its over.. everything..
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my one year 2weeks 4days relationship ended a few days ago. found out he's been flirting, smsing girls things like "miss you alot, really. but you don believe, neither do you miss me, sighs" he even says "i love you"... hais.
he's been doing that for the past 3 months le. i was being lied to for our last 3months by my bf. i cant believe it.
theres even once he said he wanna meet me in morning, but in the end didnt came, he said he went for breakfast alone.. now then i know.. he went to a girl's place. he wanted us to quiet down during O lvls, like no more smses/calls. im okay with that. den i only msged him GoodLuck for his paper n stuffs, he says things like "i say don msg me anymore, i wan study, wont msg u either".. den im like, fine then. no msgs loh.
but now i know, he's been smsing others all along. for every paper, he sends Goodluck to a particular girl, but not me. the girl take diff subj and there were days he didnt have to go sch for papers, he'd woke up early to just send her a msg.
things were so cold between us. after which i found out all these abt a week ago, i asked him. he said sorry and those msgs were just for fun. hais i dun understand wats so fun about it. idiot. he said he's guilty and sounded reluctant to break. so i kept it aside. till one morning, i woke up and still don see any msgs from him, i thought about it for awhile. i msged him. he still gave me those attitude and i feel that he dont think he did did anything wrong.. stuffs like that. i couldnt take it. i said "lets break.." all he replied was "fine. lets break then"...
the feeling of being lied to, and then not being sincerely apologised to, sucks. and even after i told him i knew the truths, he still carry on msging girls. hais. even up to the last moment.. he couldnt answer me when i asked if he still loves me.. i guess the answer's no..
hais. everything just keeps reminding me of him. it seriously sucks. and my frens who went out with him after we broke, said that he's still as happy.. seems to be enjoying himself. sighs, i wonder how he 'recover' so fast... -
tough goin
move along
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take care
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cheer up
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should i wait for a patch or something???
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i feel for you.
This is a phrase which you have to be strong and learn from this relationship.
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dont tink so....since u said he looks 'normal' after the brk up....well....i dunoOriginally posted by sunpastilles:should i wait for a patch or something???
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once bitten twice shyOriginally posted by sunpastilles:should i wait for a patch or something??? -
Why?Originally posted by sunpastilles:should i wait for a patch or something???
Are you expecting something will change? For the better?
Oh....adolescence.....I wish to help....but i can't.
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so.. even if he asks for a patch, i should reject becos it'll only be giving him another chance to hurt me??
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its your life and your choice. we cannot tell you what to do
but be aware that he had hurt you once. -
move on ...
I dun find him sincere and committed to the present or ex r/s u r in.
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really dun wait for him since he's such a jerk... u may still hv those old feelings in u but right now he's different from the nice person u noe so dun bother abt him... u r young n plenty faithful nice guys are out there for u so dun waste your youth on him... he's jz not worth it...Originally posted by sunpastilles:should i wait for a patch or something??? -
sry to hear about that.
you may want to take this relationship as a learning step. Think back on why he went around 'flirting'. Was it because you didn't show him enough concern? or did your actions not prove your thoughts? When someone strays in a relationship, I'd say most of the time, it would be the other's fault. A communication problem that results in frustration and thus he looks for other means of expressing himself. remember that a completely satisfied person can't be seduced. Note that this applies to real/serious/matured relationships.. not secondary school puppy love/crushes or whatsoever.
Use the lessons learnt in this relationship well, so that the same thing doesn't happen to the guy who may really be the one for you. will really be a sad thing if the same thing is repeated again.
Anyway, you're still young, and so his he. He probably hasn't learnt the true value of a relationship yet, and just wants to seek 'fun'. focus on the better and more useful things in life.
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he was a flirt.. i gave him a chance, thinking he will change. even though i know he do small things like smsing chat with other girls or talk to them through phone, i didnt care. we gave each other all our attention. even thou there were times we fight cos we're jealous seeing each other so close to the opposite sex. i could really feel "it" from him. from what i see.. he really did changed.. but i guess my fear of him straying lead me tightening my 'grip'.. he 'held' me tightly too..Originally posted by thingy:sry to hear about that.
you may want to take this relationship as a learning step. Think back on why he went around 'flirting'. Was it because you didn't show him enough concern? or did your actions not prove your thoughts? When someone strays in a relationship, I'd say most of the time, it would be the other's fault. A communication problem that results in frustration and thus he looks for other means of expressing himself. remember that a completely satisfied person can't be seduced. Note that this applies to real/serious/matured relationships.. not secondary school puppy love/crushes or whatsoever.
Use the lessons learnt in this relationship well, so that the same thing doesn't happen to the guy who may really be the one for you. will really be a sad thing if the same thing is repeated again.
