I am confused....
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Hi ppl,
I need your advise on this matter which i'm very regretful of what i've done and confused about her reactions and feedbacks.
Last night i went out for supper with this girl whom i like (But she's attached). Things were as normal as before. We chit chat and joked around.
It was then when it was getting quite late (1am+) that we decided to go home. I sent her home. When we reached at her carpark, we did abit of chit chat and played with each other (pinching and poking each other).
It was then when i accidently slapped her on her thigh, leaving quite a big mark on her thigh. I was shocked because i din realised that i've hit her that hard. I apologised and try to massage off the mark on the thigh. She wasn't really angry though. And of course, i allowed her to slap me back. She did a few times, but she did not did it because of revenge though.
It was then when i was trying to massage off the mark off her thigh, she said that she was feeling tickish because it was quite sensitive. Then we asked each other where our sensitive parts are. She mentioned she was quite an easily-tickish girl whereas, i told her i don't seems to have any. Then she tried to poke n tickle me but it was all in vain because i don't feel tickish though. It was then when she ran her fingers down and around my ear, it was quite tickish which i told her.
She then told her that most guys are sensitive around the ear area, so does her bf. Then she said her bf will feel tickish when she soft-blow in and around his ears. And i told her i never had that kind of experience before. So, i requested her to try on me which she did. It was tickish though.
Then i requested to try on her which she initially was reluctant but gave in after 3 requests from me. And so i soft-blow around her ear. As i gently blow around her ear, she gave out a few soft moans and as i proceeded further, she was getting kind of high and moaning more and abit of loud which in turn, turned me on. My hands ran over her body and it was until when i touched the "sensitive" part, she "awoke up" and asked me to stop. I was too "awakened up". I felt so regretful of what i've done and apologised to her and requested her to give me two tight slaps on my face. She declined to and said that we should keep a distance away from each other and she don't know how to face me the next day and future. I apologised again and asked her if she's angry with me or not. She said "No".
We then went to the nearby 7-11 and bought some drinks and went to a nearby playground bench and did abit of chit chat. For some which she said that she did not even tell her bf before. Though we were feeling quite uneasy initially when talking to each other, but things got abit off better.
After that, i sent her home and went home. This morning just received her sms asing me if i've slept well or not. Though it may appear to be a normal sms she used to be sending, but i felt that from her sms, she's beginning to keep a distance away from me.
I felt so remorseful, regretful and stupid for what i've done last night.
Now i'm confused about how she feels towards me. I do really like her alot but i do not know if she likes me or not. ( I know that there're quite a few number of ppl whom have such experiences on "u like her, but you don't know if she likes you or not).
Pls kindly advise and sugguest your views on my situation.
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she is already attached, and she is keeping a distance from you because of what you have done, and you still ask if she likes you or not?
just pray she doesnt think of you as a pervert
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Then should i keep a distance and contact her less?Originally posted by rainee:she is already attached, and she is keeping a distance from you because of what you have done, and you still ask if she likes you or not?
just pray she doesnt think of you as a pervert
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depends on her. if she asks you out again, just go and act normally. dun repeat what you have done last time.Originally posted by icemountain59:Then should i keep a distance and contact her less?
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Is there any ways which i can do to amend for my foolish acts as i do not wish her to think that i'm a pervert or such???Originally posted by rainee:depends on her. if she asks you out again, just go and act normally. dun repeat what you have done last time. -
there is no other way now. you have apologized to her and done all that you could. Now it is up to her, maybe she is still a bit shaken by the incident, and she might felt a bit betrayed esp if she has thought of you as a close fren all along. Anyway, for now just keep a distance from her until she starts to talk to you like normal again, then you should behave normally towards her as well.Originally posted by icemountain59:Is there any ways which i can do to amend for my foolish acts as i do not wish her to think that i'm a pervert or such??? -
You're not a pervert. She allowed you to be intimate
If you like her and are thinking of wooing her, I think you may have chance.Originally posted by icemountain59:Is there any ways which i can do to amend for my foolish acts as i do not wish her to think that i'm a pervert or such??? -
Should i let her know that i like her? Yesterday i almost let he cat out of the bag which i almost told her that i like her.Originally posted by rainee:there is no other way now. you have apologized to her and done all that you could. Now it is up to her, maybe she is still a bit shaken by the incident, and she might felt a bit betrayed esp if she has thought of you as a close fren all along. Anyway, for now just keep a distance from her until she starts to talk to you like normal again, then you should behave normally towards her as well. -
the girl later awoke and tell him to stop. it might just be a moment of folly, and later she realized she was doing sth that is not right. if he continues to pursue her, it might only strain their r/s further.Originally posted by choco B:You're not a pervert. She allowed you to be intimate
If you like her and are thinking of wooing her, I think you may have chance.
shud just cool things down for the moment.
