Originally posted by Ray87:mc square, being a youth myself, i am interested to hear your perspective on why the idea of liking another as a way to forget the current might bring undesirable consequences to relationships.
I thought for a moment and tried to figured out the truth in your advice. Is it because that we shouldnt "like another" just for the purpose of "forgetting someone"?
And to ethan-1,2-diol, be fair to yourself and dont let yourself suffer in pursue of a futile relationship. Yeah.. futile, at least in the current sense when you are still a student and do not have anything that can make your teacher think of you as worthy partner.
Okie lah... So so... Not hijack lah... Just 'hihi'....Originally posted by elindra:Wah liao. Mod is thread hijacker
Good. What about you?
Originally posted by starblue:erm, boy ah, please do not land your teacher into trouble. you dunno wad a teacher will face if this thing blows up yah??
like wad many before me have said, this feeling for your teacher will go no where. you have to firmly tell yourself to let go. sure, you can let yourself think about her once in a while. mob over it even. but there is nothing you can or should do about her.
study hard, get into a good uni course and i'm sure you'll find your happiness where it really belongs.
u are treading in dangerous water.... i was in similar situation, only that my date is from my school.... coz u are in a position of taking A levels, n after As u go NS super sian nothing much to do only will think of girls and having dates... if u are having relationship problems... ur ns will be very tough... mind thinking of girl and still have to go thru super tough physical training... my friend who broke up with his gf b4 NS, broke down half way during NS and he's a bit psycho ever since.Originally posted by ethane-1,2-diol:Hi, I'm new here. My fren recommended me this site and I found it quite gd. Was able know about what is happening arnd the community and how ppl felt about things that are happening around us. As an individual, I too has a problem and I'm not sure how to go about handling it. Hope someone out there will be able to help me find a solution.
I'm a guy, age 18. Going to be enlisted to NS soon :X. Currently studying at a local junior college. like many other guys, I do have crushes for this gal or that gal, and they nv last long. That's besides the point. But recently, I actually started to develop 'feelings' for my maths teacher. (tml's A'lvls Maths Paper :X) Yep, U are not seeing things. I have a crush on my maths teacher. Or maybe it's more than just a crush. I dunno. She's rather young, not much older than me, quite pretty and most impt of all, she's just so nice. She's nice to everyone (my classmates) and her smile really melts my heart. Maths used to be my hack-care subject i.e. do well = gd lor, nv do well = so be it. But all this changed after I got to know her i.e. ever since I got into JC. I worked hard for maths everytime, and my results nv disappointed her. When I dun think of her as a teacher, she's actually the kinda gal that most guys would wanna treat her well and respect her. Occasionally, I try to get her attention by doing all the small little things e.g. treat her to sweets, help with things etc. And everytime she would reciprocate with a nice n gentle smile. And our relationship became more than just a teacher-student relationship. Dun get it wrong, it's just a became a even closer teacher-student relationship. haha?
But, she already had a boyfren.
Recently, I got to know her handphone number (not really a big deal, all my classmates have her no.) and started to sms her occasionally. Initially, it was about maths and school. But the sms content started to change from maths to smth else more. Like I would ask her how is she, go to bed early etc - concerns that's beyond a student. Then Lately, she seems to realise I'm not just a ordinary student and started to give me 'cold shoulder'. I dunno whether izzit just my own thinking or is it true. Close frenz tell me to stop thinking of her, but I always fail to do so. At least whenever I have her in my mind, my maths seems unstoppable i.e. in preparation for A'lvls, I nv had problems with my maths. Then again, I'm the kinda guy who believes that in order to forget someone, you have to like another. I'm really afraid I'll still be thinking of her after the A'lvls, and thru-out the course of NS.
Wad shld I do?
Btw, good luck to all those taking A'lvls!
Originally posted by Ray87:to mcsq, and feowfeow, thanks for the replies, they were insightful. Actually, i was about to fall into this vicious cycle of escapism, without actually knowing that it isnt a solution and has some severe consequences.
Today's exam was math. I guess ethan-1,2-diol has had an easy time.
Wah i type so much then you tell me wrong ah...Originally posted by ethane-1,2-diol:Wow, thks for all the replies. I really appreciate it. Maybe I know what is the next step I shld take. Maybe not...
To clarify some things, I think I made a mistake when trying to bring across my idea. (Think I will fail my GP if that goes on...) What I meant about the 'to forget someone, must like another' is actually.... it's like you LIKED this girl, but she dun like you. You must be able to forget her before you can actually pursue a new relationship, not pursue a new relationship to forget the old one. Sry for my mistake guys! and gals...
So my problem is like, I can't forget her. I just can't. I see her in school everyday(soon I wun need to go sch). I try all sorts of ways to put her outta my mind, like studying and playing games. But nth can prevent me from dreaming of her at night when I sleep.
sidetrack: to the person who made that silly comment, I wun end up in either of the two ways you proposed. I wun sleep with her, and I wun flunk my maths! SAY NO TO PREMARITAL SEX! LOL!
So how? I believe I wun become a psycho when I go to NS, enduring the tough physical training and emotional stress simultaneously. I dunno, deep down in me, I'm just a lonely boy who will think of the girl I like when I'm alone. I can always engage in healthy activities to forget her, but there will still be times I'm alone n will daydream....
As for the university part, of course I do hope I can get a decent girlfren there. Hope... Can any of you help me survey or something liddat? I thinking of going to a science course, more towards the physics-chemistry part than the chemistry-biology part. LOL! Wondering which course(s) will girls take? Most girls dun like physics rite? I'm stereotyping here.... prove me wrong...
Sad... finished Maths Paper1... Tml's Maths paper2... I hope I wun disappoint her...![]()
Originally posted by ethane-1,2-diol:Wow, thks for all the replies. I really appreciate it. Maybe I know what is the next step I shld take. Maybe not...
To clarify some things, I think I made a mistake when trying to bring across my idea. (Think I will fail my GP if that goes on...) What I meant about the 'to forget someone, must like another' is actually.... it's like you LIKED this girl, but she dun like you. You must be able to forget her before you can actually pursue a new relationship, not pursue a new relationship to forget the old one. Sry for my mistake guys! and gals...
So my problem is like, I can't forget her. I just can't. I see her in school everyday(soon I wun need to go sch). I try all sorts of ways to put her outta my mind, like studying and playing games. But nth can prevent me from dreaming of her at night when I sleep.
sidetrack: to the person who made that silly comment, I wun end up in either of the two ways you proposed. I wun sleep with her, and I wun flunk my maths! SAY NO TO PREMARITAL SEX! LOL!
So how? I believe I wun become a psycho when I go to NS, enduring the tough physical training and emotional stress simultaneously. I dunno, deep down in me, I'm just a lonely boy who will think of the girl I like when I'm alone. I can always engage in healthy activities to forget her, but there will still be times I'm alone n will daydream....
As for the university part, of course I do hope I can get a decent girlfren there. Hope... Can any of you help me survey or something liddat? I thinking of going to a science course, more towards the physics-chemistry part than the chemistry-biology part. LOL! Wondering which course(s) will girls take? Most girls dun like physics rite? I'm stereotyping here.... prove me wrong...
Sad... finished Maths Paper1... Tml's Maths paper2... I hope I wun disappoint her...![]()
Originally posted by ethane-1,2-diol:stop dreaming.... u flunk, u think she give a hoot?
Sad... finished Maths Paper1... Tml's Maths paper2... I hope I wun disappoint her...[/b]