what kind of memory is bothering you?Originally posted by -ohyeah-:how i hope i can have a cup of water that help to earse my memory..... right now i am living in miserable..... forcing myself to forget
u will .... go out meet ur frens ... make new frens ... or call ur old frens ..... soon u will slowly forget .....Originally posted by -ohyeah-:how i hope i can have a cup of water that help to earse my memory..... right now i am living in miserable..... forcing myself to forget
How come so problematic?Originally posted by -ohyeah-:how i hope i can have a cup of water that help to earse my memory..... right now i am living in miserable..... forcing myself to forget
Originally posted by -ohyeah-:HIM....
Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear OhYeah,
There's a saying that time heals all wounds. I used to think it's a cliche, but my view of that has changed. Getting hurt is part & parcel of love, taking it as 1 of the lessons in life will help you overcome this setback. It's what you do after you've grieved that determines what kinda person you are.
You can either sit back & wallow in self pity, or you can tell yourself, fine, you got hurt this time, but next time you'll be better. For your sake, I hope it's the latter.
Let your friends help you to get over this difficult period, my friends definitely helped me through my difficult times. Even celebs like Jennifer Aniston needed abit of support & help during her divorce from Brad Pitt, Not to mention mere mortals like us.
FeowFeow
Originally posted by StarPuppy:actaully its weird but...i always love saying this line
Even going back time means i have to go through this r/s again and get the same pain...i would welcome it as it is a lesson in life
Originally posted by starblue:last time, i used to want to forget about him. but then i realise that if i clean forgot about him, i wouldnt have learnt and grown to be what i am now.
sometimes, somethings in life are meant to be painfully remembered.
Yea...I used to think I would not be able to get over my ex and ex crush as well. I spent many nights in tears, asking myself this very question that the thread started is asking herself now. But I decided to give myself some time to heal...and miraculously, I did. Of course it was with the help of friends who cared and most importantly, someone who is now the special person in my life.Originally posted by FeowFeow:And blissfully forgotten after the special person sweeps you off your feet again
FeowFeow
Originally posted by rainee:Yea...I used to think I would not be able to get over my ex and ex crush as well. I spent many nights in tears, asking myself this very question that the thread started is asking herself now. But I decided to give myself some time to heal...and miraculously, I did. Of course it was with the help of friends who cared and most importantly, someone who is now the special person in my life.
yeah... sometimes when you are too determined to forget someone or something... it is harder to forget...Originally posted by FeowFeow:That's great to hear : ) I'm always happy to see t a fellow forumite is able to rise above the pain & loss, & make her life better. It shows the resilience & strength of an individual
Life will Not always be stagnant, time will change people, circumstances & situations. Having a positive mindset, & the right people around you can help matters tremendously.
FeowFeow
Originally posted by smudgey:yeah... sometimes when you are too determined to forget someone or something... it is harder to forget...
but when you stop concentrating on forgeting the someone/ something, and start concentrating on yourself, like going out with your friends, making new friends. doing things you like, taking a nice vacation. and just putting your life back together again... SLOWLY you'll look back and say" hey i can still remember him/that thing that happened............... but it doesn't hurt that much anymore!"
that is when you know you have moved on. and whether you can still remember it/him is no longer an issue.
There's no way one can forget about someone especially the one you really love alot. When my ex-gf left me due to my own foolishness and stupidity 9yrs ago, the pain of losing her and the fact that I've hurt her very deeply huants me.Originally posted by starblue:last time, i used to want to forget about him. but then i realise that if i clean forgot about him, i wouldnt have learnt and grown to be what i am now.
sometimes, somethings in life are meant to be painfully remembered.
Originally posted by laosu:There's no way one can forget about someone especially the one you really love alot. When my ex-gf left me due to my own foolishness and stupidity 9yrs ago, the pain of losing her and the fact that I've hurt her very deeply huants me.
For 9yrs I've been willing myself to forget her but I couldn't. But I would say this relationship did teach me a lot. I keep learning and learning (the hard way). Initially I did not understand why this failed relationship huants me so much. But after nine years, I finally understood.
Three years ago, I get to know my current gf (A) but I did not go after her then. We become soulmates for three years. She's the only one that I've been able to pour out all my woes to. Miraclly, about 4mths ago while I'm in Malaysia, it just seemed to me that it's time to let go of the past and the memories for I've learnt enough lesson from my mistake. I let go. Smile with pride and told S about it. And the best "graduation" gift given to me from God is my gf, a soulmate who has always been around to support me. It's then I realised, perhaps for the past nine years, god has already been preparing to give me this gift but in order for me to be worth him giving me such wonderful gift I would need to learn how to love her and cherish her. The nine years course is indeed a hard and tormented ordeal but I'm glad I survive it.
Now..I'm proud to say I have the most wonderful gf and best gift from god. I ask for nothing more.
Bottomline, for everything that had happened and is happening, there's always a reason behind it. And for every rough road, there's always a surprise at the end of the road. Walk through it and you'll be well awarded.
but have to die first wo.Originally posted by m)phosis:go to meng po jiao... she will give u a cup of soup to forget all this sorrows..including this life...meng po dang...
Originally posted by m)phosis:go to meng po jiao... she will give u a cup of soup to forget all this sorrows..including this life...meng po dang...
chinese believe that after u die u will be in the nether worlds... den when the time is ready for u to reincarnate, u will be led to a bridge...before u cross the bridge u will be ask to drink a bowl of soup by meng po(granny meng)..the bowl of soup will clear all ur memories of the previous life so that when u reincarnate u will be remember anything from the previous and can start afresh... once u drank the meng po dang u will not rememeber any single shet and when u walk over the bridge u can go for reincarnation...Originally posted by FeowFeow:What's a meng po jiao?
FeowFeow
The MORE you THINK ABOUT IT... The MORE you'll have to FACE the MEMORIES....Originally posted by -ohyeah-:how i hope i can have a cup of water that help to earse my memory..... right now i am living in miserable..... forcing myself to forget