Broken feeling..
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Just do what you want.
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how do u know that he's a good guy when u dun even know him at all?Originally posted by Mao x 2:Somehow, I agree with Devil.
In a relationship, you have to give and take.
We are not talking about True Love over here. Coz it's really rare.
Not everyone can love unconditionally.
There will tend to be some expectations.
Would you want to be with a guy who is lazy and never bother to make any effort in the relationship. Even if you really love him?
Trust me, even if you really love him, you will also hope that he will just make more effort and treat you well, isn't it?
For her case, her BF is really a good guy.
My buddy is having the same problem too.
He is worried that he can't really support his GF in the future if she keep on slacking around and neglect her studies.
He even spare some time trying to give her revisions, but she just keep on giving excuses.
Even when he told her that if she's not interested in studying, at least go get a job and learn some skills.
But she told him that she wanted to study.
And yet she still didn't make any effort in her studies at all.
Sound familiar? Threadstarter.
I do not know if you are the same person I'm talking about.
My advice to you is, if you want this relationship back.
DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
And not waiting for miracles to happen.
Ya u are right, sad to say, true love is very rare, and it's sad then not all people will love unconditionally. how many guys actually love their gf in a r/s?
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you are pity by many people here in nice forum but speak withouh think is bad bacause you will never speak without think. your brain will always tink whenyou speak.HA dont worry beacuse there is a childish in everyone... like me becus i like to smoke and smokin to othe people is childish act. so thetere is a childish in everyone of us people. and i always wan to win toto and singapore pool all thier money and there is also always a i wan to win in everyone. so whast i say is this all is not bad but good. dont worry because girl will hook up easier then guys.. so i tink before this guy hook up you will hook up already and dun be worry. HA
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We cannot be sure that the guy is bad and cooking up lame excuses too. Time will tell the truth.Originally posted by browniebaobao:how do u know that he's a good guy when u dun even know him at all?
Ya u are right, sad to say, true love is very rare, and it's sad then not all people will love unconditionally. how many guys actually love their gf in a r/s?
and how many actually fake up lame excuses or terribly hurt the girl to make her want a break up?
She indeed have quite a few anti attractive traits and have to reflect on herself right at this moment.
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of course we cannot tell whether he's good or bad lor..Originally posted by M©+square:We cannot be sure that the guy is bad and cooking up lame excuses too. Time will tell the truth.
She indeed have quite a few anti attractive traits and have to reflect on herself right at this moment.
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she ineed have quite a few anti attractive traits? how do u know? -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:of course we cannot tell whether he's good or bad lor..
she ineed have quite a few anti attractive traits? how do u know?
Our thread starter have already admitted it herself.Originally posted by lil_pinkie:Other side issues are my attitude - always wan to win, childish, speak without thinking..
With all these reason he claimed, I felt I failed my role as a student, a proper girl, a gf..
Childishness, forthfront speaking habit are negetive traits.
You can set up a poll for guys if they would like these traits and accept their girlfriend having those?
To keep up with those behaviour is taxing and draining.
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that's not what the guy said ma?Originally posted by M©+square:Our thread starter have already admitted it herself.
Childishness, forthfront speaking habit are negetive traits.
You can set up a poll for guys if they would like these traits and accept their girlfriend having those?
To keep up with those behaviour is taxing and draining.
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seriously i still think that if a guy wana break up, he will find all kinds of reasons la.
maybe it's true that she's like that and he can't stand it.. that we duno.
but then if she got all these traits, then why were they together in the first place? he should know that she's like that mah, right? -
Originally posted by lil_pinkie:Other side issues are my attitude - always wan to win, childish, speak without thinking..
With all these reason he claimed, I felt I failed my role as a student, a proper girl, a gf..
My lady, i think you might have left out the highlighted point?Originally posted by browniebaobao:that's not what the guy said ma?
seriously i still think that if a guy wana break up, he will find all kinds of reasons la.
maybe it's true that she's like that and he can't stand it.. that we duno.
but then if she got all these traits, then why were they together in the first place? he should know that she's like that mah, right?
If a guy want to break up, why can't he give reasons for it? You mean guys cannot ask for break up?
I mean, even girls. When they need to break up, they'll also give reasons.
The most common one is 'Yi Jian Bu He', different character, personality.
