The person I like most getting married
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from your this post, i already knew why he left u..Originally posted by Meera Jasmine:What should i do? The girl he chose was not even good looking as me , and lower educated. In a way i feel strange now as the matter did not full come to me as a blow because of these reason. Superiority complex perhaps?
Cant deccribe my feelings now. Have i lost him forever? anywae i do not know for sure they are getting married. But i do know dat they had many fights and problems in their r/s b4. -
when a person has chosen who to marry, u can forget abt him already.
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Just throwing out my piece of mind.Originally posted by dragg:you are really good!!!
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Ok...time for apologies if I've hurt your feelings, but I won't take back what I've said.Originally posted by Meera Jasmine:I dont mean to be bad or wat... But i thought he would have chose someone as i expected better than me....But in any way i dont mean any harm too..Just that m feeling now is hard to ddesscribe as myself i dont know how i feeling.
It happens in my relationship with my gf. She always think that she's not good enough for me and there's always others who's better, more pretty than her. But ultimately, all I can tell her is I love no one other than her. I agreed with her that there's thousands and millions of girls out there who are smarter and more prettier than her but she's the only one that I set my eyes on and I love only her. It's who she is that lets me decide that she's the one in my life.
So what if there's other girls smarter and more pretty than her? Does that means I have to change gf everytime I met one who is smarter and prettier than the current one? I don't think so I'll ever do that.
I'm clear headed with the fact that during my darkest hours she's always there for me and support me since the first day I know her and all these while no matter how bad I've treated her before she never left my side and tolorate all my nonsenses even till now. I don't think I'll ever met someone like her again and even if I do it won't change my feelings for my gf.
Jasmine, I really do hope that you'll start thinking otherwise before you end up being alone for the rest of your life cause what a guy seeks in his lifetime companion isn't just how good she is in bed or how pretty she is or how smart she is. Love definitely can be defined in much more other ways. -
Please define what you mean by "better than you". How do you know she's not any better than you? No one in this world has the right to judge another person if he/she is good or bad.Originally posted by Meera Jasmine:I dont mean to be bad or wat... But i thought he would have chose someone as i expected better than me....But in any way i dont mean any harm too..Just that m feeling now is hard to ddesscribe as myself i dont know how i feeling. -
agree to the max.Originally posted by mistyblue:be happy for them and show some grace...
you are dripping of jealousy and unhappiness
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Define "better than you".Originally posted by Meera Jasmine:I dont mean to be bad or wat... But i thought he would have chose someone as i expected better than me....But in any way i dont mean any harm too..Just that m feeling now is hard to ddesscribe as myself i dont know how i feeling.
I believe tt girl is much better in dealing with love than u.
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Let me repeat this again in case someone in here already read it somewhere.Originally posted by Meera Jasmine:I dont mean to be bad or wat... But i thought he would have chose someone as i expected better than me....But in any way i dont mean any harm too..Just that m feeling now is hard to ddesscribe as myself i dont know how i feeling.
There are thousands and millions of woman out there who are more beautiful than my gf and smarter than my gf, but I love not another girl more than I love my gf.
There's a million people out there better looking at me, richer than me, better than me in characters and despite all these, my gf who has a long track of suitors going after her chose me despite all the others who are better than me. Why? Just because of one word I told her, She can find someone she love more than me but she'll never find another person who love her more than I love her. -
but did you warn her that things are subject to change with prior warning?Originally posted by laosu:Let me repeat this again in case someone in here already read it somewhere.
There are thousands and millions of woman out there who are more beautiful than my gf and smarter than my gf, but I love not another girl more than I love my gf.
There's a million people out there better looking at me, richer than me, better than me in characters and despite all these, my gf who has a long track of suitors going after her chose me despite all the others who are better than me. Why? Just because of one word I told her, She can find someone she love more than me but she'll never find another person who love her more than I love her. -
Warn who? My gf?Originally posted by dragg:but did you warn her that things are subject to change with prior warning? -
Dear Dragg,
I hope this comment is Not with regards to Laosu's posts & his relationship. He's obviously happy, & from the way he posts, I believe his gf is too. Let's Not be so cynical & pour cold water on their relationship, shall we?
