His nonchalance

• glossy_matte

  14 Nov 05, 12:04

  I have a crush on T for about a year already. Recently, we are closer and have been sms-ing day/night, going out for dinner, things like that.
  
  But for no rhyme or reason, he stopped sms-ing me frequently few days ago. I do not have the guts to ask him why. We have stopped going out these few days too.
  
  I feel so affected but I know he is indifferent about it. I just really want to know the reason behind it. Why is such a thing happening to me?!?!
• dragg

  14 Nov 05, 12:04

  it could be anything. ask him!!
• rainee

  14 Nov 05, 12:08

  do u tink we will know more than u? we dun even have the chance to interact wif him!
  
  But u do...so if u wan to ease urself, take the time and ask him instead of asking us
• huiz

  14 Nov 05, 12:10

  sms him..so long nv hear from u...how hav u been?
  
  see wat he has been doing. maybe got some other personal matters tat kept him busy.
• glossy_matte

  14 Nov 05, 12:44

  From what I know, he just spends his time at friend's house(stayover), play lan game, play basketball. ...
  
  I don't know how to ask him.
  
  He now gives short and slow replies whenever I sms him. It makes me feel like a bother.
  
  Thanks for the replies anyway.
• rainee

  14 Nov 05, 12:45

  Originally posted by glossy_matte:

  From what I know, he just spends his time at friend's house(stayover), play lan game, play basketball. ...
  
  I don't know how to ask him.
  
  He now gives short and slow replies whenever I sms him. It makes me feel like a bother.
  
  Thanks for the replies anyway.

  u dunno how to ask or are u too afraid to ask?
  
  courage is needed in love. if u dun have it, just do urself a favor and dun be in love.
• zeny

  14 Nov 05, 15:41

  glossy_matte
  he is sick and tired of you lar....
  forget about him.
  
  this is his style of saying "get lost cos i am not interested in you anymore."
• virce

  14 Nov 05, 16:17

  Originally posted by glossy_matte:

  From what I know, he just spends his time at friend's house(stayover), play lan game, play basketball. ...
  
  I don't know how to ask him.
  
  He now gives short and slow replies whenever I sms him. It makes me feel like a bother.
  
  Thanks for the replies anyway.

  i bet it must be killing to keep on asking yourself what's he up to right? why dont you ask him out and talk face to face? there's no point you keep on guessing what's he up to now mah...
• Devil1976

  14 Nov 05, 17:20

  Originally posted by glossy_matte:

  From what I know, he just spends his time at friend's house(stayover), play lan game, play basketball. ...
  
  I don't know how to ask him.
  
  He now gives short and slow replies whenever I sms him. It makes me feel like a bother.
  
  Thanks for the replies anyway.

  Might be some misunderstandings..?
• HolySniper

  14 Nov 05, 23:40

  hey, threadstarter same age as me..
  
  ok la, i think he wanna play game so let him haf freedom for a little while.. i noe it doesn't feel gd when he dun reply u, but it's lidat de.. cos i am one of those guys who when playing dun like to ans call or sms de..
  
  if u bored can find me sms de leh.. dun shy...
• The Den

  15 Nov 05, 00:42

  
  Please go for the person you like... or else you be living in regret... dun let anything stop u..
  
  Maybe its just his ploy to gauge how much u feel for him...
• dibilo

  15 Nov 05, 00:52

  Originally posted by glossy_matte:

  From what I know, he just spends his time at friend's house(stayover), play lan game, play basketball. ...
  
  I don't know how to ask him.
  
  He now gives short and slow replies whenever I sms him. It makes me feel like a bother.
  
  Thanks for the replies anyway.

  hahaha hey girl don't worry. hahaha the playing lan game part explains everything haha.. game kills all social life haha.. he is probably just addicted. it happens to youngsters .. well, many in their late teens, early adulthood are gaming fanatics too, so not to worry haha... its a passing phase.
  
  but if you are looking for a bf that will spend time with u, trust me, unless he loves u alot (which dun seem like it from the way you post), don't count on it that he'll quit gaming for you. it's an addiction too tempting for young people.
• rainee

  15 Nov 05, 00:53

  Originally posted by dibilo:

  hahaha hey girl don't worry. hahaha the playing lan game part explains everything haha.. game kills all social life haha.. he is probably just addicted. it happens to youngsters .. well, many in their late teens, early adulthood are gaming fanatics too, so not to worry haha... its a passing phase.
  
  but if you are looking for a bf that will spend time with u, trust me, unless he loves u alot (which dun seem like it from the way you post), don't count on it that he'll quit gaming for you. it's an addiction too tempting for young people.

  my ai ai oso play games leh, but when I call him telling him I want to talk he will stop playing immediately
• dibilo