If she got all the traits. It could be that during the relationship, boy thinks that he can take accept her for who she is because his love interest is more intense than the practical selection process.
We haven't got infomation on how they got together.
Some prediction will be
They knew one another for a short time and when into relationship, no ample understanding between both parties. She didn't reveal her negetive traits to him until they got together.
With these two points, it is possible that he didn't know she's like that one.
Like i've pointed out in the last post.
Dealing with those traits will drain one out if he does not know how to handle properly.
:::: Drain out.
No joke about that. I personally have experienced it and i know how friends have been affected by it. Stoned!
Stable relationship needs to be fueled with certain essential effort and understanding.
Without it. It'll be one man show. With time, the one man show will lose interest and move on.
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woOhoOooooOoOooOoOoooooo!Originally posted by Devil1976:PERSONALLY... I'll say.. Let's not talk about 'chances'...
You know YOU'VE GOT PROBLEMS.. You even LISTED THEM DOWN... And you ain't doing anything to CHANGE them for the better...
It has ALREADY CAUSED you your BF NOW...
So YOU gonna do SOMETHING about THEM...
Or are you just gonna be sitting down there and 'hope' for the better to come to you...?
PS. If you wanna be LOVED. You have to 1st... Be LOVABLE.
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...I can admitted my negative areas... but to change it is hard.
We were together within a short time.. he did see my negative side but he say as long i listen to him, n not be stuborn, its all fine..
I took it for granted I supposed and challenged against him always.
He got tired of my irresponsibility in studies and he say he cant be ard to guide anymore. He say its up to me to make those changes... or not.
I find it hard to 'grow up'... as I dun have a normal childhood... like im stuck in the times of being unreasonable... able to get things i wan, to be pampered on. Im afraid of 'growing up'.. as i know how cruel the society is..
Im not sure if these are excuses in breaking up, due to other real reasons.. But when I press him for a definite ans, he is unsure. He jus say we r not suitable becus of my attitude. He says im a gd gf, as in the way gf cares for a bf.. but being lovely-dovey alone is useless.. as one nid gd qualification..
Mayb u'll say i deserved it, since i know whats going on but i didnt put in effort.. Sometimes, ppl realise things late, but i hope im not realising it too late.
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how old are the two of u?Originally posted by lil_pinkie:...I can admitted my negative areas... but to change it is hard.
We were together within a short time.. he did see my negative side but he say as long i listen to him, n not be stuborn, its all fine..
I took it for granted I supposed and challenged against him always.
He got tired of my irresponsibility in studies and he say he cant be ard to guide anymore. He say its up to me to make those changes... or not.
I find it hard to 'grow up'... as I dun have a normal childhood... like im stuck in the times of being unreasonable... able to get things i wan, to be pampered on. Im afraid of 'growing up'.. as i know how cruel the society is..
Im not sure if these are excuses in breaking up, due to other real reasons.. But when I press him for a definite ans, he is unsure. He jus say we r not suitable becus of my attitude. He says im a gd gf, as in the way gf cares for a bf.. but being lovely-dovey alone is useless.. as one nid gd qualification..
Mayb u'll say i deserved it, since i know whats going on but i didnt put in effort.. Sometimes, ppl realise things late, but i hope im not realising it too late.
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he 25,Originally posted by browniebaobao:how old are the two of u?
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No matter what.Originally posted by lil_pinkie:he 25,
i 21..
I hope you'll know the value of understanding in a relationship and don't give up.
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It's never too late to realise it. It depends on whether you wanna do anything about it. At least, put in effort for your studies, if not for him, at least for your own sake. And you know that the society is cruel, you gonna be independent and can't always depend on your BF.Originally posted by lil_pinkie:...I can admitted my negative areas... but to change it is hard.
We were together within a short time.. he did see my negative side but he say as long i listen to him, n not be stuborn, its all fine..
I took it for granted I supposed and challenged against him always.
He got tired of my irresponsibility in studies and he say he cant be ard to guide anymore. He say its up to me to make those changes... or not.
I find it hard to 'grow up'... as I dun have a normal childhood... like im stuck in the times of being unreasonable... able to get things i wan, to be pampered on. Im afraid of 'growing up'.. as i know how cruel the society is..
Im not sure if these are excuses in breaking up, due to other real reasons.. But when I press him for a definite ans, he is unsure. He jus say we r not suitable becus of my attitude. He says im a gd gf, as in the way gf cares for a bf.. but being lovely-dovey alone is useless.. as one nid gd qualification..
