Is is SOooo HARD to love???! :( please..
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16 on 2006...wth..
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We only ogle but no evil intentions, lets put it this way if your boyfren doesn't ogle, he wouldn't have noticed you in e first place riteOriginally posted by browniebaobao:my girl fren who had 11 boyfrens, she said, if a guy dun look at girls, then he's not straight liao.
I also agree with her, even if a guy is already attached or married, he will also ogle at other girls. It's their nature. But the difference varies with individual.
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So what you want now?Originally posted by projectlime:i dont think i can move on that quickly if it fails.. coz its not like i get into this rship just in a state of lust.. wana get her body. read this brutus!!! dont anyhow call some1 a jerk if ya dont know him. ya dont know me.. its not a case of im gettin bored of her, i still love her and i still hoping everyday things can get better.. yea im only 18 so? youre older so youre tryin to lecture me over here? go study go study shiatz? damn i dun even need to explain it to ya. i thought i can seek some help from a forum, but of coz uh there will be some assOs bringin ya down.. maybe i should have just keep it to myself.
anyway, thanks to whoever that gave me some positive comments... appreciate it. guess i can only try to figure it out myself
You're WEIRD..
On one hand, you says you love her but won't have sex with her and afraid to risk being reported to the police.. On the OTHER HAND, you LUST for OTHER CHICKS Not afraid that they would report you as well if you have anything to do with them -
Hi,
I assume you are in your teens now. Dont worry, its completely normal to check out new girls at your age and easier to fall in love. Many teenages usually go for physical appearance (looks) more than characters. As you grow older, your thinking will start to change. By then, characters will be of more priority to you than looks.
I noticed many teen couples tend to live a world on their own; they spend alot of time together than with their friends. Because of this, I feel that they lose out on alot of things during their young years. Why? Because once you start working full-time, there is no such thing call school holidays. You'll have lesser time to make new friends or catch up with old friends. Therefore, it's good to build lots of friendship among your peers and enjoy new hobbies at your age.
P/s: Just to remind you that, having sex with someone under 16 yrs old is illegal in Singapore. -
not all mahOriginally posted by alexkusu:16 on 2006...wth..
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i dun agree with u.Originally posted by de_middle:We only ogle but no evil intentions, lets put it this way if your boyfren doesn't ogle, he wouldn't have noticed you in e first place rite
u mean my bf get to know me by ogling ar?
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Appreciate when you have the love in ur hands now, unlike others who want also dont have....Originally posted by projectlime:hey people...
i really got nobody to turn to. im really hoping all the fellow forum pals here can give me some advices..............
too cut the story short, i was wit this girl 2years ago. and of coz we broke up 2yrs ago. 2yrs later, we met and got into a relationship again.. at first, it really seems wow, the best love story every. breakup, without any contact, 2yrs later, contact back and get back together. really fall in love back again. (i noe it have happen before to others, but its just really 'wow' for me)
now, im beginnig to feel lesser feelings for her. no, i shouldnt say that. i mean, i dont really noe wat i feel now. but whenever i go out, i didnt think of her much. but i still check girls out and hopefully wanting to get to know some. i dont know whether its lust, or i really cant relate wit her and take it anymore. sometimes on the phone, we really dont have any idea at all wat to talk about!! maybe one of th reason is, we cant do alot of things together. and its really hard to communicate if ya dont really have anythin in common iwt that person.. yea? and also THE REAL PROBLEM IS, her family DOES NOT noe aabout our relationship and they cant! its the same 2yrs ago.. her parents are divorced n shes leavin wit her mom and sis. i understand especially wit this situation that the mom tend to be more protective. and of coz wit rship.. sayin theres no need to get into 1 at such a young age. shes gonna be 16 on 2006. lets dont talk about 2yrs ago but now. i been puttin it up wit it, acceptin the fact that we gotta be careful while we are out, HAVE to get back by 7pm. have to tell her sis or mom that shes goin out wit her GIRLfren..ALWAYS. ya noe, i really need a girl that can be there for me whenever i really need her. be there to pull me up when im down. and of coz ill be there for her no matter wat. my life aint that sweet and im still figurin shit out.. shes a beautiful beautiful girl, almost evey guys perfect girlfriend choice and i really fall in love wit her. but my feelings are all tangled up now. mixed feelings.. and, why will a normal man/guy like me still look at other chicks (sometimes less prettier) and tryin to know them when i already got a really pretty girlfren at home, who is all mine! i dont understand myself anymore.. sex is not reali importantt to me.. and yes, we did do all the things couples do before. so its really...... i dont know man. what should i do? i dont wana break up.. (im really afraid it gonna hurt us both, alot! rmber 2yrs ago we had some surreal love) but on the other end, im still like lookin out for chicks tryin to know some if possible. am i a physcho, lust for sex maniac or wat? (but i noe im not ah... haiz)
sorry if its too long. but please give me some positive. how long it is, i will read everythin. somethin positve please.. i will really ppreciate all your kind comments and reply here. thanks and have a ncie day. peace.... -
I tink he meant Ur bf gts to know U by noticing Ur appearence 1st...Originally posted by browniebaobao:i dun agree with u.
u mean my bf get to know me by ogling ar? 
