when u know your bf is not honest, what do u do?
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sad to say..no. i'm not.
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You can't go more wrong than this.Originally posted by shade343:Let me guess, are you a sagittarius?
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Too emotional not good also. Eventhough I am not a girl, I am emotional too, coz i care too much. But sometimes really need to control...if not you end up making people angry than try to show care for them...Originally posted by smallcloud:sad to say..no. i'm not. -
Originally posted by smallcloud:
Is he the one whom you are currently seeing for two months now?
is confrontation the best way out? i'm so tempted to tell him
"hello -.- i know wat u haven't been very honest with me!"
and see his reaction.
but at the same time, i wan to give him a chance and wait out to see if he's ever gona tell me about it.
wat should i do...
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You have only known him for two months and you already know he was not honest with you? About what? How did you find out?
One doesn't mean to probe, and you don't have to give any answer. But since you've already admitted that you could be jealous and possessive, not to mention with the shadow of a previous failed relationship hanging over your head, perhaps it may be better to ask yourself:
"If he had told me the truth, would it hurt me less or hurt me more?"
If the trust is already not there two months into the relationship, it is unlikely there could be any more trust another two months down the road. -
play the honesty game back with him..
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yes Tuatau.. same person.. haiz.. coming to 2 months..
i really wan the relationship to work out.. i know trust is really important.. without it, i'm quite certain it will not work out..
how.. really having a hard time battling with myself.
i know i'll love him wholeheartedly. i probably juz need more time to get over some stuff.. i'm juz afraid he won't wait until that happens..
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Originally posted by smallcloud:
Sigh... don't know your story, so not in a position to give much comment.
yes Tuatau.. same person.. haiz.. coming to 2 months..
i really wan the relationship to work out.. i know trust is really important.. without it, i'm quite certain it will not work out..
how.. really having a hard time battling with myself.
i know i'll love him wholeheartedly. i probably juz need more time to get over some stuff.. i'm juz afraid he won't wait until that happens..
However, here's a small tip: While we certainly can't help losing the relationship over betrayal by the other party, we are fools to lose the relationship over betrayal by our own selves.
"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose
The good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt."
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thanks for the tip.. i'll bear that in mind..
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i agree....u care for them they think u trying to 'control' them rite ? end up they 'fall' already then too late...tell them 'i told u the other time.....' then they buay song.Originally posted by JusStatic:Too emotional not good also. Eventhough I am not a girl, I am emotional too, coz i care too much. But sometimes really need to control...if not you end up making people angry than try to show care for them...
u warned them, tell them wat is rite they buay song.
they ganna liao then u tell them what went wrong they oso buay song...
dats y my policy is 1 hand after the other, i try twice if u still dun wanna listen then i let u die and wun offer u my hand again...even if i know u are going to hit the wall i oso will let u hit...dats me... -
anyway what is he doing that u are not happy with him?
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hmmm...so what exactly is your horoscope? Just curious here thats all...
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You nv say out much here lah.. so its hard to judge the situation..Originally posted by smallcloud:is confrontation the best way out? i'm so tempted to tell him
"hello -.- i know wat u haven't been very honest with me!"
and see his reaction.
but at the same time, i wan to give him a chance and wait out to see if he's ever gona tell me about it.
wat should i do...
To me, every one have their own little secrets.. No one can actually 100% know or understand each other de..
as long it is something that is not affecting or betraying the relationship, i suggest tat silence will be the best option..
Confrontation comes when it is a big issue tat have huge impact..
my 2 cents worth~ -
what have a sagittarius got to do with this??? -.-"Originally posted by shade343:Let me guess, are you a sagittarius?
errm.. im one~
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i think u shd tok to him la... if he realli dishonest nt good leh.... becuz once it starts... it will happen all the time...
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hmmz... okay... perhaps that something i can try..Originally posted by chunyong:i agree....u care for them they think u trying to 'control' them rite ? end up they 'fall' already then too late...tell them 'i told u the other time.....' then they buay song.
u warned them, tell them wat is rite they buay song.
they ganna liao then u tell them what went wrong they oso buay song...
dats y my policy is 1 hand after the other, i try twice if u still dun wanna listen then i let u die and wun offer u my hand again...even if i know u are going to hit the wall i oso will let u hit...dats me... -
everyone lies.
small white lies like "i dun think u're fat" when u really are is ok
but cheating on u is NOT ok! it will NEVER be ok.
what i'll do really depends on what he is lying about. -
I'll feel like ripping his lips
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NICE.Originally posted by binZ:You nv say out much here lah.. so its hard to judge the situation..
To me, every one have their own little secrets.. No one can actually 100% know or understand each other de..
as long it is something that is not affecting or betraying the relationship, i suggest tat silence will be the best option..
Confrontation comes when it is a big issue tat have huge impact..
my 2 cents worth~
But note that other than 'confrontations', there can be other ways of 'negotiations'? -
haha.. i dun negotitate! i only persuade people to what i want!Originally posted by Devil1976:NICE.
But note that other 'confrontations', there can be other ways of 'negotiations'? 
talking it out is probably a better pharse lah.. negotiation sound so business-like. not good~ -
'Talking things out' without making some lines CLEAR especially in some more SERIOUS ISSUES won't change much of anything for the future... After some time, problems often just re-surface unless the situation's changed...Originally posted by binZ:haha.. i dun negotitate! i only persuade people to what i want!
talking it out is probably a better pharse lah.. negotiation sound so business-like. not good~ 
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humans have the tendency to repeat history de.. so the main thing is tat whether they will commit the same mistake again bah..Originally posted by Devil1976:'Talking things out' without making some lines CLEAR especially in some more SERIOUS ISSUES won't change much of anything for the future... After some time, problems often just re-surface unless the situation's changed...
just joking de lah~ no need be so serious mah~
me stil lyoung, u know. flunk my english at O levels. got a D7
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We are more concern that the 'joke' is the actual thought you've been believing.Originally posted by binZ:humans have the tendency to repeat history de.. so the main thing is tat whether they will commit the same mistake again bah..
just joking de lah~ no need be so serious mah~
me stil lyoung, u know. flunk my english at O levels. got a D7
But then again, it's your life. We say what we can to help.
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wat he did??? tat depend on wat he lie aboutOriginally posted by smallcloud:is confrontation the best way out? i'm so tempted to tell him
"hello -.- i know wat u haven't been very honest with me!"
and see his reaction.
but at the same time, i wan to give him a chance and wait out to see if he's ever gona tell me about it.
wat should i do... -
If were me, I will sleep with other guys as revenge to him. Or the other way, I just enjoy myself.
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Not 'so serious' lah.. Just stating some facts... I have the HABIT of 'capping' some words which I wish to emphasize in case people miss my point...Originally posted by binZ:humans have the tendency to repeat history de.. so the main thing is tat whether they will commit the same mistake again bah..
just joking de lah~ no need be so serious mah~
me stil lyoung, u know. flunk my english at O levels. got a D7
True that humans tend to repeat history... So just 'talking things out' this time round without making some important things CLEAR, would only result in another 'talking things out' the next time round... On the long run it's often bad for a relationship... When it's taking repeated 'tear and wears'...