Qns-Would u....?

• StarPuppy

  15 Dec 05, 23:03

  Your gf/bf went out with her friends...went to pub...got a few drinks..got drunk and ended up in bed with another person....
  
  He/She regrets it and really loves you
  
  Would you forgive him/her?
  
  P.s:Just want to see the response of ppl in AA
  
  ~+Cheers+~
  StarPuppy
• laosu

  15 Dec 05, 23:11

  Originally posted by StarPuppy:

  Your gf/bf went out with her friends...went to pub...got a few drinks..got drunk and ended up in bed with another person....
  
  He/She regrets it and really loves you
  
  Would you forgive him/her?
  
  P.s:Just want to see the response of ppl in AA
  
  ~+Cheers+~
  StarPuppy

  First time I'll forgive but not the second time.
• M©+square

  15 Dec 05, 23:17

  It happened to me before.
• StarPuppy

  15 Dec 05, 23:19

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  It happened to me before.

  damn...ouchies
  
  care to share your story?
  
  
• M©+square

  15 Dec 05, 23:24

  Originally posted by StarPuppy:

  damn...ouchies
  
  care to share your story?
  
  

  No need. I forgot about it.
• curiousOrange

  15 Dec 05, 23:39

  Originally posted by StarPuppy:

  Your gf/bf went out with her friends...went to pub...got a few drinks..got drunk and ended up in bed with another person....
  
  He/She regrets it and really loves you
  
  Would you forgive him/her?
  
  P.s:Just want to see the response of ppl in AA
  
  ~+Cheers+~
  StarPuppy

  Sure...
  
  after i screw her best friend (when i am drunk of course...must be fair), we can sit down and discuss the situation.
• browniebaobao

  15 Dec 05, 23:52

  I have a fren who went thru this before.. feel so sad for him.
  
  for me.. if my bf do this to me.. i will nv forgive him. Coz i believe even when one is drunk, he is still 30% sober. It's not a gd excuse.
• Blueskyz

  16 Dec 05, 01:38

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  for me.. if my bf do this to me.. i will nv forgive him. Coz i believe even when one is drunk, he is still 30% sober. It's not a gd excuse.

  Totally agreed.
  
  I'm quite sure that drinkers (I'm a drinker myself) should know very well that no matter hw drunk a person is, he / she is still sober n will know what they r doing... unless they want to act blur
  
  
• yuko-ogura

  16 Dec 05, 01:48

  Originally posted by Blueskyz:

  Totally agreed.
  
  I'm quite sure that drinkers (I'm a drinker myself) should know very well that no matter hw drunk a person is, he / she is still sober n will know what they r doing... unless they want to act blur
  
  

  when pple get drunk they realli do dumb things..whether sober or not..they'll still do it..like wad u say...30% sober?the other 70% drunkness would have overpowered his 30% sobre.
• Blueskyz

  16 Dec 05, 02:04

  Originally posted by yuko-ogura:

  when pple get drunk they realli do dumb things..whether sober or not..they'll still do it..like wad u say...30% sober?the other 70% drunkness would have overpowered his 30% sobre.

  Drinks can only make ppl or rather give them the concept or false impression of being bolder n can do things they always want to do but din have the courage to do in their normal sober self...
  
  
• M©+square

  16 Dec 05, 02:08

  Indeed
• 798

  16 Dec 05, 02:12

  chinese got one saying, "borrow wine to commit a crime".
  
  if both parties are totally drunk, they are like totally dead. only one parties or both know wat their hidden instincts are doing.
  
  so the advice is... dun act hero or steady to cheong for who drink the most, you will regret it for the rest of your life.
• zeny

  16 Dec 05, 03:27

  Originally posted by StarPuppy:

  Your gf/bf went out with her friends...went to pub...got a few drinks..got drunk and ended up in bed with another person....
  
  He/She regrets it and really loves you
  
  Would you forgive him/her?
  
  P.s:Just want to see the response of ppl in AA
  
  ~+Cheers+~
  StarPuppy

  I will not forgive her. No point. Dump her asap.
  
  Question should be throw back at the gf or bf instead.
  
  If you are the one drunk and sleep with others will your other half really forgive you ?
  
  So whats the point of asking the question? when your other half cannot even do forgive you?
  
