Im in pain!!
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I have tis gf who's suffering from depression. When shes normal. everything is ok..but when moodswings kicks in, she'll behave in a strange manner. Totally different person.. she realli disappoint me.
I tried to tolerate her, console her & counsel her but all i get is a cold attitude towards me. when i have thoughts of breaking up with her, all the things she had done for me came up in my brain... im in pain!
Then after sometime she'll be alright..loving, caring & thoughtful. My frds advise me to give her up but i... im confuse. Fyi, she had dump me for 7th time during our rs. Im so tired, so sick & so low morale
God help me.. argh, Y heaven make fun of me.. -
have u tried seeking medical help?
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huhOriginally posted by alfagal:have u tried seeking medical help?
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Yeah sounds like a personality problem though... you need a professional advisor to help you out...
Don't stick this problem to yourself alone... open it up... your friends, your family and ultimately, someone who can deal with these sort of situations with experience...
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welcome to the clan...Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:I have tis gf who's suffering from depression. When shes normal. everything is ok..but when moodswings kicks in, she'll behave in a strange manner. Totally different person.. she realli disappoint me. I tried to tolerate her, console her & counsel her but all i get is a cold attitude towards me. when i have thoughts of breaking up with her, all the things she had done for me came up in my brain... im in pain!
Then after sometime she'll be alright..loving, caring & thoughtful. My frds advise me to give her up but i... im confuse. Fyi, she had dump me for 7th time during our rs. Im so tired, so sick & so low morale
God help me.. argh, Y heaven make fun of me.. -
Who can i ask for help?Originally posted by renorenal:Yeah sounds like a personality problem though... you need a professional advisor to help you out...
Don't stick this problem to yourself alone... open it up... your friends, your family and ultimately, someone who can deal with these sort of situations with experience... -
WTHOriginally posted by zacken99:welcome to the clan...
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Good grief... 7th time?
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yup..but by the 4th or 5th time i dont take her words seriously.. Is there something wrong with me or wat.Originally posted by BÃ¥seline:Good grief... 7th time? -
tell her if she cant help herself, no one will help her.
anyway your situation now quite bad, if you dump her, she might do something foolish.
think it's better to remain understanding and stay by her side until she's cured. good luck! -
I told her tat.. I thought of dumping her but somehow i cant do it. She is breaking me down mentally.Originally posted by 798:tell her if she cant help herself, no one will help her.
anyway your situation now quite bad, if you dump her, she might do something foolish.
think it's better to remain understanding and stay by her side until she's cured. good luck! -
if you know any good ppl who has gone to a psychiatrist or a psychologist before... u may want to check up with them about this condition... since you are nearer to her, and she is unlikely to follow you to an experienced counsellor, try to relate ur relationship problem with these specialists and see what they have to say...Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:Who can i ask for help?
though it is vital if ur gf follows u so that the specialists can take a good look at them, unless you have some close connections to help you pull a few good strings to help you out... try asking around... -
If u noe any psychiatrist, pls pm me their num..thks. I realli luv her..it breaks my heart to see her liddat.Originally posted by renorenal:if you know any good ppl who has gone to a psychiatrist or a psychologist before... u may want to check up with them about this condition... since you are nearer to her, and she is unlikely to follow you to an experienced counsellor, try to relate ur relationship problem with these specialists and see what they have to say...
though it is vital if ur gf follows u so that the specialists can take a good look at them, unless you have some close connections to help you pull a few good strings to help you out... try asking around... -
how old are u n ur gf?
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My gf is 20 plus la.. our age difference not tat much..Originally posted by alfagal:how old are u n ur gf? -
not very sure of singaporean psychiatrist... but i've got wide connections in malaysia... anywayz... it's better to get one in singapore, easier for access...Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:If u noe any psychiatrist, pls pm me their num..thks. I realli luv her..it breaks my heart to see her liddat. -
does she actually admits or knows that she is having depression??
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Originally posted by Wolfwoof^^:I have tis gf who's suffering from depression. When shes normal. everything is ok..but when moodswings kicks in, she'll behave in a strange manner. Totally different person.. she realli disappoint me. I tried to tolerate her, console her & counsel her but all i get is a cold attitude towards me. when i have thoughts of breaking up with her, all the things she had done for me came up in my brain... im in pain!
Then after sometime she'll be alright..loving, caring & thoughtful. My frds advise me to give her up but i... im confuse. Fyi, she had dump me for 7th time during our rs. Im so tired, so sick & so low morale
God help me.. argh, Y heaven make fun of me.. so many times, and you still stick to her, my, you are really a wonderful guy to have such great patience. Admire you sia! 
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i totally understand ur pain,cos i hav a family member suffering frm severe depression. so mine case is definitely worse than urs.
my advice is, mani times we cant understand y they think tt way or y they behave in such a manner. even though they shared with u their agony, u cant fully understand as u aint going through wat they r going through.
at 1 moment they may heed ur advice n the very next second,they fall back into depression.
try 2 be more supportive and understanding and most of all FORGIVING towards them. they reali need some1 to care 4 them.
it will be long and tiring for u cos depression is a long war.
sometimes i will be angry and upset and feel lik its hopeless,feel tt it cant be cure n i cant help e person any more. but luking at e bright side, depression is nt insanity.
imagine when u need company most and yet ppl around u are leaving u or avoiding u. it gotta hurt,especially 4 those in depression.
maybe u can share ur own tough experiences wif them,which at e same time oso comforting urself?
stay by her cos she need u. -
Ya.. she told me b4 our rs tat she has depressionOriginally posted by ah goon:does she actually admits or knows that she is having depression??
is she doing anything to it? -
Actually im not tat wonderful la, juz tat i luv her..Originally posted by charlemagne: so many times, and you still stick to her, my, you are really a wonderful guy to have such great patience. Admire you sia! 
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Originally posted by Sleeping Forest:
Bolded parts is true..
i totally understand ur pain,cos i hav a family member suffering frm severe depression. so mine case is definitely worse than urs.
my advice is, mani times we cant understand y they think tt way or y they behave in such a manner. even though they shared with u their agony, u cant fully understand as u aint going through wat they r going through.
[b]at 1 moment they may heed ur advice n the very next second,they fall back into depression.
try 2 be more supportive and understanding and most of all FORGIVING towards them. they reali need some1 to care 4 them.
it will be long and tiring for u cos depression is a long war.
sometimes i will be angry and upset and feel lik its hopeless,feel tt it cant be cure n i cant help e person any more. but luking at e bright side, depression is nt insanity.
imagine when u need company most and yet ppl around u are leaving u or avoiding u. it gotta hurt,especially 4 those in depression.
maybe u can share ur own tough experiences wif them,which at e same time oso comforting urself?
stay by her cos she need u. [/b] -
Eh, uncle, how many girlfriends u got? The proper 1? The clingy 1? The one you snatch from others? Now a depressed 1?
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how come u seem to change your gfs like you change clothes like that ah? and you seem to keep running into problematic one huh?