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i dun tink this is a suitable time for a serious confession like dat. she is still shaken by the whole incident. just wait for a while, and see how she reacts towards you from now on.Originally posted by icemountain59:Should i let her know that i like her? Yesterday i almost let he cat out of the bag which i almost told her that i like her. -
Hi choco B, pls advise on your above statement. I do not get what you mean, especially of what i've done to her. What i've done has really shown a very bad and perverted image of me which i really never want to in the very 1st place. It's just this stupid senseless mind of me that went off haywired.Originally posted by choco B:You're not a pervert. She allowed you to be intimate
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So, should i contact her or let her contact me 1st?Originally posted by rainee:the girl later awoke and tell him to stop. it might just be a moment of folly, and later she realized she was doing sth that is not right. if he continues to pursue her, it might only strain their r/s further.
shud just cool things down for the moment.
just my opinion.
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honestly I think both of u are in fault. you did sth that you regret now, and she lets you do it to a certain extent before she stops it.Originally posted by icemountain59:So, should i contact her or let her contact me 1st?
I really have no idea what my next step should be.
read thru all my replies again and u shud be clear about what your next step shud be.
but then again this is my opinion. obviously there are people who think otherwise. and in the end it is all up to u to decide, but do think of the consequences. -
let her contact you first. if she is a decent gal, she might be feeling guilty or the likes. confused and dilemmatic. do not add to her stress and tell her your feelings now. give her time bro.
and one last thing... wad you did was..... totally....
nvm, i dun wanna say you liao.... haizzzzz.... -
she thinks ur interested in her and being attached, she dont wan any misunderstanding to occur
its normal
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Hi Rainee,Originally posted by rainee:honestly I think both of u are in fault. you did sth that you regret now, and she lets you do it to a certain extent before she stops it.
read thru all my replies again and u shud be clear about what your next step shud be.
but then again this is my opinion. obviously there are people who think otherwise. and in the end it is all up to u to decide, but do think of the consequences.
what i'm most afraid of is that my distance between me and her will drift further apart because of yesterday night incident. It's just my gut feeling. -
she thinks ur interested in her and being attached, she dont wan any misunderstanding to occur
its normal
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Ya..i know what i've done was totally utterly shameful and perverted...i know it's now too late to be regretful as such.Originally posted by starblue:let her contact you first. if she is a decent gal, she might be feeling guilty or the likes. confused and dilemmatic. do not add to her stress and tell her your feelings now. give her time bro.
and one last thing... wad you did was..... totally....
nvm, i dun wanna say you liao.... haizzzzz.... -
so? what else can you do? the more you try to contact her now, the more she will distance herself from you. so just lie low for now. it is the best course of action.Originally posted by icemountain59:Hi Rainee,
what i'm most afraid of is that my distance between me and her will drift further apart because of yesterday night incident. It's just my gut feeling.
every action has a consequence. i guess now you are paying for your short moment of folly yesterday. -
Somehow or rather, i got this feeling that she kind of know that i like her, but i can't confirm if she really likes me or not.Originally posted by WiNtEr'SkiLL:she thinks ur interested in her and being attached, she dont wan any misunderstanding to occur
its normal
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I suppose so. This morning i got sms her and about an hour and so later, she replied. I was wondering she might not even sms me back, but she did. What does this imply to?Originally posted by rainee:so? what else can you do? the more you try to contact her now, the more she will distance herself from you. so just lie low for now. it is the best course of action.
every action has a consequence. i guess now you are paying for your short moment of folly yesterday. -
pls stop guessing. it will not do much good now. for now, just be normal towards her, like u usually do.Originally posted by icemountain59:I suppose so. This morning i got sms her and about an hour and so later, she replied. I was wondering she might not even sms me back, but she did. What does this imply to? -
What are you looking for now, some ego-boosting encouragement?
1. You might have advanced on her physically but she allowed you to. It takes 2 hands to clap. If you think you did something wrong, then she is equally guilty.
2. Your quote : "I do really like her alot but i do not know if she likes me or not."
It's obvious that you would want to get more intimate and perhaps start a relationship with her. If you choose to take action, then I think you have a chance to succeed.
This is because of point 1 above. It means she is not that faithful in her relationship. And the reason behind THAT could be that her relationship isn't that solid/happy, or she's the type who seeks thrills outside of her relationship.
3. If you were sincerely regretful about what you did, you would not be here pondering about your quote in point 2.
If you really had her best interests at heart, you will stop thinking about yourself first (i.e. want to redeem yourself, want to salvage the friendship, want to know if she likes you). Instead you will put HER happiness and her relationship as priority. But you're not doing that. You're confused because you want her.
Which brings us back to point 2. I know you're very gian, right?Originally posted by icemountain59:Hi choco B, pls advise on your above statement. I do not get what you mean, especially of what i've done to her. What i've done has really shown a very bad and perverted image of me which i really never want to in the very 1st place. It's just this stupid senseless mind of me that went off haywired. -
I guess that's the only way out for me.Originally posted by rainee:pls stop guessing. it will not do much good now. for now, just be normal towards her, like u usually do. -
exactly wat I am thinking abtOriginally posted by choco B: What are you looking for now, some ego-boosting encouragement?
Which brings us back to point 2. I know you're very gian, right?