Survey: How often do you fight with your other half?
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Erm just want to hear what you guys think about this issue..
I rarely argued with my ai ai, and even if we did, it is quite rare and it will usually be resolved within hours, and more often than not, he will give in to me, or apologize, which has the effect of cooling me down immediately
Yet, I have heard of other couples who seem to argue a few times every month, there are even some of my friends who seem to argue with their supposedly other half like every other day. They will take longer to patch up oso, there seems to be so much pride and ego that neither of them wants to give in and compromise. But they will patch up within a week and then the cycle will repeat again...
So how's urs like? And is it normal for couples to argue every other day and to hurt each other so much constantly? Or you just kinda get used to the bickering?
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Nope, I very seldom fight with my darling
At most maybe 1/2 a year, once? At our age, we generally don't sweat the small stuff. Only big stuff then we argue for awhile. Usually resolved within an hour or so 
FeowFeow -
When you are not even married, argue so much for what?
When you are married and living together, you can argue all you want.
It's like sleeping.
No point sleeping so much now when you are alive since you will be sleeping for eternity when your contract on this earth expires. -
This friend of mine seems to fight with her bf every month...and a few times at that. And she will often tell the whole story and the fight episode in the blog so that's how we all know about it (a rather foolish thing to do actually)
I think both of them are very headstrong and refuse to give in to each other...
and she has this very weird saying she believes in...that if you dun argue with ur bf/gf, that means you dun love him/her...
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I heard couples who fight often become closer
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we seldom argue... think less than 5 times...
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see, this is the saying that my fren believes in also...and they fought like every other dayOriginally posted by alexkusu:I heard couples who fight often become closer
But I also heard that every fight is like a tear to the relationship...so cannot argue to often... -
Yah right.
If she loves him enough, she'll Not nitpick at every opportunity also
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rainee:This friend of mine seems to fight with her bf every month...and a few times at that. And she will often tell the whole story and the fight episode in the blog so that's how we all know about it (a rather foolish thing to do actually)
I think both of them are very headstrong and refuse to give in to each other...
and she has this very weird saying she believes in...that if you dun argue with ur bf/gf, that means you dun love him/her... -
Oh dear, which means I should love my darling more by fighting with him everyday & making his life miserable
FeowFeowOriginally posted by alexkusu:I heard couples who fight often become closer -
I think she is also a overdramatic kinda person...Originally posted by FeowFeow:Yah right.
If she loves him enough, she'll Not nitpick at every opportunity also
FeowFeow
like the other day they argued because she wanted to get her bf's opinion about the house she is going to live in, then her bf said he will do it later so she assumed that he was not going to do it, and then her bf oso at fault la, cos apparently he said the wrong things after that...and it caused a big fight to flare up, and supposedly she woke everyone up with her yelling and screaming and crying -
I dun tink I would want to subject my ai ai to that...and it also takes up energy to quarrel one lorOriginally posted by FeowFeow:Oh dear, which means I should love my darling more by fighting with him everyday & making his life miserable
FeowFeow -
i dun have to fight with nellie to make his life or my life miserable.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Oh dear, which means I should love my darling more by fighting with him everyday & making his life miserable
FeowFeow
simply ignore him when he calls my name is enuff to make us both miserable for as long as this continues.
we're like super glue. really. -
whats the point of being together if u argue and fight every now and then..
i duno.. thats what i feel -
My gf n I had never quarrel b4. She's a very reasonable and understanding person so things turn out quite smoothly.
Although there r times where im unhappy with her, but i will not tel her and soon get over it. -
yea...sometimes I also wonder why they are together...Originally posted by WiNtEr'SkiLL:whats the point of being together if u argue and fight every now and then..
i duno.. thats what i feel
maybe after they have patched things up, they tot they wud not argue again?
But a week later, it will start all over again?