  Want to play. Got a price to pay.
• sgboy2004

  16 Dec 05, 03:55

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  No need. I forgot about it.

  u did not forget...u mentioned that it happened to u... if u have forgotten, u would not have said it happened to u...
  
  but, sorry to hear that
• M©+square

  16 Dec 05, 04:09

  Originally posted by sgboy2004:

  u did not forget...u mentioned that it happened to u... if u have forgotten, u would not have said it happened to u...
  
  but, sorry to hear that

  I remembered that it was done to me.
  I chose to forget about it and move on.
• feng10516

  16 Dec 05, 07:14

  there are ways to prevent things like this from happening.. if you really love your partner.. you won't put yourself in this kind of situation where it will cause relationship to be unstable.. even if your partner forgive you.. the trust for you will be greatly affected..
• FeowFeow

  16 Dec 05, 10:02

  Honestly, I can't answer this question. Due to personal experience, friends have told me before, "I won't ever forgive him/her if he/she does this to me" but ultimately when it happens, some of them choose to forgive outta love. Some only need to forgive once because the partner was genuinely sorry. Some had to break up because the partner continued to sleep around.
  
  We may all say we won't forgive now, but how would we know how we react when it really happens? I can't say that I'll Not forgive, but it'll take me a long time to trust him again.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  Originally posted by StarPuppy:

  Your gf/bf went out with her friends...went to pub...got a few drinks..got drunk and ended up in bed with another person....
  
  He/She regrets it and really loves you
  
  Would you forgive him/her?
  
  P.s:Just want to see the response of ppl in AA
  
  ~+Cheers+~
  StarPuppy

• yuko-ogura

  16 Dec 05, 14:43

  Originally posted by Blueskyz:

  Drinks can only make ppl or rather give them the concept or false impression of being bolder n can do things they always want to do but din have the courage to do in their normal sober self...
  
  

  not true for most cases...according to a psychologist from New Zealand..drinks do make pple do things they wouldn't want to do...the conscious part is alrdy flooded by the poisons of the drinks..can't think properly..as a result..reflexes can be come so bad,stated in a British newspaper medical report few yrs back,that even if u hit him on the left..he would react to face and hit the right instead.it is that serious.
• laosu

  16 Dec 05, 17:14

  Originally posted by FeowFeow:

  Honestly, I can't answer this question. Due to personal experience, friends have told me before, "I won't ever forgive him/her if he/she does this to me" but ultimately when it happens, some of them choose to forgive outta love. Some only need to forgive once because the partner was genuinely sorry. Some had to break up because the partner continued to sleep around.
  
  We may all say we won't forgive now, but how would we know how we react when it really happens? I can't say that I'll Not forgive, but it'll take me a long time to trust him again.
  
  FeowFeow
  
  

  It happened to me before when I'm with my ex. Worse is they did it right beside me when I'm sleeping, almost dead drunk.
• curiousOrange

  16 Dec 05, 17:46

  Originally posted by laosu:

  It happened to me before when I'm with my ex. Worse is they did it right beside me when I'm sleeping, almost dead drunk.

  ................
  
  and you forgave her for that? (You said you will forgive if it's the first time.)
  
  You are the one who is dead drunk...she's not.
  
  I will give her ten times the pain I feel before i move on if I were you.
  
  I don't know what to feel about your case...naive? noble?
  
  
• RaTtY81

  16 Dec 05, 18:22

  no.
• laosu

  16 Dec 05, 18:24

  Originally posted by curiousOrange:

  ................
  
  and you forgave her for that? (You said you will forgive if it's the first time.)
  
  You are the one who is dead drunk...she's not.
  
  I will give her ten times the pain I feel before i move on if I were you.
  
  I don't know what to feel about your case...naive? noble?
  
  

  Three of us were drunk. I'm dead drunk. Yeah, I forgive her the first time cause I tot it's the first time and it's the first time I know she had sex with another person when they both are drunk.
  
  A whille later...she initiate a break up without giving me a valid reason. For a while I tried to find out the real reason behind the breakup and duely regreted knowing the truth cause I found out all along that she had been sleeping with another friend (the same guy).
  
  FF, I know what you might be thinking.
• curiousOrange

  16 Dec 05, 18:59

  Originally posted by laosu:

  Yeah, I forgive her the first time cause I tot it's the first time
  

  I think that was the point when she totally lost her respect of you.
  
  I shall keep my mouth shut now
  
  And wish you all the best in your next relationship.
  
• Yunhaier

  16 Dec 05, 19:14

  Originally posted by M©+square:

  I remembered that it was done to me.
  I chose to forget about it and move on.

  /me pat pat
  
  P.S: It wasn't me.
  
  Cheers
• Yunhaier

  16 Dec 05, 19:15

  Originally posted by laosu:

  It happened to me before when I'm with my ex. Worse is they did it right beside me when I'm sleeping, almost dead drunk.

  Seriously... WTF man... you are better off without her.
  
  Cheers