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I still dun agree.Originally posted by Simple_Bear:I tink he meant Ur bf gts to know U by noticing Ur appearence 1st... -
orhx! den iit must have been fate!Originally posted by browniebaobao:I still dun agree.
kiie .. dun't worii be happy then ! Your both gonna liive happiily ever after
anyways,
hurm, projectlime
maybe what you need to do iis just siit down, and have one Good talk wiif her, you know, to riight all the wrongs and sort everythiing out. be open, just let her know how you feel, dun't be shy or scared to say whats realli needed to be saiid. [ up to you, but be careful tho, dun't say the wrong thiing(s) and hurt her feeliings ]
Its oso good to fiind out iif you really love her and have feeliings for her and whether she feels the same towards you. [ iif your really desperate, pester her abiit, but dun't be a pest
] try to fiind out iif she has any problems, iif iits affectiing the relatiionshiip, and whether she wants to talk about iit [ iif she has a problem, take note of the problem, whether iif iits an emotiional, physiical or problems wiif her friiends, famiily etc. and see what you can do to help ]
iif she dosen want to talk about iit wiith you, guess whether shes just shy iin general or she dosen't want to bother you -- whiich iis good OR she dosen't trust you enough --- whiich iisn't that good but, iis useful as iit can tell you how she feels towards you and then maybe you can work on that trust meter --- whiich iis iimportant iin a good relatiionshiip
you guys dun't know what to talk about when your together or on the phone maybe because, no offence, you guys don't really know that much about each other. dun't know what the other liikes, does not liike, prefers etc [ of course ii can be wrong, maybe you guys just don't know what to say
] but, iif you want to know more about her, for example, you want to buy her perfume with flowers as a gift but you dun't know what flower she prefers then make up a story and ask her whether she thiinks tuliips or daffodiils are niicer, then she could say that she prefers roses iinstead and there ! you know what flower she appreciiates [ iit may not be her favouriite flower but then agaiin, you know that iits a preference ] thiis method can apply to ALOT of thiings, but dun't abuse iit and make iit so obviious that she'll realiise your ulteriior motiives dude
oh! and you know, iif you really dun't know what to say then, just start wiith a siimple topiic. eg. ask her hows the hols for her and ask her hows she been spendiing tiime. iif she says shoppiing for example, then you can talk about that new CD you liike or new shoes or shiirt you know, and then she may talk about what she liikes. then, now you know the perfect giift to surpriise her wiith + how she liikes to spend her tiime
And of course, we all dream of haviing that perfect relatiionshiip where shes there for you, and your there for her whenever you both need each other no matter what. but, no matter how hard we try, we just just can't be there all the tiime [ >.< no offence ! ii could be wrong !! ] but iin your case projectlime, your both not iin fault. what you can do iis try to be understandiing and understand her siituatiion if she CMI that tiime and of course viice versa for her.
Remember, all you really need to fiind out iis iif your love and feeliings for her iis stiill strong and hers for you. iif iit iis then, cheriish her wiith all your heart !!
BLEAHxXx ... -_-' sorii for beiing long-wiinded, lets just say .. ii'm goiing thru the same thiing as you my fwen ... and thiis iis just my adviice, you can do iit your way. good luck man !! -
It's good that you are serious with her and wanna be with her. But trust me...leave that part till much later maybe another 5-6yrs when you are stable in your career. I very much into seeking true love too but reality still bites and human still change.Originally posted by projectlime:laosu..
about the toys and 'rotten' apple theory, i definitely understood what you tryin to say. i dont know if im holdin on to a memory but im definitely thinkin bout the future. when i get back will her, or think about rship, i think of a long term 1.. even gettin married. yea, it may sound crazy, but i hope yall get what i mean..
i guess im 1 of the guy who seek for real love. well, who dont? who dont wana wake up everyday thinkin about that you got a partner who will be there for ya, and that "hey, i am in love!!!" feeling... and thats the thing. i think of a future being wit her, but it seems like shes afraid to take that step. firstly i help her, advice her and persuade her to go talk toher mom about gettin her freedom. at least dont have to come back by 7pm. (no, its with girlfrens not boys in particular) she finally did it, and im so happy. thought everythin will be cool now. and den, is her sister. she cant take that step and have a slow talk wit her sister lettin noe i exist. her sister knew about me 2yrs ago. and shes damn cool and supportive. but it changed after 2yrs. prolly because she dated a malay(pls dont start a racial dispute) and her sister been against her ever since. n durin this 2yrs, no i didnt have any rship or even dated any girls.....................
I'm 28 this year and trust be...seen much enough to know that we can't avoid certain points in life and I've personally been through several major changes myself and withness that of my friends. Seemed like unavoidable. The only thing that never change in me is till now I still believe in true love and the one and only person that will be with me till my last breath.
To ask her to seek freedom from her mum is not a bad thing to ask for but then you have to make sure that she's safe after that time whether she's out with you or with others. This is one commitment you have to be responsible for.
Your gf is still young and for her case it's natural that her family are more protective of her. A little suggestion here. Instead of asking your gf out and come back later than 7pm, why don't you two take some efforts to go back to her house by 7pm and you can stay there for a while. Once or so maybe can buy some dinner up for everyone if your allowance ($) allows. No need big spread of dishes but a simple meal will do the trick. By going to her house often, you can slowly gain the trust of the family on you and in a way they won't be so worried about your gf since she's at home. But try not to stay alone in the room for too long (especially the initial stage). Stay in the living room and chat with everyone. Think the mum and sis will be quite impressed. And when you gain their trust, once a while you two can maybe go dating outside and come back a bit later. At least by then the family should be able to trust you more. -
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