I think fighting and arguing can become a habit, where the couple just become immune to it... -
The poor guy
It's Not as if the bf said he's Not gonna do it Don't they have something called heart-to-heart? Can talk mah, must scream meh?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rainee:I think she is also a overdramatic kinda person...
like the other day they argued because she wanted to get her bf's opinion about the house she is going to live in, then her bf said he will do it later so she assumed that he was not going to do it, and then her bf oso at fault la, cos apparently he said the wrong things after that...and it caused a big fight to flare up, and supposedly she woke everyone up with her yelling and screaming and crying -
Yeah, I can't bear it if I make my darling miserable as well Good that we hardly quarrel, I'd hate to cry, scream, etc
FeowFeowOriginally posted by rainee:I dun tink I would want to subject my ai ai to that...and it also takes up energy to quarrel one lor -
haiz I dunno la...sometimes I was thinking, is it so hard to just say sorry and then talk things over nicely after both have cooled down?Originally posted by FeowFeow:The poor guy
It's Not as if the bf said he's Not gonna do it Don't they have something called heart-to-heart? Can talk mah, must scream meh?
FeowFeow
apparently the guy also hates to apologize... -
Same here lah, don't take my statements literally I'm kinda being idiotic about the "fighting makes a couple closer" kinda crap, because I don't believe in it
As for being super glue, we do allow each other breathing space. It's up to every couple, what their preferences are In our relationship, Hamster gets the space to do his own thing & me mine, although it makes us miss each other like crazy
FeowFeowOriginally posted by shinta:i dun have to fight with nellie to make his life or my life miserable.
simply ignore him when he calls my name is enuff to make us both miserable for as long as this continues.
we're like super glue. really. -
sometng kant be avoided... both party needs to be understanding and learn to give in... Usually once per two month bah!! Coz always try to tink b4 any action done to ensure no argument will arise!! Argue very stress and tired to the body and mind wan!! Mood will be spoilt... Neng Mian Ze Mian...
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he said sth about me being attention deficit or sth can't rmb... said i need loads of attention. n tho i m very much addicted to Maple now, he said he did not regret introducin me the game (the SEA version).. cos...... of the attention seeking thing... i need loads of attention from him last time... not that much now..Originally posted by FeowFeow:Same here lah, don't take my statements literally I'm kinda being idiotic about the "fighting makes a couple closer" kinda crap, because I don't believe in it
As for being super glue, we do allow each other breathing space. It's up to every couple, what their preferences are In our relationship, Hamster gets the space to do his own thing & me mine, although it makes us miss each other like crazy
FeowFeow
i have meltzie to gimme attention
well, everyone in the list talks to me.. so not bad =D -
rainee
I hope your gal friend will change her idea about screaming and shouting at her bf like that. If her bf ever find someone better he will run for sure...
mark my words. -
sigh...tell her liao oso she wun listen...Originally posted by zeny:rainee
I hope your gal friend will change her idea about screaming and shouting at her bf like that. If her bf ever find someone better he will run for sure...
mark my words.
their r/s is like...it will be a bed of roses for a few days...then you can read about all the romantic things that they have done for each other...
but after that they will be fighting again...
many ups and downs...
reminded me of those love stories in movies...
dunno if it is good or not... -
but the movies is fight once and den love each other forever one leh. so ur fren is not like movie one. it is like.............. i also dono.Originally posted by rainee:sigh...tell her liao oso she wun listen...
their r/s is like...it will be a bed of roses for a few days...then you can read about all the romantic things that they have done for each other...
but after that they will be fighting again...
many ups and downs...
reminded me of those love stories in movies...
dunno if it is good or not... -
I oso dunno leh...Originally posted by sinicker:but the movies is fight once and den love each other forever one leh. so ur fren is not like movie one. it is like.............. i also dono.
Maybe after their fight is resolved the guy wud promise her that they will be cool and talk things over nicely...
but after that it will happen again...
I think it has become sort of a habit between them liao la...