Kids
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Do you think hving a kid is important for a married couple?
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It depends on:
What is your definition of a family unit?
Whether you are willing to forgo your independent lifestyle?
Do you like kids?
Do you need kids to boost up chance for a bigger inheritance?
No straight answer, because the problem-mix is different. -
not necessary la...but I wud love to have my own kids...
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yang er fang lao
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i think it is important not to get married.
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Kids are great! Still the issue lies with the adult.
Some adults may love kids but is incapable of raising them thus resulting in neglect and deliquency.
It is a huge responsibility to have children. Nurturing and mentoring children is a very involved process. But do it right, you will find that you will have kids that are happy, proactive, respectful, independent and loving.
If an adult cannot invest the time and resource to the child, then don't bother having kids. -
that night, i saw a documentary on National Geographic abt this mother giving birth... quite scary leh... the baby come out..
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ah! i missed that!Originally posted by sinicker:that night, i saw a documentary on National Geographic abt this mother giving birth... quite scary leh... the baby come out..
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More like 'yang er fang guo' to me...??Originally posted by FireIce:yang er fang lao
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leave procreation to the rich.
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Depends on what you aim for in that marriage? And of course, depends on the 2 individuals lor...Originally posted by dreamykite:Do you think hving a kid is important for a married couple?
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Any comments from those married men with kid(s)?
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I have already given my comments. I am 40+ with two sons, one 12 and the other 9.Originally posted by dreamykite:Any comments from those married men with kid(s)?
We have the most wonderful time doing things as a family. I need to clarify, however, I am a very hands-on father. Not all fathers are willing to give up their time for the kids. But to those who do it, the rewards are astounding. My sons and I are more like pals than parents/children. -
I agree with this... before u have kids... so many things to consider: whether u love children? u love to spend time listening them? teaching them step by step? comfort them? R u a good leader? Kids are the biggest responsibility a couple can have... Kids can bring better life or cause big problems, depends on the parents... Kids are huge financial burden, so plan it carefully... if you are not ready yet... either you think hard to earn more money or delay getting children later.Originally posted by Chin Eng:Kids are great! Still the issue lies with the adult.
Some adults may love kids but is incapable of raising them thus resulting in neglect and deliquency.
It is a huge responsibility to have children. Nurturing and mentoring children is a very involved process. But do it right, you will find that you will have kids that are happy, proactive, respectful, independent and loving.
If an adult cannot invest the time and resource to the child, then don't bother having kids.
Then once kids are born... be ready to have not enough sleep at nite, comforting her when they're still babies.. then hv to get good schools and friends for them etc... It's a full 24 hour a day responsibility... But think about it... If you and ur children successful... They will love u very much and take care of you when u are old greatly... Kids with love will do their best to make sure u r happy... -
I must be the only girl who doesn't want kids
At least Not for a few years
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Devil1976:Depends on what you aim for in that marriage? And of course, depends on the 2 individuals lor... -
Not true what... There're ALOT of MARRIED COUPLES out there who are not for KIDS at this point also...? Prefer to have '2 people world' or more freedom to themselves though married...?Originally posted by FeowFeow:I must be the only girl who doesn't want kids At least Not for a few years
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I just can't tolerate screaming tantrums especially in public I'd rather Not have a kid than be driven demented when it's screaming hysterically outside
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Devil1976:Not true what... There're ALOT of MARRIED COUPLES out there who are not for KIDS at this point also...? Prefer to have '2 people world' or more freedom to themselves though married...? -
having responsibility to take charge of another human being... somemore its of your blood... and it's totally great experience only parents will understand..
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You're right, I can see the joy on my friends' faces when they play with their children. I like that part. I just don't think I can deal with the temper tantrums & hysterical screaming right now. Not patient enough for that. I'd rather Not be a parent yet, than to be a bad parent
FeowFeowOriginally posted by elektra:having responsibility to take charge of another human being... somemore its of your blood... and it's totally great experience only parents will understand.. -
feow.. how about babysitting ur nephews/nieces for an afternoon.. something like that ? on job training.. hahaa
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Originally posted by dreamykite:Do you think hving a kid is important for a married couple?
I think I asked a similar question in my forum. -
have four or more ! ....
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Oh, I do!!! I just hand the kid back once he/she starts crying
Either that, or the kid gets stuffed with chocolate
FeowFeowOriginally posted by elektra:feow.. how about babysitting ur nephews/nieces for an afternoon.. something like that ? on job training.. hahaa -
Neither can I. Guess what, when my boys were younger, they can only make this mistake once. I am a firm believer of discipline and will not hesitate to punish them when they get out of line, caning included.Originally posted by FeowFeow:I just can't tolerate screaming tantrums especially in public I'd rather Not have a kid than be driven demented when it's screaming hysterically outside
FeowFeow
As parents, we need to set the tone of how the child is to behaviour. When we give in too much to their whims and fancies, they'd take it for granted.
I am proud to say that both my boys are extremely self motivating and discipline. They are the type who'd finish their assigned work before napping or playing without being supervised.
It's all in the mentoring process - define it well and success is actually quite easy. -
Unker. I'm just kidding with my comments below.Originally posted by Chin Eng:Neither can I. Guess what, when my boys were younger, they can only make this mistake once. I am a firm believer of discipline and will not hesitate to punish them when they get out of line, caning included.
As parents, we need to set the tone of how the child is to behaviour. When we give in too much to their whims and fancies, they'd take it for granted.
I am proud to say that both my boys are extremely self motivating and discipline. They are the type who'd finish their assigned work before napping or playing without being supervised.
It's all in the mentoring process - define it well and success is actually quite easy.
I can't help to think what if your child logs on here as Smaplionheart.
Im sorry...i can't help it!