FeowFeowOriginally posted by dragg:but did you warn her that things are subject to change with prior warning? -
i am just being truthful. who can guarantee that feelings wont change?Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Dragg,
I hope this comment is Not with regards to Laosu's posts & his relationship. He's obviously happy, & from the way he posts, I believe his gf is too. Let's Not be so cynical & pour cold water on their relationship, shall we?
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of course i am not expecting you to tell your girlfriend that.Originally posted by laosu:Warn who? My gf?
but isnt is true that in a relationship both parties tend to be madly in love. but with time thing changes... -
Thanks FF but I'm fine with it.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Dear Dragg,
I hope this comment is Not with regards to Laosu's posts & his relationship. He's obviously happy, & from the way he posts, I believe his gf is too. Let's Not be so cynical & pour cold water on their relationship, shall we?
FeowFeow
In actual fact me and my gf did discuss about it before.
There's no way we can predict the future and we can't promise that things won't change. Should one day either of us decide to end this relationship, we make a pact to each other that we shall remain soulmates to each other even after that. We were soulmates before we were together and that shall not change. It's difficult to explain the situation me and my gf are facing but all I can say is it's not a problem that can be solved easily and my gf is facing pressures because of this. I have no problem with this but I must be strong enough to stand by her but I know in a way I'm preparing for the day that she decide to end this relationship should she think that she can't bear the pressure anymore.
But despite all these, I know we love each other very deeply with no doubts. We just have to fight on and hope to win. The road ahead is full of obstacles and I don't mind being the one to carry her across as long as she has faith in me. I just don't wanna surrender even without a good fight. Before we were together, I already know the things we'll both be facing but I don't want to give out without trying cause I'll know I'll eventually regret. At least with a good fight for our happiness, even if we fail we won't regret. -
very good. i am impressed!!!Originally posted by laosu:Thanks FF but I'm fine with it.
In actual fact me and my gf did discuss about it before.
There's no way we can predict the future and we can't promise that things won't change. Should one day either of us decide to end this relationship, we make a pact to each other that we shall remain soulmates to each other even after that. We were soulmates before we were together and that shall not change. It's difficult to explain the situation me and my gf are facing but all I can say is it's not a problem that can be solved easily and my gf is facing pressures because of this. I have no problem with this but I must be strong enough to stand by her but I know in a way I'm preparing for the day that she decide to end this relationship should she think that she can't bear the pressure anymore.
But despite all these, I know we love each other very deeply with no doubts. We just have to fight on and hope to win. The road ahead is full of obstacles and I don't mind being the one to carry her across as long as she has faith in me. I just don't wanna surrender even without a good fight. Before we were together, I already know the things we'll both be facing but I don't want to give out without trying cause I'll know I'll eventually regret. At least with a good fight for our happiness, even if we fail we won't regret.
this is really very good for a relationship.
i wish you all the best!!!! -
Is ok...we both are very much aware of this... but thanks anyway.Originally posted by dragg:of course i am not expecting you to tell your girlfriend that.
but isnt is true that in a relationship both parties tend to be madly in love. but with time thing changes...
In my case, I don't think it'll apply to me. In my previous post, I've already mention briefly the things we are facing in this r/s and we did have talk about it. I admit we are madly in love but we aren't blinded by it because of the problems we are facing forced us to face reality too.
I'm not young anymore and neither am I that old but I know both of us are sensible enough to know that love isn't just about feelings but alot more. It's efforts and understandings from both parties to hold this r/s strong. It's not an easy path for both of us and I'm really touched that she's willing to take this big risk with me together.