  15 Nov 05, 01:16

  Originally posted by rainee:

  my ai ai oso play games leh, but when I call him telling him I want to talk he will stop playing immediately

  haha he loves u mah haha.. i also stop playing games to spend more time with mine gf
  
  what's more, that guy isnt even her bf wor ...and from how she describes things, it seems it is pretty distracted. his slow reply probably shows that he is waiting for his game to finish before replying =) lol sounds like a detective hahaha
• huiz

  15 Nov 05, 18:51

  Originally posted by dibilo:

  hahaha hey girl don't worry. hahaha the playing lan game part explains everything haha.. game kills all social life haha.. he is probably just addicted. it happens to youngsters .. well, many in their late teens, early adulthood are gaming fanatics too, so not to worry haha... its a passing phase.
  
  but if you are looking for a bf that will spend time with u, trust me, unless he loves u alot (which dun seem like it from the way you post), don't count on it that he'll quit gaming for you. it's an addiction too tempting for young people.

  i agree...
• hyperactivechatterbox

  15 Nov 05, 23:04

  Maybe you could ask his friends?
• Andrew_teo86

  16 Nov 05, 08:19

  i think that he lost interest in you.. did the thing get too draggy? until he get sian? Hmm perhaps he found something abt you that he decided to backout
• FeowFeow

  16 Nov 05, 08:28

  I like the way you refer to your bf, your "ai ai" So adorable!
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by rainee:

  my ai ai oso play games leh, but when I call him telling him I want to talk he will stop playing immediately

• pandemonium

  16 Nov 05, 10:44

  Originally posted by Andrew_teo86:

  i think that he lost interest in you.. did the thing get too draggy? until he get sian? Hmm perhaps he found something abt you that he decided to backout

  a penny worth of thoughts.. if he got sian becoz things got too draggy, then it says pretty much doesnt it? If a guy really likes you, you'll be his only focus or 'target'. he'll always hope tt you'll accept him one day rigth?
• WiNtEr'SkiLL

  16 Nov 05, 10:44

  maybe hes playing hard to get
  my guess..
  
• rainee

  16 Nov 05, 10:54

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  I like the way you refer to your bf, your "ai ai" So adorable!
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  
  
  It is getting to be a habit...
  
  but I rarely called him that when we are talking together tho, we use other nicknames...but they are a bit too embarassing to be mentioned here
• HolySniper

  16 Nov 05, 11:06

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  I like the way you refer to your bf, your "ai ai" So adorable!
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  
• glossy_matte

  16 Nov 05, 23:09

  I tried asking tonight. The conversation went :
  
  Me: Hi, can I ask you something?
  Him: What?
  Me: Did you hear anything about me?
  Him: ... emm (mumbles)
  Me: hello?
  Him: ya.
  Me: You understand what I'm trying to get across?
  Him: yes.
  Me: and so ...?
  Him: aiya..dunno la.
  Me: okay, its okay. bye.
  
  I conversed with a close friend who knows everything about it who happens to be HIS close friend too.
  
  I called him tonight as I guessed someone probably told him something about me which wasn't nice? And I wanted to know the truth.
  And from HIS tone, I can be very sure that's what happened.
  Every sign of liking HE used to show sounds lost.
  Everything sounds gone.
  
  It might not seem like an issue worth discussing to some? But it is really very saddening. I feel sad, disappointed, angry and embarrassed. I've already confronted him nicely, giving a call to ask why and yet that's what I get for an answer.
  
  It's not gaming anymore.
  
  It is so depressing...
• glossy_matte

  16 Nov 05, 23:11

  To add,
  
  his tone during the phone conversation is just plain irritated and "can't be bothered". I am now surprised he bothered to pick up the call.
• huiz

  16 Nov 05, 23:14

  Originally posted by glossy_matte:

  I tried asking tonight. The conversation went :
  
  Me: Hi, can I ask you something?
  Him: What?
  Me: Did you hear anything about me?
  Him: ... emm (mumbles)
  Me: hello?
  Him: ya.
  Me: You understand what I'm trying to get across?
  Him: yes.
  Me: and so ...?
  Him: aiya..dunno la.
  Me: okay, its okay. bye.
  
  I conversed with a close friend who knows everything about it who happens to be HIS close friend too.
  
  I called him tonight as I guessed someone probably told him something about me which wasn't nice? And I wanted to know the truth.
  And from HIS tone, I can be very sure that's what happened.
  Every sign of liking HE used to show sounds lost.
  Everything sounds gone.
  
  It might not seem like an issue worth discussing to some? But it is really very saddening. I feel sad, disappointed, angry and embarrassed. I've already confronted him nicely, giving a call to ask why and yet that's what I get for an answer.
  
  It's not gaming anymore.
  
  It is so depressing...

  is he doing something else when toking to u on the phone? maybe he feels disturbed or wat. otherwise he could be toot to wat u asking.