How would u feel if ur stead still contacts her/his ex?
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He'd say "I can't be bothered"Originally posted by Nelstar:I think shinta can explain how I feel.
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duh!
anyway, my boyfriend do have gal friends and i'm fine with that. i don't ask a lot too when he goes out with his friends. but of course if he wants to tell me anything, i would listen la.
this is not what "jail him" or what ba. and i hope he experiences waht "freedom, trust and wahtever la".
however if he goes out with the girls he used to like or what, i would of course feel more...worried? girls are very cunning creatures!
and anyway, if you really do not feel any jealousy or worry, i think it's because you don't care about that person at all! haha.. -
How about, "I am more respectful of my partner to believe and trust that she is matured enough to make decisions for herself instead of being my remote control girlfriend?"Originally posted by applesweetgirl:duh!
anyway, my boyfriend do have gal friends and i'm fine with that. i don't ask a lot too when he goes out with his friends. but of course if he wants to tell me anything, i would listen la.
this is not what "jail him" or what ba. and i hope he experiences waht "freedom, trust and wahtever la".
however if he goes out with the girls he used to like or what, i would of course feel more...worried? girls are very cunning creatures!
and anyway, if you really do not feel any jealousy or worry, i think it's because you don't care about that person at all! haha.. -
Walk 3 steps to the right walk straight on the tv for meOriginally posted by Nelstar:How about, "I am more respectful of my partner to believe and trust that she is matured enough to make decisions for herself instead of being my remote control girlfriend?"
Bring me my popcorn and my coke
Massage my back
A little bit to the left please more pressure
More to the right scratch a little
Up a bit yes thats right thats right thats the spot a bit more pressure
now my shoulders
now bring me my coffee and my papers
what do you mean if you dont have them go buy them from the nearest provision shop
clean the room sweep the floor mop it make sure its clean
run to the nearest kinokuniya and buy me my books
do not flirt with the salesman -
LOL!Originally posted by shinta:Walk 3 steps to the right walk straight on the tv for me
Bring me my popcorn and my coke
Massage my back
A little bit to the left please more pressure
More to the right scratch a little
Up a bit yes thats right thats right thats the spot a bit more pressure
now my shoulders
now bring me my coffee and my papers
what do you mean if you dont have them go buy them from the nearest provision shop
clean the room sweep the floor mop it make sure its clean
run to the nearest kinokuniya and buy me my books
do not flirt with the salesman 
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*salutes*Originally posted by maxilite:no offence, but the girl should just ditch him...he is selfish and insecure and dosen't trust his gf, at all... selfish not to other ppl but his own gf, imagine he does this not only to you but other guys, this dosen't do gd to her... also selfish in the sense that he dun let the girl see the other "better" opportunities ouit there n keep her for himself.... another thing is the girl is plain stupid...can't see this, maybe u shoul;d show the girl his msgs... see her response, if she sae she ok with it and wanna end ur fren ship, too bad for her, her lose n she is stupid...
a relationship should be filled with love, trust, faithfullness... not a jail...
i have gfs, i do let them mix with their exs, to the extent that 1 returned to her ex, i did feel hurt, but its the good for her coz sees gt some 1 she thinks is better... i will get jealous when my gfs talk abt/with/to their exs or go out with them, she will too if i did the same... btw, i do communicate with my exs also... its all about trusting ur gf, her faithfullness and the best for both parties... true, if either party leaves the relationship, but look on the bright side, u may get a better partner infuture and lucky it isn't aft u r married... also, if u realli love that person, dun limit her/him frm their happiness...
SHE/HE LEAVES BECOZ SHE/HE IS HAPPIER THERE!!!! REMEMBER!!
this is one post im looking forward to see.. lol
i agree wif u.. that "a relationship should be filled with love, trust, faithfullness... not a jail..." and i admire ur generousity tt u sacrificed urself for her happiness..
but too bad the guy is just a loser filled wif insecurity..
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Some choose to think that of people who don't like their gfs mixing with their exes because it gives them gratification.