Mayb u'll say i deserved it, since i know whats going on but i didnt put in effort.. Sometimes, ppl realise things late, but i hope im not realising it too late.
I hope I can wrk on those areas soon... and b a better person.
You are still young, as I can see from your age.
Everyone make mistakes. Try to learn from your mistakes.
It's how you can improve yourself and be a better person.
Nobody can help you if you don't help yourself.
As for your BF, I don't know about him.
He really sound like my buddy.
If your BF is really someone like my buddy, most probably he's doing this for your own good.
To make you realise not to take things for granted and want you to work hard for your studies.
His main priority is not for you to save the relationship. He just want you to study hard, that's all.
If it's true, then you gonna work hard and prove it to him.
If not, you got nothing to lose.
Coz you realise that he's not the one for you, but you still get your qualification.
Please take note of this.. Qualification is not required in a relationship.
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I certainly hope that you do not hope...you've to do what you want to do...Originally posted by lil_pinkie:...I can admitted my negative areas... but to change it is hard.
We were together within a short time.. he did see my negative side but he say as long i listen to him, n not be stuborn, its all fine..
I took it for granted I supposed and challenged against him always.
He got tired of my irresponsibility in studies and he say he cant be ard to guide anymore. He say its up to me to make those changes... or not.
I find it hard to 'grow up'... as I dun have a normal childhood... like im stuck in the times of being unreasonable... able to get things i wan, to be pampered on. Im afraid of 'growing up'.. as i know how cruel the society is..
Im not sure if these are excuses in breaking up, due to other real reasons.. But when I press him for a definite ans, he is unsure. He jus say we r not suitable becus of my attitude. He says im a gd gf, as in the way gf cares for a bf.. but being lovely-dovey alone is useless.. as one nid gd qualification..
Mayb u'll say i deserved it, since i know whats going on but i didnt put in effort.. Sometimes, ppl realise things late, but i hope im not realising it too late.
I hope I can wrk on those areas soon... and b a better person.
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I think she'll be TRAPPED WITHIN HERSELF for a while...Originally posted by browniebaobao:i think what she has to do now is to dun care about what he said for the time being, recalling everytime will make her feel the hurt again.
learn to love yourself first before you ask to be loved. if u dun even love urself, how to expect others to love u? -
So are you GONNA DUMP MC and COME FOR ME NOW..??Originally posted by Yunhaier:woOhoOooooOoOooOoOoooooo!
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Go WATCH ANDY LAU's "TONG HUA"....Originally posted by lil_pinkie:...I can admitted my negative areas... but to change it is hard.
We were together within a short time.. he did see my negative side but he say as long i listen to him, n not be stuborn, its all fine..
I took it for granted I supposed and challenged against him always.
He got tired of my irresponsibility in studies and he say he cant be ard to guide anymore. He say its up to me to make those changes... or not.
I find it hard to 'grow up'... as I dun have a normal childhood... like im stuck in the times of being unreasonable... able to get things i wan, to be pampered on. Im afraid of 'growing up'.. as i know how cruel the society is..
Im not sure if these are excuses in breaking up, due to other real reasons.. But when I press him for a definite ans, he is unsure. He jus say we r not suitable becus of my attitude. He says im a gd gf, as in the way gf cares for a bf.. but being lovely-dovey alone is useless.. as one nid gd qualification..
Mayb u'll say i deserved it, since i know whats going on but i didnt put in effort.. Sometimes, ppl realise things late, but i hope im not realising it too late.
I hope I can wrk on those areas soon... and b a better person. -
Originally posted by Devil1976:So are you GONNA DUMP MC and COME FOR ME NOW..??
I've got alot to offer....you just see it.
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Originally posted by M©+square:
I've got alot to offer....you just see it.
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Jiu ai hai shi zui mei...Originally posted by Devil1976:So are you GONNA DUMP MC and COME FOR ME NOW..?? 
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dinoe that yunhaier is so hot.
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Currently I guess that he just wants to be frenz. Let him get his feelings straightened out.
And maybe u can change his mind by start changing urself. Be more studious and try not to be too demanding. Since he is working, he might not have so much time as compared to a student.
Give him some time and soon he will see the change in u and who knows, things might work out between the both of u.