not to mention, nOT loyal too. -
wah lao...so evil...Originally posted by Ayukat:Rape first, tok later.
if rape liao must see got sister chio to share or not..lol
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If for me is pratical..Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:some say people who attached to one guy/girl only even if you can't have him/her are touching, sad, but some say it's stupid. What about you guys' and gals' point of view? let's hear from you guys and gals. guys and gals might have the different opinion about it.
see no touch, i throw away,
if can touch, i say loyal...
some may say intermate monents may increse bond between the 2...
if all dun have, wat's the diff between having a on-line friend tat talk to u?
if cannot see lagi worst....cos the person is loyal & wait, but his heart yearn for her, see her..& mind will start to think rubbish.. JEALOUSY...then will start to think otherwise etc.. (even talk on tel but who know wat really happen after the tel is cut off..)
No flam.. jus my thought. -
wait, I think I am not getting the point here. Why are people talking about physical contact here? I think the thread starter means, waiting for someone whom he can't have? As in that person is already attached to another person or he/she just doesn't have feeling towards the person who is waiting for him/her? If I am wrong, pls correct me.
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I prefer to be able to touch the gal, hold her hands and tell her hw much I love her...
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In fairytales, the girl will ultimately be touched & fall in love with the guy who's patiently waited for her. Same goes for movies. In reality, it's been rather irritating
FeowFeowOriginally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:some say people who attached to one guy/girl only even if you can't have him/her are touching, sad, but some say it's stupid. What about you guys' and gals' point of view? let's hear from you guys and gals. guys and gals might have the different opinion about it. -
think most ppl in here are associating it with having physical contact with the person they are in love with instead...
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I find this type of devotion, of placing love before self, simply alluring~Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:some say people who attached to one guy/girl only even if you can't have him/her are touching, sad, but some say it's stupid. What about you guys' and gals' point of view? let's hear from you guys and gals. guys and gals might have the different opinion about it.
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Threadstarter means whether it is stupid or touchin to wait for the 1 we loved, even though its impossible to be together....Anyway I feel its not worth it loh...Shld keep options open at the same time
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to thread starter, It all depends on you whether you are able to let go, some ppl may know that they have no future with the gal they like, but nevertheless they can't bring themselves to let go, hence they wait patiently HOPING for a chance to be with the gal. however.... as we are all human, things changes, Feelings fade, or changes over time. thus, while waiting for a chance to be with the gal, somewhere along the way your own feelings may have changed and u realise you are no longer pining for the gal.
to those who talk about physical contacts, yes physical contacts are essential to a healthy relationship. what I mean is everyday physical contact, like holding hands, hugs, kisses, touching of face... if you have a gf and after 5 years you have yet to even hold her hands, then is it any different then a platonic friend? however beyond all that I have mentioned above, it is really up to the individual.
I think the tactic "if you really love me, show me by making LOVE with me" is really crap!!! If you really love a person, you'll respect her enough not to push her into anything she's not comfortable with. if you find yourself pushing and pushing you partner to be intimate with you.... then sadly, I don't think it's love, IT's LUST!!! -
err...minor observation...it's faithful...not loyal...loyal makes me think of dogs...
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be faithful only to the right person
meaning that person is committed towards being faithful towards you as well -
in the past i did think of going out to have fun, having flings and 1 night stand.. but after i had my gf, or shd i say my future wife hehe, i promise that i will only stick to her forever n i know she will do the same to me too.. we have been through alot together and met with all of our parents and all of our relatives.. i tell myself i cannot anyhow and must be faithful to her...
there are quite a few times my NS friends jio me go clubbing or go geylang with them, but i turn them down... anyway i have nvr been to those kind of places b4 too..
so it depends on the individual and how much u love ur gf.... -
It depends on each individuals' character n their views on loveOriginally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:some say people who attached to one guy/girl only even if you can't have him/her are touching, sad, but some say it's stupid. What about you guys' and gals' point of view? let's hear from you guys and gals. guys and gals might have the different opinion about it.
1st type : the emotionally faithful n steadfast one will wait til 'the seas dry up n the rock rots' (hai º£ ku ¿� shi ʯ lan ÀÃ)
2nd type: the pragmatic one will let it go n get on with life
It also depends on how much u believe that person is worth waiting for coz while u were waiting for that person, others might appear, fell in love in u & left dejected coz u din even realise they r there waiting 4 u to take notice.
Utimately, it is still the choice of the person whether to continue waiting or to let it go n get on with life
Just a side note, how many of us can really be with the one that we love most coz the 1 u love most may not b the 1 whom u will eventually spend ur life with
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Waiting for someone who will never return to you.
Is it worth it?
Some girls may find it irritating,as in Shi can lan da.
In this world today,i doubt most girls will be touched or moved by a guy who waited years for them.
Most of them will only by touched by $$$ -
I had the hots for this gal i know since Sec 1. Its been 7 years, nothing has worked out, despite seemingly doing everything i can/could. Yet I still love her, despite the fact that I was attached a couple of times during the 7 years. Some people say its rather touching that I can still love someone for so long, but I have come to realise I am just being plain stupid. Why am I the only one who is not moving on? I am still standing in the same spot, waiting for a miracle, waiting for something that will most probably not happen.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:some say people who attached to one guy/girl only even if you can't have him/her are touching, sad, but some say it's stupid. What about you guys' and gals' point of view? let's hear from you guys and gals. guys and gals might have the different opinion about it.
there's someone out there for everyone, its just if u can find it or not. You will only be making urself miserable if u refuse to let go of the baggage of the past. I have learnt to slowly let go. -
Does she even know? Or you quietly sit there and wait?Originally posted by nanren4ever:I had the hots for this gal i know since Sec 1. Its been 7 years, nothing has worked out, despite seemingly doing everything i can/could. Yet I still love her, despite the fact that I was attached a couple of times during the 7 years. Some people say its rather touching that I can still love someone for so long, but I have come to realise I am just being plain stupid. Why am I the only one who is not moving on? I am still standing in the same spot, waiting for a miracle, waiting for something that will most probably not happen.
there's someone out there for everyone, its just if u can find it or not. You will only be making urself miserable if u refuse to let go of the baggage of the past. I have learnt to slowly let go. -
Not really
I'd rather forego the money than be stuck with an unsavoury character It's just that my life can't stop just because someone thinks that by pestering me, I'll give them a chance No Fee1 Ling3 means No Fee1 Ling3.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Patrik:Waiting for someone who will never return to you.
Is it worth it?
Some girls may find it irritating,as in Shi can lan da.
In this world today,i doubt most girls will be touched or moved by a guy who waited years for them.
Most of them will only by touched by $$$ -
Agreed....Originally posted by FeowFeow:Not really I'd rather forego the money than be stuck with an unsavoury character It's just that my life can't stop just because someone thinks that by pestering me, I'll give them a chance No Fee1 Ling3 means No Fee1 Ling3.
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