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Thanks dragg.Originally posted by dragg:very good. i am impressed!!!
this is really very good for a relationship.
i wish you all the best!!!!
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Hi Laosu,
I won't probe too much into your relationship, I understand that this would be private. In any case, you're mature & sensible enough to conduct your own relationship, & I'm quite confident that you'll know what the best course to take is : )
I'm sorry that external matters are putting pressures on your gf, & it's a horrible thing (don't know for sure what external pressures they are, but I think I can make a guess
Not that I hope I get it right ) to experience when both of you love each other so much.
All I can offer is best wishes that both of you can conquer those obstacles in your way & that your relationship will withstand those difficulties faced.
FeowFeowOriginally posted by laosu:Thanks FF but I'm fine with it.
In actual fact me and my gf did discuss about it before.
There's no way we can predict the future and we can't promise that things won't change. Should one day either of us decide to end this relationship, we make a pact to each other that we shall remain soulmates to each other even after that. We were soulmates before we were together and that shall not change. It's difficult to explain the situation me and my gf are facing but all I can say is it's not a problem that can be solved easily and my gf is facing pressures because of this. I have no problem with this but I must be strong enough to stand by her but I know in a way I'm preparing for the day that she decide to end this relationship should she think that she can't bear the pressure anymore.
But despite all these, I know we love each other very deeply with no doubts. We just have to fight on and hope to win. The road ahead is full of obstacles and I don't mind being the one to carry her across as long as she has faith in me. I just don't wanna surrender even without a good fight. Before we were together, I already know the things we'll both be facing but I don't want to give out without trying cause I'll know I'll eventually regret. At least with a good fight for our happiness, even if we fail we won't regret. -
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Haha...make a wise guess...I'll tell you if you are right.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hi Laosu,
I won't probe too much into your relationship, I understand that this would be private. In any case, you're mature & sensible enough to conduct your own relationship, & I'm quite confident that you'll know what the best course to take is : )
I'm sorry that external matters are putting pressures on your gf, & it's a horrible thing (don't know for sure what external pressures they are, but I think I can make a guess Not that I hope I get it right ) to experience when both of you love each other so much.
All I can offer is best wishes that both of you can conquer those obstacles in your way & that your relationship will withstand those difficulties faced.
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Honestly speaking, I'm skeptical about the future and I'm not sure if this relationship will last but neither am I going to do nothing about it. Been planning for our future and working hard trying to make more money so that she won't have to slog her whole life. Even if we ended up in separate ways, I don't think I'll ever regret giving her my heart.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Hi Laosu,
I won't probe too much into your relationship, I understand that this would be private. In any case, you're mature & sensible enough to conduct your own relationship, & I'm quite confident that you'll know what the best course to take is : )
I'm sorry that external matters are putting pressures on your gf, & it's a horrible thing (don't know for sure what external pressures they are, but I think I can make a guess Not that I hope I get it right ) to experience when both of you love each other so much.
All I can offer is best wishes that both of you can conquer those obstacles in your way & that your relationship will withstand those difficulties faced.
FeowFeow
As for our problems, I guess I just have to learn the harshness of reality but like I say before, I'm not going to give up. I'll wait even if it means 10yrs..20yrs..30yrs. She definitely worth me making the effort. Probably the only thing that breaks my heart now is that she's the one facing the pressures more than I did. At times I do give a thought if I should just end it all and end her misery. Tough. Take it I'm selfish but I really do love her. -
*applauds*Originally posted by laosu:What you should do? So what she's less pretty than you or have lower education than you? Just a gentle reminder...you love him...but that doesn't mean he love you. If you do mention that you are prettier than her and higher education than her...then please be reminded again that there are more girls out there who are more pretty than you and have higher education than you, so which means that he should dump you for them if you are the one who happens to be with him.
At least from what I read...I think I know why he chose her and not you. I probably would have chose another plain looking girl with a great heart than to choose a pretty girl with no heart. Your first paragaph already disgust me.