Anyway, you're still young, and so his he. He probably hasn't learnt the true value of a relationship yet, and just wants to seek 'fun'. focus on the better and more useful things in life.
good luck~
den he said he felt stress when with me.. i duno why he felt this way... it seems like its my fault now.. but... i guess im just too afraid to let him go... im afraid he might fall for others... he's always hanging around 2pretty girls.. i hav very very low confidence and self esteem.. im afraid he'll fall for either of them..
and today he jus msged me... so we chatted like frens.. i asked if he's chasing anyone of those 2.. he said if there's a chance, he will. he admitted to me even when we were together, he always felt something for that one girl and its like theres smth in her that luring him, making him wanna go close to her..
and those 2 girls.. out of which the one whom i think he feels for.. is actually my good fren. i really cannot accept this. all along i only asked him to not be so close with these 2, fearing that he might really fall for either of them. he always promised me he wont, but behind me, he's always with them. and now, my greatest fear.. of my bf falling for my fren.. has happened. but as mentioned, he said something in her makes him feel like going near, he said he isnt really in love with her though. i really dunno what he's thinking.. sighs.. -
Dont tink too much liao....the more u tink...the worse u feel....its tough 4getting him but this is life....get over with it
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sounds like you could use a good shag and then sleep over it.
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that's really one big chunk up there. what are you confused/reluctant/or even writing about? i say you go screw everyone else involved up and start all over again. since you're just 16, you won't need them anyway.Originally posted by sunpastilles:he was a flirt.. i gave him a chance, thinking he will change. even though i know he do small things like smsing chat with other girls or talk to them through phone, i didnt care. we gave each other all our attention. even thou there were times we fight cos we're jealous seeing each other so close to the opposite sex. i could really feel "it" from him. from what i see.. he really did changed.. but i guess my fear of him straying lead me tightening my 'grip'.. he 'held' me tightly too..
den he said he felt stress when with me.. i duno why he felt this way... it seems like its my fault now.. but... i guess im just too afraid to let him go... im afraid he might fall for others... he's always hanging around 2pretty girls.. i hav very very low confidence and self esteem.. im afraid he'll fall for either of them..
and today he jus msged me... so we chatted like frens.. i asked if he's chasing anyone of those 2.. he said if there's a chance, he will. he admitted to me even when we were together, he always felt something for that one girl and its like theres smth in her that luring him, making him wanna go close to her..
and those 2 girls.. out of which the one whom i think he feels for.. is actually my good fren. i really cannot accept this. all along i only asked him to not be so close with these 2, fearing that he might really fall for either of them. he always promised me he wont, but behind me, he's always with them. and now, my greatest fear.. of my bf falling for my fren.. has happened. but as mentioned, he said something in her makes him feel like going near, he said he isnt really in love with her though. i really dunno what he's thinking.. sighs.. -
u should really forget abt it la, his mind is filled with lust so theres no chance he will be the one u want so jz walk away since he is still the immature boy who has not learnt the meaning of love... u need to get over it... theres plenty of guys waiting for u so no need to settle for a guy like tat...Originally posted by sunpastilles:he was a flirt.. i gave him a chance, thinking he will change. even though i know he do small things like smsing chat with other girls or talk to them through phone, i didnt care. we gave each other all our attention. even thou there were times we fight cos we're jealous seeing each other so close to the opposite sex. i could really feel "it" from him. from what i see.. he really did changed.. but i guess my fear of him straying lead me tightening my 'grip'.. he 'held' me tightly too..
den he said he felt stress when with me.. i duno why he felt this way... it seems like its my fault now.. but... i guess im just too afraid to let him go... im afraid he might fall for others... he's always hanging around 2pretty girls.. i hav very very low confidence and self esteem.. im afraid he'll fall for either of them..
and today he jus msged me... so we chatted like frens.. i asked if he's chasing anyone of those 2.. he said if there's a chance, he will. he admitted to me even when we were together, he always felt something for that one girl and its like theres smth in her that luring him, making him wanna go close to her..
and those 2 girls.. out of which the one whom i think he feels for.. is actually my good fren. i really cannot accept this. all along i only asked him to not be so close with these 2, fearing that he might really fall for either of them. he always promised me he wont, but behind me, he's always with them. and now, my greatest fear.. of my bf falling for my fren.. has happened. but as mentioned, he said something in her makes him feel like going near, he said he isnt really in love with her though. i really dunno what he's thinking.. sighs.. -
by saying he's STILL the immature boy who has NOT learnt.... that's just gonna give her hope, so let's say something like, 'you should really go back to him. give him a really good blowjob and then cook him a nice meal. that oughta do the job.'Originally posted by BrUtUs:u should really forget abt it la, his mind is filled with lust so theres no chance he will be the one u want so jz walk away since he is still the immature boy who has not learnt the meaning of love... u need to get over it... theres plenty of guys waiting for u so no need to settle for a guy like tat... -
then give her a killer advice then...Originally posted by yourma:by saying he's STILL the immature boy who has NOT learnt.... that's just gonna give her hope, so let's say something like, 'you should really go back to him. give him a really good blowjob and then cook him a nice meal. that oughta do the job.'
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stop adding salt to the woundOriginally posted by yourma:by saying he's STILL the immature boy who has NOT learnt.... that's just gonna give her hope, so let's say something like, 'you should really go back to him. give him a really good blowjob and then cook him a nice meal. that oughta do the job.' -
no really, you thinking by saying good and practical things are really gonna help?
com'on, i'm sure anyone of you here has been through something like that, dont you just hate when someone just comes along, concerning or whatever, telling you, 'hey i know, i know, but....' blahblahblah, full of sh*t. never works on me. never works on anyone else i tried on.
i said, what i did is a patent method. word. -
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was that a friendly or a threatening smile?