But there could be other reasons behind their actions. Remember: a split can hurt. If the ex hurt his gf very much, he may want to protect her from this "creep" (to current partners, the exes will appear to be "creeps" sometimes). I don't think you should conclude whether this guy trusts your ex when you don't know for sure his reasons behind his actions.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Itachi:b4 tt, he sent me sth like "u wan her back issit?"
i dunno.. i just feel that he is a loser who is always afraid of his girl being snatched away and only thinks about his own interest..
if his gf would really leave him for another guy, i dun see what worth keeping the girl wif him. maybe that shows how much he trust her? i dunno.. sigh.. -
i can't think of any reasons, i onli know 1 thing.... that guy isn't rdy 4 a relationship... A Proper RelationShip... he should go cure his insecurities b4 getting into a relationship ....
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Perhaps he's being protective, I wouldn't know, & unless you know him personally, perhaps you wouldn't know for sure either.
Nevertheless, we've only heard 1 side of the story. Not saying that you're wrong, you could be correct for all we know.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by maxilite:i can't think of any reasons, i onli know 1 thing.... that guy isn't rdy 4 a relationship... A Proper RelationShip... he should go cure his insecurities b4 getting into a relationship .... -
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one possible reason could be he did have an ex which went back to her ex
so its a sore spot with him
I mean we can say he shd have sort out his emotional baggage before getting attached again but... most people don't do that do they?
I had an ex who was constantly talking abt his ex... to the extent of introducing me in HER name accidentally. It was difficult then to leave him, cos I did love him but it did drive me nuts with insecurity especially when she reputedly looks like a model etc etc.
What happens then if you love someone too much to leave him/her even when you know you may not yet be able to win his/her heart truly? He/She may have given a relationship a chance, but trust is something that needs time to build up. Now, whenever if an ex contacts me, I let my husband know. He trusts me to handle it because I give him this security that I love only him.
Its wonderful to have a relationship where both are secure in their love for each other, but sometimes it just doesn't work that way.
They have their own issues to sort out... and if you care for her, and you feel she does love this guy she is with, then I would think you do the gentlemanly thing and let her concentrate on building this relationship.
Afterall, she is not your only friend. And if she is just a friend with relationship problems - I think you can just let her know you will always be available for a listening ear and helping hand, but give her space to sort out the issues she has with her current bf ba. -
Haha.. thanks for replying..
She was my very good friend..
It's really a pity. -
duhhhhhh...Originally posted by Itachi:*salutes*
this is one post im looking forward to see.. lol
i agree wif u.. that "a relationship should be filled with love, trust, faithfullness... not a jail..." and i admire ur generousity tt u sacrificed urself for her happiness..
but too bad the guy is just a loser filled wif insecurity..
why did you all break up in the first place huh.
stop calling her bf loser with insecurity la. i think you should stop disturbing other ppl's relationship..
another question i want to ask is, how long did ur EX's bf and your EX been together? trust needs time to build up. not overnight one lor... -
we decided to let bygones be bygones and continue to be frenz.. perhaps tis was until the guy became particularly unhappy.. and she started digging out the past to talk abt
i din fully blamed the guy. this were just my guess. perhaps the the past was too hurtful bah.. sian.. time to move on. -
have faith in ur partner.
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hmmm... honestly, i will give up a friendship with an ex if my guy wills it... in a r/s, it's about compromise. i wun purposely do wad i want to do,if i know my guy doesnt like it. and i'm sure if that guy's my ex, he must be one heck of a guy (or at least used to be), so he should understand... cos if HE were my guy, i'd do the same for him.
cheers. -
'Originally posted by weijie1985:have faith in ur partner.
thx for replying..
but FYI.. im da ex wif no partner -
in many cases, its the vice versa...Originally posted by maxilite:no offence, but the girl should just ditch him...he is selfish and insecure and dosen't trust his gf, at all... selfish not to other ppl but his own gf... -
Agreed.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by applesweetgirl:duhhhhhh...
why did you all break up in the first place huh.
stop calling her bf loser with insecurity la. i think you should stop disturbing other ppl's relationship..
another question i want to ask is, how long did ur EX's bf and your EX been together? trust needs time to build up. not overnight one lor...